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I guess I'm too much of a believer in karma to pawn someone else's property. Whatever money I got from the sale, I'd always wonder if the next unexpected expense I had was somehow payback for the act. Life is funny sometimes in how it places us in situations where a mirror is held up to our faces. Do we look away and act in shameful ways or do we face ourselves and reveal our true characters?

Sure I can do that. I'm nervous and excited at the same time. It seems these suppositories have been popular for a while. They are just now being marketed to the gays it seems.

From what I've been reading, CBD doesn't have a numbing effect. I just bought some from CBD suppositories from Foria. I am really looking forward to trying them out - not just with my bi fuckbud who is a thick 9 inches but also for chronic pain. As far as CBD oil not being tested enough, I'll take that risk. I don't know what half of these pills I swallow are doing to me, nor do I know what all these additives and preservatives in food are doing to me either.

Double Scorpio Gold. They are way more expensive than most ($34) but that's all I fuck with nowadays. Never have headaches. They smell awesome.

I know OP you said you didn't want to come out of the closet, but if you did, this guy would have nothing to hold over you. When people think you are ashamed of your sexuality, they can weaponize it. I'm not entirely comfortable with the idea of going to HR. You never know how HR and the upper management will respond to these types of complaints. It may fall on deaf ears and you could end up being labelled the troublemaker. Since I don't know the organizational set-up, I don't know whether it's an option to talk to this guy's line manager first before going to HR. I would, however, not go to HR just because I don't like a person's conduct. That person's conduct would have to be directly interfering with me and my ability to do my job. I like the point in an earlier post about blocking the offender on all apps. Unfortunately, gossiping is not illegal or there would be court cases all over the place. When I read your post imagining this story involved straight people, I felt slightly differently about it. This situation sucks, but there are always going to be people at work doing uncool and offensive shit. I just steer clear of those people to the extent that I can. And I always ask myself why am I giving this person so much power over me and allowing them to occupy so much space in my head?

I got it a few years back but was lucky enough to join a clinical trial to get the drugs to cure it for free. I am not an IV drug user so I know mine came from group sex barebacking. My theory is that a rather hung top fucked a Hep C poz bottom raw, ripped up his hole in the process and entered me with the blood on his cock from the other bottom. For this reason, I am super careful and will not let a cock go from another hole directly into mine. If I am in a local where there are no paper towel or it is not easy to wash up between partners, I do very little fucking. The drugs are still very expensive to cure it unfortunately. Good luck to you.

Whenever I see a gay person lusting after straight men in this way, I think to myself, oh this is probably more about trying to attain the unattainable than anything. We're told as gays that only 5-10% of men are gay. That means that 90-95% of the men are for the most part unattainable for us. That gets some of us thinking that the grass must be greener on the other side. I guarantee you - given how picky most gay guys are - that those obsessed with straight men would still be frustrated if the world singled out millions of the most unattractive straight men and put them in the gay pool. So for me, this fetish some gays have for straight men is simply about being frustrated that they have an almost zero chance fucking the straight guys they find hot. This must be like being told you can only shop in the fruits and vegetable section of a supermarket but all the guys you are attracted to are in there for everything but fruits and vegetables. And if a straight men did venture over to "our" section, who's to say he would choose you? So yeah, I get it. It's frustrating at times, but get in where you fit in. There is plenty to choose from in the gay pool. God bless.

I am not posting anything that may get me locked up. LOL. Y'all bold as fuck if you aren't familiar with the laws in your jurisdiction regarding HIV. https://www.verywellhealth.com/hiv-criminal-laws-by-state-48705

I think you should think about how to appeal to the guys you want to attract - versus laying it all out there at first(eg cross-dressing, only want dom tops etc). Why? Because a lot of gays are looking for things to reject other gays on out the gate. A perfectly sexy picture of just your ass may be getting you bonus points and then the one in panties you have next to it causes you to get passed over or blocked. Maybe you create different profiles showing different aspects of yourself to see how that works. I think you may be underestimating just how much choice guys have these days. You may be itching to get out there to partake in what you've been missing, but to the gays, you are just another fish in the ocean. I'd also suggest in your case - since you travel a lot - to visit some gay bars and saunas to get more exposure to how guys cruise. Maybe go to some sex parties to see what guys are doing. You will pick up really important cues on who's attracted to you and who is pulling the guys you want to fuck. What you experience online versus in person can be dramatically different. Good luck!

Most guys cum in the time frame that I want them to (about 5-10 min of fucking). I do have a couple of guys who hit me up that can't last two minutes. One guy I hooked up with (twice) came in me as soon as he got his cock in me. I blocked him after that. Another guy that I really like (perfect size cock for my hole) has to repeatedly slow down the rhythm of his fucking. This is frustrating because as soon as I start throwing it back or tightening and loosening my grip on his dick, he literally begs me to stop because it will make him cum. Dude, come on! On one hand, this makes me feel like my ass must be the 8th wonder of the world because often guys lose control. On the other hand, I'm sometimes annoyed because I don't want my ass to be so exciting for a top that I can't get my prostate properly milked. A famous comedian once said a fuck ain't nothing but 50 pumps. I need more than that!

Check out hotel photos on tripadvisor (especially the guest photos) to see If the bathroom has removable shower heads. If they don't, then I don't book that hotel. And I very much agree with the point about traveling with pliers (although you should probably put them in checked luggage). I haven't tried to bring them in a carry-on because I can't think of any convincing arguments as to why I need them on the plane. LOL.

Beautiful ending. 🙂 By the way, as a poz undetectable bottom, it's probably better not to discuss HIV with him unless he asks. You might want to think through what you will say if it comes up. I usually say I'm healthy and tested every few months. It seems like he is bi because he's awfully comfortable sexually with you already. Maybe it's all in my head, but it seems to me that bi guys handle me differently in bed than gay guys. At any rate, happy fucking and thanks for showing us that we as gays don't need to act "thirsty" or wag our asses at a straight/bi guy to get him in bed. Playing it cool works too. Besides if he is used to dealing with women, he expects to hunt for his food - not have it jump on his plate. LOL.

Reading all the posts here, it seems like taking big dicks is about experience, communication and expectations. Experience: Bottoms who are serious about taking big dicks should probably invest in a decent sized dildo to practice on and some poppers. Communication: I think tops need to get bottoms mentally ready for a big dick by reminding bottoms they are bigger than average. And tops know if they are hung based on how previous partners have reacted to their dicks!!! Expectation: I think well-endowed tops should be patient when entering a hole. I know a couple of very hung tops that I won't let fuck me on a regular basis because they literally feel that once they are inside me that I have to submit to being plowed - even if it hurts me. Just because I am the bottom, it doesn't mean I want to be in pain or that I am not an equal partner during the sex act. And it's a sex act - not a sexual assault. I am getting regularly fucked by a well-endowed guy now. Because we're fucking often, my hole has "learned" the curve of his dick. I don't even need much lube. It is some of the hottest sex I've ever had.

@CuriousDallas: thanks for the update. You should use this guy for a pump and dump or simply leave him alone entirely. You are way too invested emotionally in him. That's why in my earlier post I asked if you had caught feelings. It is none of your business what is he doing sexually and if money is changing hands. You can't be that concerned about diseases because you write openly in other posts about the number of partners you have. You have a problem with hustlers and therefore you have a problem with him - but - you can't seem to leave his dick alone. Continuing to sleep with him and then engaging in pillow talk continues to draw you deeper into this situation. Always remember that no matter how strong-minded you think you are, there is always a dick or an ass out here that can cloud your judgment. The key is to know when this is happening and protect yourself. He. Is. Not. Going. To. Stop. Hustling. For. You. Stop kidding yourself. For all we know, he might even enjoy doing it and the money is icing on the cake. And one more thing: ask him not to turn up on your doorstep unannounced. That's fucked up. That is him literally not respecting your boundaries.

I have used Pure for Men. I have some now. I prefer taking psyllium husk pills. They're way cheaper and get the job done. I can buy 500 of those for cheaper than I can buy 120 Pure for Men capsules. I just need a clean coochie - don't need someone to package flaxseed, chia and psyllium husk, mark up the price and sell it to me. I put chia in my smoothies by the way. I am not hating on Pure for Men. It's clever marketing.

I don't allow family and friends the freedom to ask what I do in bed. Occasionally a straight female friend will get too comfortable and try to ask and then I remind them that that's the equivalent of me asking does their man fuck them missionary or doggy or anal. The tires usually screech after that. LOL. If we are not going to be having sex, then you don't need to know what I am doing in bed.

@azndude: this might be the start of a long-lasting friendship or a relationship if you're open to that. It doesn't sound like he is going to be one of those tops out here with community dick that he's sharing with everybody. Let him talk and continue to open up to you. Connect with him. He might end up enriching your life in ways you can't yet imagine. Your goal might only be to get fucked and leave with a wet ass, but it sounds like he is offering you more than that. When you said he held you, I thought that was beautiful.

@anonfuck28: sorry this happened to you...truly I am. Here's a tip that I've learned from cruising. Get one of those super cheap neck wallets for ten bucks. Thieves can't get those without being obvious. Also, if you insist on taking your phone out cruising (which I think is ill-advised), then buy some knee-high sport socks and tuck it down in there along with your lube and poppers. Do not allow others to see you use your phone. Keep it tucked away. These phones nowadays cost close to a thousand bucks. Times are tough and people are desperate. I've seen video of people reaching through bus windows to steal them from tourists. I'd always heard they take them to another scammer who can wipe the phone, reset it and resell it. As for Paris in general, I've had my fun there. I've written about loads I've taken in Atlas Cinema (in Pigalle) but the darkrooms there smell like piss. Hell, I've seen guys piss in the darkroom. Gross. The saunas can be good too. But the Parisians can be very very picky. Guys flake a lot too. I lived there twenty years ago and let's just say, if you think flaking is bad now, it was just as bad then in Paris. I am fluent in French, so language isn't a barrier. As for other cities, I go to Berlin quite a bit. It's still good, but over the last 7-8 years, I also see it starting to decline. Some of the gay bars in Schoneberg have closed. The Biohazard parties still attract a lot of guys. The only challenge is that if you do the cumdump thing at the big sex parties, you really should go straight to a clinic when you get home. It's not unheard of to score TWO std's at those parties - the scariest being Hep C (thanks to tops going from hole to hole), which is not easy to cure because of the cost and access to the drugs.

He might enjoy teasing you but isn't ready to do anything just yet. If it were me, I'd sit outside a few more mornings. If he comes to the window with a hard cock again, just lick your lips. I find my next door neighbor (married with kids) very hot. When I first moved into the building, I crossed him in the basement and he gave me this look which I took as sexual. But I'm a scaredy cat and I know how freaking perceptive women are. I just had visions of being stabbed to death by his wife for sucking her husband off. Keep us posted on what you do.

I started out as a top, then switched to being a bottom, but would now classify myself as being somewhere between bottom and versatile. I probably would be fully versatile if there wasn't so much pressure in gay life to top. I have an average sized cock which is not so popular with bottoms - especially bottoms with loose asses. But that's ok. If I want to top, I just go to the bathhouse and try different asses until I find one that fits. God blessed me with a very big round bubble ass. I think I was meant to bottom when I see the reaction of tops when I bust it wide open.

Every gay man I know carries around a mental portfolio of all the shitty things other gay men have said and done to him. Facts.

1) Did you accidentally catch feelings for this guy? If you fuck someone you are very attracted to on a very regular basis, it's easy to get caught up. What really stings here? Be honest with yourself. Is it really the money or something deeper? 2) If he is having bareback sex with you, he's probably having it with everybody. It should make no difference whatsoever if he is being paid for it. Barebacking for free is not somehow morally superior to barebacking for money. And if you are worried about your health, then reduce the number of partners you have, get tested regularly for STDs, find a bf, or <gasp> wrap it up. 3) I don't think he owes you any answers. Besides you know the answers already. You weren't friends. You weren't dating. If you don't want to pay, leave him alone. If he asks why, tell him why. Simple. It's really not that deep. Free sex is great and he shouldn't have switched it up on you. But let's show the rent boys some love. If the dick is good and the price is reasonable, why sit online for hours, compete for dick and deal with flakes? You had sex 15 times with him for $40 and you mad? Girl, what's his number? I'm trying to see sumthin'. 🙂

I'd probably choose the second ad. Simple and to the point. The first ad, while quite fun to read, says I am pre-loaded (hence I might also have diseased cum in my hole). Just as there are tops that like a cummy hole, there are tops who simply do not. That's info you share if the top asks. The ad mentions HIV. which, any mention of, spooks the average person. I appreciate the attempt to explain the risk factors, but any talk of disease and medication doesn't get most people's dick hard. But major bonus points for inclusivity - i.e., welcoming all races. I'm curious if an ad that said you are willing to suck all dicks and willing to get fucked if the guy is drug disease free would work better. That shows you care about STDs and that not everybody can fuck. I was talking to a top not too long ago who explained to me that this "anybody can fuck me" mentality that some bottoms have is a major turn-off to him.

I like that we all have different takes on sleaze. For me, a guy is sleazy if he is giving his ass or dick to pretty much anybody who wants it - having lots of raw sex - and not giving a damn if he catches a disease in the process. Adding booze and drugs to the mix just raises the sleaze factor even higher. I tend not to make assumptions about a person's character if I see them acting sleazy. For me, it's definitely not tied to socioeconomic class/education. I think people who lead very repressed and stressful lives kind of almost need to sleaze it up to keep themselves from going insane. But I don't consider it sleazy at all to have a small circle of fuck buddies who service you. Those buddies might even see you as a fine upstanding individual. LOL.

Let's toss out the extremes for a minute - ie 1) never find a relationship because I'm a cumdump and 2) found a partner who is ok with it. That leaves a lot of people who are going to fall along the spectrum. I was in an open relationship for a while and we did whatever/whomever we pleased. There were some boundaries of course. But it was a loving relationship. I'm smart enough to know though that most guys are simply not going to be ok with settling for a slut. There's the health concerns (eg, I recall being a bit annoyed once when my bf caught something and I had to go and be treated as well - even though I was asymptomatic.) There's peer pressure. I may not want to introduce a known slut into my social circle or have them attend work functions. In my view, most men (sexual role is irrelevant) do not place a high value on something that is easy to attain. There's something about us that likes to chase or be chased and to possess or have access to what others cannot. It is deeply embedded in us. Although many cumdumps pride themselves on taking any dick, this sometimes turns off the owner of the dick because there's no challenge or prestige in fucking a piece of community ass. If bottoms are truly honest, they probably feel the same way about tops. I don't want my top fucking countless numbers of bottoms. I want to feel he values MY ass above others - much like the top wants to feel that I value HIS dick above others. I just got back from Berlin. I visit often - even have some regulars. It blew my mind when one of my tops said to me last week "Look, it bothers me that you only reach out to me once you are here. I want to know you are coming. When you contact me once you're here, it makes me feel like I'm your backup in case you don't find other dicks." YIKES. This whole time I was thinking "oh he fucks tons of bottoms so I'm not special to him". It does make me said when I see guys just give up on relationships because they want to be cumdumps or feel that they are never going to find anyone. This hookup culture is causing many of us to abandon real relationships that offer far more rewards than just sex. Some of us are going to end up very lonely in old age. That being said, if you want to be a cumdump, be the BEST cumdump you can be. No judgments here. But understand that you can't market yourself that way, and then wonder why no one is asking for a commitment. Make yourself vulnerable. Connect with people. No one will ever get to know your personality or grow to love you if all you show are ass dicks or pics with raw dick in your ass, right?