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Cool question... from both sides of the flip. my first cock didn't hurt... i discovered my ass as a sex organ at 7 with an enema nozzle and after that, everything i saw that was remotely shaft or cock shaped went into me. i straddled the guy and just went for it. He knew i was a virgin and said: "whoa, wait a minute" and ran and got some Vaseline Intensive care lotion. my memory of that was how full i felt. Guys who don't have a clue (or do and don't care) can cause searing pain if they just slam into an unopened hole. i think this is one of the ways where a mans pussy and a womans pussy probably differ the most? An ass is designed to open and close over and over, a woman's vagina is and opening only, not an opening and closure. i've taken a few thousand cocks, and i have been purposely gaped (over time) by a Top fb. i don't close up like i did before cock, so a guy who slams into me can bring a tear to my eye and cause me to bite my mattress... but i know that'll pass, so i just breath into the pain till it transforms to pleasure. Not many guys do that... i take it, but i don't appreciate it. Bullies don't impress me as powerful, but instead strike me as weak and sort of childish. Just my take, feels kind of school yard. The best fucks for me are the guys who get in my head, who penetrate my mind and emotions as much as my hole. i got fucked hard a couple of days ago by a Top who seemed to have endless stamina and made an unrelenting assault on my hole. He used little lube (which wasn't the same as dry, there were 3 loads already in from an earlier Top), but the Top had been long and most of His cum was deep, so i felt friction. He liked to go balls deep, then completely withdraw, which feels erotically frustrating for me, almost teasing? Filling me, then making me empty... it also has more of a gaping effect and feels like i am having my insides pulled out (it's all awesome). If a guy is a silent shooter (i personally love it when He tells me He is breeding me), i can tell. i know some can feel when a Top shoots, i cannot feel it shooting in, though i can feel if His cock is spasming... but if the Top is fucking through the orgasm, i can only tell after He has shot because my hole becomes slippery and cum sloppy. It goes from me feeling friction in my hole to feeling very slippery, and usually some cum running down my taint. There are so many sensations, so much depends on the Top. Angle, Hitting the prostate. Few guys seem to know how to do that. i think the prostate is one way a Top can really control the bottoms pleasure, really own it and make the bottom dependent on Him for pleasure. When a Top knows what He is doing and purposely fucks my prostate, i start out working, being able to hold and squeeze His cock with my ass muscles, but the Top who purposely assaults my hole with the intent to open me, i can reach a point where i loose control and submit, opening and not being able to shut. That's also a deep mind fuck for me too, it feels like complete possession, like He 'won' the war lol.

Two more loads from another fb about a half hour after the other fb i wrote about yesterday left three. It was a surprise. a guy i had hooked up with about a year ago just recently showed up at my door a few weeks ago. He only had a short time and i sucked him off. Before he left, he asked for my phone number. He put it in his phone, then called me, but i didn't label it, so i didn't know it was his. He called me yesterday right when another fb was breeding me, of course i ignored it. Then he called again after the other FB was gone, so i answered and he asked if i wanted hook. i said yeah, and he told me he was waiting on my front porch lol. i opened the front door naked, clenching and holding the other three loads in, and lead him back into my bedroom. i don't think he has a lot of experience, he doesn't really understand what a total bottom is and he pushed me down on the bed and went to sucking me. i have enough sub in me that i let him, but he didn't really connect that i don't connect that way and stayed soft and small... he didn't understand. i flipped and sucked him, which he really liked and i told him about the loads in my pussy and asked if he wanted to fuck. Wow, He ended up fucking me for about an hour and a half and added his own load to what was there... i love how you can tell, even when a guy is a silent cummer, because my hole was suddenly wetter and sloppier. He was one of those guys who stays hard after cumming and just kept going, i was moaning and whimpering uncontrollably, which just seemed to drive him on. He got close to making me cum a couple of times that way, but then would change the thrust and i didn't. He pulled out and asked me to suck the cum off his cock and he wanted to cum down my throat too. That took awhile, but he came hard, holding my head and his cock in my throat. Sweet guy.

bout 30 minutes ago... looks like a new FB, he has contacted me 6x in the last 6 weeks, looking like a covid fb. Straight muscle boy, mid 20's, pretty sure i'm the only guy he's ever fucked, and He seems to like that. He always unloads 2-3 loads, but is a silent cummer who keeps fucking through his orgasm, then tells me after. The evidence is always there though, i cannot tell when he comes (wish i could) but can tell after He has cum, he cums a lot and i am wet. i have to work to hold it in, it's a good feeling and worth the effort. sweet guy. He fucked me prone, which i am used to always being face down, but He also flipped me and face on, legs up... i have very long legs and my knees were touching the bed over my shoiulders, He seemed to like that. He almost made me cum a coupler of times from fucking me. i fall in love so easily lol

my hole in various stages of open

i love that You love this. i think it is often missed how much a bottoms need/desire connects to and is fed by a Tops need/desire, and how circular, yin/Yang, symbiotic, that is. Each need nurturing and stimulating the others? Just reading that one word from You, makes my penis literally jump. Dead serious here. i used to wonder at my penis response to being turned on, being a total bottom, but over time have observed what makes me hard. If a guy approaches me wanting me to have a 'cock' and treating me like i do, i stay completely soft, and am not aroused at all, despite His expression of desire. i've learned it's because he doesn't actually see me, just his need, and consequently, there is no connection. But a guy who looks at me and sees a 'pussy' to breed, and expresses His desires accordingly, gets me hard. i'm not fem or trans, have no desire to be a woman (nothing wrong with any of that, just not me). i can see a correlation between my penis and a clitoris on a woman, that also gets engorged when a Top wants to breed. So now, it makes perfect sense to me when i can see what makes me hard, and what doesn't. I have had Tops who actually referred to it as a "clit," smiling affectionately at it when it gets hard, but never treating it as a "cock," which just makes it get harder... and they know it. Love guys who go beyond physical depth and love and know how to penetrate and mind fuck.

Cool question. For me, no, they cannot. No one seems to be able to? Every time i come out to someone, they are always surprised, even people i have worked with for years. And i'm a nurse for fucks sake lol. Yet most of the male nurses i work with are straight... sigh. One of the hottest experiences of my life was when i was driving down a street, a guy i didn't know pulled up beside my truck, glanced over. Our eyes met, that's it. He pulled forward a few seconds later, and in front of me. i followed Him into a Burger King parking lot, into the restaurant and into the restroom, about 20 feet behind Him. He never looked back. Once i went into the restroom behind Him, He locked the door, undid and pulled down my jeans, turned my around, bent me forward. He pulled out His cock, spat on His hand and rubbed His cock, slid in and bred me. He zipped up, unlocked the door and left without a word. i had to scramble to lock the door so i could pull my pants back up without someone walking in lol. So, how did He know? i know a lot of communication is non-verbal. A guy who has affectations that are considered "fem" or who dresses femininely, sends a message without words. i grew up in a culture that hated gay people, so i learned at an early age to hide. But i can look back and remember myself at a young age, 5, 6, 7 years old, and a little older. i was definitely and obviously a faggot. One halloween i found a blond wig and put it on to go trick or treating, all my neighbors who knew me didn't recognize me, they thought i was a girl, and i played the part naturally. When i got home, my dad freaked and made me take it off and go in a 'normal' costume. i have often wondered how i would have turned out as an adult if i had not been culturally conditioned to hide? It wasn't like i had learned how to be a faggot, it came naturally. Conforming, being heteronormative to survive, was conditioned into me and by the time i was 13 or 14 i knew how to fit in, hide completely. Before i learned to hide though, i had a whole lot of bullies in my life, and most of them treated me like a faggot. i also have a lot of sub nature and was attracted to dom boys, even at a very young age when we all were clueless. i think a lot of the boys who bullied me were really just boys with dom natures who didn't know what to do or how to act. Sort of like the boy who has a crush on a girl before an age when boys are supposed to like girls, so he ends up hitting or kicking her because he doesn't know how to show his desire/need. i think the same is true of a lot of adult gays who are also Dom, there just isn't a cultural context that has taught them how to act, so they are bullies... which to me is just immaturity. They don't realize that there are sub guys who want to submit to them, to even be possessed by them, they don't know they don't have to use force, that they are desired/needed as much as they desire and need. sorry, off track i think communication takes all types of forms, visual, tone of voice, presentation. i also think that gays, and maybe even more, sub culture gays, have had to develop subtle forms of communication, ways we may not even be conscious of, but it's communication none the less? Not just a magical "knowing"?

"Tops decide when they'll breed you." That's honestly my desire as a total bottom with some sub thrown in. And i am not talking forced or rape here. i have a long standing fantasy about having a mate or FB who has access to me any time He needs or wants. i imagine waking up in the middle of the night to the feel of Him pressing His cock into my pussy or between my lips, because He needed/wanted to cum or piss in me. Or, we are sitting on the sofa watching a movie together, and He gets up, walks over, takes His cock out and presses it to my lips. Or, i am standing at the kitchen counter prepping food or washing dishes, and He silently comes up behind me, pulls my shorts down and pushes His cock into me. Or i am out in the garden weeding and He comes up behind me and pisses on me. And on it goes. The point is, this is someone i have a connection with, not a complete stranger, someone i know and who knows me. i think a lot of bottoms have an intrinsic need/desire to simply be taken by a Top... and i think a lot of Tops have an intrinsic need/desire to be able to have when they want or need. But in our culture, doing that without permission is called "rape" and it's considered a crime. Honestly, i do not want that either. i have no desire to be raped, but i pretty much have always wanted every guy who wanted or needed me, so the only thing they need to express is that desire, and i'm theirs. The scenario i proffer above is still "consent," it's just long term consent that accommodates spontaneity. It takes away the need to ask every time, because their is a bond already there.

i don't care if they have showered or not (i.e, "clean"), and an "unsafe" guy who is jonesing to to breed is going to tell you what ever you want to hear. i'm sorry, but it is naive to think because a guy answers "yes" to those questions, that he actually meets your perceived qualifications. Do you realize you are deluding yourself babe? i swear there is no snark in my tone, i am trying to help you out here. i'm assuming that by "clean and safe" you are referring to std's? No one can guarantee that unless they have just come from the doctor with their std results to show you, and they haven't had sex since getting tested (or their a virgin)... which pretty much means "no one." You personally choose to take the risk every time you take a cock... it's all on you, so asking guys if they are "clean" (a term that deeply offends many, having an STD does not make one "un-clean") is not only a worthless exercise, it can be off-putting to many and reduce the number of guys you'll get to be with. i'm not a chaser, didn't want to get pozzed, but i'm pretty sure i know who pozzed me. We fucked often. He gave me syphillis too, and he claimed to be std free. Even though he lied, i still think he was a great fucker and i miss him (moved). Std's are a fact of life, they do not make someone good or bad, they just are. ❤️

Five minutes ago. A sweet guy i apparently sucked off a year ago, just showed up at my front door. He told me he just sold a car to a guy a couple of houses away and his ride was on the way, only had a few minutes, could he come in. i didn't remember him, but he obviously remembered where i lived, so i let him in. He pulled his shorts down and i sucked His sweet cock and he came fast and hard down my throat, just as his phone rang. He said it was his girlfriend and he answered, i heard a woman's voice. He told her he met a friend and would be right there. Was a lot of cum, sweet load... guy had tats. nice surprise.

.... unless one happens to be a bottom with some sub in him lol

Ditto both of you, from the other side. i am not a cum slut, but a slut for a Top who needs and wants to breed me. If a Top doesn't wan to breed me, if there isn't even a little desire there, i'll pass. For me, the point is mutual desire. A Tops cum represents some of His essence for me, a part of Him that He wants to leave inside of me and i want Him to leave a part of Himself inside of me... but the whole point for me is, Him inside of me, and not just physically. i think the guys who narrow the whole profound act of sex down to cum (not to minimize the awesomeness of cum btw), are missing out on a lot. i love hearing a Tops breathing and moans, words, then that wonderful sigh and spasm as He transfers a part of Himself from Him and into me. And i know many Tops have a similar response to their bottoms. If a bottom were really "just a hole," as many propose, than any hole should do... doesn't even have to be a guy, eh? i don't think it's true, i think it's the human attached to the hole that makes the difference.

i think you are dead on about guys giving off vibes or hints. When i was married and whoring and cheating on the DL, i had a huge amount of guilt and self hatred for cheating and lying. i felt like i was pretty obvious in so many ways. Not only that, but my former wife knew i was gay before we married, and i told her again after we were married. We were religious, so we had stupid and wrong ideas about what it meant to be "gay." She told me before we divorced that she had considered getting an annulment when i told here about still liking guys a few weeks after we were married. i naively thought she would be my helper in my fight to de-gay myself. So, even armed with that knowledge, and a few STD's along the way, she still did not connect that i was on the DL. i think she knew, but was in denial.

i don't think i have ever hooked with anyone from Grindr, though i have the phone ap and have frequented it enough times. From other discussions on this site, i've come to see hook up sites as regional. I.e., some aps are more used or popular in one region the another. Maybe like a bar, guys go to where the guys are? Out of 1000's? of hook ups i can count on two hands the number of times i have been asked for money. Like others have noted, doesn't seem any of us has a problem with someone selling sex, but being up front about it would be more professional. i guess i can see from the perspective of a guy wanting to avoid arrest or entrapment waiting till the last minute to mention money? idk, that's a stretch for me because vice cops lie and use deceit to entrap, so it wouldn't seem a deterrent to me? Mostly, it just seems deceitful, trickery for the trick? Personally, i'd rather go without than pay for sex. For me, sex is more than physical, it's about shared mutual desire as well. i really don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. Sex for money isn't about connection, it's about money. Which is fine if all parties are informed and onboard, but paid sex is not for me.

i so appreciate this. i wonder at the number of guys who expect mind reading or unconsciously believe they can do it. i think that is immature and inconsiderate at best. All my profiles on hookup or dating sites are long and detailed, so anyone who can or will read, knows something about me right up front. Then, before hooking, i will communicate as much as the other will allow before getting together. i am always bemused by guys who, essentially, have a non profile. Some of my favorites are profiles that read: "looking for fun" or a variation on that, as if that informs the reader of what constitutes "fun" for this guy? Worse is the guys who you try to engage and communicate with before even getting together and they say something like "i just go with the flow" or "lets get together and see what happens." Then you get together and discover you're both Tops or both bottoms or___________. Yeah, i agree, compatibility can be elusive, especially when looking for more than a hook up. But i usually have success hooking with guys who are open and communicative. It's the "ask me" guys that are usually closed books or afraid to say what they want... or don't know. i love your blow torch analogy. A guy tweaked my tits (hard) once without asking if i was into pain/force and he ended up on the floor. i don't respond well to force at all, and i have a fair amount of sub in me.

i'm big on compatibility. i never want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, nor do i want to make anyone do anything. my connection with a guy is symbiotic, both of our needs and desires feeding the others. That can be challenging with an inexperienced guy who may not yet know what he wants or needs. But if you take him at his word and the only impediment to him rimming (or wanting to rim) you is drying your sweaty ass, then how hard is that? Why not keep a towel nearby and dry it. If it turns out that he's got some sub in him, maybe he want's to be pushed... but that is trickier in my view. i don't literally think anyone should be truly 'forced' to do something without consent, and it can be hard know whether to push someone who wants that vs pushing someone when only you want that. Not always sexy or spontaneous, but i think communication is key. Not everyone wants or responds well to being "pushed," so i think it's important to know, or at least have a sense of the persons wants/needs before pushing.

i think you have lots of good input here. i agree with those who think there will be fewer guys into nullo than not. One thing i didn't see mentioned is where do you live? i think that'll make a difference. Bigger cities are going to give you more guys in general and increase the numbers of guys potentially into nullo, just to go continue with BootmanLA's gradeschool math theme, it's a numbers game. Chances for sex increase with numbers of guys wanting to fuck.

lmao... i think it's funny, that the guy is being ironic. i also suspect those who think it a "power pose" are prolly right too, since he has a pic and the one thing he does fill in is he is "athletic" and his stats. i wouldn't respond either way, Adonis complex is a total turn off to me, i don't give a fuck (literally) how good looking one is. If a guy is that turned on by himself, he should be content to fuck himself.

No appeal in driniking my own piss. For me, a Tops piss is almost as potent as His cum. i have a psychological distinction in me between what comes out of my body and what comes out of a Tops, even though i know cognitively it's all urine. His is "piss," and comes from "cock," mine is just pee and waste. i do know a Dom/Top who likes to piss in me and then drink my pee, using my body to "distill" His piss. i find that really hot. It's not the piss i enjoy, it's Who it's from and what it means to drink His piss... and that would be straight from His cock.

it depends. i'm single, but i'm wired bottom with some sub thrown into the mix. Like others, if i don't cum, i get anxious, but that "anxious" for me can be channeled into my anxious need/desire to please a Top/Dom. i will edge to raise that anxious feeling and a savvy Top can use it to keep me in a ready state to please Him. Though it feels good to cum for me, i also experience disappointment loosing that edge and need to please for a little while. i vary where i will be cumming several times a day to edging and not cumming for 10 days or so... depends on who i am interacting with and the dynamic.

i think you make some good points. i see what you mean by the obligatory implication. Sort of akin to sending a "hi" or "wassup," where the writer puts the weight of a conversation on you. i also appreciate BootmanLA's observation of the obviously unread profile. It pisses me off when someone with no profile or pics asks to see my pics or asks me questions i've already answered in my profile.

i think the comparison between a "flasher in public" and someone "unlocking a bunch of rude pictures" (what constitutes "rude"?) on an electronic hook up site doesn't really work? Your avatar pic here is pretty flashy, and this is a discussion forum, not really a hook up site. Why is it "rude" for a guy to send you "a bunch of nude pics" on a gay site and not rude for you to have a nude avatar?

Andrew Scott, the Irish actor who plays Moriarty in the BBC’s series "Sherlock." Totally hot, and i am into cerebral, psychological stuff. Turns out he's gay too lol.

me too. i get it though (i think). i think the "negativity' often comes from guys who are tired of not having their profiles read. Kind of a bitch slap to a perfect stranger, an attempt to dissuade the 'wrong' guy. The effect if has on me is to question myself and wonder if it's possible to make the grade under the microscope?

LMAO. Brilliant!

^^^This^^^ i have long thought that one of the reasons many guys profiles are so short is they assume people already know who and how they are, it doesn't even occur to them that they have to tell people what they think and feel. It's egocentricity similar to the ethnocentricity that doesn't think, just acts as though everyone is as they are.