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In my experience, lying, flaking, can cross the populations boundaries. Despite efforts to the contrary (never had a ltr with a guy), most of my sex life has been anonymous hook up. i lost count long ago after 1000. i think the reality is, that as sex aps have become more mainstream, so have the people who populate them. I.e., it's not just the horny gay guys, but Bi guys who are curious, married, closeted, homophobic, kids, etc., etc. I.e., everyone and anyone can easily and anonymously access a sex ap. i don't think that the core gay community has changed so much as the people visiting and (sort of) participating has probably increased significantly. Before online meeting, one had to cruise a park or restroom or bar. There was risk inherent in cruising that many would never take. Online can be virtually risk free. i think the number of flakes, liars and money seekers has increased because there are people on sex aps that wouldn't be there without the opportunity that only a sex ap can bring. When i was cruising, there were times i'd encounter the shy, scared guy who was investigating his sexuality, but it was a lot rarer than online. No one ever asked for gas money because, hey, we were already both there. If they wanted money, they had to be pretty up front about it, and again, that was rare. And re disease or status? i cannot recall ever even discussing that when cruising. If he was concerned, the only common nod to STD's was the question of condoms. If i presented for fucking, some would ask if i had a condom, or they'd put one on. But the vast majority would slide in without hesitation.

woke up this morning with a wet spot on my bed, still leaking cum from 12 hours ago.

Eh, same Latino muscle boy as last time, this is the third time He's contacted me. He always comes a few times and a lot, i and so fucking creamy, my stomach is growling and i refuse to let it out. He is used to being mostly with women, kept asking me what i liked to do. i told him i am total bottom and was enjoying getting fucked. He asked me to suck for awhile , then wanted me on my knees so he could face fuck me. Lol, He's been watching porn i think. i was gagging and tearing, nose running, but took it. He wanted to fuck some more, so i asked Him if He wanted to fuck me with me on my back, legs up. He did, and came again pretty quickly that way. When he was showering, i mentioned that i have another fb who is interested in tag fucking me, also mentioned ws. He didn't know what that is lol, so i explained. He's shy and inexperienced, but kept asking, so i told him those things. i suspect he has fantasies he wants to try and is just hoping i'll hit on it or mind read. Either way, he's a sweet breed. very creamy right now.

lol, That's a scam i have encountered a lot, on all sorts of gay sites. i seems to me that it is one of a few scripts that all scammers seem to read from? At first, it totally cracked me up reading "looking for true love..." on a hookup site. i think the military angle is to justify the distance, these guys are probably scamming from a distant country. It does seem like it may be organized to some degree though, like it's not just some random guys scamming, but a group effort, which is why they all seem to be reading from the same script? Almost like a telemarketing organization.

^^^Haha, that's brilliant. i love this.^^^

This has been scientifically studied lol. Antibiotic prophylaxis does show some promise for preventing some STI's, but it's not a black or white conclusion. This from the Lancet medical journal: "Background Increased rates of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) have been reported among men who have sex with men. We aimed to assess whether post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) with doxycycline could reduce the incidence of STIs. Interpretation Doxycycline PEP reduced the occurrence of a first episode of bacterial STI in high-risk men who have sex with men." [think before following links] https://www.thelancet.com/journals/laninf/article/PIIS1473-3099(17)30725-9/fulltext

lol, sigh. One thing about most scammers is they seem to think everyone is stupid and that they are somehow the bright ones. i remember the first time someone tried to scam me, i was driving down the street and he literally chased after me with a gas can. i figured him for a scammer, but since he took initiative, i stopped. He asked for money, and i told him i had none, but i gave him a ride to a gas station. So funny, he didn't really want to go out of his way to an actual gas station, but at that point he felt trapped in his lie and had to go along with it.

i think one of the bigger blocks the gay community may have to seeing racism is that many (most?) individually do not want to be racist. i'd wager that most consider racism to be repugnant. i think for most, racism is just another form of ethnocentricity. I.e., a lot of racist notions are culturally programmed in as the 'norm,' with no negative connotation associated by the one who feels it's 'just normal.' i think the gay community could have a leg up on understanding this because, while being gay is not a race, we're a social minority that has been subjected to stereotyping and prejudice. For instance, i do not fit the stereotypes many have for a gay guy, so i have to tell people i'm gay if i want them to know. It also means i often inadvertently fly under the radar. In the break room, if people think they are among all straights, some let their true feelings and thoughts show about 'gay' people, not knowing that the person they are sharing those stereotypes with is gay. They are relating to their idea of a person rather than the actual person. i think that is why so much bias, prejudice, persists. A lot of time we don't see it for what it is because we know we don't want to be prejudiced. But not wanting to be something is not equal to not being that. We can also do reverse bias/stereotyping where our stereotype has what we consider a positive association. We don't think of it aa a stereotype because we have a positive association with it. For example: "Big Black Cock" (BBC). In the gay community, having a big cock is generally a good thing, so many look at the term "BBC" as a compliment, and "hey, i'm not prejudiced, i have lots of black friends." One may have black friends, but does one have friends who happen to be black?

Well, there was a do over after the flood, and the Jewish people (decendents of Shem, son of Noah) didn't arive till later when Abraham purportedly left Ur of Chaldea. It's pretty interesting to compare the "Law of Moses" to the Code of Hammurabi that predated it by about 300 years. Some argue Moses copied it. The notion that God created other people would kinda throw a monkey wrench into Christianity though, either that or the additionally created people would also have to have 'fallen' by eating from the "tree of life" and in order for all to have been born into "sin."

i think it's awesome any time someone finds love and connection. i came out of a very conservative religious background, where i think most of these types of negative rules and attitudes come from, and in many cases became the 'social norm.' When i stepped away from my religious beliefs, it wasn't just rebellion, it was a long process of looking, examine, questioning. What i personally came to was i could discern no 'God" who had made all these rules, but just a bunch of people saying "God" had made these rules. And there's all sorts of holes in their sources. For instance, christianity draws from the bible as an authoritative source. Christianity is a long time source for [banned word] re incest, yet the bible is full of stories of family members marrying family. The story of creation is supposedly God created just Adam and Eve, who had kids... but where did everyone else come from lol. If there was only Adam and Eve to start out, then incest would have had to be the rule 'in the beginning.' Once i left religion, i pretty much lost a lot of my [banned word] boundaries. Basically, i live by a code of do no harm. Religion aside, one of the (major i think) challenges of relationship is compatibility, if you have that with someone you have lived with most of your life, what is the rationale for disregarding that to follow a social norm? The only scientific reason i can see against incest would be the DNA issues, but two guys are not reproducing as a result of sex, so that isn't a factor. As you describe it, i see no "line."

i so agree with You. Often we meet on hook up sites, so our hormones are ramped and we're (usually) all horny. Probably anything all the time would get routine and boring, to me the D/s, Top/bottom dynamic is not so much about always being on, but where we go when we are on. i also agree romantic partners break up when the two fall in love with an idea instead of the person. i think i often get rejected by "doms' because i just don't see it as text book, written in stone way of living. To me, that isn't living, it's conforming to a rule, or idea vs writing our own rules and living out our reality. Sure, we have to know each others basic nature, but that's a foundation to build on, not an already established structure. To me, part of the thrill of it all is the power to evoke and turn on that opposites have with each other, not that they are always and already turned on or evoked. Some of my fantasies revolve around me or my partner being asleep, and one or the other has need and knows they have the freedom with the other to fulfill their need. if im asleep, i'm obviously not "on," but i can easily imagine my Top waking me by pressing His cock into me and whispering into my ear "i want your pussy." Pretty sure He'd turn me on lol. And reversing that, Him waking up to find His cock in my mouth... might have the effect of turning Him on. Both require communication and fore knowledge of the other (an advantage to relationship) where each has learned the other and knows where their 'on' switches are. That doesn't happen in a lot of hook up situations because the communication and knowledge of the other just isn't there. i think when trust is built, then openness and vulnerability are more available (though, sadly, i think a lot of ltr never get there).

This all makes sense to me. i don't disparage role play, i just cannot do it, i cannot get past the pretend element. The guy that regressed me was like magic for me, but really He was just being Himself and i lucked out because who He was attached to something in me i didn't even know was there. If He's said to me, "pretend your a boy sucking my cock," that would have actually ended up being a barrier for me. Instead, He simply related to me as a "good boy" sucking HIs cock and i was. It wasn't pretend or role play, i emotionally became exactly what He wanted/needed, and it wasn't role play or pretend, it was already there and He tapped into it. i've experienced similar stuff with feminization. i am not the least bit fem, have no desire to be a woman or dress up like one (not saying that's 'bad', just not me). But i've had Tops/Doms who just treat me that way. I.e., want me to wear lace panties, call my penis a clit or my ass a pussy. Saying and using those words in a matter of fact way, no pretend or role play, that's just how they see me, and just like the "good boy," it surfaces something in me that is not usually evident. It's not like i start acting fem at that point either, but i do have a clit and an pussy at that point, and there is nothing role play about it on an emotional/psychological level for me. It's as real as it gets, and that realness makes the idea of role play less appealing to me.

Personally, i don't like "role play" and will not engage in it (which is not a criticism of those who do). i just cannot get into acting out something. Chances are, if i want/need it, it is not an act, a role or play for me, it's real. And, as find91 notes "can bring up deep issues." Frankly, i think the notion of (or desire for) role play generally derives from deep issues, and is why people seek it out in the first place. It strikes me as a sort of work around those issues vs a head on acknowledgement of them. And i don't use "issues" in a negative sense here. i'd probably use the phrase "deep need/desire" instead of "issue." i've been regressed before and it was one of the most erotic and profound experiences of my life. There was no discussion ahead of time, no attempt at producing that result from a role play scenario, the Dom simply saw me and knew how to regress me to being a "good boy." It was so fucking real too, something i may never have experienced had He suggested i play the role of a "boy." Intellectually, it would have seemed silly to me, i didn't even know it was in me, but He surfaced it in me, 'collared' me, influenced and controlled me with it. The power of it was there was no role play at all, He knew it was real and demonstrated the realness of it to me too.

i don't think that is lame, it's just who you are and i believe there is NOTHING wrong or lame about that. You identify as versatile bottom, so you're not as far toward bottom as some of us on the scale. i'm pretty far to the bottom side, with some sub thrown in. i'm not obsessed with having a gaping or prolapsing hole, it's not something i try to do to myself. But i am deeply turned on by the idea of a Top gaping and even prolapsing my hole. i read find91's posts about having a weakness for a bottoms hole prolapsing around His cock as He penetrates them, and i am instantly collared lol. For me, a Top opening and molding my hole is part of the breeding process. Being bred for me is a way of taking possession and opening and molding my hole, effecting and changing it is a form of impregnation, a way a Top leaves a part of Himself in me. i am especially turned on and drawn to Tops who mold me without my necessarily knowing that they are doing it. For instance, i had a Top FB who slowly and purposefully opened and changed my hole over a fairly long period (a year and a half), doing it subtley and gradually to where i didn't realize what He was doing until He'd already gone along way towards accomplishing His desire. It wasn't mean or even devious, He read me well and knew that i needed/wanted that as much as He did. It was pretty perfect symbiosis, which i consider the ideal of Top/bottom, Dom/sub, i.e., complimentary opposites.

This morning. Regular FB who has my phone number and texts me. i have an arrangement with Him where i don't say "can't," so i drop whatever I'm doing and am available spontaneously... which means it's a BJ half the time if He doesn't want me to take the time to prep. But hay, i'm a cocksucker too, and always happy to take a load down my throat even though i prefer being bred. Hard times spmetimes call for sacrifice.

just watched Captains America. OMG, His ass. Holy fuck. Incredible ass.

just now. Two loads from a sweet 20 year old Hispanic muscle boy, He apologized that He only had two loads in Him, what a babe. i was only the second guy He's ever fucked and i had to explain to Him about clean out, but He waited for me and did an anonymous walk in with me. His loads are deep inside making my gut growl, they must of been big loads because they are trying to get out... not chance of that happening, He's gonna be a part of me.

wow, i love this community. Some great responses here. Fuck i love men.

i'm a total bottom and personally relate a bottoms hole for penetration (be it rimming or any other expression of penetration). For my particular wiring (and i know this is personal, not universal), rimming is a Top, penetrative activity... like "eating pussy," and in my experience something more than a few Tops get into as a prelude to breeding me. Awesome. Having said that, i fucking love a Mans ass. Men's asses drive me wild, which has always struck me as ironic given my bottom predilection. i do love to hold, maul, massage, pet, kiss and lay my head on a mans ass, in addition to simply gawking at it in lust and wonder. Rimming is not something i aspire to, or have an independent desire to do, but i have rimmed some smooth boy asses that had me otherwise hypnotized.

Thanks for your thoughts here, they gave me pause. i'm one of those guys who writes a book for a profile (though i am getting better). When someone approaches me with just a "Hi" or "sup," i go to their profile. If there is nothing there, for me, there is already an imbalance. It's hard for me to imagine someone is just randomly approaching strangers. I.e., the person saying "Hi" or "sup," is likely responding to something about my profile-a pic or something i wrote. If their profile is empty, i cannot respond in kind. When i have bitten and responded in kind with a mirror "hi" or "sup," or "fine," the next question is often "what are you looking for" or "what do you like" or "how are you," i don't know that i have ever gotten a "real opener" after that? Someone like You would be the exception for me. I suspect it would go differently between us though because my guess is that when i went to your profile, i'd find some of You there and would then be able to show interest because there is someone presenting something other than an otherwise invisible "hi?"

i never got into asking, it always felt awkward and contrived for me. i think it can also be a 50/50 gamble to show neediness. For some, neediness is a turn off, a lot of Tops want the conquest. in cruising places, i simply present. i lower my shorts enough to show some ass. i'm not overt, more subtle, but any horny guy on the prowl is going to notice presented ass lol, i've gotten a lot of cock that way and it's fucking hot when a Top comes up behind and wordlessly lowers my shorts and just slides in. When i lived in VA there was a cruisy park where i would get bred on a bridge at dusk and as it got darker. i'd stand on the bridge leaning a little bent over ostensibly looking out at the water. When i'd see a guy getting ready to walk past, i'd lower my shorts enough to show the top of my ass, without looking back. If i heard Him pause to look, i'd lower them a little more to encourage Him that He was seeing what He was seeing. It was an awesome way to fuck.

It's been a couple of years, but i found Hawks in Vegas to be disappointing. According to their web site , they are re-opening today 8/1/20. i'd give them a try, Covid may result in a lot of horny men at the baths, or not. i could see it going either way. i didn't see or experience a lot of action when i went, but the facility is nice enough though. They also had a location in Portland OR that was decent at times, but the landlord didn't give a break during shutdown from Covid, so they had to close after 10 years there, they are re-opening at another location however. i got most of my action in Vegas using all the usual aps and doing walk in. The hotels on the strip are all close together and a lot of horny guys, the only thing is you have to find a hotel that doesn't have security guarding the elevators. Some hotels require a key card to get into the room section of the hotel. i considered staying a sleazy joint, like the Travel Lodge just off the strip, that has outside access to rooms. i imagine that good be a way to go, but possibly not as safe as the bigger indoor hotels.

The shoes or the slink? ❤️

Ha, if the US adopts this (not holding my breath), it could be a boon for struggling sex shops. i can see the religious right jumping all over this and claiming that Covid is (yet another) 'judgement from God." But practically speaking, it could be helpful. As a healthcare provider who takes care of Covid patients, i'm not convinced this has been well thought out though. We are just starting to get science on Covid. Studies take time and results are starting to filter in and be published for peer review/scrutiny. Sex shops are not known for their pristine cleanliness. The 'booths' with glory holes are small and not well ventilated (Covid patient rooms are negative air pressure, i.e., the air is always being sucked out of the room). Right now, we treat Covid as "droplet precautions" and some argue that should be "air born precautions." With droplet precautions, one gowns up, mask, face shield and gloves. Points of pathogenic entry are considered mouth, eyes and nose. But Covid is a virus, it could theoretically enter other openings, e.g. anally. The anus/rectum is just the far end of the digestive tract beginning with the mouth... a known point of entry. We do not know if one can catch Covid from surfaces. According to the CDC: "The primary and most important mode of transmission for COVID-19 is through close contact from person-to-person. Based on data from lab studies on COVID-19 and what we know about similar respiratory diseases, it may be possible that a person can get COVID-19 by touching a surface or object that has the virus on it and then touching their own mouth, nose, or possibly their eyes, but this isn’t thought to be the main way the virus spreads." [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2020/s0522-cdc-updates-covid-transmission.html These guys apparently haven't spent a lot of time in booths at sex shops. Spit abounds. The guy who's cock you may be sucking could have his or anothers spit on it from him jacking or another sucking him prior to you. The surfaces of the booth are potentially covered with the Covid pathogen. in a Covid hospital room at our hospital, protocol is to disinfect every surface three times a shift... that's six times in 24 hours. And that's an isolation room. The only ones in the room are the patient and the care giver with all the PPE. A sex shop doesn't currently come close to anything approximating precautions. They have potential for 'safer sex,' but not as they currently opperate. Studies are needed lol.