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I just saw a tweet that Berghain and the Laboratory have been closed until April 20th (at least) because of the coronavirus outbreak.

I know that Berlin is a favorite destination among people on this site. I just saw a tweet that Berghain and the Laboratory have been closed until April 20th (at least) because of the outbreak. I have a ticket to go to Berlin later this spring. It was dirt cheap so I won't cancel it just yet. Sure, I could go and just enjoy the city, but if people are gonna be scared to fuck, then it's a lot less attractive as a destination. 😪 By the way, German officials are saying that they expect 40-70% of the German population to be infected at some point. I'm also reading that the US government is thinking about instituting a travel ban for Europe, mainly because of Italy.

Unless you've been living under a rock, you probably have some thoughts about the coronavirus outbreak. I've gone from thinking it's overblown to thinking we should all be very concerned. In the town where I live, the gay bar abruptly canceled its wildly popular naked sex party last week citing the outbreak as the reason. Now city officials have just come out and said that nightclubs and bars should: 1) refuse entry to people who show signs of a cold, 2) collect personal information from patrons and 3) ask patrons if they've traveled recently to countries with outbreaks. I am not big on group sex these days anyway, but now I'm unsure about visiting the sauna. I'm not sure I want to risk being quarantined for 2 weeks just to suck some random dicks or get fucked there. I've also canceled some upcoming trips because of it. Do I really want to be in the darkroom of a seedy bar taking loads from complete strangers who might be virus carriers right now? Has your sex life been affected? I'm not referring to people in relationships, but more to the single guys out here who have multiple sex partners.

I seldom block people. But I will block you if: 1) you harass me because I don't reply to you or turn you down, 2) you visit my profile repeatedly (that just weirds me out), 3) you are a no-show, 4) you refer to barebackers as nasty, disease-ridden sluts.

Years ago when I was living in Washington, DC, I hooked up a couple of times with this very senior official who served at the White House under a couple of presidents. He would invite me to his office during the day (not at the White House!), chat a bit and start sucking my cock. I then fucked him on the floor of his lavish office. I asked him multiple times if he was scared that his secretary would come in. He said no. To this day, I still don't know how he managed this. He didn't have to worry about me ever saying anything because I remain convinced to this day that he had the power to have me silenced for good. I just googled him and he's still on TV giving interviews and such. By the way, he is married with a couple of adult children.

In anonymous encounters, I've learned not to even ask if a guy came. More often than not, the guy will have deposited a load, but will almost reflexively answer "no" when asked - unless it's obvious as the OP mentioned. I don't know if the top says no because the question itself turns the encounter into a not-so-anonymous one. Maybe the top doesn't want to have to deal with a paranoid bottom asking health-related questions. You might not be sure you got the load sometimes, but later you often find evidence of it. Don't obsess over it. Just enjoy the raw fuck. Let's not turn this into a "I'm only interestied in taking your dick IF I am guaranteed a load". 😂 Let's give the tops a break here. They already are under enough pressure to satisfy the never-ending supply of hungry bottoms. By the way, when I do top, I cum very quietly and walk off.

I stayed at Basement Studios some years back. It was a very horny atmosphere and I had a sling in my room. Took some nice loads there. I would go as a day visitor again, but never as an overnight guest. Why? First, you have to make sure your room is locked at night. I had someone try to open my door at 5 am. It was very very hot that night and I thought about leaving the door open to let some air in. Even though the compound requires a code to enter, people can get in without too much effort. Second, I never unpacked my clothes while there. I had a feeling something was off. On the day I was leaving, I opened a drawer and one of the BIGGEST roaches I have ever seen in my life jumped out. Now I'm not all that squeamish about bugs, but the idea of bugs laying eggs in my clothes still has me shaken to the core.

I believe that most of the time when a top - who doesn't know you - asks how many loads you have, it is to fuck with you mentally. Maybe they genuinely are trying to screen you out, but if a top is horny, finds you attractive and really wants to fuck at that moment, he's unlikely to ask. (Side note: I don't think bottoms cruising online for 1-1 hookups should surprise unsuspecting tops with a cummy hole. Either push out the loads you have or reveal you are preloaded before the hookup. If you're out cruising, different rules may apply. 🙂) Now if you are posting ads stating no loads refused, you are setting yourself up to be toyed with in this way. If I was asked the question, I'd probably answer a question with a question such as "does that turn you on?" to coax him into revealing why he's asking. Even if he's into preloaded holes, that still doesn't mean he is going to fuck you. This is why I don't particularly care for online hookups. It's too easy to let people who have zero intentions of fucking you get in your head.

You all do realize there is such a thing as cum lube which is sold. So you could literally open yourself up with a dildo and fill your hole with that lube. Yes, you would technically be fibbing if you said you had a load in you, but let's be honest here - you're not trying to enter the kingdom of heaven, you're trying to get a real load in you. Some of these tops out here are adding inches to their dick size, so... 🤣

I'm probably going to be in the minority for saying this but - every once in a while - I push back and fuck myself on a top's cock if he has a very big cock and I find myself running away from him. It's how I force myself to accept that I must take his big cock. Usually after some backwards thrusts, my hole is totally open and then I fully surrender to the cock and load.

I occasionally go through my phone where I run across names/numbers and I truly have no recollection of hooking up with the person (I only save numbers of people I am about meet). The funniest though is having a flashback and thinking oh yeah I did take that guy's load. What a slut I am. 😂

For me, success in sexually charged settings is more about subtlety, constantly monitoring the environment for clues and, to some extent, luck. Of course you can present your ass for anyone who wants it, but there will be guys who will pass on it because maybe they like the challenge of the hunt or they don't want to fuck in public. If I am in a bottoming mood, I will first try to identify the other bottoms and then I look at how (the guys I think are) tops respond to them. I usually offer blow jobs in public to signal that I will bottom. If a bottom is being too aggressive with me, I will let them play with my cock, but will not allow myself to get hard. That way, they lose interest and focus on another target. I'm doing pretty much the same thing when I want to top. While it's nice to know who the cumdumps are, other factors will determine if I fuck you (level of attraction to you, age, height, weight, etc). I probably enjoy myself most when I'm in a versatile mood. I feel like a kid in a candy store. It's always funny to me to see the looks on guys' faces when they see me topping after they've bred me or another bottom I've fucked sees me getting plowed. I guess we all have a "strategy" of sorts when we are seeking sex, but sticking to a particular strategy is always going to be somewhat hit or miss. It's all a gamble - but what I'm discovering is that we are not nearly as much in control of what happens as we THINK we are. Your strategy tonight might get you 10 loads. Same strategy, different day, different crowd = no loads.

I was in Hamburg over the weekend and can confirm this. Great place to take loads from big-dicked German hunks.

There may be a very simple way to determine if you're a cumslut or a cockslut. Think back to a really hot fuck you got from a guy who you were really into. If at the end of the excellent fucking you got, you turned and asked "did you cum?" and he says NO - but you would let him fuck you again without hesitation, you're probably a cockslut. This site is heavily skewed to loads given and taken, which isn't a bad thing, but I'd trade in some of the loads I got last year for higher quality fucking from the types of dicks I prefer. In other words, keep your load in your balls if your dick and stroke game are weak. Note to tops serving cumsluts: lie to every single bottom you fuck and say you came in them even if you didn't. You instantly become a hero in their minds if they think they got your load.😂

I've had an unusually fast start to 2020, taking multiple loads in the first 5 days of this year. My favorite hookup was with this guy yesterday at my place. He mentioned already a couple of days ago that he wanted to come over. This made me suspicious because it's been my experience that most guys flake when they book that far ahead. Anyway, he turned up and was way hotter than his pictures. Because he traveled more than an hour to get here, I didn't want to just toss him immediately up on the bed. We sat over a drink and talked for about 30 minutes. He was impressed by how well I speak German. I then asked if he wanted to play. He said YES. Once he was fully erect he tried to mount me. We had a little trouble at first as he is a little shorter than me. So I asked him to stand by the side of the bed and I lowered my ass for him. Then what happened totally shocked me. He kept me in that position for 30 minutes or so and pumped three loads into me. He needed very little recovery time after each load. He was felching me out in between. I felt like an animal that was being held down and inseminated repeatedly. I remember how with each load my ass felt fuller and fuller. Wow, I found one of the unicorns, guys! A bareback top with a big dick that can shoot multiple loads! Now I've over here fantasizing about how to become part of his rotation or maybe even dating him. 😂

So many interesting points of view about sling expectations. I don't see the sling as the place to hang out and hope, but that's just me. Pretty much every time I've been fucked in one, the top led me to it or vice versa. And while I totally get wanting to advertise that you're a bottom ready to take cock, I think one has to be very strategic about this. Stay in the sling too long and it seems (at least to me), the chances of getting fucked fall sharply - and that might affect your chances with other guys throughout the entire venue, not just the sling. Suddenly you're that guy that was in the sling that absolutely nobody wanted to fuck. My sometimes very delicate ego won't allow me to place myself in such a vulnerable position, essentially begging for cock, only for men to reject me. That's soul crushing to me. This is why I'm actually kind of intrigued by sling lizards. It's like they're very confident but also defiant. Or maybe it's simply them deciding "well if I'm not getting fucked in the sling, then nobody else is either".

Comparing yourself to others is pretty much always going to make you feel inadequate in some way. I'm fully on board with you securing your career, finances, real estate and other material possessions that you deem important first. I've done that myself. Having a bf is not something you should rush into if you ask me. Take your time. You'll find someone. But you gotta be realistic. Like Dan Savage says, you need to figure out what your price of admission is. (You can find his video on YouTube). You are probably not going to end up with a "perfect" guy. Likewise, you are probably not going to be perfect in the eyes of the guy who settles into a relationship with you. But stating (or even thinking) a guy has to look a certain way, have a certain size dick, be completely sexually compatible with you, have this much money, drive a certain car, must allow you to be a slut etc is just not going to have men lining up at your door. As far as the load count goal, I'm smiling (probably because I have a load in me now). You gotta take these load count stories on this site with a grain of salt. We have some pretty impressive fiction writers on here. As you are finding out, a lot of factors contribute to how many loads you get, many of which are not entirely in your control. STDs sometimes come along with those loads, and while PrEP is a first step, it won't shield you from gonorrhea, syphilis, or Hep C. So make sure your health insurance, testing and treatment options are in place before you focus exclusively on loads. All dick ain't good dick. And relax. Life is short. Enjoy. Until you get that next load, watch some porn. Get a prostate massager and give yourself incredible prostate orgasms. Plan that next weekend trip. You might want to accept a wrapped dick here and there. I have convinced guys to fuck me raw after a stint of playing safe. Finally, get out in public and let people see the merchandise. I acquired a new fuck bud recently because I went out on a Saturday night. LOL. I doubt we would have found each other on the apps. Most guys on apps wouldn't pick themselves, yet are on there making demands like bottoms aren't a dime a dozen.

@leatherpunk16: This thread really breaks my heart and I'm not that comfortable commenting on it to be honest. I'd encourage you to talk to a licensed therapist to process the grief and seek closure. I worry that going the legal route will frustrate you, cost you time, money and effort and perhaps not deliver the justice you seek. Mark and Carl, according to you, have a history of playing together (successfully) under the influence of substances. That suggests a certain level of trust. I have zero experience with PnP, but I've always assumed (perhaps wrongly) that anything can happen under those circumstances. Furthermore, more than 2 weeks passed between the party and Mark's death. If Mark said nothing to you to suggest Carl was directly responsible for what happened to him, then maybe he isn't. Carl may indeed be an unsavory character who hosted a party where things went left, but that does not mean he is a killer. I'm very sympathetic to your plight. Defense attorneys are not. There are many unanswered questions here that Carl could exploit to create reasonable doubt. That's why I'm in favor of moving past this very sad event in a way that is least taxing for you psychologically. Good luck to you man.

For me, it's always worth it to be clean back there. I hate that sinking feeling of having an opportunity present itself and my hole is dirty. That hot guy whose stick you painted will probably never fuck you again. He might even tell people about it. Being able to clean out fast - and thoroughly - is very important, but it starts long before planning a sex date or attending a sex party. What is your diet like and what does your stool look like when you pass it? Do you drink enough water? Do you take fiber supplements? If you do, you can almost predict when your bowels will move and your stool will be bulkier, making clean up very easy. I can be ready in just minutes most of the time. It probably frustrates bottoms when I say this, but you have to be strategic about what you eat and when you eat. That's just the facts. Can't go heavy on junk food or overly processed food and then be frustrated when your attempt to clean out is not going well.

I wasn't sure I wanted to go to the bathhouse yesterday, but it was cold and gray outside and I didn't have anything better to do. So I cleaned out, lubed up and used a big butt plug to open up my hole. I arrived just before 4 pm. I immediately saw one of my fuckbuds (who I'll call Hasan) from years ago. Big thick cock, multiple cummer. Hasan was with his bf, who is a big burly bear. Apparently, they have an agreement where they only play together. They led me to a cabin. The bf (who has a short thick cock) had a little trouble mounting me. So Hasan moved behind me and in no time fucked a load into my ass. The bf then puts me on my back and starts fucking me. As he's fucking me, I feel like such a slut. Here I am being mounted, legs wide open, offering up sloppy seconds. After a couple of minutes, the bf lets out a low, guttural moan and blows his load in me. We all lay there in a pile for a bit. I thought, wow, I've been here less than 10 minutes and I've already taken a couple of loads. While all this is happening, I never let on to the bf that I know Hasan. After a stint in the dry sauna and steam room, I sucked off two other guys. I'm not a big fan of having cum in my mouth but I was feeling charitable. I suspect both of the guys were bi because they thanked me profusely for the act. I have this theory that bi guys don't get oral at home without drama. LOL. I see Hasan in the hallway again. I play with his cock and he gets rock hard. He then goes and gets his friend and they take me to the sling room. They take turns on my ass and fuck me harder the second time than they did the first. I'm high on poppers and in heaven. Because I've still got their loads in me from the first fuck, my hole is making loud, sloppy, wet sounds. Hasan got so horned up that he shot two consecutive loads in me. When I get off the sling, I finger my hole, look at my fingers, and see that the cum is frothy at this stage. These motherfuckers had "churned the butter". I have a drink and then go sit quietly in the steam room. At that point, my hole was gaping so much that I couldn't hold all the cum inside me. It started to drip onto the bench. What a sloppy cunt whore I am. Today, I texted Hasan a pic of my cummy hole to let him know he doesn't have to pay for a bathhouse entry if he needs my hole. He wrote me back immediately. I'm curious to see if he takes me up on it.

I had an incident where touching was involved just the other evening in a bar. I had been in the darkroom taking dick after dick and load after load. (By the way, I have very distinct physical features that allow people to easily identify me wherever I am). At one point, I went upstairs to take a break and down a couple of beers. This man ever so casually walked up to me, stroked my face and winked at me. My first reaction was to swat his hand away. Then I realized he probably had bred me and this is how he had chosen to show his appreciation. I thought, "I really shouldn't be overreacting to something as gentle as a touch", when I literally had been face down, ass up, having men deposit their bodily fluids into me. I suddenly loosened up and started stroking other tops that had bred me who seemed open to being touched. I even got the contact info for a couple of them. Sex can be so mechanical at times. It's nice to humanize it sometimes.

I use coconut oil and silicone pretty much interchangeably. For those worried about stains on sheets, just do what I do: buy a $10 black bed sheet on eBay and cover the bed with that when playing.

For me I look at things in terms of cost, effort and expected outcome. I always have a plan B. If I have the name of a hotel I could crash at it and an idea for how else I could get laid, then I'd go. Nothing ventured nothing gained. To answer your question, I've gone to other countries for a hook-up (4-5 hours of travel). One last thing: you mentioned you had only "texted back and forth". I strongly recommend you have a phone conversation. That doesn't mean he won't flake, but it gives you both a chance to feel each other out more. If he doesn't want to talk by phone, don't go.

Before going to parties like this, read up about the risk of Hepatitis C and group sex. It's been said that 1 in 4 HIV positive men are also Hep C positive. There is a cure for Hep C but it costs tens of thousands of dollars. I was lucky enough to get into a clinical trial and was cured. All it takes is: 1) a hung top fucks a Hep C positive bottom and gets blood on his cock from the micro tears in the bottom's anus 2) that same top fucks you 3) You are now Hep C positive and your liver becomes a slow ticking time bomb

Honestly, I don't know what to think. But I do know this. We fuck ourselves up mentally with these labels. I am a man. I have a dick. I can jack my dick and no one labels me. I have a prostate. When my prostate is stimulated, it's pleasurable. But God forbid, I reach inside my own asshole and touch it with my finger, a toy or an actual dick and *boom*, I'm labeled. I don't think a man - no matter if he is straight or a gay top - should pass up prostate play just to preserve a label. If you try it and don't like, then ok fine. On a totally different tangent, I'm not sure I'll ever be able to wrap my head around the idea that lesbians don't want a real dick attached to a man but will happily engage with a fake one - and gay bottoms will readily accept penetration from a man with a real dick but don't want to be penetrated by a woman using a fake one. The post above by @tallslenderguy does provide some insight however. Equally, I am stumped when a straight man can get off fucking his woman in the ass, but will turn around and say he's repulsed by sticking his dick in a man's ass. Following that logic, then gay tops should also be fine with fucking a woman in the ass, right? This is why I have soooo much respect for the guys who find the first available hole and fuck it. They could care less. We're over here juggling and stumbling over labels and they are depositing their cum in asses, pussies and mouths and getting the fuck on with their lives. I'm lucky enough to know a couple of these guys. They're both hung and have very high sex drives. I think their wives are actually GRATEFUL when their men are giving their pussies and assholes a break by fucking other people. 🙂