tallslenderguy

It's different for everyone. Some guys feel little to nothing, others say it hurts. i'm a critical care nurse and have to put them in. i brought one home and put it in myself so i'd know how it feels. Wash your penis first with soap and water, same with your hands. Don't set the cath anywhere, keep it from touching anything. Use one hand to insert the cath, the other to hold your penis. Doing it at home is less strict, in hospital we use sterile technique, sterile gloves. Guys who cath at home don't usually go to that trouble, but at least be clean about it. if you read though the threads, you'll find i have all sorts of kinky cath fantasies. 🙂

i've always been bareback, even during the AID's crises. i have never been a chaser, but have never been a condom user. i've prolly had thousands of guys and can count on two hands the number who used condoms, and that was early on. i still encounter some who use condoms, on hook up sites, i suspect that has more to do with them being in relationships, married, and fearful of any STD. i just don't encounter it much with hook up sex, i'm explicitly bareback on all my profiles (but then, there are many who don't read profiles!). The only person i have encountered of late who wants to use a condom is a sort of dating situation. i say "sort of" because i've already been clear to him i don't think we are a match. He's versatile and would want me to top... not gonna happen, plus he is afraid of HIV and std's and would want to use a condom... not gonna happen. So, in my mind we remain 'just friends,' though i think he still has romantic notions. i find the disconnect strange. i don't see it as "hate" at all, really just fear.

i wonder what form his bullying took? my sense is you are describing a guy who was closeted, ashamed of himself, and he transferred his self hate onto you? Sort of like ef like ErosWired's abuser who had a career that reflected his self loathing. i find it noteworthy that, in both cases, the 'bully' stopped when he found his self hate was not reciprocated. ErosWired's experience reads like rape to me, whereas you gave this guy submission on more than one occasion and a part of you enjoyed it. i think bullying is often an immature dom's way of acting out. Sort of like the school yard kid who has a crush on a girl and walks up and hit's here because he doesn't know what to do with his feelings? i had lots of bullies growing up. Over time i have come to see my own sub nature has always been there, from a very early age. i suspect that the same is true about dom guys, that the dom nature is in place early on, but they haven't grown into it? Then to be dom and gay can be a double hurdle for some. Thinking of the guy who abused ErosWired, he likely grew up in and was conditioned to self hate from an early age. i can see where it could be hard for a gay guy with a dom nature to come to an understanding and a place of self acceptance. Even in the year 2020, there's a strong cultural current that believes being gay is less than being straight. imagine being gay, having a dom nature and having to reconcile with that? i participate in a couple of BDSM forums that have a mix of all types of identities (i.e., gay, straight, bi, etc.). Some of the more established and stable D/s relationships i see are understood as symbiotic. i've also met several gay Dom's who have (to my way of thinking) matured to a place of self acceptance and understanding where they realize they do not have to force or bully in order to find and receive submission. Indeed, the more powerful expression and experience of Their nature is when submission is freely given by or seduced from a submissive.

i've prolly had well over a thousand guys, mostly anonymous, but i remember Andrew Lee Burton. He picked me up on the ocean board walk, took me to his place. We talked, he knew i was new, but i was very ready. He looked at me with surprise when i straddled him and tried to push his cock into my ass. He laughed and said: "hold on," ran down stairs and returned with some Vaseline Intensive Care hand lotion, lubed, fucked and bred me.

Like others, not really something i chose. In fact, i grew up in a culture that told me i am broken, so for a long time i felt shame and i tried to choose against it. And i was a miserable, sad person. i literally could not help myself and it was hard for me to see that that was because of the way i am, not from a lack of self control. If anything, taking a man into me is 'self control.' Some Tops can make me feel humiliated and degraded, but it's very arousing when it happens because it's like a mutual recognition and affirmation of who i am. i love it when a Top looks through me with full recognition that i'm a fag and wants, even needs, to plant His seed in me and knows i'll do it because i need it too.

It's never happened to me, and i've been fucked thousands of times. Honestly, i'm a little envious of those who have experienced it. i don't see it as an issue or problem with the bottom (though i know i don't speak from experience, so hey, that might change if it were an all the time occurrence for me). i find it an awesome mind fuck to consider though. i imagine it more of something a Top would do to me. Sort of a different style of orgasm that He produces in my body as a result of His penetration and fucking. i have a decided sub side to me, so i like the idea of a Top who can effect my body sexually by who and how He is. Especially if He is connected mentally and emotionally to His own power and what He is doing and causing in me as a bottom. i can imagine a smile and look of satisfaction on His face at my powerlessness to control the effect He has on my body when He breeds me.

5 minutes ago. i have a fb who i've started hosting again. i'm His cock slut and have agreed i want it any time He needs to unload. Because of that we have an understanding that if He needs to unload 'right now', that my mouth can always be available, and if He needs to fuck, i need a little prep time. But my goal is to be there for Him when HIs want/need arises. He texts me, this morning at 0607, "I need your mouth and throat." and i respond "Yes please." He comes over, and in my opened front door. He likes to watch BB porn while getting sucked, so i have that on. i'm in another room and He comes in, takes His shorts off and sits legs spread on my sofa. i come in and kneel between His legs and slowly and purposefully worship His cock. i'm not anxious, but i am in full heat just knowing i'm needed for His cock and cum. i nestle my face between His cock and thigh first, getting His scent on my face, slowly licking His balls, mouthing them, His shaft. Then take the tip of His cock in my mouth, sucknng and tonguing His urethra, getting Him tense and needy, then when He is sort of shaky, i suddenly take Him to the hilt, into my throat and hold His cock there, massaging the tip with the back of my throat while i lick His balls then sort of pressure bite the base of His cock while cupping His wet balls. He tells me when He is close, but that's not hard to tell because His thighs begin to shake and His cock swells... still, i love to hear it and at that point, i become sort of anxious and need His orgasm in me. When He announces that He is coming, i take Him into my throat, His cock to the hilt, letting Him shoot, but not wanting to interrupt His pleasure i milk every last bit of HIs orgasm and pleasure with my mouth. i hold Him in my mouth till He goes soft, just a warm wet place calm down, with an occasional suck, tongue carress. i can smell His scent on my face now as i write this. fuck, so good.

Maybe the Covid thing has added to this? Social distancing adds another layer to this. The last couple of months i have had to fight my own temptations to hook with guys approaching me, and the wrestling may have come across different from what it was. That said, i don't even attempt to hang with or approach the "10 culture." For me, a big part of sex, hooking or not, is about each of us wanting/needing the other. i hate one sided sex and would rather go without than be with someone who didn't want/need me as much as i want/need them. i've had a lot of great connection and sex with 'zero's' ( i say that tongue in cheek because the 10 culture that rates people on a number scale do not have a clue as far as i am concerned).

There's ten times more bacteria living in the digestive tract than there are cells making up the human body, raising the question of who's the host? "The large intestine contains organisms belonging to over 30 identified genera and as many as 500 separate species or phenotypes." Male UTI from anal sex is not a hugely studied topic, so there is not a lot of evidence about how many and which of those bacteria can cause an inflammatory response in the urethra. The most common UTI from anal is from E. coli bacteria, which is beneficial in the gut (a decidedly nonsterile environment) but not in the urinary tract (a sterile environment). But other gut bacteria can cause UTI. Uncircumcised are more vulnerable. Here are ways to help protect yourself. i give cranberry extract to my patients with urinary catheters twice a day. "The current hypothesis is that cranberries work principally by preventing the adhesion of type 1 and p-fimbriae strains (particularly from E. coli) to the urothelium (17-20). Without adhesion, the bacteria cannot infect the mucosal surface" [think before following links] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3370320/ Another consideration is the type lube being used. Some lubes contain sorbitol or glycerin, which is food for bacteria. Using those types of lubes promote bacterial infection. The old rule of peeing after fucking helps cleanse the urethra of bacteria that may have made their way in. Carry alcohol wipes and cleanse the tip of your cock around the urethra after fucking, it helps both kill and mechanically remove bacteria. Or simply wash your cock after fucking.

This is my favorite flavor.

Broke sexual distancing Friday with a FB who'd been contacting me since isolation started. i figured it's time to ease back into safer whordom. Neither of us had fucked since around the first week of March, so while i'm sure He didn't have a couple of months of cum in Him, we both had a couple of months of need and desire. i'm pretty open from lots of use, and He loves sloppy, so i put in lot of lube and thought i was pretty open, but i let out a cry when He just shoved in, i guess i wasn't as open as i thought. We both made quite a bit of noise, i had my window open and wonder if the neighbors could hear? When He came, He came hard, shoving in deep next to my heart and i raised up and pushed back into Him just as hard, squeezing and milking His sweet cock with my inner muscles. He never texts me after, just disappears till next time. But this time He texted me "Came so hard my legs are like jello."

i am sorry that you were abused for being gay, that's awful, and i am sorry you suffered through that. Please do not misunderstand me, i'm not saying one should hide being gay, but i was a kid who did it, so i know it can be done. i had bullies in my life till i was 13 and learned how to hide those things that identified me, the proverbial closet. For me it was a survival mechanism. my point was to contrast how white gay people are not immediately visually obvious as "gay." i have to come out continually at work, and i wonder that people cannot tell by looking at me because i think i am obvious. Just this week a woman at work asked me out on a date (left a note in my mail box). i said to a different employee next to me as i read the note: "hmm, she must not realize im gay." The woman next to me looked at me in surprise and said "you're gay?" my point is to say (and maybe i could have said it better) not all gay people are obviously gay just by looking at them as are black people. Gay people do not get pulled over driving their cars like black people because of profiling. Race is different from being gay. A black person cannot visually hide their race, a gay person is not automatically visually obviously gay, thus the term "can hide." i still think "race play" is destructive. i don't see myself changing on that. The reason i don't think it should be part of the gay community is because i think most of us should know better, for many of the reasons you state. I.e., i've suffered plenty for being gay, and i know many gays who have. Just for being gay. i do not think we should be "playing' about something that has caused so much harm and destruction.

i know that your advice makes sense, but i probably won't do it that way... instead i'll just learn the other way. For me it's not the piss but the act, and pissing in the glass takes something away for me. idk, i may change, i've taken cum from used condomes and shoved it in my hole... i honestly see piss similarly, though not exactly the same. But the thing that i connect with is the Top who has something in Him that wants to piss on and in a bottom, it's like it opens a door in me: "yeah i want you to do that too." Putting it in a glass takes something away from the act in my mind? i think i'd be more inclined to ask the Top to be patient with me, that i want to learn to take it from Him and HIs cock, giving Him the control.

i have been wanting a Man to piss in my mouth a long time, especially by surprise or not asking, just doing it while i suck Him. But i have been afraid never having drunk pee or piss before, wasn't sure how i would react to the taste. i've been piss fucke plenty, but want to be a full service bottom... no, really lol, i love a Tops pleasure and want to be able to drink His piss too. i especially love the psychology of it. To me it's not mean, its a matter of fact sort of natural thing for Him to be able to put a part of Himself in me as a bottom. So today i was so horny, have been keeping myself from cumming and reading some hot stories (not about piss though) and i had to pee. On the spur of the moment, i emptied my water glass and peed into it and then drank it. i didn't get off on drinking my pee, to me it's just my pee and has no potency (though i did have a Dom who spoke to me of always taking His piss and He told me He wanted me to put my pee in a container for Him to drink so He could drink His recycled piss distilled by my body for Him, which i thought was sooo fucking hot. i love mind fuck). i did it to see how i would respond and it was fine, which really makes me happy because i know now i'd respond with lust and need and drink my Tops piss if He pissed in my mouth. Still would take practice to take His piss from His cock i'm sure, but i feel like i am over a hurdle.

i'm not going to try and engage this poster, looks like a troll to me, and i don't have confidence in his reading comprehension. i do want to point out what people like him do. They infer and fill in their own words, and they're off and running. You'll notice i didn't use the word "Christian" in my post. Not all "Christians" are alike, not all Muslims are alike, not all atheists are alike.... i do have an argument with the fundamentalist approach. Those who take the absolutist notion that they know what "God" wants and who think they somehow do "God's" bidding. i think that is scary and would not vote for such a person. "In 2006, as head of the Republican Study Committee, a group of the 100 most-conservative House members, Pence rose in support of a constitutional amendment that would have defined marriage as between a man and a woman. Citing a Harvard researcher, Pence said in his speech, “societal collapse was always brought about following an advent of the deterioration of marriage and family.” Pence also called being gay a choice and said keeping gays from marrying was not discrimination, but an enforcement of “God’s idea.” [think before following links] https://time.com/4406337/mike-pence-gay-rights-lgbt-religious-freedom/

my loose hole>pussy>cunt makes me feel hot and bothered because it is the mark of Tops who have used it... it's a permanent piece of Them that has become a part of me, it's like They have molded it. And i can remember how Some have affected and molded it more than others. i fucking love having Their affect, touch on me... i wish i could describe the feeling better, it's Their signature on and in me, it is so fucking awesome.

To clarify... i see your cock and i want it and i'd take it where ever you want to put it, so as find91 suggests, you may wanna cover your cock if you don't want it to have attention because, well, it's a magnet

Well, you do identify your self (on here at least) as "versatile." As someone who went from using a "versatile bottom" label to "total bottom," i believe some bottoms cannot see the word "versatile" when horny, that it always gets changed to "Top" in their brain. Which makes it pretty challenging if you're versatile. In my mind, any time the word "versatile" is used, you are going to attract whatever the other person is looking for at the time, not necessarily what you want. And, the majority of guys looking are usually going to be bottoms or guys looking for cock. And frankly, i have "total bottom" in all my profiles and then write explanations like "total bottom means i don't want you to touch my penis in any way," with all pictures being of my ass and i will still get guys asking to "suck my cock" or asking me to "fuck" them. Pretty sure horniness makes a lot of guys blind and stupid lol

7 to 7.5 (7.5 if i am damned excited) but a little better than average girth. i'm one of those bottoms who gets off on it being minimized though. For me, most of the 'cock' is internal. i've been bred by 3" cocks that were 10" because of who and how they were. For me a 3 inch cock on a TotalTop is bigger than a 7 inch cock on a total bottom.

i find the micro more comfortable than larger cages that hold your shaft, it pretty much internalizes your penis and the "cage" just holds it in.

and in keeping with the situation

This Pitt is my favorite

i watched "The Hot Chick" last night, turns out Rob Schneider has a hot ass.

lol, i guess i have come full circle. i used to put everything up my ass. Seriously, i always had an eye open and wondered if it would fit? These days, i have a drawer full of sophisticated, made for ass toys, but have little to no interest in them unless they are attached to a guy. It no longer works for me to be the one putting them in me, the real turn on for me is the guy wanting to put something inside of me. It's His desire connected to opening and penetrating me that spreads my legs and bends me over.

Do you think there are people who do not understand what a profile or ad is? The only thing i can figure is they are just responding to pictures... but then, if they ask for pictures when they already exist, it seems like they don't even know what a profile or ad is, that their request is the only information out there and it is first contact. maybe they're aliens......... oooeeeeoooo