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Just left... cum and go. Just wandered onto Grindr and He hits me up. He'd hit me up the other day but i had to work. Not used to getting anything from Grindr, but He wanted sucked and to breed. i let Him know i was cum sloppy and He thought that was hot, so He came over. We kissed... was a great kisser, then i led Him back to my room dropping my shorts on the way, ass presenting. Went down on my knees when we got there and took His cock in my mouth. His cock was short, but a hole stretcher, very thick. and uncut. Fuck, He was so good to suck on, i got in the zone right away and He liked it, which amped me up when i know a Man is enjoying. Maybe too much, i asked if He wanted to fuck, and He fucked me lying on my belly, but had a hard time staying in, so i flipped on my back and He had to keep pulling out because He didn't want to cum to fast. But i was loving it too and wanting His orgasm and seed and He went deep and unloaded as i reached under and caressed His balls. i love holding and caressing a Mans balls while He empties them into me, so awesome. Now i have to hold His and my other fuck buddies loads in. A sweet task.

Bout half hour ago. my sweet Latino FB. He just left a bbq with His friends and was horny. i was making dinner, but jumped in the shower and prepped, didn't take long. When i got out of the shower, i saw His car parked in my driveway. Oh hell yeah. i texted "ready" and less than a minute later He was in my unlocked back door, straddling my legs and sliding His fat Cock in. i felt sorta sloppy already to myself, idk, but He drove right in and fucked me beautifully as always. i never tire of His energy and desire to breed, He showered and asked when i am off work next... i don't go back till thursday and He said: "good to know, maybe i'll hit you up after work tomorrow." Yes please, my hole is cum sloppy and feels good when i walk or sit, all slippery and full.

i don't know if this question can be answered objectively, but i can trace being bottom with a healthy dose of sub back to age 7. i had a crush on another 7 year old boy in my neighborhood, Danny Newberry. In retrospect, i can see He had Top/Dom attributes even at that age, even though we were both just clueless kids. One day while playing at His house, He took me into His bathroom and showed me an enema nozzle. He was very excited as He described to me what it was and where it went, and as He described it, He described it happening to me. Nothing happened between us, but as soon as i got home, i found our enema nozzle and, thinking of Him and following His description, it ended up in my ass. Sort of a first experience of being 'dommed.' After that, everything ended up in my ass... i discovered it as my sex organ way before my penis at 14. Growing up religious, even though i knew from 7 i'm attracted to guys, i was conditioned to be straight... and top as part of that conditioning. i married a woman at an early age and was able to top her, but it was never right. Not only was a gay, but we were both bottom and sub psychologically. Being married and trying to force myself to be a top is what burned into me that i am total bottom. i look at marriage to a woman as a sort of prison like experience. How straight guys will sometimes have male lovers or sex in prison, but as soon as they get out, they only want a woman. In my case, my conditioned religious belief was my "prison." Once i 'got out,' there's been no going back. i've tried topping guys a few times, i LOVE everything about a mans ass, but i have zero drive, need, desire to penetrate another male and 100% drive, need, desire to be penetrated by a Man. It's so much more than physical for me. So, yeah, it feels like i have always been bottom or "born bottom."

Mostly an introvert who has adopted extrovert attributes as functioning/coping mechanisms. my jobs have always been very social and require extroverted activity and attributes.

Prior to the pandemic, i was seriously looking at relocating to PS. Plenty of sex available with 40% of the population being gay. Not sure i want to live in the desert though. It was close to 100 degrees the whole time i was there, and it's only May, the summers they're brutal and are perfect in the PNW. That's not as big a deal for me as work though. i can go anywhere, i'm in demand as a critical nurse, but working in a hospital is very hard. i work in a teaching hospital and have good trust relationship with everyone, that's a huge factor in the job since caregiving is a team effort, having trust and knowing those you work with is a big deal. i can text a doctor that i need an order for this or that, that i suspect this or that, and i get a good and quick response. That's because we know and trust each other... i hate to have to build that kind of network again with 100 plus doctors, hundreds of nurses, pharmacists, respiratory, physical therapy. Lot's involved in moving and changing jobs. But i still struggle with it because i wanna be perpetually bred and know i can get that there.

Tuesday. i guess i didn't write about this one because in this case it was from sucking Cock? Not the same, but it was still a beautiful experience. Surprisingly, to me, a Guy from Grindr. i don't have a paid membership there, though i typically do have one on most of the hookup sites i participate in. Not sure i have ever successfully hooked from Grindr? This guy felt sketchy from the start, i had to explain everything to him and he was feeling very flake like. He kept disappearing, then reappearing. Would not say what he wanted, despite my taking the lead and being very specific and up front, he was using euphemisms like wanting to "have fun" and a "good time." Which, truth be told, makes me a little crazy when guys use those terms because they communicate absolutely zero. Even after me telling him i'm a total bottom and a cocksucker and explaining i like to suck cock and be bred, his only response was "i like that too." WTF, i hate pulling stuff out of a guy. For some that means they like to suck cock and get bred, others it could mean that like to get sucked and breed ass... but He was not volunteering anything even when i asked. Just about gave up and at one point he said: "you have to promise to keep this between you and me." Lol, complete stranger, so i asked: "do you have any experience with this?" And he responded; "i guess it shows." i told him that explained a lot and i lightened and became more encouraging to help him with his trepidation. i told will just do a BJ this time, and he was okay with that and came over. Visually, He was my kinda Man, smaller frame, slender, build, sorta shy and polite. He wanted me to wear my nursing scrubs and told me He'd only done this when He was younger on a dare. i knelt in front of His and lowered His pants around His thighs and had His cock in my mouth fast... didn't want to spend time being awkward, and He got right into it and hardened up fast. His breathing and moaning let me know He liked it, and He told me "i'm close," maybe wondering if i'd swallow? idk, but at that point i took His cock into my throat and He shot... not a lot. He did not have a big load at all, like maybe He'd jacked off prior kind of load, but enough to know He came. i again was encouraging and honest, telling Him how much i loved sucking His cock, thanking Him for His orgasm and seed... and, He asked for my phone number. So, He's in my phone and i in His.. Hope He turns into a FB and is not having first time regrets or conflicts. Still, was sweet, loved being with Him.

Hey Guys/guys, i spent last week on sexcation in Palm Springs (PS) and thought some might enjoy a detailed write up. This is my first "sexcation" since the 2020 pandemic. i did go to a gay resort in FL a couple of months ago, but my main motive was to meet and be with a particular Man, so it was different. There's been posts on BZ about sexcation, so i know it's a thing for some. Caution, it's gonna be long, but i'll try and break it up so those with reading phobias can just skip to the parts that interest them lol. Transportation: i flew from Portland OR on Alaska Air (i have their travel credit card), a 2 hour nonstop flight. i always get a rental car, so i fly into either San Diego, Ontario California, or Palm Springs, depending on the best air fare i can get. Sometimes the savings will cover most of the cost of the car i'm getting anyway. San Diego is about 2 hours from PS, Ontario is about 1 hour, but either is an easy drive. i recommend if you do rent a car, get the waiver insurance. Yeah, it sucks to pay for, but i have used it several times in PS and it's always been hit and run when the car is parked, either at the resort or at a store or restaurant while out. i also like renting from the car rental agency vs through a travel service like Expedia, etc.. i find they car rental insurance is better, no deductible and you can just walk away. If there is damage using a third party waiver insurance that often is available from travel agencies, you still have to do all the paperwork, file claims, etc.. Walk away waiver insurance is way easier and usually about the same cost. i rented from Fox car rental and it was 1/3 cheaper than any other rental agency and was seamless and easy. They try all the typical upsell bs of any car rental agency, but were just as good. In all my years of renting cars, i have never gotten the car i rented online when i pick it up. i think this is pretty standard, they just give you whatever they have. i always rent a small or midsize car, and i always end up with an SUV lol. The last two times it's been a 4Runner. No biggie for me, but gas is a dollar a gallon more in CA than most other places in the US, so if that matters to you or you plan on doing lots of driving, it's a consideration. i only used 2/3 of a tank the whole time i was there and it was $75 to fill it with regular gas @ 5.79/gal. Accommodations: i stayed at All Worlds. There are several 'gay' resorts (most clothing optional) in PS. i've stayed at All Worlds about half a dozen times. i've also stayed at Canyon Club and CCBC, and a quick google search will present you with several other options. All Worlds is a cut above the usual seedy, do it yourself 'gay hotels,' the owner has obviously put some money into renovation. By no means 5 star accommodations, but more like 3 star compared to the usual 2 star of the others i have been to. PS is an old resort town and the places i have been to all seem to have been built in the 50's or 60's and you can see signs of age no mater how much make up has been applied to the facade. my shower had the original plumbing and the hot water pipe rattled like the end of the world every time i turned it on. But it worked. As a total bottom, i always travel with a shower attachment/shower shot and i change out the shower head when i get there and keep the hand held attached soi can exchange the shower with my shower shot for prep. (As an aside, while in Florida, i stayed at Inn Leather, and the room had a sling and a shower shot already installed... that was a first). my room had a fridge, but no microwave. There is a microwave by the ice machine outside the room. Bed was comfy, clean room, Netflix TV and some porn, Mini Spilt HVAC vs a window unit. The window was fogged, needed replacing, so guys can see in. Ceramic tile floors. Decent digs, decent shape. No breakfast, not even an orange or waffle, just 'complimentary coffee' a couple of hours in the morning. Monday-Thursday, there is no staff on site, office is closed and you have a phone number to call for issues. No housekeeping unless you request it. i was there 5 days and didn't see a housekeeper once. Well, i saw Him, He was cute, but he didn't clean my room. That may be a thing now? my room didn't get cleaned the whole week i was in FL either? Bottom line, accommodations are minimalist at best. They have a kitchen for 2 hours with coffee only. They have a room with "gymnasium" on the door, but when i asked the owner, he told me that was from a former owner and there is no gym. i went 6 days without lifting and got really sore starting back up at the gym when i returned home. Hospitality is not at the top of their list. Indeed, if you read some rules, some have encountered some cranky behavior from the owner. in his defense, he has done more to fix the place up and maintain it than most of the gay resorts i have been to, but also the least hospitable. He puts his money into his facility, not into providing service to his guests. 'Free'wifi that actually worked. Cost was $727 for 5 nights with $90 tax, total cost was about $820 ( that covers double occupancy). i find All Worlds is easier to get a room and less expensive than CCBC... which is a pretty popular gay resort in PS. Sex: i have mixed feelings about the sex availability at All Worlds. Is it good? i think that depends on the individual, lots of factors, so i'll share my thoughts and experiences. i stayed Wed through Monday. When i arrived Wed, i checked in online and got access codes to an after hours gate and to my room, wifi password, etc.. The office was locked and i did not see any staff wandering about till Friday. Which can be a plus or minus depending on what you like and how you use the facilities for sex. You can have a 'guest' (read: "out side hook up") M-Th without being charged, but Fri-Sun, there is a cover charge because All World is also essentially a sex club. They have built what they call "The Maze," and truthfully, it's some of the better sex club accommodations i have been to. They have an indoor and outdoor maze. The outdoor maze is just so so. plywood dividers with large glory holes, half of which were falling down. Also, the owner must be very short because ALL the GH's in the whole facility were very low to the ground, though well sized, not good for anyone over 6 feet tall. Weird. not even a mix, all the same low height. The indoor Maze was nice, 4 slings, for very large beds, lots of booths with those low GH's, sitting areas, porn throughout, couple of restrooms, a padded saw horse type fuck bench. And big. But, it is only opened Friday -Sunday. When i got there Wed, it was locked, also on Thursday and it was deader that the proverbial door nail at the resort during the weekday. my first hook up was at a Lowes restroom. i think if i went back to All Worlds, i'd work it better. my favorite sex is walk in where i leave my door unlocked and ajar and lie face down/ass up on my bed for Guys to walk in and breed me. my best experience with walk in in PS was at CCBC. i pretty much got fucked all night there. All Worlds? Only one guys followed me back to my room and came in.. he tried to fuck me but couldn't get hard, so i didn't get fucked once in my room. i had several offers from Guys off site Who wanted to do walk in with me, but they all asked on the week end and would have had to pay a $35 entrance fee, so of course, no takers, and the after hours gate is blocked on weekends, so you have to go through the office and pay if you are not a guest. Their policy also states emphatically that guests cannot have a visitor Fri-Sun without paying the $35 entrance fee. Normally, for walk in, i give the hook up the gate code and my room number, but cannot do that at All Worlds unless it's M-Thur. The Maze is very active on the weekends, a decent crowd and variety every mix you can imagine. If you like a sex club atmosphere, it's pretty much as good as any, maybe a little above average. There's an outdoor pool with lots of lounge chairs and zero shade. Also an in-ground hot tub, older and the jets are not very powerful or adjustable. Both are clean and the grounds are above average and well maintained. i'd say about 50-60 guys around all the time on weekends looking to hook. My Sex: my sex started out slow. As mentioned, my first fuck happened in a bathroom stall at Lowes... which was really hot. Guy chatted me up from Squirt and we hooked there. i met LOTs of guys online who wanted to do walk in breeding. PS is 40% gay, so there are lots of horny Men there, sort of a west coast gay Mecca. But guys want easy access in my experience and a lot of them are put off by having to go through a gate with a code. i saw several online ads on Bareback from guys around PS doing walk-in cum dump at places like Hotel 6 or Travelodge that have outside doors and easy access. If walk in sex is your thing, i think it could be easier and cheaper to do a sexcation in that kind of facility. i'm considering trying that next time, or maybe staying at a place like Travelodge during the week day, then switching to a gay resort on the weekend? my weekend started slow, but ended up great. i met one guy who i really liked, the one mentioned earlier who followed me back to my room and could not get hard to fuck me. He was a really sweet Guy, so real and considerate. He tried so hard to fuck me, way longer than he should have, but his personality was a total turn on for me. We made out some and i even tried to fuck him (i think @NWUSHorny would have been proud of my effort). i loved his ass, smooth and beautifully shaped... i love a mans ass, i'm just not wired to fuck it. i was able to get hard, but didn't stay that way, so only fucked him a little and got soft pretty fast. It's not my plumbing, depending on how a Top is with me, i can get rock hard for hours, it's my psychological wiring... just notta top. That was my only in room activity. At the indoor Maze, the bed was my favorite place. i'd lie face down/ass up presenting. i sucked a lot of cock that way, but most didn't want to cum. i watched other guys on the bed next to me breed and suck, smiled, enjoyed, encouraged them and their pleasure. One Man was fucking a guy next to me for some time and i was encouraging both of them. The bottom seemed to get tired, i think he may have been inexperienced because the Top seemed to be chasing his ass for most of the fuck, like the bottom was both enjoying but having a hard time taking it. The Top pulled out and re-entered him a couple of times, then the bottom seemed to be tired or the Top seemed to give up on him, and the Top came over to me. i thought He would just fuck me some like He did the other guy, like He was not ready to cum. i was VERY hungry and appreciative when He slid in and when full on slut with Him... couldn't help it, He felt so fucking good, and my ass immediately went into rhythm with His fucking, squeezing and moving with Him... i was in heaven. Apparently, He also enjoyed because He soon said: "i'm close" and went balls deep and unloaded in my gut. When He pulled out, He got up, stood by the bed and said: "clean that dick up," which i happily did. i got several fucks and loads lying that way. Got my share of rejection, not a second look situations. Typical of the venue, some are friendly to all, some are snobs, some are just disinterested, some are shy, new, inexperienced. All the usuals. One guy came back 5x to get sucked, was verbal, which i like if it's not bully verbal, which he wasn't. But it was incongruent with him. He had a nice uncut cock, but it never got hard, despite his apparent enjoyment. Yet his verbal was like he had the biggest, hardest cock in the world lol, telling me how much i liked sucking it. i am a cock sucker, but if i don't perceive a certain kind of lust/desire/enjoyment in the other guy, if he's just going through the motions, i'm done. By the fifth time he returned, i was done. Another guy obviously wanted 'cock' and i don't see myself as having one of those. i think it's pretty obvious when i am presenting my ass and face down, and i don't think he misunderstood. But he did have smarts and technique down. He had GREAT touch and found my sweet buttons really fast touching my ass and thighs. He found the buttons that make my ass raise up so he could get his hand under me and get to my penis. i have to give the guy credit, he knew what he was doing and he also came back half a dozen tries and was practically mauling my testicles trying to get to my penis, even after i pushed his hand away, it did not deter him. His touch was so good though, He did manage to keep me off balance and ambivalent. Best load of the week was on Sunday when the place had pretty much emptied out, just a few guys wandering around, the Maze was empty... about 6 pm. i left my room and wandered in an lay on the bed prone and a few minutes later a Man walks in, Who i didn't see when i came in? He immediately got on Top of me and slid what felt like an enormous cock inside of me, idk, but the shape or size was hitting my p spot perfectly. He was making feel good sounds which always ramps me up by a factor o 100x. When a Man feels good using me is when i feel most complete, and He was rutting deep inside of me obviously enjoying... and He got the same feedback from me, i was totally into Him. i came very close to cumming hands free, but He shot His load and i thanked Him, He smiled appreciatively and left.

it wasn't a 'hate fuck' but i had a FB who had about 3" (really), and was >300 pounds. It was always anonymous where i'd by lying face down. He was very self conscious and didn't want me to see Him because He was embarrassed by His weight and Cock. But, He was all Top... and that is what attracts me most to a Man. i always get turned on by a Man Who wants to fuck me. A couple of times He had so much anxiety that He couldn't get erect. i could sense His anxiety and always downplayed it, not because i'm altruistic, but because i genuinely liked this guy and loved the Top in Him as well, and so much of what that entails, i just really wanted Him to succeed at being Who and how He is, that feels good to me when a Man is happy and fulfilled. When He did come to realize that i genuinely cared and liked Him, the ED issue went away. He always impressed me with how He got in. He'd climb onto my bed as i was waiting prone, straddle my closed legs and penetrate me Him in a sitting position. i loved having Him in me, despite His 3 inch Cock, His desire made up for it for me... and He always left a huge load in me.

i had a lot of cock the last several days in Palm Springs. i'll prolly write about that in a different thread as a sexcation for those interested. Too much to put here. my Sweetist Cock and connection just left. Yep, my Latino FB. been a couple of weeks He had a medical issue, but is fine. i flew to PS last Wed, and He was calling me on Thur (in OR) asking when i was going to be home. Call me a romantic, but i love Him... not in a traditional marry me way, we just have a great FB chemistry that's mutual and never gets old. He is so sweet to me, i just want to have Him in me, His energy, Who and how He is, His raw lust and pleasure just make it beyond a hook up for me. He Fucked me awhile, then wanted to suck me... i always let Him, never makes me cum, but He seems okay with that, then He wanted me to suck Him, which absolutely, i love being between His thighs, kissing and licking them, getting His scent all over my face. Fuck yeah. Then He wanted me to ride Him reverse... and i got a second load and am very full and happy right now in so many ways.

CCBC has been my best experience in PS, All Worlds has better facilities, the owner has obviously shelled out some money to improve the property. Butt then, my first load this trip was in a Lowe’s restroom, so obviously sex supplants classy digs with me. At CCBC I got a great combination of walk in breeding in my room (all night long), and their play area is an ongoing orgy, what’s not to love? Been about 6 years though, All worlds always has a room, CCBC is harder to get reservations… and the hosted Cumunion this weekend. Didn’t go, AW was very busy Fri-Sat, dead on weekdays. They finished “Th Maze” during the pandemic and did a decent job. I’ve only been to Hawks in Pdx (underwhelming), and I’d rate the maze as superior, both crowds and facilities, big outdoor area as well, lots more than CCBC.

^This^ Was at a gay resort in Palm Springs the last 5 days. They have a built in sort of sex club called "The Maze" (@ All Worlds). i have mixed feelings about All Worlds, it's sort of like staying at a sex club, except "The Maze" is only opened Fri-Sun. So it's pretty dead week days, and pretty crowded on week ends. The crowds at a sex club (generally) make for a lot of variety and a lot more choices. Tops may be rutting and getting fucked often does not mean getting a load. Makes sense to me. If someone has bought an all day pass, they may wanna lengthen Their stay and sample holes. It seems most bottoms want/need seed. i do. For me, the connection is interrupted or incomplete if a Man doesn't have an orgasm with me, so especially in that kind of environment, i have to cognitively prepare myself to get fucked and not necessarily loaded. It' comes with the turf. Once i do that, i find i can appreciate from a different angle. i love Men/men. i would rather go without than have a guy who does not want me as i want him. Happened last night. Guy with a massive cock and legs spread, offering. Sunday night, no one around and my bottom cocksucker instincts kicked in and i went down on him He got on his cell phone, seemed to be texting, but obviously was not into what i was doing... so i left. Just because he was there and presenting, doesn't mean i was what he wanted, and that's fine... i only want mutual. The Maze has about 5 big beds, which is my favorite, i like to lie on my stomach and present. Often there is several guys on the bed. i watched a guy getting fucked yesterday and the Top was a sweet Fucker. At one point, as i lay there watching, we made eye contact and i gave Him a thumbs up , He smiled and winked back, obviously enjoying Himself. The bottom was also obviously enjoying himself, and i was happy for Him. While i was watching, two guys fucked him. The first fucked him for some time, but the bottom seemed maybe less experienced? idk, he seemed to be taking it, but having a challenging time of it and the Top had to sort of chase his hole at times? After He fucked him awhile, He left him and came over to me and mounted me. i was VERY horny from watching, so i was like a starving bottom and as He entered me (His Cock was big), i pressed up into Him receiving Him. He obviously liked what He felt, which just fueled my lust and i was full on hungry slut with Him. It wasn't long and He announced He was cumming, which surprised me, i wasn't expecting to get His seed, but He had a big load, and i got it and He collapsed on top of me after. Was sooooo fucking sweet. i thanked Him (a lot, i was really grateful lol), and He got up and asked me to clean His cock, which i did happily and He went on His way. This is only my second time in this kind of setting since the pandemic, and it seems to me different now, that there is a lot more rutting now than cumming? Idk, it may be me that has changed and i just notice it more. i've made a mental and emotional adjustment now. If i'm in a public kind of venue, i don't have the expectation of getting seeded... of course i want it, but i don't expect it. If my sole need at the time is to get seed, then i'm better off looking for 1:1. Either way, i think it is petty and immature to try and take or keep a Top from another bottom, it fucks up the whole vibe of a group of Men/men getting together to meet their desires and needs.

a little more i have a Latino FB i write about often in the "...last load" thread. He's been breeding me for 3 years. He's also Bi and has a gf. To me, as a Bi guy, there are things He needs/wants that i cannot give Him. i really like this Guy, so i want Him to be happy and fulfilled. He has also come to realize, have a certain sense, of how much i love and appreciate Him planting His seed in me. It's not 'just seed,' It's His "seed." To me, there's more than the physical seed, there is a lot of desire and intent behind what He is doing. For me psychologically, each time He breeds me with desire and intent, He puts more of Himself inside of me. For me it feels like i have this space inside of me that only a Man can fill, and He is filling and occupying that space. Going back to the "time share" analogy, a Man can occupy that space for as many days in the year as He wants, and while He is 'living' there, His stuff, scent, etc., are there as well. It's different when He is not there, or leaves for a long while. The space is still there and needs to be occupied. Another analogy (for me) could be food. One meal does not sustain forever, and one fuck and breeding doesn't either. For me, 'good nutrition' sexually is both physical and psychological. i think generally more pay attention to the physical, which i think is why we need/want it more often. i have found for myself, when the psychological part of breeding is more present, my physical need is not as demanding. It's complex and wonderful. i wish more Guys/guys (on the whole spectrum) were as intent on understanding and pursuing mind fuck/breeding as much as physical fuck/breeding.

i confess to liking a certain angle to a "territorial" Top. i love His desire and perception that He is possessing and/or marking His territory when He breeds me. The flip side of that is we all are individuals and our need and capacity can be fluid. A lot of time, a bottoms need/desire/capacity for seed is going to be greater than one Tops ability to provide. Part of 'ownership' involves taking care of and maintaining Your property. i've found piss can be a different kind of seed that can supplement, and even enhance the feeling of being marked/possessed when the chemistry is there. As long as the desire/need is present between us, i.e., fucking is not just routine, or worse, obligatory- like it often gets in mono relationships, then the more a Man breeds me, the more addicted to Him i become and the more possessed i feel. But possession doesn't have to be exclusive, i think a time share (for both Tops and bottoms) makes more sense.

i had not had under the stall sex in a long time... years. i would, but no of none around where i live, so it's been 20 years? i'm in Palm Springs and a Guy on Squirt sends me a note asking if i'm into "public sex." I responded: "i'm not shy, what do you have in mind," thinking He was exhibitionist and wanted to Cock me in front of others... hey, i'm a port for a storm. He explains He is in a restroom at Lowes and says it's "busy." i ask: "busy with sex or otherwise." He answers: "sex." And i respond: "on my way." When i get there, all 5 stalls are occupied, with a mix. But memory and rr etiquette kick in and i wait and the stall that opens is the best one. No GH, or even peep holes though. The Guy messages me and turns out He is in the stall next to me. As is usual in RR sex, we wait to make sure it's safe, which usually means others are very obviously there for sex, or you wait till others using the facility are gone. Finally, we are alone and He slides His legs and flaccid Cock under the stall, and i'm instantly on Him. i only have shorts and flip flops on, no underwear, so i'm easy access. but those are off as i suck Him. We get about 30 seconds of that before the RR door creaks open and we both retreat innocently. And, the RR fills back up. So, He invited me into His stall and i hesitated for about a micro second and joined Him. He got up on the toilet so there'd only be my feet in the stall, spread His legs and presented His Cock. Fuck Yeah, i went down on Him and He got hard very fast. God, it was good, our mutual lust was palpable. He held me on His cock and gagged me a few times, then wanted to fuck. So i turned around and presented my hole to Him, and after some awkward adjustments, He was in. In that position, He could not actually fuck, but it didn't matter because i'm pretty sure He came instantly as soon as He slid in. I don't think He was in much more than a minute or so. When He withdrew, i turned around and saw a drop of cum on His Cock and my mouth went right to it, and a reach around and my finger found a very creamy hole. We both looked at each other and silently mouthed: "Fuck Yeah!" i left, it was a sweet experience... but then, mutual sex always is for me.

While i answered "no" to all three questions, getting to that place was a process of sorts for me. From lots of introspection and experience, i've learned that the most vital part of sex for me is connecting and meeting mutual need/desire. That can only happen if those involved are willing and able to be open and vulnerable. But i think we live in a social setting where 'faking it' is often the standard, so much so that i think it happens unconsciously a lot of the time. Yeah, i'm talking about more than orgasms and sex sounds here, but i think they have the same roots. Dating myself here, but remember the Canon advert several years ago where he declares: "Image is everything"? Of course, it was a play on words, selling a camera, but the meme was borrowed for that purpose. It seems part of our cultural conditioning to put forth, not our best 'real' foot, but to project an image that is constructed to get a particular response, and again, i think this is often done automatically and unconsciously. i believe, when we do this, we are part of and participating in a grand illusion. i think a common thread, that runs through all of humanity, is the need to be wanted, loved. But to get that requires being seen, known, which is vulnerable. As an aside, i have wondered if our drive for frequent hook-ups is a sort of mechanism we use to get affirmation, to be acknowledged and desired, using an appetite/hunger most of us have? That we've quantified our need/desire to be loved/wanted down to 'a load' or 'a hole?' As i see it, If we 'fake' who and how we are, the real us becomes invisible and we are not truly connecting what is there, but an image, a projection of what we hope may get a response we want/need. But then, the response is not to the real us, so it cannot feed that real us, it only affirms the false image.

i'm in Palm Springs for a few days. Guy contacted me on Squirt, he was in a restroom at a Lowes, said it was "busy." Haven't done RR in a long time, but... muscle memory? i ended up going and all 5 stalls were full, some doing business, others looking for sex. We ended up in a stall next to each other and in a lull He slid under and i sucked Him a few before someone else entered the restroom and we both retreated. He invited me into His stall, and hormones being what they are, i went. He got up on the toilet so there'd only be two feet in the stall, spread His legs and offered His Cock and i sucked some more. He got hard pretty fast and wanted to fuck me... which is what i always want, so i turned around and positioned for Him to slide in. It was an awkward position for both of us and He had a hard time getting in at first, but we both prevailed, He came as soon as He got in. There was not really any fucking, He just penetrated me and came, and i did not know until He withdrew and i turned around and He said: "fuck yeah!!" and i saw a drop of cum on His cock, which i immediately suck off. A quick check of my hole and i had a nice creamy load. He was happy, so was i. i thanked Him for His cock and seed and left.

While general terms like "Dom" and "sub" help us communicate a direction, they are too broad and undefined in their unpacked form. Personally, i do not see any relationship working, or approaching being a "relationship," without communication. As i see it, the D/s dynamic is about connecting needs/desire from two opposite poles. Spend any amount of time with BDSM folk, and you'll see very quickly that there are myriad expressions of both Dominance and submission. You may connect to stuff like ropes and whips, he may want to dress like a French maid and clean your house. You may perceive him as having an asshole and cock to be caged, and he may see himself as having a clit and a pussy. The list is as endless as are people... individuals. Again, just my views here, but i believe until the two of you communicate about how you each perceive and experience Dom/sub, you won't know where your needs/desires aline and the relationship will be generic at best.

i processed out of a religious mindset, growing up in an era fraught with negative notions and labels about gay sex. As i am now, i have no negative connotations when i think of men having sex together, be they Top, bottom, or anywhere else on the sexual spectrum Like others have noted, i believe such pejoratives are a social construct, not a description of reality. So, re the question of "What kind of Man/man?" Some of the terms i use to describe how i see a Man Who wants/needs to penetrate another are: creative, controlling, possessing, conquering. i think of a bottom as men who want/need to be a canvass of sorts, or clay as a receiver of a Mans creative energy, wanting/needing to be controlled, possessed, conquered. That's by no means an exhaustive list of descriptors for me, but they all stem from a belief that nature expresses and functions in a yin/Yang sort of way. From the tiniest ions, there are protons, electrons and neutrons, which-depending on chemistry- attract (fuck?) and bond. To me, sex can be a simple or infinitely complex expression of what is. i'm endlessly grateful for the natural gift of expression and connection we have as part of living.

For me, it depend on the Guy doing the fingering. i don't think there is any substitute for a Raw Cock, but as foreplay or part of fucking, fingering can be really hot... or not. Again, it depends on the Guy attached to the fingers. Some guys obviously have no clue, probably taking cues from porn they have seen, but are not in synch with the bottom they are fingering. Not communicating, be it verbal and asking or reading the bottoms response to what he is doing. Also, sex with a guy who is detached from what he is doing seems to happen more with fingers in my experience. It's a lot harder to be detached when using a Cock than it is using a finger? i can tell if a Guy is using His finger because He wants to turn me on and make me hornier for Him vs a guy just sticking his finger in. Also, a finger can be a prelude to fisting, and when a guy progresses to more fingers quickly and is obviously wanting to get his hand in without taking time to properly open the bottom, there's an obvious disconnect.

i've had hundreds of Cocks in t-rooms, when i first started having sex with Men, it was my primary resource... but that was before online, cell phones and aps, when cruising was a big method of how one got to hook up. As a repressed kid full of hormones and desire, i'd go to restrooms and sit in a stall for hours just to be around guys i knew wanted sex with guys. my first clue was all the messages on the stall walls. There were phone numbers, dates and full on ads lol. A lot of my initial education about t-room sex came from reading the messages on stall walls. Also, holes in the dividing stall walls for peeping, or glory holes let you know someone is using, or has used, the location for sex. Hormones and the sex drive did the rest. As others have noted, hang out long enough and someone will make it clear. Each "tapping" discreetly initially, but some are so horny it doesn't take long for a tapping foot to become a cock or ass. Others are more shy and demure, maybe new; there is no one standard response. As to what you want? That was always pretty clear. A Guy would slide His legs and hard cock under the wall and i'd sit on His cock. Or conversely, i'd present my ass and a Guy would slide in. The toilet paper notes back and forth can be a way of more detail, an early form of gay texting that has since evolved? Careful with that one though. Vice cops used to go to active t-rooms and pretend to cruise and entrap guys, that probably happens a lot less these days, but notes can be used as evidence against you, so make sure he's passing the same note back and not keeping them. Mall restrooms used to be great... i don't think Amazon offers the same service? Parks are another source, as are rest stops with truckers who have sleepers conveniently attached to their trucks, but late night or 24 hour sex in rest stop restrooms is a thing, probably one of the more active sources still around?

i stand corrected. i should have been more careful in my phrasing. i think You are absolutely right. i think it's a type of Islam, fundamentalist, that influences much of the Middle Eastern culture that results in destructive ignorance. i read a book a few years ago: "Infidel" by Ayaan Hirsi Ali. It's a spellbinding autobiography by a woman who grew up in a strict fundamentalist Islamic culture in Somalia and Saudi Arabia. i was struck by the similarities between the fundamentalist Islamic culture she grew up in and the fundamentalist Christian culture i grew up in in the US. i do not doubt that there are ignorant people world wide who would kill faggots for a variety of ignorant reasons.

i thought Your joke was good 😉 i guess it depends on what a guy wants out of sex? i've recently been hooking with a Man who is very out of shape, i seriously have concerns that He might have a heart attack while He is fucking and breeding me. He's not my idea of visually appealing... at all. But damn, i am sooooo fucking happy to have Him whenever He breeds me. my one and foremost criteria for hookup sex is He has to want to fuck and breed me as much as i want to be fucked and bred. I.e., the desire has to be mutual. i've never given a 'sympathy fuck' and i would turn one down. For me, it's about the connection of mutual lust and need, and that comes in every shape, size, age, race... okay, it does have to be bareback, but then, i do not consider gloved sex to be sex... the barrier between us makes it something different to me, like mutual masturbation.

some more... This is not a criticism or judgement, more of open query. i wonder if we experience glut or shortage more because we often reduce our connections with men to cock, cum and hole? When i consider the times i do that, it seems to be that i've reduced my own complex desire/needs for a Man down to the bare minimum? my profiles on sites where i am looking for more than hook up sex are often books or mini series lol. i'm pretty cerebral and have spent a lot of introspective time and effort trying to understand what i want/need from a relationship with a Man, and while it is always sexual, the Top/bottom dynamic is a lot more complex than "insert A into b, move about, release, depart." i can find semblance of what i want/need in hook up sex, but i've come to compare it to fast food. It fills the vacuum of hunger, is full of satisfying salt, sugar and fat, but i'd rather be eating a sit down meals with all the fixins and wonder if i had that if id even want fast food? Or maybe fast food would become the supplement. i wonder if it's reversing what would work best to reduce our need/desire to cock, cum and cunt? i know, it's not a perfect analogy. i also look at our needs/desires as a sort of puzzle with 1000 pieces needed to make up the whole picture. i see multiple anonymous hook ups as one way to acquire those puzzle pieces, and maybe it's just easier to get one piece from a thousand guys than try to find a guy that has 300 or __________ pieces? Or maybe even enough to make sense of the picture? thinking out loud, not reaching any grand conclusions here.

To me this topic is way too big and complex for me to come to a simple, absolute conclusion. i do have some thoughts, but wouldn't want to come off as arguing from a conclusive general position, this is just my personal, individual thoughts/feelings (some may be kinda out there lol, like the first one below). i wonder about the Chinese population (in China). For many years, the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) dictated to the Chinese people that they could only have one child. One of the awful results was male children were valued more than female. According to Encyclopedia Britannica: "The one-child policy produced consequences beyond the goal of reducing populationgrowth. Most notably, the country’s overall sex ratio became skewed toward males—roughly between 3 and 4 percent more males than females." [think before following links] https://www.britannica.com/topic/one-child-policy i wonder if the Chinese gay population is more Top heavy as a result? i'm on one dating site that is a bit more relationship than hook up oriented (for a gay site), and there are Chinese guys living in China on the site (using a VPN). Those i've encountered, looking at profiles or being looked at, have almost all been top? That's obviously purely subjective info, but it got me thinking, if we only apply supply and demand notions, and consider the bisexual male population of China, there may be more Tops in China than bottoms. For the pedants among us, yeah, i know this is not scientific, it's just a thought to add to the mix, not an argued conclusion on my part. my point is, there can be lots of complex factors that can affect the number of tops or bottoms in a population. For a versatile to conclude something along the line that total bottoms are just selfish assholes, strikes me as divisive and a problem, not part of a solution. i've heard that notion before, but never heard a versatile (i.e. the kind who make the universal judgement that all men are really like them: versatile) proffer that: "all Total Tops are just selfish assholes." This attitude makes me think of my time spent in the cultural fundamentalist ideals prison where i was conditioned to believe all people are heterosexual. It seems particularly ego centric and 'selfish' to me to dismiss an entire population who identify as "bottom." i think reality is, anyone can be a selfish asshole, whether they be Top, bottom, versatile, gay, straight, Bi, Trans, ad infinitum. Ones sexual identity doesn't make them selfish. Those guys running around at ABS or sex clubs, closing doors and trying to divert attention away from others could be versatile, bottom, or even Top. To me, whatever their sexual identity, they prove themselves to be "selfish assholes," by their attitude and behavior. When i encounter such people, i typically just leave the venue. i don't want to be around people like that. Even at my horniest, i'm not so desperate that i would want to steal or thwart an opportunity to fuck or get fucked from another guy. i do not think much about the Top/bottom ratio, but more about the gay population in general. i live in a smallish town with a smaller gay population. i travel to a larger city or a place with a larger gay population if i want multiple guys to fuck me, and never leave disappointed. i have come to a place in my life where sex is more about quality than quantity. i confess, both can be hard to find, but i also have discovered (about myself) that when i am getting quality connection with a Man, i don't need the same quantity, and the ratio of Tops:bottoms becomes less of an issue for me.

Just left... He wanted me to suck Him first, which when a Man enjoys and gets obvious pleasure, i get mesmerized and am all over Him. i love receiving a Man into me, and when He is into it, it's perfection. i loved making love to Him via His Cock, it's the only way i feel i can be sorta on top and giving Him pleasure. i have His Cock scent all over my face, which is a bonus of sucking a Mans Cock, i get my face marked with His scent. He can do that with His piss and cum, but that feels really wasteful to me, and i always crave to swellow all that, but His Cock, Balls and Crotch scent? Fuck, i lick and kiss and suck and rub my face between His Cock, Balls and Thighs (fuck, i love a Mans thghs) and i'm in heaven. Then He moans and growls and says: "I wanna fuck you," and He proceeds to tune my ass inside out with His Cock. He touches and holds my body in His hands, kisses my back, arms and shoulders, spanks my ass and pounds the hell out of me, breeds and possesses me. fuck