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I agree about the cumunion parties. I've been to one and will not go to another. Plenty of fucking and no unloading. The one I went to there was a guy who fucked me three times, with a condom on!. When he came back for a fourth round I said "sorry, the condom is irritating me." (what I meant was: "it's pissing me off"). I've gone to this same BH on a Monday or Wednesday and always cum away with at least a half dozen loads in my ass. I got fucked plenty at the comunion party, but only got one load. In defense of the top, I get that once a lot of tops cum, they're done, so I can see how they may want to stretch things out (so to speak), before cumming. I also agree about the ABS, especially at lunch or quitting time, seems the intent is more focused. I typically get more action with results at an ABS than I do at a place that's strictly 'gay' venue.

Great point. People cannot tell just by looking at us that we are gay, and vice versa. With men and women, you have visual cues. I'm in a similar boat, people do not know I'm gay unless I tell them, especially since I was married most of my life. There was a time when being effeminate got you identified as "gay," but now we have metrosexual, so that doesn't work. Really effeminacy has never been a true indicator, but it's been used. In an ideal world, anyone could invite anyone out on a date without fear.

Hi gaynevets, Cool question, thanks for putting yourself out there and asking it. I don't think there is one simple answer to this question. I think part of the challenge is we tend to get our ideas of relationship from what's around us, i.e., a heteronormative culture. I see a different chemistry between two guys than there is between a man and woman, or two women for that matter. It makes sense to me that the combination would result in a different type of relationship than what we are (maybe mostly unconsciously?) familiar with and have been raised to expect. Guys from our generation have witnessed some evolution where being gay has gone from being an illness (considered such by society) to a 'normal' state of being. Most of society seems to have accepted that. Though there are sub cultures that are stuck in the dark ages still, we're definitely freer to openly express who we are now. I think that is part of the challenge though. After hiding in closets, backstreet bars and restrooms, from a society that didn't allow for us, we're now freer to be. But being accepted, and the openness that can accompany that, is still in its infancy. I think gay culture lacks a lot of the components for initiating, establishing and maintaining relationship because the opportunity for open relationship is newly available to us. I had an experience when I finally got to the place where I had processed through my homophobic upbringing and accepted who I am. I was at a Barnes & Nobel books store, buying and obviously gay book. Just the fact that I felt free to openly do so was a big change for me. When I was checking out, I was chatting with the guy ringing me up and mentioned that I had no idea if the book was any good. I flipped the book over and showed him a picture of the author saying: " I selected it because I thought the author is cute." So many things were happening for me in that simple exchange. I didn't give a fuck what a perfect stranger thought of me and was being open about who I am (a big change from having hidden most of my life). I was further sort of flirting with a stranger, who I had no idea might or might not be gay, but it didn't matter. I was treating who I am and the fact that I thought another guy was cute as perfectly normal openly. The guy behind the counter was obviously a little surprised but smiled and agreed. It was such a simple thing, but it really felt good to just be. This is probably a way different response than you were looking for or expecting [laughing], but you managed to push a button with your question. If you are still reading, lol, beyond just exercising your freedom to be who you are and asking a guy who looks good to you (relationship wise) out on a date, there is the 21st century approach of dating sites. When it comes to dating for possible relationship vs just hooking for sex, I've had the most success with OK Cupid. For me, the profile is important, but there are also lots of questions that one can answer that the site uses to rate compatibility. When you find someone who interests you, you can compare your answers and determine chemistry on your own. Some of the questions are silly, some worthwhile, but they at least give you a start. I think a profile is also important if you are using a dating site. I believe one has to give to get. I have a long, serious and detailed profile and have also answered many questions. I think a big part of the part of the challenge in finding and establishing relationship is that a lot of guys do not know how to articulate who they are or what they want beyond the basics. My response is almost violent when I read: "I like eating out, walks on the beach and going to the movies...." If that is the extent of a persons self awareness, they are still going to be alone even if they find someone to co-habitate with. My take is GIGO (i.e., "garbage in, garbage out"). I skip those profiles. I also skip the profiles where the person is to lazy to write much, or anything at all, and says something like: "if you want to know, just ask...." What I see when I read that is: "I am lazy and/or haven't got a clue of who I am or what I want, but I know I want, so I am looking for someone else to do all the work for me." The other kind of profile I've learned to avoid is the one where the person believes they are self aware, but seem like they have been looking in a warped mirror. They often have a long list telling all the things that they are: "I am smart, intelligent, funny, good looking, kind, considerate...." At first, this seems pretty good, but really all they are giving is their own biased opinion of themselves, which may or may not be accurate. The profiles that attract me are the ones where the person knows how to be who they are in writing. They share a slice of their life with you, their thoughts and feelings (their whys and wherefores) about a movie, or a food or a beach or a song or a person or event, or anything really. They know how to let you in and give you a glimpse of the person inside. They offer places to connect to, provide stepping stones for the journey of relationship.

lol, 193

For me it's not just the feel, though that's a part of it. I offer my ass for breeding and am disappointed if I get fucked and not bred. For me getting bred is like I get to keep part of the top and his pleasure once he's done. I refer to myself as being "in heat" and that's pretty accurate, I'm driven to be bred. If a top ever uses a condom, I empty it into my ass after.

I used to be more descriminating as a bottom, butt have evolved into such a cum slut, I'll pretty much take any cock that can penetrate me, as long as we're only talking fucking. I'm very picky about who I kiss, a little picky about who I suck, but will bend over for pretty much any bare cock. Used to have a FB who was very obese and had a very small cock, I was always face down when he fucked me. I was always curious how he was able to navigate his way in, given his girth, but he always did and always left a huge load. I loved him. P.s. Construction, you're fucking hot, can't imagine a bottom saying no to you. You had me at the thighs

Hey guys, my kinky side seems to have no end. I ordered a cock and hole vacuum the other day and can't wait for it to show up lol. I've never done either before, don't usually pay much attention to my cock and have had a few tops who played with my hole and used their mouths to suck it into a rosebud, butt beyond that have never played with vac toys or had them used on me. would be interested in reading your opinions and experience about them.

I copied and pasted this from the CDC website on current standards and treatments: "The epidemiology of antimicrobial resistance guides decisions about gonococcal treatment recommendations and has evolved because of shifts in antimicrobial resistance patterns. In 2007, emergence of fluoroquinolone-resistant N. gonorrhoeaein the United States prompted CDC to cease recommending fluoroquinolones for treatment of gonorrhea, leaving cephalosporins as the only remaining class of antimicrobials available for treatment of gonorrhea in the United States (539). Reflecting concern about emerging gonococcal resistance, CDC’s 2010 STD treatment guidelines recommended dual therapy for gonorrhea with a cephalosporin plus either azithromycin or doxycycline, even if NAAT for C. trachomatis was negative at the time of treatment (1). However, during 2006–2011, the minimum concentrations of cefixime needed to inhibit in vitro growth of the N. gonorrhoeae strains circulating in the United States and many other countries increased, suggesting that the effectiveness of cefixime might be waning (118,540). In addition, treatment failures with cefixime or other oral cephalosporins have been reported in Asia (541-544), Europe (545-549), South Africa (550), and Canada (551,552). Ceftriaxone treatment failures for pharyngeal infections have been reported in Australia (553,554), Japan (555), and Europe (556,557).CDC no longer recommends the routine use of cefixime as a first-line regimen for treatment of gonorrhea in the United States (540). In addition, U.S. gonococcal strains with elevated MICs to cefixime also are likely to be resistant to tetracyclines but susceptible to azithromycin (540). Consequently, only one regimen, dual treatment with ceftriaxone and azithromycin, is recommended for treatment of gonorrhea in the United States. CDC (http://www.cdc.gov/std/gisp) and state health departments can provide the most current information on gonococcal susceptibility."

wow, i think that is hot too. I've sucked a lot of cocks, but no one has ever tried that while i was sucking them.

sightly gaped and cumsloppy (preferably mine)

I've never been stoned or drunk, just not something I've ever done. Can you catch a buzz from someone pissing in you? Is it even possible to pass alcohol that way? I've heard of "butt chugging" (where someone pushes booze up your ass), but hear it's kind of dangerous because the alcohol gets absorbed directly into your blood stream that way, so it's really easy to over do (watered down beer can get you drunk). So, am wondering if the same applies to a guys piss, especially if he's had several beers to make him piss a lot?

The idea of being stealth pissed is hot to me. I've actually had it happen a couple of times, once in a restroom the other at an ABS. The one at the restroom was an understall fuck. This guy came in and wanted to fuck, so he slid under and I mounted his cock. after he was done, he wrote me a note before leaving saying "thanks, I've needed to go all morning." The other was through a gh at an ABS. the guy was doing a slow fuck and kept pausing, but i didn't think anything of it. I have a lot of practice holding in loads, so I hold whatever a guy deposits in me without really thinking about it. After driving home though I really had the urge to go and a lot of piss came gushing out. I was kind of surprised that I couldn't feel it when he was pissing, but it was a total turn on for me to realize what he'd done. I even took a load after him before leaving, so I wonder what the other guy encountered? My second sphincter is pretty strong though, so when I clean out I always use a long dildo to make sure there's no water trapped, so it;s feasible to me that a top could stealth piss me if he was deep. The other idea that is just a fantasy is someone stealth pissing when I'm sucking him off. I have my doubts as to whether this is even possible, but I've recently had a top tell me he's done it several times. I have no desire to drink piss, but this guy swears he will convert me into a piss drinker lol. I'm not really that oral, but will do it as foreplay. On the occasions when I can relax enough and get into a rhythm, I can get a cock into my throat. I was doing it with a guy once who was semi flaccid and was able to hold it in several times. I had the weirdest sensation that something was going in, just figured it was pre cum, but it seem like a lot to be pre cum. It didn't occur to me till later that he may have pissed, but it seems almost impossible that he could match his pissing to my rhythm and only do it when his cock was in my throat. I didn't taste anything, so it didn't really occur to me. But thinking about it later was a real turn on. Any top ever do this? is it even possible?

It's a hot idea, making a guy piss, but not sure how possible it is? I've heard of guys making their bottom piss while fisting them, but not sure how you'd get a guy to piss by manipulating his cock?

Fascinating topic. fetish: "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body" Not sure who gets to qualify what "abnormal degree" is, but my fetish is definitely my ass hole. I discovered it as a pretty young kid, probably around the age of 9 or 10. There was a kid on the street where I lived who I kind of had a crush on. One day when we were at his house he showed me an enema nozzle and told me his mom would put it up his ass. I don't think any abuse was happening to him, but I do think he sexualized it, I think he was sexualizing it with me. The idea was planted though and I started putting things in my ass after that and discovered I liked it. As a kid, I didn't do much ass play that I recall, but once I hit puberty and discovered masturbation, it definitely was a big part of it. My early experimentation was more focused on depositing something inside myself, so I experimented with enema and even used a bicycle pump to pump air into myself lol. As an older teen and young adult, i got more into the actual penetration, so larger things found their way in there because I was fantasizing about getting fucked (I was really repressed and didn't have sex with a guy till i was 27). I was working as a maintenance person and one of the tools in my tool shed had a large, smooth metal handle with a ball on the end, that found it's way in several times. As an adult, i've evolved into being more into other guys interest in my hole. I have toys, but don't get much out of pleasuring myself. I get really turned on by guys who have a fetish of other guys holes (mine lol). And the "fetish" (obsession) that another guy has for asshole is a big part of it for me, almost as much as the actual act of penetration. Nowadays I get really turned on by a guy who is creatively obsessed with how he can play in my hole. And I wonder if that goes full circle to how as a kid I learned about my hole from another kid who may have had a asshole fetish?

poppers (amyl nitrite) is a vasodilator. It stimulates the release of nitric oxide in your body which relaxes smooth muscle (the muscle that surrounds your blood vessels) causing them to open up. It lowers your blood pressure, which causes your heart to speed up to compensate. If you're taking blood pressure meds or Viagra (also a vasodilator), your blood pressure can get dangerously low which is why some people get light headed and feel like they're going to pass out. The blue lips some experience is because the body will try and compensate if the blood pressure gets to low by shunting blood away from less vital organs to the more vital ones (which is kind of funny when you think about some guys not being able to get erect as a side effect). It also relaxes the anal and vaginal sphincter muscles, which is one of the reasons some of us love it. We give nitrites to people who are having heart attacks, a common side effect is headache. About 10% of people get migraines. I'm guessing that using poppers may have similar effects. All in all, it's a pretty potent (though short acting) drug. Prolonged and repeated use can do some pretty serious damage.

not for me. I was married 31 years, from the age of barely 21 (long story, religious background). I had my first experience having sex with a guy at age 27. For me, cheating, and then lying to cover it up, was the most tortuous and painful thing I've ever done. It's not that I think an open relationship is wrong, that's a whole other arrangement that includes the decisions of all parties involved. For me, there is nothing exciting or fun about cheating and lying, it filled me with guilt and shame. Eventually, my wife found out and was devastated by it. good times. I don't recommend it.

Hi kikk2015, The simple answer is you are more at risk if there is a sore in your mouth than if there were not. 'Safer' practice for oral sex even advises not to brush your teeth or floss before oral sex. The mouth is highly vascularized and HIV infects by getting into the blood or lymph system, so the idea is to minimize possible blood exposure. When we get a wound of some sort, the body rushes to repair it causing an inflammatory response. That's the "red" that you are seeing in your mouth. Unfortunately, the way HIV infects us is through the very system our body uses to fend off infection (i.e., the immune system). There is something you can do If you are stressing. You can take a course of HIV med's prophylactically (i.e., preventatively). Post exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is something you need to do quickly, within 72 hours of exposure, to be effective.

Hi bootmandc, HIV is a rapidly mutating virus that, consequently, exists in different forms. The way science has gotten ahead of HIV is by attacking different aspects of the virus' reproduction. "TRUVADA is a type of medicine called a nucleoside analog reverse transcriptase inhibitor (NRTI)," it attacks the virus at two different levels/places and is generally effective at prevention because it hits HIV before it has a chance to integrate into a persons system and become established (i.e., infect them). All virus' need a host to reproduce, they cannot replicate on their own. But Truvada does not contain an integrase inhibitor, for instance, a med that attacks a different aspect of HIV infection. I don't know what specific HIV strain this guy has, but apparently it was resistant to the two particular meds as they are formulated in Truvada. The meds they gave him to get the virus under control may have had a different strength, combination or an added component like an integrase inhibitor.

I voted "both" but it's kinda tricky. I think it's more accurate to say a lot of guys 1:1, one after another. I am such a fuck slut that I look at oral as foreplay. I like it well enough, but I'm not one of those guys who likes to suck for hours. I like to use sucking to get a guy hot and bothered so he wants to fuck me, so I can be a pretty focused and purposeful sucker. That has backfired on me lots of times when a guy gets so turned on he ends up shooting down my throat. That's okay, I still enjoy his pleasure, I just want all cum deep in my ass. Kind of a primal thing. When in a group, guys end up having to take turns on fucking, so some will jack or others want you to suck them, for me that takes focus (mine and all those tops) off of my ass, which as noted, as a bottom fuck slut that's what I really get ramped up on. My favorite top is one who is obsessed with fucking more than anything else. So, I don't like anything that might water that down for them, and thus me (because I am getting off on his drive to fuck). I guess ideally that would mean a line of tops waiting to take their turn fucking and getting really turned on by watching and anticipating their turn to breed.

I only experience a top announcing, in one form or another, that he is coming about half the time. Which is kinda disappointing to me because I love a top who lets me know when he is cumming, somehow. I can feel the results afterwards, so I always know after the fact, but I love it when I know a top has climaxed in me and his announcing or telling me he's breeding me is incredibly hot. I've experienced fairly often where a top will cum fast, but keeps fucking. I think some guys are embarrassed if they cum quickly, so they don't tell you and just keep fucking. But I have never minded that. I think it can be really hot if a top shoots as soon as he slides in, just indicates how turned on he is, which is half the pleasure for me (i.e., knowing his pleasure). All in all, as long as he gets it in and leaves some of himself in me, I'm happy.

have only had this a couple of times, really brings out the slut in me and I wish for it more. the hottest time was at an ABS. I was watching porn in one of the theaters and a guy came in and sat next to me. after a few, he put his hand in my pants and went straight for my hole. after making me for a bottom, he pulled my pants off and told me to raise my legs and expose my hole. when guys would come in to the theater he'd finger my hole and invite them to breed it. it was so fucking hot, it's one of my hottest fantasies, wishes. would love to have a top who likes to have me bred on a regular basis as he controls it.

cool question. I'm 6'5", but slender ~185 pounds... and I like to stay that way (i.e., on slender side). Because of my height I can weigh much more and still be within defined range for BMI. I've weighed as much as 215, but did not like the way I looked or felt. Being tall can make it a challenge when a top wants to fuck doggie style. I think that may be partly why my favorite posture is lying on my stomach, but then i tend to be a pretty passive fuck, i love to be taken by guys who love to be in control. Another reason for liking to be on my stomach is for the anonymity it provides. I really do not care how big or small, age, or any other factor, when I am in that position. It's kind of like being blindfolded for me, the visual sense is cut out of the scenario. If visual is involved, I tend to like slender guys. My favorite FB's have all been on the shorter and skinnier side, controlling me as a bottom is never an issue because I'm pretty pliable.

Hey guys, just an update for those of you who may be following this thread (and for future generations of readers lol). I had my first appointment with an infectious disease (ID) doctor on Feb 25, a little more than a month after getting diagnosed with HIV. My own feelings after being diagnosed were that I wanted to get on meds as quickly as possible to get my VL down to undetectable. Everything I have read points to that as the best approach in terms of reducing the affects of the virus on me and reducing the likelihood of spreading it (not of a chasing or gifting mindset here). I feel I really lucked out with my ID doctor, he's been working with HIV patients since the 80's and really seems up on the latest. I asked him point blank if he had any issues treating a gay guy. He thanked me for asking and told me while he is not gay, he explained how he'd been treating gays for years and some of his experiences. The guy has a heart, and I was grateful to get a glimpse. He gave me a thorough exam and ordered a boat load of blood work done. He didn't limit his questions or focus to HIV, but was obviously familiar and savvy enough to discuss all STD's. He also made sure I was vaccinated for pneumonia and Hep A before leaving his office and I'll be getting a second pneumonia vaccine in a few weeks (both cover different strains). Thorough. He did not start me on meds yet because he wanted to do genetic testing first to make sure the meds he prescribes are a fit for me. Thorough again. He also helped come up with a solution for when I do get prescriptions, being able to get them at a place where I can maintain my privacy (I work at a hospital and my insurance requires I get my meds through the hospital, thankfully we have several hospitals in the chain and I can get my meds from the pharmacy of another of the hospitals in the chain in another town where the whole staff doesn't know me). I still haven't experienced any real panic or sense of desperation with having this diagnosis. Cognitively, I didn't expect any of that, but emotions can have a mind of their own... so far, mine are behaving.

I think you are all hitting on the same note, and I so appreciate the tone. I believe racism is a subset of ethnocentrism, that it is taught and is not natural. The problem with ethnocentrism is the attitude that we are right just because it is what we've always known or done, because it was passed on to us by our families, churches, schools, friends-i.e., culture. I think that it's not so much the blatant, obvious habits or traits that harms us, but the subtle presumed habits that we have and live because we have never questioned or had them questioned. Having those things examined or questioned can make us squirm because few people want to be 'bad' or thought of as ignorant. It seems to me that ignorance derives from an attitude of knowing though. I.e., when one already "knows," one generally stops inquiring or looking because one no longer feels the need to inquire about something they already 'know.' I've been tricked by my own nature enough times to where it seems prudent to always take the approach: "this is how it seems to me now, but I could be wrong..." Having these kinds of discussions for me is a way of "looking in the mirror" (as Misterpiggy suggests), because relationship is a way of seeing your reflection. Other people reflect us and can show us things about ourselves we may not see through our own glasses.

Interesting stats and correlative reasoning. I've also wondered about the prevalence of HIV in Africa. Gay sex is less culturally acceptable (or at least was in the past), but I infer a strong male with male subculture. My own attraction to black guys has nothing to do with physical appearance or size, it has to do with demeanor. Again, I preface this with my chagrin about possible stereotyping. Most of the black guys I've been with have been almost artful in their approach to sex. There's been a feel that I've experienced with other races, but not as consistently, so it makes it easier for me to associate it with race. I cannot quite put my finger on what exactly "it" is, but I have usually felt like the black guys who fucked me are more engaged with what they are doing with me so I end up feeling more of a connection. I have had this with guys of other races, it just has been more common/consistent with black guys. Whatever "it" is, I usually end up feeling more romantic with a black guy, more loved or appreciated. It almost always feels less hook up more personal. I think it may be that I feel less objectified. I have ended up feeling more like I could have something regular, relationship of sorts, with more black guys than I've experienced with other races.