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  1. tallslenderguy
    Technology has influenced and evolved the mating ritual, eh? This reads to me like a part of you already knew you were dealing with someone who had minimal potential for deep connection lol. As you note, "rando... no profile." And, fetishizing STD's, which while not all that rare, still isn't mainstream. You didn't like it, but a part of you saw the "red flags." Or, at least, you see them retrospectively. i suspect, with time and experience, those things will mold you to some degree and you (all of us really)will develop new responses to new situations? We adapt or respond and are a part of the social evolution. The thing about aps/online is it's a worldwide melting pot. There really isn't one set standard. Online is still sorta unprecedented as a social environment to the point we have terms with new meaning like: "IRL," "virtual," "ghosting." Such terms, and what they convey with their current meaning, didn't exist prior to the internet and "social media."
  2. tallslenderguy
    i rarely hear/read this from... anyone really. i often get blank stares when i try and explain i'm wired to be seeded, like a garden. To me, what You describe is a defining attribute of being a Top. i see a Top as so much more than a sexual position and i see "cock" as more than a penis. To me, both are part of His nature and drive to penetrate, fuck, seed, impregnate, create, possess. i see "bottom" as natures provision for Tops and Tops as natures provision for bottoms. we see the attraction of opposites throughout nature, Protons, electrons (and the versatile neutron lol), so it all makes sense to me and seems natural.
  3. tallslenderguy
    It's been a long while really, 8 years? That's when i got both HIV and Syphilis from the same Guy before moving from VA to OR. He bred me regularly and said He was disease free. No biggie, i don't ask, He just volunteered, but apparently didn't know or was lying. i don't sweat it or stigmatize STD's, to me it's like catching a cold, just from the other end. i'd take His cock again, anytime. Since then, i've had plenty of cock, just have managed to not get anything, even with sexcations to gay resorts in Ft Lauderdale and Palm Springs (both this year). i have a regular FB who breeds me a couple of times a week for the last 3 years, but i think i'm His only male sex partner, and have never gotten anything from Him. So i guess i'm 'blessed' lol.
  4. tallslenderguy
    Hi, And welcome. There's a great group of guys on BZ, lots of interesting, informative discussion, not to mention a lot of variety. i've been here for several years and have not found it's equal as an online gay community... a lot more here than "breeding." It seems nature has instilled a strong sex drive in most guys, probably why it's called a "drive," because it often drives us vs us controlling it lol. You sound like a perfectly normal guy, and being "a little scared" is part of that normalcy me thinks. Strange about the "invisible barrier" you speak of. i think it likely that people are afraid when in a foreign environment, especially as a tourist. Maybe not being familiar with customs and culture makes one more cautious, and frankly, afraid. Even in this country, i remember that getting sex was a process i had to figure out, not something that happened in a week... which may be all a tourist has in your country? This seems one instance where Aps actually may facilitate things, though i've read of fears from guys touring other countries where they were afraid to hook up with locals because of fears of being victimized by predators. i imagine that would be a fear any could have visiting any new environment. Too bad, likely a lot of lost opportunities. Hope you stick around and get to know us, interact and become part of the BZ community.
  5. tallslenderguy
    Agreed x10. We have no control over how others perceive us, we can only control our own self perception and our attitude and actions that result. To me, the question of equality is way too involved and complex to answer in most hook up situations. To me, D/s, Top./bottom are not about equality or inequality. They're about attraction of opposites, and ideally, the balance of symbiosis where each person naturally gets their need/desires met by being who and how they are sexually. The reason i take a hard pass on a guy that doesn't want/need me as much as i want/need Him is because, to me, that is an essential ingredient. Guys who have to make a point of inequality, asserting supposed superiority, come off as disingenuous at best. The top doth protest too much methinks. It has the opposite effect on me, like driving a big truck to try and compensate or cover for feelings that are not superior at all. i find honest, open, vulnerable expression of need/desire to be courageous and powerful, not weak or inferior. To me, a superior attitude is just a costume in an act, and i don't want to play with sex, i want the real thing, the real person.
  6. tallslenderguy
    ^^ditto this.^^ (though i'd trade out use for "select." It's another step forward in prevention. Here's a link to cost info for Apretude (brand name of the injection). "Federal law requires that insurance plans cover certain items and services associated with PrEP. Call your insurance company to see how this may impact you." [think before following links] https://apretude.com/apretude-cost/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=what+is+apretude+used+for&gclid=CjwKCAjwgZCoBhBnEiwAz35RwsO1sEy4QdtL8UHWiYDarkfIuqsa1Az54MRvoFnp7QaixZQUqNQ1cBoCDkIQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
  7. tallslenderguy
    "FDA Approves Apretude: First Injectable Option for HIV Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis" "Key takeaways: Apretude (cabotegravir) is a long-acting injectable medication that can prevent HIV contraction and is targeted at people at high risk for exposure. Apretude is typically injected into the muscles of your buttocks every 2 months by a healthcare professional. There are ways to save on Apretude. If you’re eligible, a manufacturer savings card can help you access Apretude for as little as $0 per injection. A patient assistance program is also available." [think before following links] https://www.goodrx.com/apretude/fda-approves-apretude "WHO recommends long-acting cabotegravir for HIV prevention" [think before following links] https://www.who.int/news/item/28-07-2022-who-recommends-long-acting-cabotegravir-for-hiv-prevention
  8. tallslenderguy
    When i was younger, almost all of my sex was through a GH in a restroom, or on the floor of a restroom getting fucked under a stall wall. i cannot say i'm into dirty walls, floors or dirty bodies (unless it's cum, cum is never "dirty," cum is always better than gold) , but none of those is enough to keep me from receiving a Mans cock and lust. i've run into a few cocks that were so smelly that it gave me a moments pause, but once it's in me, that is never an issue.
  9. tallslenderguy
    i cannot say i've ever encountered an "ugly dick," and i'm part of the >1000's club. Of course, most know that sort of assessment is subjective. i hooked with a Guy once who had no legs, amputee up to His pelvis. Had been in an accident as a kid. Because He didn't have legs, His ass was pretty much non existent and His cock had also gotten injured in the accident, so it wasn't 'normal.' i had a great time with Him. His dick was different, but was all Cock and i loved being with Him and receiving His Cock. On a different note, i see a cock as being both physical and as part of a Mans psychological wiring, e.g., His want/need/drive to penetrate, fuck, orgasm, seed, impregnate, etc.. As one of those on the far end of the sexual spectrum, i don't perceive myself as having a "cock." Sure, i have a penis, i'm not deluded, i just do not associate with what i have and what a Man Who has the above mentioned drives/needs/wants has. i have met a few men who's internal dick was not attractive to me, but i still would not call that "ugly."
  10. tallslenderguy
    This is a big eye roll for me. i figure it's usually one of two reasons: laziness or ignorance. "Lazy" because they simply haven't updated their profile if they get checked more regularly. "Ignorance" for the very reasons you and others note. One sexual encounter can change that status, so if one is going to post status it makes more sense to me to post how frequently one gets tested, or that they can document their status if they hook. i still see that on rare occasions, but really unless you go to the clinic with the person and are with that person all the time till the test results, declaring negative status is not really all the effective. When i see stuff like "D&D free," i typically pass because i'm not really looking for a virgin.
  11. tallslenderguy
    This is a tricky one for me, i know this is an individual thing, not a one size fits all topic. "Abuse" shuts me down, it doesn't open or bring out the sub in me. i'm not a physical masochist either and pain has the same effect of shutting me down. i do not equate "Dom" with Sadist. For me, being with a Man sexually is about connection and bonding and it's especially intense the more synergy we have, the more symbiotic it is. That said, i am deeply aroused by what i perceive as "affectionate degradation/humiliation." Mostly it's about mind fuck, but is more subtle than overt, finessed vs crude or forced. The difference? The Top/Dom shows His desire/need as part of the dynamic. To me, force, bullying comes off as disingenuous, a contradiction. E.g., a Dom/Top telling me how "worthless" i am and how i "mean nothing" to Him, all while He is purposefully using me, comes off as denial. On the other hand, there are lots of kinks that, when they are mutual, involve degradation and humiliation. Being trained and used as a toilet is just one example for me (there are others). When a Top/Dom tells me, or shyly, subtly lets me know that He wants to have and use me in that way, it deeply triggers a sub response in me of need and desire to please Him. Us both knowing that He has that kind of power, where we both want that, sets up a power dynamic that is more powerful than force or bullying is to me. To me, it's mind fuck and can go all sorts of places. For Him to be able to smile and have me honestly admit that i love being His toilet is deeply degrading/humilating, but at the same time is affirming need/desire in both of us.
  12. tallslenderguy
    Ditto. A sense of entitlement is a turn off coming from anyone, Top, bottom or anywhere in between. i only want to present to Someone Who wants me as much as i want them. If that 'chemistry' is not there, i'll take a hard pass thank you. To me, incompatibility is sort of like wearing a condom, it puts a barrier between us where sex for me is the connection and bonding of mutual lust and need, not one-sided.
  13. tallslenderguy
    lol, Right? Even though stereotypes usually have some reality mixed in, at the end of the day we are all complex individuals. There are slutty women and chaste men. i think there is a mix of physical (e.g. hormones) and psychological factors that contribute. i think the OP's post is a good example of ego/ethnocentricity, he takes his own perceptions and applies them universally. Which we all do to some degree, because we all have an ego and we are all influenced by culture. i think what differentiates people (and what i see as maturity level) is the degree of self awareness and openness to things that are different than our ideas and conclusions. i think as gay people, we are better equipped to get that because most of us have experienced rejection and misunderstanding because we didn't fit the 'norm.' To me, 'immaturity' instead forms a new culture perpetuating the same old biases with a different face instead of extending openness and acceptance to people who do not fit our 'norm.'
  14. tallslenderguy
    Not sure i can add anything new. Like others, i see the term as a social or cultural construct. Go to a gay sex club and ask and one will likely get a different answer than if they asked Jimmy Swaggart (and he's gotta have some inner conflict lol). To me it's one of those words like "faggot" or "queer" that has been taken back by a lot of gays and owned. Labels are always just a starting place for me, people are individuals and there seems infinite variation on those labels. i think communication is necessary to see the real person beyond the label.
  15. tallslenderguy
    Just left about 10 minutes ago... great way to start a Sunday morning. He was gone a few days and got home horny. Our sex is always intense, He is so verbal when i'm giving Him oral, really puts me in the zone and keeps me there as long as He wants, but always ends with: "I wanna fuck you." i'm finally pretty sure He's a fast cummer by the time it gets to fucking, almost instantly feel creamed. i've tried talking to Him about it, telling Him how hot i think it is and how it doesn't matter if it takes a long time to cum or no time at all. Too bad there's such a stigma attached to it, especially since He's bi. i think He's just conditioned Himself to keep fucking even after He has cum. i also know He's a multiple shooter, so that also may be why He keeps fucking after initially cumming. i have no preference, as long as He is just being Him and is happy about it. Feels so good to have Him in me, even after He leaves. Heaven.
  16. tallslenderguy
    i wonder if Dorothy has figured out this is not Kansas and left. It's pretty remarkable how much stereotyping, transference and ignorance he put into so few words.
  17. tallslenderguy
    Personally, i'm all for group sex... one at a time. i couldn't mark any of the survey answers because i would not want to do any of those. i don't want to ever "ignore" a Man Who wants to penetrate me, but i want to be all His when it's happening, and the notion of multitasking has been proven to be an illusion. Our brains are quick, and can switch back and forth between 'tasks,' giving the illusion of giving attention to two things simultaneously, but we are dividing our time. Which is fine if that's what everyone wants, but personally, i want to spend my full attention on the Man inside of me and cannot do that with two Guys at a time. "We sacrifice our power of full presence when we're multitasking, and we do so for a perceived benefit of improved productivity that simply doesn't exist. Research indicates that multitaskers are actually less likely to be productive, yet they feel more emotionally satisfied with their work, thus creating an illusion of productivity." [think before following links] https://www.inc.com/scott-mautz/psychology-and-neuroscience-blow-up-the-myth-of-effective-multitasking.html
  18. tallslenderguy
    About 30 minutes ago. FB lots of oral, He loves it so much and is so expressive. Him being turned is like fuel for me and keeps me so horny and in heat. i think He was particularly turned on this time, He came almost instantly and continues to pound me. i love how gaped and slippery cum wet He leaves me. Gotta really clench to hold His cum in, though i did finger myself after and lick my fingers, so fucking good. His scent is all over my face, better than poppers.
  19. tallslenderguy
    Not into being sucked or touched, except to edge, and my balls are super sensitive to pain. but when i'm between a Guys legs, pretty much everything between His knees and His navel are 'cock' to me. my mouth and tongue are gonna be all over His places, depending on what He likes and turns Him on. its particularly hot when i can fit His cock and both His balls in my mouth at once.
  20. tallslenderguy
    i think the Top requiring pics and stats wants more than just a body or hole to dump His cum into.
  21. tallslenderguy
    lol... spell check strikes again, shoulda been cocks not "cops". (i don't know how many of the cocks belonged to "cops")
  22. tallslenderguy
    Only you can decide, eh? And this reads like you have. We're all individuals and land at different places on this depending on who and how we are. Of the thousands of cops and loads i have received, i can count on one hand the number of times there was a condom on the cock. i lived through the AID's pandemic of the 80's and lost my oldest gay brother to AID's. It was awful and scary, but never scary enough to outweigh my need/desire/drive for a Mans bare cock and seed inside of me. Life is full of risk. The recent Covid pandemic reminds us that going to the grocery store can result in ones death, i.e., that just breathing the air of someone who is contagious can result in death. i think a lot of hesitation and fear are associated with the cultural stigmatization that often accompanies sex. Death and sickness are an intrinsic part of life, but some sources of both get a lot more attention than others. For me? It's a lot more deleterious to my life and living to go without the joy and pleasure of being with a Man, to go without the complete connection of BB sex, than the risk of getting a disease.
  23. tallslenderguy
    i've often wondered about bias and stereotyping in the gay community. Being gay was my own personal awakening to the realities of bias, privilege, stereotyping, etc., because i got to experience those things first hand, even to the point of having them against my self. No doubt, culture conditions, effects and influences us and our behavior, often without regard or consideration of who and how we essentially are. The results are complex and seem to affect us individually and as groups. my personal take away and ongoing effort is to realize that i have conditioned attitudes, notions, bias. Many (most?) of those are unconsciously accepted and acted and are scattered across all sorts of 'groups' like race, age, gender, occupation, to name a few. i want to be aware because my personal moral ethic wants to be kind, love and respond to a person as they are, not as how i see them. While we are all members of groups, (e.g., i'm gay and part of the gay culture, i'm white and part of white culture, i'm a nurse, and part of nurse culture), we are all also individuals with infinite variation. i do not believe it's possible to respond accurately to individuals if we do not make the effort to see and hear them for who they are. i think part of that process involves seeing and acknowledging our own preconceived notions and being able to set them aside in deference to the individual. The human brain naturally groups people. A search of scientific research on the topic provides a plethora of information on the topic. Here's one such piece entitled: "Implicit stereotypes and the predictive brain: cognition and culture in “biased” person perception" [think before following links] https://www.nature.com/articles/palcomms201786
  24. tallslenderguy
    "WASHINGTON – Are South Carolina voters among the most progressive in the country? Did they elect not one – but TWO – gay U.S. senators? That’s a fair conclusion after reading today’s story from Axios, “GOP donors fret over Scott’s single status.” Per the story, “Top GOP donors and their allies privately are pushing Sen. Tim Scott’s team for more detail about his bachelor status before deciding how much to support him in the presidential campaign, according to two people familiar with the conversations.” TOP STORIES FEDERAL JUDGE TEMPORARILY BLOCKS TEXAS’ BAN ON DRAG PERFORMANCES It continues, “some donors have questions.” Of course, Axios doesn’t dare go there and address what “questions” his single status might raise. So let me do it: Tim Scott is rumored to be gay, just like the senior senator from South Carolina, as the Blade has reported many times. Male escorts in D.C. have openly claimed that Sen. Lindsey Graham has been a client. (If you have an iron stomach, Google “Lindsey Graham ladybugs” for the details.)" [think before following links] https://www.losangelesblade.com/2023/08/31/does-south-carolina-have-two-gay-u-s-senators/
  25. tallslenderguy
    Just left. He had taken a break from work earlier and came by, so fucking good... then He called and asked for "round too" and said: "it's okay if you don't want to." lol, right. i was still creamy from His first load and He needed to unload again. Really, He getting into the oral a lot, and so am i. Fuck, i love His pleasure, and He fucks me into a rag doll every time. i'm wasted in a sweet way and full of His seed. Gonna sleep so well tonight with Him inside of me.

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