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Oh yeah, thankfully not the greater percentage, but i have had my share of quiet Tops. i listen for breathing or moaning cues, anything for feedback on whether He is enjoying and i feel disconnected when they are completely silent. i've also experienced the guys who come several times and i haven't realized till later from all the cum inside. Some guys are just quiet, but i still want any Top who wants me.

Agreed. i was hoping there would be some who have found other options. i know there is more than one company offering STI testing.

The challenge with Covid tests is collection (i'm a critical care nurse and have collected a lot of these). The most common method of Covid swabbing is nasopharyngeal. To get a proper sampling the swab has to be inserted quite deep and turned for 10 seconds on each side. Doing a Covid test to yourself at home probably isn't the best idea for the masses. The STI tests are pretty standard and are mostly blood and urine samples, however, i think swabs are important with gay guys, and i'd like to see test sets that are targeted to gays with both oral and anal swabs in addition to blood and urine tests.

i received an email promotion today from A4A for a company offering home STI kits. i think it's a step in the right direction, it does make testing a lot more convenient and confidential, though the cost barrier still exists. Here's a link to the company A4A Is advertising, i know there are others, thought it would be a worthwhile thread to start and others can identify and list resources. i would love to see my gay brothers chasing health, both physically and psychologically, destigmatizing sex and removing health hazards to connecting. Instaad of wearing a version of a mask on our cocks, i'd love to see us irradiate the reason for condoms by removing disease as a risk. If we all test routinely, STI's can be dramatically reduced. Not preaching, i just want those i love and care about healthy. To me, healthy is sexy. ❤️ [think before following links] https://www.nurx.com/sti-testing/

Yes and no. i've always pretty much been bottom, but how that expresses has changed a lot. my story is scattered in pieces all over BZ. i grew up at a time and in a religious culture that considered gay as a "sickness" and a "sin." i was aware of my sexual attraction to guys from an early age, 12 isn. i had emotional crushes on guys that i can trace back to age 7. i see a strong connection between the physical and emotional parts of sex, so i knew at some level i am gay from a pretty early age. i had my first sex at age 21 when i married a woman as a virgin. i didn't act on my gay desires/needs till i was 26. Ironically, a guy on a christian missionary ship seduced me into sucking His cock, but all of my masturbatory dreams and fantasies growing up were about guys. Even at 26 i was still psychologically entangled in religious belief that had me thinking i was sick and sinful for wanting/needing a guy, so i literally hated myself when i gave into my desires and had sex with a guy. Most of my sex in my 20's, 30's and 40's, and there was a lot, was anonymous hook up, cruising places, restrooms, understall breeding. i also traveled for work, so lots of hotel sex, but 98% anonymous hook up. After i divorced in 2008 (slow learner), i tried dating guys, thinking i wanted a relationship. That has not happened to this day and i have had a ton more anonymous hook up sex, but without any guilt or shame, so much better. For many years, my most common sex was me lying naked face down on my bed, door open and guys i never saw breeding me, walk in breed and go. i wanted a lover, but this worked in the meantime. With the demise of CL, and the increase of aps, walk-in sex has been more of a challenge to get, so much of my sex happened at ABS. Lots of that. i've gotten much more kinky as i have aged. Or maybe i should say that my kinks have surfaced and become more apparent as i have aged? i suspect they, or the makings of them, have always been there, but i have the freedom to explore and express who and how i am now. Once i got free of my restrictive beliefs, i have expereinced freedom of expression and peace. i know myself and accept myself and being free has affected my sexuality. i am no longer worried that i am sick or sinful and turns out i'm pretty kinky on top of being gay. i think it's debatable whether my sexuality has changed over the years or whether my acceptance of my sexuality has changed over the years?

i can read this question two different ways: 1. Why is there a saying like this? or 2. Why is it that one does not go back once one has "gone black." Sayings and generalizations exist in cultures for all sorts of reasons. Just reading this discussion exposes different reasons why one might ascribe to this saying as a truism. Because sayings like this have a different meaning depending on the person, it is apparently not a universal truth, but a belief. I.e., if we were to but this to a quality, double blind , randomized scientific test where a bottom gets fucked by say ten guys of all different races (sign me up please), i'd bet we'd likely find no evidence to support the claim. For instance, if we blindfolded the bottom and they didn't know if they were being fucked by a black man or one of a different color, would they be able to tell the difference? Does the visual cue trigger a presumptive notion that affects the experience? Are we with the person or are we with our idea of the person? i think we all have notions, ideas, bias that have been culturally programmed into us. Those programs vary from culture to culture. Some cultures are more pervasive than others, and that influences the bias size and effect. i think it's important to be aware and acknowledge the influence of the cultures we have been a part of. Not wanting to be affected does not mean we are unaffected.

tEveryones anatomy is a little different, but this is a general picture of the inside of a rectum. There is no "second hole" but we can feel when someone hits curve where the rectum begins and the sigmoid ends. Feels like it's hitting a wall, eh? i've had a 22 inch dildo/snake inside, so it is quite possible to get way the fuck in there, and i have yet to meet a Top with a 22 inch cock (though the search goes on). It's all very flexible in there though and a Top who knows what they're doing can sorta straighten that curve with their cock. The trick is, when the cock hits the wall, to not withdraw but to slow down at the curve, thus 'opening' the second hole. It's fucking awesome really... i cannot imagine not taking a Top balls deep. Fuck, i want all of Him in me and imagine most bottoms would concur.

There can be so many angles to this. For instance, one could probably make a good argument that bareback fucking on PrEP increases the risk for contracting the common cold. In that case, it's not so much the type of contact or exposure as the fact of exposure close proximity exposure. Of course, i am being facetious to make a point, that each study needs to be examined to see exactly why the increase? Is it correlative? Is it causative? Is it simply increased exposure? Is it weakened defense from fighting a battle on two fronts? etc, etc.. There are so many reasons that can factor into this kind of conclusion. Not to mention how much of a risk increase is there? Is it a 10% risk? Is it a .00000000001 risk increase? HIV transmission with meds is a good example of risk percentage. For example, though there is a still a considered risk of contracting HIV from an infected person who is undetectable and on meds, the general consensus is now "undetecable=untrasmittable. When it comes to assertions about anything medical, my first question is: "based on what evidence?" (not saying this to the OP, but speaking in general). Once the question is narrowed and the answer dependent on specifics, the conclusions often become clarified, and are rarely absolute. A popular inclusion in well performed studies is "further study is needed."

Yes, absolutely. For me, sex is about connection, and the longer the connection persists, the better. It's not just the physical, but the emotional/psychological penetration and breeding that is taking place.

i chose 11-15, and have done that on more than one occasion at a sex club or ABS. Actually, more often at an ABS. If i hit the right time, there's a lot of guys on lunch break or just getting off work who just want to unload and go, so it can be a very quick process. As for "sometimes one is not enough..." the way i am wired, i'd rather have one Guy who knew how to possess me than a bunch of quick, more shallow encounters.

Prolly not one standard answer to this question? As i see it, people in general make most of their decisions based on emotion, not reason or evidence. i think the decision to bareback is based on desire, not rationale. i think most guys who do this are looking to satisfy an emotional desire to protect their self, not a rational one. Some guys feel they can tell if a guy has and STD by looking at him or examining him, which is not completely unrealistic, just mostly. my feel though is most guys who use the reason "i only play safe the first time" are thinking that after the first time they will have a better sense of if that person is real, honest about their status. From a reason/logic standpoint it's ludicrous, but it's not a reasonable decision, it's an emotional one, and emotions can be all over the map... especially when injected with testosterone.

What type of diabetes do you have? DM1 and DM2 are different. Type one is insulin dependent and means your pancreas doesn't produce insulin, or enough insulin, to keep your blood glucose (BG) at a 'normal' level. Type two is insulin resistance and is caused by fat (not being fat, you can have a normal BMI and have DM2). DM2 is caused by diet and with most people, DM2 can be reversed by diet. As blkoraltm points out, weight gain does occur with some meds, but since you are neg, meds probably don't factor in. i know of no relationship between taking loads and diabetes.

Maybe a different take here. Erections have two components, physiological and psychological. Several years ago, i began to wonder if i had ED because i couldn't get an erection. But i started noticing that my equipment still worked. If a Top would come on to me and start talking to me online about what He wanted, i would get hard as a rock. If anyone ever mentioned wanting to touch or use my penis, i could not get hard, i'd stay soft. i have come to see what i have as similar to what a woman has, like a "clit" (i have no desire to be a woman, just comparing). A womans clit gets engorged when she is sexually excited, but there is never any thought or question of her using it as a penetrative organ. i have come to a place where a Top can use what i have there if Their psychologically wired to not see it as a 'cock,' but more like a "clit.' For me, it changes everything. i think there is a power in having the physical ability to penetrate, but not the psychological ability, that i cannot get hard because of my psychological wiring... and a Top can have a lot of control over that wiring.

i don't know how realistic it is to want a 'wrecked hole', fantasy often imagines better than reality. my hole has been used a lot, and some FB Tops seemed to make it Their ongoing mission to make me permanently gapped. i do not leak, but i have reached an apparent permanent place where my hole has changed from being better at receiving than retaining. i can clench my inner muscles just fine, but i have to clinch when something is there and wants to come out, and i never used to have to do that. No messes or problems with incontinence, but there is more of a sense of urgency when i have to go. Honestly, i find it sort of hot. it reminds me every time that my hole is more made for penetration than for elimination and i like the distinction.

No harm that i know of. i had a patient (a woman) who had a prolapsed rectum... but it was not why she was in the hospital. She was too ill from something else to be able to replace it herself, but when well, i'm sure she did. A doctor slipped it back in for her, but it caused no harm to her, maybe some embarrassment, but then, she may have gotten off on that? "Health" is more than physical. It's emotional, psychological, etc., also. An ignorant onlooker may have no idea of the thrill and fulfillment two guys may have, the one maybe slowly creating and molding the "rosebud" and the other the clay or canvas for the Top doing the "molding." There is so much more to all of this than meets the heteronormative doctors eye.

Could be, seeds get stuck in diverticuli and people are advised to avoid seed

@Fuzzypup This may not be what you had in mind, but i have found no shortage of used condoms at ABS's 😉

Okay, that's an interesting response... this would never have occurred to me, and i have easily had thousands of cocks up my ass, and been arrested once in 1998 for asking an undercover cop pretending to be gay and cruising if he wanted to fuck me. It seems to me it would be virtually impossible to trace the semen let in a condom to an actual person and address. Doesn't seem very cost effective, unless i am missing something?

Right? lol As a healthcare worker i've whitnessed several surgeries. One that stands out in my memory was a Davinci robotic surgery where a woman was having her pussy rebuilt... they were wrapping it in kevlar. Pussies can wear with time and use, hell, there are more than a few on this site (both Top and bottom) who want "wrecked" assholes. Which is why i went where i did with my reply to the thread. i see far more patients in hospital with colon issues from 'food' they ate than from cock they took. Not saying it cannot be a factor, but i think it's comparatively rare. The only patient i've ever had with even a prolapsing rectum, was a woman. And i've had my share of gay and trans persons as patients. i do not think age or penetration is necessarily a factor in pussy or asshole health, but i think a lack of it can affect your emotional health.

i cannot tell what you are looking for in response to this? You give no specific information, so that precludes specific response. i'm a critical care nurse with some specialization /education/certification in reversing certain disease process through diet. The human colon is home to bacteria ("the gut microbiome") that add up to 10x the number of cells that comprise our body. One could argue, there's more of them than of us. What we put in hugely affects that. Our digestive tract starts at the mouth and ends at the anus. We have about 27 feet of intestine, about 23 feet is small intestine, about 3-4 feet is large intestine or colon. The colon is the main location of the gut microbiome, so things like enemas can affect it, but the greatest affect is from what we eat. I.e, we eat a hell of a lot more often than we clean out or get fucked. Which is not to minimize the effects that putting stuff up our ass can have, it's to point out that what we eat is the primary component to a healthy or unhealthy gut. You may have some sort of physiological issue with your gut, idk, you do not say what your particular issue is, so what i just wrote is general information that affects everyone, but may not specifically address your issue. For anyone who is interested in the science behind the gut microbiome and how it affects your health, i'd suggest reading "Fiber Fueled" by Will Bulseiwicz. It's based on about 600 studies which you can download and read if one is interested in the actual evidence behind the book, but the book itself is written at a level anyone can understand and covers a lot about how to heal certain conditions and prevent others. good luck.

Earlier (much) in this thread there was mention of freezing semen and how it affects HIV, here's info on that topic for those interested: "...sources at the federal Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta; at the national headquarters of the American Red Cross in Washington, D.C., and at Johns Hopkins said yesterday that freezing, even at colder temperatures, will not kill the AIDS virus. "Freezing the virus does not kill it. In fact, our researchers freeze it at minus 75 degrees centigrade to preserve it," said a CDC spokeswoman." [think before following links] https://www.mcall.com/news/mc-xpm-1987-04-23-2579925-story.html

idk,i think it depends on the individual. Some guys live in open relationships and it's perfectly fine, others do not.

Ask: "do you wanna fuck me?" Also, i have presented my ass on many occasions and had lots of takers that way. Guys will let you know if they don't want to fuck... and yeah, i think it's presumptuous to just automatically put a guys cock in your ass. i think the Top should put His cock in the bottom vs the bottom putting the Tops cock inside him.

me too. i just pass empty online profiles by, or worse, guys who check all the "ask me" boxes instead of putting a little of their self out there. It never seems to occur to these guys that why would someone ask questions about someone who's invisible to start with? Guys who don't want to "waste time" communicating ahead of time end up wasting time traveling and getting together with someone they are not interested in, or vice versa. i think it's childish.

No, not a fan. Even with hook up sex, the underlying drive for me is not just physical, but symbiotic connection with another guy. To me, that sort of thing is like being spammed, like there isn't a person on the other end.