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tallslenderguy

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  1. That's gross!?! ...no bbq sauce!?
  2. Thank you for weighing in. i have extensive sexual experience, but only with one woman, so i question my sexual knowledge of women. Being the gay friend of a woman gets me information by conversation, but not experience. i wish that we had more understanding of what attracts us to each other. There's a sub group on this site, from both sides-Top and bottom, about a bottom "just being a hole to breed." i wonder if those Tops espousing that notion would just as readily fuck a woman? And i am not talking about guys who are wired and identify as bi. To me, it's apparently not 'just about the (physical) sex' for any of us. i think there is a whole psychological side to sex that few seem interested in, and fewer still seem to acknowledge, yet we are all subject to and moved by. my biggest draw for a ltr is meeting someone who is as interested in the psychological side of sex as i am, someone to explore with in depth rather than the occasional glimpse one might get with a hook up, but that requires a desire and effort on both parts and i find many men seem to want someone to pull that out of them rather than pull it out of their self and offer it.
  3. It strikes me as a possible weird evolution of technology, maybe an outgrowth of texting as a means of connecting? i hate texting for anything more than a quick message, it's an awful method for communicating, yet it seems to have won the hearts of millions. i mourn the number of guys who seem to think you can have a conversation with just one to three word sentences and wonder if socially we are progressively (regressively) becoming illiterate? Have they not developed past picture books and are only responding to pictures? The guys who do not read ads or profiles are likely the same ones who do not write them. It seems there is a growing number of guys who unconsciously believe that others just know what they have on their minds or what they want. i think that many guys are afraid to reveal what they feel and think, or lack the skill set to do so. I.e., there is a lack of self awareness and a lack of ability to express what is felt and thought. Not having that themselves, they don't acknowledge it in others? It's a foreign place to them? When i read a profile or ad that says: "looking for fun," or something similar, it makes me crazy. That says absolutely nothing, yet it seems so common? Is it fear of saying what they really want? Is it that they think you'll just know? And, good luck if you ask for clarification on what constitutes "fun." The guys doing this will probably never read these kinds of threads or comments though because they obviously do not read, so not sure how they will ever get a clue?
  4. i have a drawer full of jocks and other underthings collected over time from Tops who wanted me to wear them, so i associate the jock with the Top. Here's the latest:
  5. Race 'play' makes me feel ashamed that anyone in the gay culture could countenance it, let alone participate in it. It is, at best, ignorant. It is destructive, hating behavior, no matter the facade one puts on it. For those who rationalize and point to black men who participate in race 'play;' they are no different than gays who are homophobic because of internalized hate and cultural conditioning. It isn't "play," it is perpetuation and reinforcement of racist stereotype. It's not "race play," it's just plain racist. Sexual race 'play' is no better than "playing" about separate drinking fountains or separate schools, or lynching. It's 'playing' at wearing the yellow star or pink triangle. It's making a game of REAL racists, many of whom would sooner have you and me dead than a part of their white, hetero society. Read a book! Get to really know and listen to a black person who hasn't internalized hate. History is replete with examples of minority groups being the first to be targeted when there is social upheaval. Gays are as much a minority as black people. A big difference is, unlike a black person, we can hide in plain sight so we can be less aware the haters in society.
  6. Jim Morrison in his day
  7. i'm pretty much opposite. If i guy says "i could fall for you so easily," He just impregnated me (psychologically to go along with His physical seed). i don't perceive that as "needy" at all. i see vulnerability and openness as courageous. i've had to bite my mattress on occasion to keep from blurting "i love You" to a Top who has touched me in a way that's hard to describe, but we have connected and He has me. i'd see it as "needy" if the Top or bottom said that routinely, to just anyone... but that has not been my experience on either side.
  8. may you never get past this part, i think they are wonderful parts of you.
  9. i'm so inclined, i have to guard against embracing what isn't there lol. Your story is sweet and my heart breaks for your loss while it is glad for what you had. Life can be bitter sweet. The pandemic is only a moment in the grand scheme of things, hard to feel that in the middle of it though. May you find another love. i am not one who thinks there is only one "soul mate," just that chemistry can be hard to find.
  10. i'm such a fucking romantic, i have to guard myself sometimes with FB's because i'm such a romantic and wanna fall in love and give my heart. Life has taught me not to give my heart to easily, but i have never reached a place where it's sealed off or not wanting to be hopelessly and helplessly in love lol. So far, it's never been mutual or a the few possibilties just seemed too star crossed. The older i get, the less possibility i see for it, older guys seem more emotionally unavaialble. i get how a lot of older guys go for younger, especially my generation and earlier. Our youth didn't have the opportunities for love that exist now it seems, so it's like trying to revisit and get back something that wasn't available and still has a hole that hasn't been filled (so to speak lol). i somehow got on a mailing list for Udatz, lots of gay stories with lust and romance woven in, been reading a lot. They sent a copy of a short gay film today, was really sweet and the visuals were very well done. If you're a romantic, you'll prolly like it (it isn't racey or porn guys, just a sweet short story of gay romance). Any other romantics out there?
  11. i don’t. The kind of guy you describe doesn’t turn me on, I’ll take him and his cock if he wants to breed, but that type doesn’t turn me on. i’m not sure we can figure out all the whys of attraction? I don’t think our emotions always make sense. I don’t like bullies at all, but a guy who sees into me and can affectionately humiliate me or make me feel awkward knowing I can’t help wanting what He is serving up, He owns me. So not like what I describe is so obviously sane and what you describe not. I think the power of deep connection is personal and a little mysterious, but awesome. ❤️
  12. i'm writing this on the fly before work, so haven't thought it out, but i think BB is a risk reduction. I.e., breeding vs oral. The virus enters the body via the nose, mouth or eyes. Wearing an N95 while you fuck and washing your hands before and after. Changing clothes after. Use glory holes and only fuck. Shower after and change your clothes. Learn to avoid touching any part of your face after contact with another person or being in a place with a GH. Finding ways to have sex without touching our faces... a challenge when we start thinking about it lol, but stick to breeding with a N95 mask and as much barrier as possible between bodies, which sounds like glory hole sex. Still have to think about contaminated surfaces though.
  13. i've been fucked without lube a lot... not always available, so spit does just fine for me, but i'm not into dry fucking. my favorite is a Top who loves sloppy and eats my hole out or manipulates it till it gets that way. i've had some who will really fill my hole with lots of lube, like with a syringe, in order to get it sloppy. It's the idea of a Top making my hole sloppy that is a huge part of the turn on for me, the psychological side of Him opening me up and having the effect of breaking down the resistance of my hole, as it were, and leaving me opened and sloppy as a result. i've had that happen with or without lube. i think it's hotter when He is done that i don't have a pristine hole anymore, that it has obviously been fucked.
  14. i think you have some great observations here. Without a vaccine, you are right, soon or later those countries that did suppress and restrict the spread of Covid will still have to deal with it. It's possible that countries like China, the US, UK and Italy and others who didn't initially supress with sweeping isolation and distancing, or started the process late, may fare better in the long run. Particularly if contracting Covid turns out to confer immunity (we don't know yet). Touting herd immunity seems premature at best right now. Suppression is about limiting the number of active infections we have, not preventing them altogether. I.e., sooner or later, most will be exposed and have to deal with it's effects, suppression is about keeping everyone from being exposed at once. There's a bunch of people i work with in hospital who care for Covid patients who think we may have already had Covid. To determine that requires an antibody test. The CDC antibody test is starting to hit the streets and that will hopefully prove reliable and add more pieces to the puzzle. The test will help determine who has had Covid, but it doesn't tell us whether or not having the antibodies confers immunity as it does with some viruses. If it does, those countries that have had mass exposure will possibly develop herd immunity first. On the other hand, if a vaccine is developed, those same people will have suffered sickness while the vaccinated will not, and both having antibodies will become part of the immune 'herd.' You are so right though, at some point we are all going to have to resurface... though gays may do that by resuming activity under he duvet.
  15. i hit the laugh icon on this, then removed it. While i might laugh about this, it's prolly annoying for you guys trying to keep this site on course. i have seen this on pretty much every site i have been on, bottoms or subs posting ads in areas clearly marked for Tops or Dom's to post their ads. i wonder about it. i think language barriers and dyslexia may account for some of it, but i think for the most part it's desperate bottoms trying to give their selves an edge or simply get in front of as many Tops/Doms as they can. A way to stand out? Of course, there's always several, so they still fail to achieve unique status.
  16. On 11/11/2019 at 2:07 PM, Sheath said: I think this is every bottom's fantasy. Yes, that exactly. Cum is a bottoms food. without it something in him dies. Anonymous whoring is like a feast.
  17. my theory (totally speculative and unsubstantiated) is that sucking cock fulfills a need in you. The culturally conditioned response of having a hard time being submissive and your feeling guilty aren't enough to overcome the need/desire that sucking cock fills, so you refine it down, but find a way to do it. i think it's all about need, There are guys who need their cocks sucked by guys and there are guys who need to suck those cocks. It's a wonderful, symbiotic relationship. If you don't do it, there will be another guy who will and you will just be frustrated without your needs satisfied. Now, go suck some cock like you know you need to.
  18. Fun to see how we change. i wrote my original response to this about 4 years ago, now i can honestly answer i'm not picky at all. For me, it now comes down to energy and desire/need. If ia Top wants to cum in me, i automatically want Him and what He wants to put in me. It's His desire that i am responding to. That's what i have come to. And it's not resignation, i end up having this connection with this guy and truly want to see Him get His desire fulfilled.
  19. i've avoided answering this because there are so many guys on BZ that i have fond affection for and outright lust, it would take way to long to list them all. But crushes? That's different. i suspect many of my longer list could become crushes with more contact? idk "Crush" kind of has that school yard ring to it, and is almost a little girly. i don't relate to being either, but have to admit there are a couple of Guys here who take my feelings there beyond my choice, it's just the way they affect me. They are both very different, but both have hit that spot in me and have made me wish they lived next door. find91 and Sunovabesh
  20. idk, i think boy-slits are pretty fucking sexy. To me they demonstrate that your ass is more for receiving than the other use lol. i think a boy-slit instead of an ass pucker is something to be proud of... though i get someone wanting to take it to the next level. 😉
  21. Oh yeah, used to hook during work hours all the time. i've written this elsewhere on BZ. Living in VA in Hampton Roads, big military area. Norfolk has the biggest Naval base in the world. There was a mall with a cruisy restroom about five minutes from my office called "Military Circle." It was a long narrow restroom with about 5 urinals to the right when you walked in and then a row of about ten stalls, also on the right and parallel to sinks and mirrors. It was like an airport restroom, no door, just an S shaped entry way with a guy doing shoe shine at the entrance. It wasn't very private at all, but guys would have under the stall sex all the time, it was really busy. Some cruise standing at the sink across from the stalls and look into the stall in the mirror reflection through the cracks between the doors, then go to the stall next to you if they saw you jacking. Others would just signal by tapping their foot. It was pretty common to have repeats and one guy in particular seemed to be there every time i would sneak over from work for a quickie. It got to where in seconds he'd be sliding under the stall wall with spit on his cock expecting me to sit on it.. and i would. One day he followed me back to my office, unbeknownst to me, and left a note on my car letting me know he knew where i worked now. i had a second floor corner office with floor to ceiling windows, so i could see cars coming and going from the parking lot. He'd park where i could see his car, get out and glance up at my office and then walk into the restroom downstairs, i would go down the stairs to the small two stall restroom, go into the stall and he'd slide under, just like at the mall, with spit on his cock ready to fuck. He was pretty Dom, I miss him.
  22. This post looks familiar... i never forget a cock.
  23. i think it's fascinating how we can have similarities and differences. i don't like force but fuck, a Top doesn't really have to order me if i sense His lust, it's like: "yes please" and "thank you" and that's from the heart. Men can collar me so easily if they know how.
  24. Interesting. i appreciate your honesty. i don't really like the taste of piss either (but i fucking love the taste of it up my ass). Orally? i cannot disconnect the piss from the Top and i think i could be easily conditioned to love it because the idea of it drives me wild. i love that lusty look of satisfaction on a Tops face when He has His way with me, that's as good as an orgasm for me. better really
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