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Taking cocks is sort of like having a BM in reverse. I.e., instead of something coming out, something is going in. i don't think it's the size of the cockgoing in that has more permanent effect, but the actual fucking. Stool just comes out whereas a cock is going in and out and in and out, repeatedly. It's pretty resilient down there, made for a lifetime of opening and closing. i don't think there's a standard answer because everyone treats their hole differently. Some wanna get a hand in there and work on permanent stretch. i suspect if you are just sticking to cock, even though they come in all sizes, probably not going to make permanent alterations to your hole any time soon, but again, i think it's going to depend on factors like what you take, how often, how much you stretch it, how long you stretch it (plugs) and how you stretch it (i.e., just cock? hands? toys? baseball bats? ) i had a FB and we got together about every 5 days for over a year. It took me several months before i realized He was purposefully opening/stretchig, reshaping, molding, my hole. He did it gradually. One day i realized that when i had to have a BM, i was not incontinent, but i felt a sense of urgency, sort of like the door is not closed and locked any more, maybe slightly ajar? i can easily squeeze my muscles there and hold it in, but i noticed that i had to make the effort to hold in where i didn't even think about it before. Bottom line (for me, and so to speak), my hole is permanently altered. It does tighten up over time if not being fucked, but never back to it's original state. For me, my hole has become better suited for penetration than for retention, and it's a slash now instead of a pucker. i'm a total bottom and have pretty much always been, had thousands of cocks and things in my hole. i'm not just a bottom physically, i'm a bottom psychologically too. i like realizing and feeling that my hole is better suited to being fucked than for eliminating waste. i think it's interesting how in the human body every sex organ is also a waste removal organ. Women have periods for 7 days every three weeks or so, and that's the body getting rid of waste from a fuck organ. i see my hole the same way, that a BM is sort of my version of a period. i like that sense of urgency i have when i have to go because it reminds me of all the Men who have shaped my hole and made it better suited to fucking than retaining or waste removal. i love the fact that it's a better sex organ for penetrating, waste removal is just a secondary function, not the primary or my focus.

i do not see age and ugly as synonymous. "Ugly" to me is an attitude more than a physical appearance. i don't wanna have sex with anyone where there isn't some type of mutual attraction. Sex without some type of attraction is "ugly" to me, and it's the only type sex i avoid.

This topic has been discussed a lot on BZ, you may wanna try searching for more input. Meanwhile, i'll offer a few thoughts. It depends. i pretty much always deep douche. i have a shower shot. That takes time. If you get water into the sigmoid (aka "second hole"), in my experience, you're in for the long haul. If you stay rectal, you can be done much faster. The "depend" part for me is what will you be receiving? If it's just a finger or rim, and it's gonna be shallow, a quick and shallow douche can work. If your gonna get fucked either long or deep, then deeper cleaning will help ensure "any yucky stuff" will be removed. Water can get trapped past the sigmoid, so it can take longer. Inserting a long dildo after can help release any trapped water or waste. Also, once you start inserting and cleaning out, you stimulate movement of the colon, so stuff that is higher up starts moving down. If you are going to be having sex for a long time, not just a quickie, gotta take that into account. The colon is about 4 feet long, the small intestine is about 22 feet long... and it's always moving, as it it's contents. A lot of us bottoms will deep clean and fast when we know we are going to be receiving cock long term. Also, a diet full of fiber helps. Meat and dairy have little fiber and make clean out a lot harder.

Nothing makes me present for cock faster than a Man's touch, especially when He gropes or pets my ass, instant turn on.

lol, as soon as i wrote that about cheating i thought: "nah," but decided to throw it out there. i do think the reasons for cheating can get complex, and i'm no shrink either. i hated myself when i was cheating, but i am not a universal standard. Re "different home." Home is where the cock is? or Home is where the ass is? (depending on one's proclivity). In that vein, there should be no homeless Men/men and the different kind of homes can be limitless. If my Man is free to fuck whomever He needs or wants, it isn't cheating and He is at home wherever His cock is, and i like being part of His happy home. edit: i guess i should qualify that, to me, "cheating" involves hiding and lying, and that's the part i hate/d. i wanna be true to myself and others.

Nothing i wrote was intended as a criticism of anything You wrote, i'm sorry if i came off that way. i think our feelings and views aline and i always enjoy You and Your contributions, i love who and how You are, and that You purposefully post comments to build, add girth and substance to our culture. Your allusion to polyamory is also a fit for me. To me, the best relationship is compatible and symbiotic. The normative notion that one person can provide all of that for another, or somehow two people can provide everything the other needs, seems to defy the odds at best lol. i think one of the primary reasons half of all marriages end in divorce is the unreasonable expectations the normative formula for relationship places on people. To me, it sinks into the "quid-pro-quo" dynamic that i have mentioned elsewhere, where the relationship devolves into a costly (and ultimately unsustainable) trade off of constant sacrifice. Where poly makes sense to me is, poly relationship dynamic can succeed when there is understanding and acceptance that we can get our needs met in a way where it's not sacrificial, but symbiotic when we are not trying to get something from just one person, who may not have what we need. Your standards of: "dependable, trustworthy, reliable, honest?" To me those are synonymous. i think the lies, lack of reliability, untrustworthiness, undependability, can often be traced to incompatibility and trying to provide what one cannot. Guys who are getting everything they need at home, don't cheat, so maybe we need to rethink and build a different kind of home?

Yes!! To me, gay guys have the potential for being the most open minded and accepting of people because many of us know first hand what it means to be subjected to the closed minded, rejecting, ethnocentric "norm." i think many us who sink into, narrow, closed minded conformity to the "norm," do so in an attempt at a semblance of acceptance, but that is just an illusion, and delusion, i think. i believe ultimately it is worse for us to reject our self than it is to suffer the rejection of normative culture. i wonder if You realize that You penetrated and bred me with that comment? Thank You for giving me Your sweet 'load' hntnhole.

Here's some actual meta analysis stats. Looks like you would fall in the "one in 909" category, as long as you are "pure." Estimated HIV Transmission Risk Per Exposure The estimates below should not be considered definitive but rather serve as a means to understand the relative risk of HIV by exposure type. The numbers are based on a meta-analysis of several large-scale studies which looked specifically at per-exposure risk.2 ExposureExposure TypePer-Exposure Risk AnalReceptive anal sex with ejaculation1.43% (one in 70) Receptive anal sex without ejaculation0.65% (one in 154) Insertive anal sex, uncircumcised0.62% (one in 161) Insertive anal sex, circumcised0.11% (one in 909) VaginalVaginal sex, female-to-male (high-income country)0.04% (one in 2500) Vaginal sex, male-to-female (high-income country)0.08% (one in 1250) Vaginal sex, female-to-male (low-income country)0.38% (one in 263) Vaginal sex, male-to-female (low-income country)0.3% (one in 333) Vaginal sex, asymptomatic HIV0.07% (one in 1428) Vaginal sex sex, late-stage symptomatic HIV0.55% (one in 180) OralOral-penile (fellatio), receptive0% to 0.04% (one in 2500) Oral-penile (fellatio), insertive0% to 0.005% (one in 20000) Oral-anal (anilingus), either partnernegligible Oral-vaginal (cunnilingus), either partnernegligible [think before following links] https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-activities-are-of-high-and-low-risk-for-hiv-49117

i think this is a great topic/question hntnhole. i think a lot of 'relationship' or ideas of relationship, gets based on the dominant cultural model/s we were raised with, and a lot of those ideas are not even conscious. For instance i was married (to a woman) for much of my life and when it ended she got everything material. i'd been the source of income our whole relationship, so her expectation, and that of the courts, was that i had to support her the rest of her life. i didn't want to stay attached or obligated, so she got a sizable estate that represented a lifetime of work for me. As a result, i will never marry again or get myself in a position of being the sole support in a relationship. i don't think a person who cannot support their self is relationship ready. So i guess the first things i bring to, and look for, in relationship is both an attitude and ability of self responsibility. i'm not one who believes in the notion that two halves make a whole when it comes to a romantic tangle, but that two whole people can make something different together. i also believe compatibility is often overlooked in traditional relationship. i think nature teaches us that opposites attract and bond. i know myself and know how to articulate and be transparent. That's something i look for in relationship, both giving and receiving. i cannot have a relationship with someone where i have to 'pull teeth.' Sex is important to me, and i think it is to most guys, so i think it's foolish to not lay it on the table upfront when it comes to considering relationship. Even in hook ups, i think it's sort of crazy how some guys are not upfront about what they want/need, but suggest just getting together and seeing what happens? To me, that can be a big waste of time and energy. i know i'm a total bottom, so i know from the start that a romantic relationship of any sort will not work with another bottom. For longevity where i'm involved, i'd look for a Total Top/total bottom dynamic. As a bottom, i bring sexual availability to the table. For me an ideal romantic tangle would be us living nearby each other, like a couple of houses apart even, walking distance. We each have our own space, but there is easy access. One of the things i like about a Total Top/total bottom dynamic is the energy is more clear cut. i don't ever have to worry about his ass and He never has to worry about my penis. But i'm familiar with the kind of Top energy i would want in a relationship. The Tops i am drawn too are more dom in nature, like to be in charge, have a creative energy, the need/desire to penetrate, inseminate, impregnate, sort of possess another, etc.,.. and to me that disposition permeates most of their person, not just sexually, though that's a big component. On my side, i bring availability/accessability. my bottom nature is also somewhat sub and corresponds to His. I.e., my needs/desires are to be a receptacle, be inseminated, impregnated, sort of possessed, etc.. So, if He wakes up in the middle of the night with a hard on and need to breed, i am perfectly happy for Him to just slide in, even if i am sleeping. But if He does that, He gets what He gets lol, it's not like He wakes me and i go douche at 3 in the morning, there is a mutuality about the energy. i had a friend like this when i was in nursing school. It didn't involve sex, because the friend was a woman, but we lived a couple of houses apart and we'd walk over and share a watermelon, or spontaneously go to a movie or dinner, or just talk on the front porch. With a Guy, i could see something similar, with sex added into the relationship.

Marry me? Lol, sigh. You describe the perfect Top for me. There have been times where I felt the passionate connection so deeply, with a complete stranger, that I have to bite my mattress to keep from saying: “ i love You”

^^Ditto This^^ If you wanna have sex with reduced risk of HIV, PrEP or condoms are your currant choices. [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/estimates/preventionstrategies.html

Great topic, thanks for posting Ieatcumholes. Here's an excerpt form an informative article with the link to the full article for any who may be interested. “Anorectal cells innately produce some mucus that can be thought of as having an element of lubrication,” Dr. Evan Goldstein, D.O. and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a practice specializing in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, explains to me. “At the distal junction of the anus, two differing cell types meet and form a seam. At this location, there are glands that secrete mucus. With any high-pressure action, any assistance to decrease and disperse the force is essential to function.” Scientifically speaking, anal lubricant comes from anal ducts when the rectum is distended by the presence of feces. The rectum is also distended by the presence of a penis during anal intercourse, which may cause increased production of this natural lubricant, albeit not designed for intercourse" [think before following links] http://www.newnownext.com/gay-bottom-sex-self-lubricate/07/2019/

i've had a slash more akin to a pussy, vs a pucker, for a long while now. Purposeful intent of some Top fuck buddies to mold it that way, and just the course of nature otherwise. i spent last weekend (4 days) with a Top friend who, sadly, had ED. Didn't stop Him from being hole obsessed though and He spent a great deal of time using His fingers, hand, mouth, toys opening and molding my hole. i'm still a little sore and notice i'm puffy down there. Something i have noticed before is when i get lots of concentrated penetration, cock or otherwise, i get opened and easily accessible, and my hole gets sort of pillowy and swollen inside, so it is a combination of both opened and swollen, but not tight. Thankfully, i have never lost my ability to squeeze a cock inside of me, though i confess some Men can fuck that ability out of me in a breeding session, which i honestly find really hot. Phychologically and physcally it 'feels' like He has fucked my hole into submission and conquered it, i feel very possessed and love that.

A little more. i look at my above experience as mostly a learning experience. i want to learn how to take a Mans piss from His cock in a particular way. I.e., i want to be able to receive and swallow Him and His piss without spilling any. That's on me. He too was learning, i think, and He had to psych Himself up to be able to pee using me. Something He would not have to do with a urinal. So,. for me, there is a kind of Hot mind fuck that can happen, that isn't mean or forceful, but mutually affirming when we both realize and can flow (so to speak) when He says to me: "you really need this, don't you? you really like being my toilet, don't you?" The other thing i look for is Him being into it and 'skilled' as well, ideally. Not a prerequisite. The connection i hope for is where He is doing what comes naturally, just like when a bottom sucks His cock. Pissing is "natural." It's a 'relief" to all, but there's also a certain pleasure that some Men take in it. They connect with pissing and with Their piss sort of like they do with Their cum. Not the same, but it's a form of seed, something they mark with. Also, i've seen some Men who know what they have and use it in a matter of fact way, but even better, their lust/need can be attached to it. Their lust/need to penetrate, inseminate and impregnate. It's that energy i want to be available for and connect too, where we are watching a movie together and He stands up from the sofa, walks over to me and takes His cock out saying: "i gotta piss" as He knowingly presses His cock to my hungry, parting, receiving mouth. The mutual knowledge ramps it up 100x.

To me, it too easily becomes a compromise term with sex: "I'll suck your cock if you suck mine," or fill in the blank. i'm a bottom first, and a cocksucker also. if a Man needs/wants to breed or have His cock sucked, we're a good match. Each of us gets what we need/want. If a guy comes to me and says: "i'll breed you if you let me suck your cock." He's not even seen me (i don't have a "cock," ). i want/need to be bred by someone who wants/needs to breed, to penetrate, not as part of some compromise. His breeding is a connection, then his sucking me is undoing that connection, bond (for me, us) i do not think quid pro quo is sustainable. i think one, or both really, end up feeling what is missing and/or the begin to feel and resent their compromise, or paying an unnatural price to get what they are looking for. If all he really wanted/needed was to suck cock, he had the wrong person in me, because i am not a "cock." Trying to negotiate a person into being something they are not is just delusion to me. It has a semblance without essence. It's pretentending. Hope i am making sense?

i think this is a great topic for discussion!! Thanks for posting it Breedingandseeding. Pretty much my only boundary is the person has to be "Top," or in top mode/state of being if versatile. i don't want mechanical sex, i want to connect with the person, even in a hook up situation. i look for a symbiosis of connection, fulfilling mutual need/desire, and i'm not sure i could separate that from the sex. Anything else to me would just be masturabation, solo self manipulation. If a versatile guy contacts me and says he wants to get together, that always requires discussion and a vetting process on my part. If i get any sense at all that he is not in full on top mode, just needing/wanting to penetrate another guy, without need of being penetrated, then i politely refuse. Even when i am with a versatile guy who just penetrates me, i sometimes get the feeling he is not satisfied or fulfilled, and i hate when a man i am with is disappointed. I'd rather go without than have sex with a man where he is left unfulfilled or disappointed. i've even gone as far as trying to find him a better match than me, so he can get what he really needs/wants. i won't 'role play' either. For me, that is pretending, for one to be something they are not. Who an how i am is real to me, not role play. i HATE quid pro quo when it comes to sex. To me, that demeans and denies the power and realness of who and what we are and the connection and bond that can be had. If there is a 'sin against nature,' to me, that would be it lol. Again, this is all just me, i'm not making universal rules for everyone, this is just how i am wired. A Man's lust/need to penetrate, inseminate, impregnate Himself into a receptive male is key to opening me to all of those parts in Him, whether it is in ltr or bending over anonymously in a dark room.

Preamble: This is me speculating based on study evidence. i've read a study done with straight people that demonstrates that semen has a bonding effect on the brain with the receiver. Though it hasn't been studied, i suspect something similar may happen with a gay bottom receiving a Tops cum into his highly absorptive gut? That aside, our sexuality is connected to our brain. "An erection is a carefully orchestrated series of events controlled by the CNS. We now know that the penis is under the complete control of the CNS, both during sexual arousal and at rest. As our Working Group colleague William D. Steers has noted, any disturbance in the network of nerve pathways that connects the penis and the CNS can lead to problems with erections." [think before following links] https://www.bumc.bu.edu/sexualmedicine/publications/the-central-mechanisms-of-sexual-function/ Again, this is speculation on my part, but we do know that brain connections/synapses can be strengthened through use, or weaken through disuse. i wonder if being versatile maybe involves a balancing act of sorts? Maybe the ability to be Top requires exercise as a Top, and inability to maintain an erection is connected in part to lack of exercise? i wonder if you just solely exercised the Top part of your brain if it would not get stronger and more capable? i don't think it can be condensed down to such a simple, black or white answer though. There is so much going on with erection. i think one of the things many overlook is vascular disease. I.e., the Standard American Diet (SAD) results in atherosclerosis over time, which we know affects the secretion of nitric oxide, a vasodilator directly employed and necessary for erection. Drugs like Viagra directly influence this process, so there is a vascular/mecanitcal component to erection as well as a brain. To reverse vascular disease? The only diet i know of that can reverse vascular disease is a whole food plant based diet with no added oil (WFPBDNO). On the mental side? Maybe focus on just being a Top for awhile and build and strengthen those brain pathways? i don't think a bottom has to do that because there are no evident performance issues with a bottom, but i think, performance aside, the brain aspect of being a bottom can be seen in cum dumps? End of speculation. 😉 Fun to consider and discuss.

Like some, i too have had a lifetime of anonymous gay sex. i was married (to a woman) for half my life, so i kmow what it means to have a relationship with sex, with a woman, but not with a Man. It's not for lack of want, i'm a romantic and love the idea and potential associated with relationship. i have had several long term anonymous relationships that make me wonder what actually constitutes "anonymous?" For instance, i had a restroom i'd frequent for a few years with understall fucking. There was one guy at this particular place who seemed to seek me out, and somehow He'd always show up to breed me when i was there. It was an ongoing anonymous connection? i also had a FB for over a year and a half who would breed me almost on a weekly basis. i never saw Him and have no idea what He looked like because i was always face down, naked and blindfolded. Never knew his name. Both of those are examples of ongoing sexual connections where i never knew their name, but still there was a sort of relationship and familiarity, a sort of anonymous bond?

i'm a total bottom with a side of sub. i was long ago insemenated and impregnated by a Man pissing deep in my ass, so it's been on a list of my wants/needs ever since. im mostly bottom with need/desire to be anally penetrated, but am a cocksucker secondarily and have had a fantasy for a few years now of 'drinking from the tap." my bottom/sub parts are thoroughly integrated into my psychosexual wiring. I.e, to me a Mans 'cock' is way more than the organ between His legs... and His piss to me is another form of a Mans semen, particularly when He sees Himself the same way. Compatibility. That to say that my interest in "WS" or piss, is not so really about the piss, but about so much that surrounds our psychological wiring about piss. About 95% of urine is water, about 5% Is stuff the body is getting rid of, 'waste.' Lots of mammals use piss to mark their territory. Generally, culture describes the act of pissing on someone as a degrading, humiliating act. Go into any mens room and listen to banter while guys are pissing and you'll often hear declarations of how good it feels to piss: "the pause that refreshes." So there is a pleasure, release feeling commonly associated with pissing or "relieving" oneself. And so much more. As a bottom with some sub nature, my psychology can attach to all of those things. To me, there so many ways to connect to a Man (who is similarly wired from a Top perspective) with piss. Him pissing on me is a combination of Him receiving pleasure and release in an act that is also simultaneously humiliating and degrading to me, even when it's done with no intent of force or meanness. As a matter fact, to me, a Man pissing on me with a knowing smile is a hell of a lot more "Dom" than one who has to be forceful or mean. So it's not surprising to me that i'd end up wanting to receive a Mans piss from His cock. But again, not generically. i've seen a lot of the piss porn where a Top pissing in a bottoms mouth and it all comes right back out again. i.e, the bottom is not actually drinking or swallowing the Mans piss. i have this involved fantasy/desire of a Man who is into the mind fuck part of this as much as i, that He wants/needs to 'make' a bottom guy who His 'toilet' as much as i want Him too need/want that. But then, i hate pretend or role play... i want real, this is all about deep connection and bonding of our 'kinky' parts. And i know for that to happen, there are practical considerations. i honestly had concerns about my ability to take a Mans piss i my mouth. Up the ass? No problem. i've slept with a gut full of a Mans piss all night long, ensuring absorption and impregnation from Him as i slept... next morning when i pee, i can smell His piss in my pee, and i know He impregnated me. Drinking? i wasn't sure how i'd respond to the taste or quantity. Would either, or both, overwhelm me? i knew i'd want a patient Top to work with me and help me acquire the skill, because i wanna swallow every drop. To me, drinking His piss is sort of like drinking His cum. Not exactly, but i'd never think of spitting out a Mans cum. So this last weekend, i got t chance to finally try. i had a Top friend staying with me and He woke me up in the night saying He had to piss. So, i knelt in the shower and took His cock in my mouth. i only took it about 3 inches in, about half way. i didn't know what to expect and didn't want to choke or gag and end up spitting any out. So i tasted it. His was sort of bitter, not bad, but bitter. i expected it would be salty, but it wasn't. It was almost like lime? It wasn't "good" but it also wasn't "bad" tasting, so i was able to take it. As i gained confidence, i took His cock to my throat and, luckily, it wasn't so much that i couldn't keep up with swallowing. That was better in a way because i didn't taste it and i felt like i was taking it better. As His flow increased and didn't let up, i did start to get a little overwhelmed (fear?), but over all i was pretty successful and was pretty happy and pleasantly surprised at my ability first try. i think i will become good at it pretty quickly.

A little editing on that first paragraph: Maybe, and maybe not. i don't mean to imply that all my or any gay persons bullies were just repressed or immature gays. Also, not drawing a universal conclusion from my personal experience. But i think this can be an added factor in the equation and that the dominant culture of many of our childhoods leave gay kids out of that equation. it's speculative and your experiences were different from mine.

Maybe, and maybe not, not drawing a universal conclusion from my personal experience, but i think it can be an added factor in the equation that the dominant culture of many of our childhoods left out. it's speculative and your experiences were different from mine. One of the first bullies in my life, at 7 years old, introduced me to the enema nozzle. Our relationship was mixed, sometimes He was friendly, other times mean and a bully. But He was obviously excited when He explained to me what an enema nozzle was for and where it went, and i was just as excited from a receptive position. Neither of us had a clue about sex at that age, but that didn't mean we were not wired as sexual beings. i don't think our sexuality can be separated from the rest of who we are. Conquering armies raping both men and women comes to mind. There are plenty of ways to humiliate and subjugate, yet some employ sex as well and i do not believe it's a solely clinical act, even when mixed with establishing pecking order.

To add to my above response: i think it can be argued that, in humans, the pleasure imperative for sex generally outweighs the procreation imperative, in volving both innate drive as well as cognitive and emotional volition, and none of those are gender dependent,

i don't think it's "the exact same dilemma." i think Men and Women are psychosexually wired differently and LGBTQ people land somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. i also think cultural conditioning plays a big role in attitudes beyond anatomy and physiology. One of the things i find funny about nature is how every sex organ also has the dual purpose off 'waste' removal. A vagina is not exempt in that respect since a woman has about a 21 day menses cycle, that is sort of like a 24 hour, 7 day bowel movement where her body is sloughing off the wall of her womb. There are guys and women who will fuck even when she has her period, and there are guys who will fuck each other au natural as well. Neither is physiologically impossible, but is affected by ones tolerance for blood or feces. To me, a cock and cunt are much more than physical organs, they are psychosexual disposition, state of being. For me a "Top/Dom's" finger, or dildo or attitude can all be expressions of HIs "cock," and things like insemination and impregnation go beyond even the evolutionary demand of making a baby.

Yes and no? You were a kid in a society where both being a faggot and wanting a faggot were vilified. i was also one of those kids bullied, a lot. Coming to terms with that as an adult was confused and drawn out because i was also conditioned by fundamentalist 'christian' culture. Fundamentalists adopted disproved Freudian notions that gay people are the result of bullies and 'bad' parenting (i.e., a dominant mom and submissive dad). what i have come to understand is there are Tops and bottoms (and everything in between), and guys who like guys. i've always been a bottom who loves guys and can clearly trace all my childhood crushes as far back as 6 or 7 years old. i can also look back and see what a faggot i was. i think i naturally attracted gay Top boys who were just as conditioned against who they were as i was. Not to mention we were all kids and didn't know anything anyway. i think a lot of my bullies were simply immature gay Top/Dom boys who were stuck in and affected by the same rejecting and destructive culture. Prolly a lot of them were conflicted and unhappy about how they were and felt too. By the time i was about 13, i'd learned to hide the faggot that i am, conform outwardly, built the proverbial "closet." But i have never changed inwardly. Now when a Man calls me a faggot, especially with love and affection because He too is accepting His desires and needs, it's affirming.

Great interview [think before following links] https://www.npr.org/programs/fresh-air/2022/03/01/1083702917/fresh-air-for-march-1-2022-how-russias-invasion-of-ukraine-changes-the-world-as?showDate=2022-03-01