tallslenderguy

wow, i love this community. Some great responses here. Fuck i love men.

i'm a total bottom and personally relate a bottoms hole for penetration (be it rimming or any other expression of penetration). For my particular wiring (and i know this is personal, not universal), rimming is a Top, penetrative activity... like "eating pussy," and in my experience something more than a few Tops get into as a prelude to breeding me. Awesome. Having said that, i fucking love a Mans ass. Men's asses drive me wild, which has always struck me as ironic given my bottom predilection. i do love to hold, maul, massage, pet, kiss and lay my head on a mans ass, in addition to simply gawking at it in lust and wonder. Rimming is not something i aspire to, or have an independent desire to do, but i have rimmed some smooth boy asses that had me otherwise hypnotized.

Thanks for your thoughts here, they gave me pause. i'm one of those guys who writes a book for a profile (though i am getting better). When someone approaches me with just a "Hi" or "sup," i go to their profile. If there is nothing there, for me, there is already an imbalance. It's hard for me to imagine someone is just randomly approaching strangers. I.e., the person saying "Hi" or "sup," is likely responding to something about my profile-a pic or something i wrote. If their profile is empty, i cannot respond in kind. When i have bitten and responded in kind with a mirror "hi" or "sup," or "fine," the next question is often "what are you looking for" or "what do you like" or "how are you," i don't know that i have ever gotten a "real opener" after that? Someone like You would be the exception for me. I suspect it would go differently between us though because my guess is that when i went to your profile, i'd find some of You there and would then be able to show interest because there is someone presenting something other than an otherwise invisible "hi?"

i never got into asking, it always felt awkward and contrived for me. i think it can also be a 50/50 gamble to show neediness. For some, neediness is a turn off, a lot of Tops want the conquest. in cruising places, i simply present. i lower my shorts enough to show some ass. i'm not overt, more subtle, but any horny guy on the prowl is going to notice presented ass lol, i've gotten a lot of cock that way and it's fucking hot when a Top comes up behind and wordlessly lowers my shorts and just slides in. When i lived in VA there was a cruisy park where i would get bred on a bridge at dusk and as it got darker. i'd stand on the bridge leaning a little bent over ostensibly looking out at the water. When i'd see a guy getting ready to walk past, i'd lower my shorts enough to show the top of my ass, without looking back. If i heard Him pause to look, i'd lower them a little more to encourage Him that He was seeing what He was seeing. It was an awesome way to fuck.

It's been a couple of years, but i found Hawks in Vegas to be disappointing. According to their web site , they are re-opening today 8/1/20. i'd give them a try, Covid may result in a lot of horny men at the baths, or not. i could see it going either way. i didn't see or experience a lot of action when i went, but the facility is nice enough though. They also had a location in Portland OR that was decent at times, but the landlord didn't give a break during shutdown from Covid, so they had to close after 10 years there, they are re-opening at another location however. i got most of my action in Vegas using all the usual aps and doing walk in. The hotels on the strip are all close together and a lot of horny guys, the only thing is you have to find a hotel that doesn't have security guarding the elevators. Some hotels require a key card to get into the room section of the hotel. i considered staying a sleazy joint, like the Travel Lodge just off the strip, that has outside access to rooms. i imagine that good be a way to go, but possibly not as safe as the bigger indoor hotels.

The shoes or the slink? ❤️

Ha, if the US adopts this (not holding my breath), it could be a boon for struggling sex shops. i can see the religious right jumping all over this and claiming that Covid is (yet another) 'judgement from God." But practically speaking, it could be helpful. As a healthcare provider who takes care of Covid patients, i'm not convinced this has been well thought out though. We are just starting to get science on Covid. Studies take time and results are starting to filter in and be published for peer review/scrutiny. Sex shops are not known for their pristine cleanliness. The 'booths' with glory holes are small and not well ventilated (Covid patient rooms are negative air pressure, i.e., the air is always being sucked out of the room). Right now, we treat Covid as "droplet precautions" and some argue that should be "air born precautions." With droplet precautions, one gowns up, mask, face shield and gloves. Points of pathogenic entry are considered mouth, eyes and nose. But Covid is a virus, it could theoretically enter other openings, e.g. anally. The anus/rectum is just the far end of the digestive tract beginning with the mouth... a known point of entry. We do not know if one can catch Covid from surfaces. According to the CDC: "The primary and most important mode of transmission for COVID-19 is through close contact from person-to-person. Based on data from lab studies on COVID-19 and what we know about similar respiratory diseases, it may be possible that a person can get COVID-19 by touching a surface or object that has the virus on it and then touching their own mouth, nose, or possibly their eyes, but this isn’t thought to be the main way the virus spreads." [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2020/s0522-cdc-updates-covid-transmission.html These guys apparently haven't spent a lot of time in booths at sex shops. Spit abounds. The guy who's cock you may be sucking could have his or anothers spit on it from him jacking or another sucking him prior to you. The surfaces of the booth are potentially covered with the Covid pathogen. in a Covid hospital room at our hospital, protocol is to disinfect every surface three times a shift... that's six times in 24 hours. And that's an isolation room. The only ones in the room are the patient and the care giver with all the PPE. A sex shop doesn't currently come close to anything approximating precautions. They have potential for 'safer sex,' but not as they currently opperate. Studies are needed lol.

i think you had a good start there.

What i like about Trump? He's not afraid to speak his mind. What i don't like about Trump? His mind. But, to be honest, i don't particularly 'like' Bidens mind either. There's long been an idea that sports are a way that those in power distract the masses from what they're doing. More and more, the presidential races in the US are looking like a sporting contest to me, and it's hard for me to shake the notion that the players are there to distract, if not exactly 'entertain,' us.

i'm a helpless/hopless romantic. There are times when i have to literally bite my mattress to keep from declaring my love for a Top who is breeding me and has somehow managed to make it more than 'just' sex. He's put more than His cock and cum in me and collared a piece of me. It hasn't happened a lot, but enough times to where it has become something i crave more than cock or cum. i could see myself being wholly devoted to the 'right' Top, He could possess me, body and soul. So, for me, it's love. Whoring and sex is something i do as a substitute, not preferably. Reading posts, i know i'm probably in a minority on this one, but thought it would be interesting to take a poll and read the communities thoughts and feelings. BTW, being in love doesn't preclude sex with others in my mind, but for me, i wouldn't want that unless it was something my Top wanted to see as part of His control. For me, Him being in control would be like He was using others like dildos to fuck and breed me, my focus and desire would be on Him. Just me, i know. Wonder what others need and want? Tops, bottoms, versatile guys? What do you want/need?

The question was "fully clean out." i have been known to do a quick douche if i'm out and a guy wants to do a quick breed. i have done a water bottle douche for restroom, under the stall fuck.. which is usually a quick pump and go. if i think it's going to be a longer fuck, i want to be "fully clean" (unless the Top doesn't care, that's a different story). The average guy has ~5 feet of colon, about 23 feet of small intestine. "Clean out" involves the colon. An enema doesn't account for stuff in the small intestine... and everything is always moving. You can slow it with something like immodium, but if peristalsis stops altogether, you'll end up in the hospital. If i'm in heat and going to be on the prowl all day, i do a deep clean out that usually takes about an hour. And, i stop eating. Eating stimulates movement keeps stuff moving ever downward. It's one of my frustrations when a top arranges to meet, especially at night, then ghosts. Maybe he says he'll meet up at 9. I skip dinner so i know i'll be clean for him. Re bulk (fiber). It can really help, depending on what kind. There's soluble and insoluble fiber. Insoluble fiber attracts water into the stool and can make it wetter and harder to clean up.

Been my experience too, but i know my experience makes it annecdotal, not fact or evidence. i believe there is such a thing as a versatile guy, and i have no problem with that. i'm always clear, especially to guys who say they are versatile, that i am total bottom and am only interested if they are feeling in top mode. I actually write stuff like that, proactively, in profiles. The only "shame," if there is any, is if a guy purposely lies about who he is or what he needs or wants. i hate being deceived.

i've written other posts about catheter play, i think the idea is hot. Total bottom has a heavy psychological component to me, i love the idea of a Top who wants to put any of 'Himself' in me, so the idea of a Top cathing me to empty my waste from my bladder so He can then fill it with His own is awesome to me. Like with all sex, there is risk of disease. In the case of catheter play, one of the risks is infection because the urinary tract is sterile, unlike the digestive tract. We have 10x more bacteria living in our digestive tract than we have cells that make up our body. We live in symbiosis with bacteria, they are crucial to our health. Women tend to get more UTI's because they don't have a penis and it's easier for them to get infected. Little girls are taught early on to wipe from front to back. Bottom line, if you don't want a UTI, sterile is important when cathing. While i appreciate the sentiment and fantasy behind absorbing the piss of another who has put their piss in your bladder, absorption is not likely to happen. "The bladder is a hollow elastic organ that accommodates and stores urine...The impermeability of the urothelium is further augmented by glycosaminoglycans (GAGs), which form a mucin hydrophilic layer adherent to the luminal side.8 These GAGs form a very tight barrier...." [think before following links] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4664547/ The colon, on the other hand, is made for absorption, so the opposite factor applies. I.e., those who 'booty bump' have to take into consideration that stuff like alcohol, is directly absorbed, so it needs to be watered down to avoid poisoning. A long time fantasy of mine is a Top who connects a catheter He has inserted into His cock and bladder then connects to colon tube He has inserted deep into my ass. There are inflatable enema nozzles that prevent leaks, i love the idea of sleeping connected to Him this way essentially Him turning me into His bladder.

lmao, yeah, sigh. i think some guys just haven't come to a place of owning who they are yet. Or i guess some guys change, but if they have changed, they need to be genuine.

A (apparently) different angle here. i think a lot of this is fantasy vs fact, which is not to suggest that some of it is not true or real, but horny guys seem to be able to sexualize anything lol. i never knew any of my family on my dads side. He grew up during a tougher era. His parents were immigrants, just off the boat when he was born. His mother died his first year of life and his father, then living in Ohio, shipped him off to be raised by his grandmother and uncles on a farm in Colorado. The details are few, he never talked of his family to me... my dad was a very quiet man. But he did talk to my mom, a little, and even that (apparently) was like pulling teeth. i was in my late 30's before i learned that my father had been molested by his uncles as a child. When he was 12, his grandmother was dying and it was decided he should go to live with his father and stepmother, now living in Hollywood CA. One of the first things his father tried to do when he arrived was molest him. Apparently his step mother walked in and intervened. Apparently, his sexual experiences with incest wounded him pretty deeply, because as an adult, he wanted nothing to do with his family. my dad died several years ago now, and given his reticence, i never got to know much about him. When i was still religious and trying to de-gay myself, a counselor once suggested to me he may have been attracted to men? That took me out of left field. It had never occurred to me that my dad might have been gay or bi? He did have guy friends he would go to see and he would sometimes go places alone. As a little kid, i would ask him where he was going and he'd reply: "duck hunting." Of course, i knew better, we lived in LA. I'd beg to go with him though, and one time he acquiesced. i was very young, and he made me wait in the car, but i have a memory of it and i'm pretty sure he went to an ABS. i'm speculating, but i think it was. Who knows why? He was pretty sexual, but i have no idea if he liked guys or not, just a question. i believe a lot of gay guys get molested as kids because some sense and are attracted to their gayness, and exploit it. Reading of experiences of others, some gay kids seem to be aware at an earlier age and want that expression. i know i had crushes on many boys as a kid, but never the opportunity or knowledge to express it physically.

Ah man, so sorry you lost your dad. It sounds like you had a wonderful and loving relationship with him and it makes perfect sense to be confused and in turmoil by the loss. i ditto those suggesting a grief counselor. Grieving is a process, an individual one, but a process none the less. It can help to have someone by your side, to walk through it with you. A few questions to perhaps ponder? Have you had an intimate/romantic relationship with a woman before? Right now, you are idealizing. I.e., you are projecting a fantasy of having a wife and children. You're also fantasizing about how that would be and feel. Have you ever fantasized about a relationship with a guy? Even a hook up? And then when you got together, reality was very different from what you imagined or wanted? What we imagine is never the same as reality. "Forget [your] gay side?" That's sort of like saying you're going to forget you have a cock. Changing how you use it does not change the fact that you have one. We're all different, but a lot of people have tried to change gays, including a lot of gay guys. There's a long history of this. I tried to not be gay, was married to a woman and had kids. i love/loved my former wife and kids dearly, but that doesn't change reality. Being gay is not a choice. You might be bisexual. i thought i might be, so after i divorced i dated men and women. It didn't take me long to realize where i land on the spectrum. i proffer that any woman you might marry should know all about your 'gay side.' That's likely going to narrow your field. i'd also suggest that any serious relationship with a woman should involve premarital counseling. There are women out there who think they will be enough to change you, which is delusional at best. i'd suggest that anyone you marry is going to have to embrace and love your gay side as well as the rest of you. Back to the cock example, you may go to sleep thinking you have forgotten it, only to wake up with a hard on demanding attention. You can possibly find a woman you love and can have good sex with, but that does not change the gay part of you. Once you are out of the fantasy of how you imagine marriage and kids will be, reality sets in. Marriage is stressful and hard along with the joys. Having kids is stressful and hard along with the joys. During those stress times, your "gay side" will appear and fantasize about how life would be so much better on the other side.

i like it when a Top acknowledges me, enjoys me as much as i enjoy Him. i want to connect with a Top, i love a symbiotic connection where each fulfills the need and desire of the other, so i probably am not a cum dump, though i want any mans load who wants or needs to put it in me. idk

It depends. my being bottom is both a physical thing and psychological, which i think is probably true for any of us and all positions?, but i think the psychological/mental/emotional part of sex is more important to some than others? i know it is to me. i'm currently crushing on two guys at work. One is my age, looks like a weight lifter. He's shown interest and has captured mine by His shy, friendly demeanor. The other one is a tall skinny sort of fem guy who looks like He's in His 20's. i admit that all of those attributes in a Top can be a real turn on for me, particularly if He can get in my head and subltly dom me. At first i only noticed Him, but then He started flirting with me and now i have a crush on Him. Mutual interest is important to me, i want to be wanted as deeply as i want a Guy, and i have to really feel the desire from a younger guy because there are so many younger guys who look to exploit older guys as a financial resource. Also, any Top has to have emotional and mental maturity to get and keep my attention. He may be physically beautiful to me, but that wouldn't be enough for me to get into a romantic tangle with Him, there needs to be a mental and emotional bond. i've experienced those kinds of connections with a younger Top, and it can be an awesome mind fuck when the chemistry is right. i suppose it can work the opposite way, i.e., if the older guy is just not very mature for their age? But i have some emotional miles on me, and mental development has always been important to me. The emotional and mental parts of my Top are very important to me, He has to be a Man of substance for there to be more than a hook up.

i've come hands free from my cock a few times when getting fucked. Psychologically, i fantasize about a relationship with a Top where penetrative orgasm is the only kind of orgasm i have. i love the idea of being dependent on a Top for my pleasure, giving Him that control.

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The one taking the swab, could be the doctor or a nurse, probably does this test many times a day and doesn't even think twice about it. i understand the embarrassment though. i'm a nurse and work at a hospital. my doctor also works at the hospital, so i know and work with him. i get checked for STD's routinely and he always does the swab. He's completely professional, but it's still embarrassing for me. Still, better than running around with and spreading a disease you don't know have. For me, getting checked routinely is just a part of my sex life.

There is a whole niche of bottoms who want and love the idea of being pimped out, i think this is an opportunity for a voyeur. i love the energy and lust of a voyeur. With my own particular wiring as a bottom with sub is attracted to a Top who is voyeur. For me, it's not just the loads or cocks i need/want, it's the intense connection with a Top and HIs need/want to breed. i see a Top voyeur as a variation on that. If a Top whored me out, my focus would be on Him the whole time, for me He'd be the one fucking and breeding me, vicariously. The guys He is whoring me out to are like 'toys' He is using on me, so i see and relate to Him as the breeder and am locked onto Him the whole time He is watching.

Ditto the other two responses, i.e., "see a doctor." As much as i love BZ, no, "this is [not] the right place to put this." As a health care provider, i can tell you google is not the answer either. It takes a minimum of eleven years of education to become a medical doctor. An Ear/Nose/Throat specialty takes even longer to obtain. Then experience on top of that is always a good thing. If one is not trained in physiology, one often doesn't even know the right questions to ask to obtain a diagnosis. As mentioned, some drugs can cause hearing issues (even aspirin), injury, infection, stroke, heck, even a cotton swab used improperly, the list goes on and on. Please see someone trained in medicine. It's your hearing, please take care of your self ❤️

idk, but i don't believe a straight person can become gay. Culture still largely assumes that if you are male, you are straight, and conditions us accordingly from day one. Consequently, it can be challenging and confusing for some guys to realize and come to terms with their sexuality if they happen to be wired gay or bi or something other than straight. i grew up in a deeply religious culture that conditioned me to believe "gay" is broken and sinful. When i realized how i was at a pretty early age, i just believed what i had been conditioned to believe and thought i was broken and sinful and spent a good deal of my life trying to not 'sin' and get fixed. i got married, not because i didn't realize i like/need/want a guy, but because it wasn't an option from how i was conditioned. It wasn't an option to simply accept myself and learn how to live with who i am, so i 'chose' to live as straight, got married, etc.. Didn't work. It was like being in prison. Lots of striagth guys indulge in gay sex in prison, but that does not make them gay... it's just what's available. Given the opportunity, they'd choose a woman... they're straight. i don't believe being married and being able to have sex with a woman makes one straight any more than going to the zoo makes one an elephant.