How many of you are in relationships?

[hntnhole]

On 7/17/2022 at 2:16 PM, EuRawBottom said:

Been together with my husband for 20 years now and been open relationship for 19 of these 20 years. 

We play together with others as well as separate. We go to sex parties and clubs together and separate.

We whore each other at sex clubs and regularly host sex parties. 

We both take care of each other in every sense of the way. But we always come home together and we fall asleep in each other's arms. Even if our holes are full of 50 other mens loads

Similar experience for me.  We met at the tubs, had just over 30 wonderful years together.  Usually went out cruising together, but sometimes we went to different fuckjoints.  Often had small groups over, or went to group-fuck events.  We were both pigs, but he passed a number of years ago, and I miss him every damn day.  Very happy for you, EuRawBottom, that you found the right man to share your life with.  It's a gift from the Universe to find the right man we can be completely honest and open with, and go do it all with him. 

[faggotsub]

always been a loner..and a slut    I can't imagine having someone here all the time .let alone putting up with their parents or worse their  kids or grand kids in my yard

im not anti social...guys are welcum to cum and GO   when i find the DOM or MASTER that needs to see other guys plant their charged seed in me and makes it happen then maybe i could submit to a relationshit....getting too old to even get my hopes up for that to happen..

guess i'm old school...never got the guys getting married thing....

[BBArchangel]

I have been with my partner for 20 years. We recently added a third to our relationship. We all still ocassionally play with others.

[ultima6bb]

i am partnered since 22 years, but we allow each other to play with others

[Bokkierob]

I'm in a non-romantic purely physical daddy/son relationship. I'm a 50yo daddy and Drew is 23. I offer Drew my experience and financial security and Drew gives up his ass and mouth whenever I want it. We share a bed and  I fuck him most days. We're not exclusive and enjoy playing around with others. I love to watch my older buddies breeding his ass and he's cool watching me fuck other men.

[Luxbrit]

Not me

i find relationships difficult, I’m not a massive believer in monogamous relationships therefore it’s hard finding someone you vibe with on that level 

I also don’t want a man to stop me being the pig I want to be 🐷🤷🏻‍♂️

[MuscledHorse]

i have a husband. We both fully reject the absurd and unnatural assertion from most religions about sexual monogamy. When you find a guy like that the relationship part is easy because it's then actually about the relationship and not all wound up in "sexual devotion vs. cheating", which is the real and toxic base of Xian religion relationships, in particular.  My other half plays, though not on the level i do. He encourages my promiscuous indulgences: knowing at the bat I will be in the play are getting fucked and fisted openly nearly the entire time i am there, He ensured my heavy use at Fist Fest, which I just returned home from where in 4 days: I had 16 fisting partners for 19 fisting sessions, and 7 penis top partners for a 10 breedings. Total of 23 sex partners for a total of 29 sexual experiences, 2 of which were filmed with my other half as the cameraman, as he often is on my porn scenes. yet, at the end of the night, we fell asleep together n woke up hard and horny. Guys like us are out there.

[ellentonboy]

I met my partner in someone's hotel room.  He happened to be sitting on the bed in his pajamas, I was there to get some "enhancements".  Since we met under those circumstances we continued forward in that matter, at one point we had profiles on various hook up sites that featured the two of us, we sort of came as a pair.  The first fourteen years I did not live with him, but saw him maybe twenty to twenty five days out of the month.  In 2017 I took the plunge and moved in with him.  We still play together, sometimes a guy (or two, or three) come over and we have some group parties.

Because of covid we put a stop to a lot of that.  He also has a more responsible job now so the times he can play, and of course, recover are limited.  I haven't worked in years, I had full blown AIDS when I was 30 and managed to get disability almost immediately so working for me was never part of the equation.  He has yet to be called back to the office so while he works upstair I get to chat with people online and plan our yearly vacation.

If you had told me that A.  I would still be alive today and B.   I would have a partner I would have laughed at you in the early 2000s, but that is my reality now so that is where it stands.  I notice he has become somewhat reluctant to go online and look for playmates, so I do all the planning, make the arrangements and he just is here, when they come over.  It works for us....

[VersGuyAnon]

I've been single for years. In the unlikely event I started going out with someone again, I'd make it clear from the outset I'd only want to bareback.

[lukesLapForLoads]

On 7/24/2022 at 1:47 PM, Bimarried001 said:

I am married to my wife for over 30 years and I’ve been a barebacker every minute of our marriage 

I love having depraved sex with married men.  For some reason, they are the Inês who go as far as possible. Congrats Binarried001

[Bimarried001]

1 hour ago, lukesLapForLoads said:

I love having depraved sex with married men.  For some reason, they are the Inês who go as far as possible. Congrats Binarried001

Thank you. I know guys get extra excited when they find out I’m married. Makes them want to fuck and breed me even more. They love breeding me and sending me home to my wife with their load. I love it too. 

[Guest]

On 7/24/2022 at 2:45 PM, on2thenxt87 said:

Been married to my husband for just over four years but together for 6. We are not in an open relationship, which I honestly do not mind most of the time. He is a bottom and I am a vers top, but we both love to bareback and never use condoms. Recently, I moved across the country for a graduate school program, and we are doing the long distance thing, which is a nightmare while being monogamous. It definitely does not help that I am doing my thesis research on cruising and anonymous sex, so I put myself in very sexual spaces (virtual and physical) and that has been challenging. I had a minor moment of cheating... no sex, just jerking off... that I was honest about because I am a terrible liar.

Being in a LTR, especially a monogamous one, can be very challenging. However, I also feel like if we did an open situation I would probably be super jealous or insecure. I feel like I have known so many couples that do an open situation too quick in the relationship and everything just turns to shit, but I have also met some great couples who seem to know how to make it work. I think it would have to be a don't ask, don't tell situation. I do wish that I could at least play with other guys while I was doing the long distance thing because the sexual frustration is totally real for me right now. I get by though by keeping things virtual and anonymous, which I don't consider chats and shit cheating, and that helps quite a bit.

My partner and I knew each other before dating. He was dating a friends with benefit buddy of mine. I l hooked up with him before as play dates with my buddy while they dated so I knew him well. Before we got serious we both had an open and frank conversation about being open. We are both two men with very active sex life and didn’t wish to stop. What makes our situation work is that we are very honest with each other. We also know that sex with others is sex and sex between us is intimacy. We both have no desire to date or be with others so the feeling of jealousy is not there for either one of us.

Open relationships can be messy but my advice is to be clear and honest about what you want and don’t and agree to that. If jealousy is the issue, examine what it is driving your jealousy. Is it fear he’ll find someone new? Is it the thought of being with another man? If it’s the latter, what is it about being with another? I personally get joy out of my partner having a great sexual time and I know he does for me. When we play together, I enjoy seeing him having fun and enjoying himself. Relationship wise it has made us happy, more loving with each other. 

[hntnhole]

On 7/24/2022 at 9:44 PM, faggotsub said:

I can't imagine having someone here all the time .let alone putting up with their parents or worse their  kids or grand kids in my yard

As a man who enjoyed a lovely relationship for many years, I might point out that the relationship was with HIM, and definitely not any parents, kids, relatives or other flotsam/jetsam.  While I am able to be polite and appear to be kind when it suits me, I can be that much and more determined that "extended family" stay away until they're invited (which some are still waiting for after all these years).  His older sister came exactly once, with an abbreviated stay in our home.  

Point:  you simply don't have to put up with the extraneous stuff.  You may choose to, for the sake of your other half, and for a limited bit of time, but you don't have to.

[rawsneakerfreak]

It's been interesting reading all your post on thus topic, just came across this. I been in a closed LTR for 15 years now but I am finding it difficult now over the past few years. Being bottom who like it raw i feel like I am missing out on becoming a cumdump as I am submissive in a way that I like men touching me and breeding me as I enjoy the contact with random guys. I ready miss going to clubs, party's or pride events (which he doesn't like) and explained this to my partner but it get shut down quickly alway end of topic with him. Sex isn't that brilliant between us recently, so rarely that I get bred these day which gives me a feeling of emptiness. I tried a few times to rise my feelings and concerns but he doesn't want to talk about it. My real concern is that one day I might be over come with my feelings end up meeting up with a random guy to breed me which in a close relationship would be wrong to do as I don't want to cheat on him but I do want to be who I am. 

[tallslenderguy]

i was in a traditional marriage relationship (with a woman) for 31 years.  It wasn't all hell or heaven, but it was foundationally flawed since i am gay and bottom and she was straight, unaccepting and bottom.   my story is all over this site in detail and in pieces, so i will spare the gory details. Briefly, i married because of religious and heteronormative cultural conditioning.  

Processing out of that conditioning was tough, but it was also the source of much of my understanding and insight into life. One thing i learned is how to find, identify and examine the status quo. So many of our ideas and standards of "relationships" are affected and influenced by dominant , non inclusive, culture. Some of those influences are blatantly apparent, others are subtle and under the radar. 

With that history, i have not been able to find a "relationship" with a Man since divorcing in 2008.  i think that is mostly due to the fact that i am approaching relationship with all of the above and more. i'm not new to relationship, i may know too much lol. Ideally, i would want (need?) similar person. Has not happened.

i don't rule it out, but don't agonize over it either. i get my "relationships" in pieces with many guys, and wonder if that is not the more realistic approach?  Even if i found one Man where we had a lot of chemistry and mutual bonding points, i don't believe anyone can be everything to another.  i think a lot of gay guys have discovered that in open relationship.