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I'm not saying that providing the date of the last negative test would guarantee an HIV-negative guy but at least it provides more information. A level of "piggyness" (number of partners, anon/non-anon) since the last HIV-neg test would also help. Having sex with somebody who tested negative in 1999 but no sex since may be safer than with a guy who tested negative 2 months ago but who is a cumslut (high level of piggyness). Just more information that would allow guys to make the decision to go bareback. Not full proof, but better that what we have now.

There are profiles of versatile-bottom guys that describe how much they like getting fucked and bred deep, but they never describe their versatile side. By reading these profiles one has the impression that his Role is Bottom because of the total disregard for his top side, but in fact they describe themselves as Versatile-Bottom. It makes sense to me to read profiles of versatile guys who are into flipping, or tops who describe how much they like to fuck, or bottoms talking about getting bred. But I always wonder about those versatile-bottom guys who describe themselves as total bottoms. What triggers their versatility? For some versatile-bottoms toping may be just a way to get off, not worth mentioning in the profile. The type of bottom who spends the night at the sauna getting bred but who looks for a hole to quickly breed so they can go home. I recognize these ones because their fucking doesn't last long, a few strokes, cream my hole and they are gone. What else other than being horny could trigger versatility in those who describe themselves as total bottoms but their role says versatile-bottom?

I go for displaying HIV status. Other than Negative, Positive, Undetectable I like "Don't Care" because it says nothing about HIV-status. I've always thought that HIV-status "Negative" should be accompanied by the date of last HIV negative test result. Negative by itself is very incomplete.

The fact that one has to, by law, disclose your HIV status is one of the reasons I don't wish I were poz. At the same time I don't blame poz guys who have sex in darkrooms and gloryholes or who even lie about their status when having sex in these anon settings (darkrooms, gloryholes, saunas). There has to be places where poz guys can free themselves from having to discuss their status and can just get into breeding or getting their holes bred.

When you remind a guy don't ask "Are you clean" and instead say "I expect a clean hole". I don't get fucked unless I can be sure my hole will be clean for the whole fuck. And sometimes I wonder if one of the reasons I don't top may be the fear of finding shit in my cock. Huge turn-off! I've had very long term fuck buddies and the reason for them coming back may be that they are guaranteed a clean hole.

I love sex in darker places because guys become more uninhibited. But I find that most saunas don't know how to offer good darker places for sex. If I owned a sauna I would offer rooms and play area in a darker side where most lights are off but also rooms and play areas in a more illuminated area. I've been in saunas where they have 3-4 public slings and all of them in well illuminated areas, none in a dark corner. The most popular sauna in Santiago, Chile, is called "282" (dos-ocho-dos). This place gets real crowded on weekend nights, so crowded that when all lockers are sold out customers place their belongings in a bag and hand it back to the staff. There's one "dark room" on the second floor with a very large matt which is basically full of guys sleeping because there are hardly any rooms for rent. The most popular places for sex are a hallway on the 2nd and 3rd floors, which are semi dark and most guys congregate, even get fucked. Why doesn't the sauna offer better dark rooms when it's obvious that many guys would use these dark places? Not to mention the fire traps that guys congregating on the 2nd and 3rd floor create. I'm sure that more guys like sex in dark places that are willing to admit. Others are too picky and don't wanna to just have sex with just anyone.

I don't use poppers and I have never used them but I started to buy them for my "guests" in my room at the sauna. As yunghungtop says: ...I have noticed that it really helps guys who are toping to either get a hard-on or go over the edge. I love when I'm getting furiously fucked and the top stops for one last sniff and I know I'm getting my hole bred.

I found several of the comments interesting. I agree that in most sexual events (sauna, parties, etc.) bottoms seem to outnumber tops but although I'm a mature bottom I always end up taking a few loads. One explanation could be that many of the bottoms after taking a few loads they turn into tops, look for a hole to breed so they can go home. These could be the bottom-versatile guys. In terms which are the best cities to be a bottom? The best may be the ones mentioned here that culturally make being a bottom less of a man, such a the Middle East and even South America.

As one gets older it becomes harder to find guys to have sex with. Although I've had it good so far in my early 60's and I am able to find guys to have sex with, there are LOTS of guys who only prefer younger guys. But that's something one has to accept. After all we all had our young and heavens knows what we did with it.

Yeah, in Spanish is said as "a pelo" which means on the horse's hair, no saddle: Bareback.

That's what darkrooms and gloryholes in sex clubs are for. If I were poz that's where I would go so I wouldn't have to discuss HIV status.

What I find interesting in his "coming out" story is that he has never said anything about being gay or bi or anything. In my opinion, a man's sexual life should be a journey from the inner, and outwards: (1) First, masturbation, exploring his body and sex with himself (2) Then, sex with other men, exploring other male bodies and sex with them. Be able to compare cock size. (3) And then, optionally, sex with women if the man feels the need for it or if he wants to have children. But the belief in the concept of Sexual Orientation forces men to have sex with women in order to qualify as "normal". So then women have to fulfil needs that should have been fulfilled in step 2 by contact with other men: Is my cock big compared to other men? How far can I shoot my cum compared to other men? Rather than thinking of men as gay, bi or straight I see some men as having the guts to explore sex with other men and others as too ashamed to even try it. I would not describe Tom Daley as gay but rather as a man who has the guts to defy society and try step 2, which is exploring and having sex with other men. Too bad he first skipped step 2 and tried step 3 first. He may have never had sex with any of his female dates, who knows. But whether he did have sex with his female dates or not, he's still young and will be able to repair the damage of having had skipped this very fundamental step in a man's sexual life: the encounter of the self projected onto another man's body. What's traditionally called "gay sex". I accept being gay, straight, or bisexual, but only as a self identity. Anybody has the right to self identify as gay but nobody has the right to impose any self identity on anybody. In this case, to say that Tom Daley is gay (or bi) makes no sense because he hasn't said it. Because we live in a world that explains all sexual behavior using "Sexual Orientation", many men who are going through Step 2 feel forced to take on the gay identity, after in this case, the Media starts talking about his as being gay.

I don't like screaming bottoms because they sound like women. Men talk dirty.

From the point of view of the 3rd top, who "only knew how to fuck hard", you may have failed as a bottom. He maybe wanted to fuck you for half an hour before he shot his load, and nothing wrong with that. I"m sure many bottoms would enjoy a top who likes to "fuck hard" and fuck for a long time.

Some guys may consider themselves "tops" because they have no interest in being fucked and even not interest in sucking a cock. But that doesn't make them Superman. If a guy can't get a hard-on I can always suck his cock and maybe then he'll get it hard, or just enjoy sucking him. No need to get angry.

I don't like bottoms who moan or scream too much. As a bottom I prefer to talk dirty to the guy fucking me. I find that any moaning or screaming coming from the top is so much hotter than anything coming from the bottom, so in my porn screaming bottoms irritate me because I can't clearly hear the top.

My fantasies never include poz cum so after reading some of the latest posts on the thread "Poz guys - Any Regrets?" I've been thinking more about a fantasy I have. I would like to be part of a group of men, call it a club, where each member is committed to only having sex with other members of this club. Members are monitored by trained counsellors and medical staff. Therefore, when participating in events like gang-bangs or sex parties the members can be sure that everyone in the event has been appropriately tested for all STIs. Obviously, it would cost quite a lot of money to be part of such club because active members would have to be continuously monitored by professionals.

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I'm a total bottom but because I have a nice cock and I'm masculine many men assume I'm a top. Which turns out to be OK because I find that guys like fucking masculine men. I have never enjoyed the couple of times I've topped. For some reason I really enjoy getting fucked by other "bottoms" who get horny enough that they decide to fuck and breed a hole.

I don't know if you are referring to: I agree with NHSoccerjock if the fuck takes place at a sauna or another anonymous sex place where everything goes.

If I'm at a gloryhole (my own or at a sauna/sex club) I'm happy just sucking an swallowing loads and I don't feel the need to get fucked/bred. Obviously, if someone asks me to turn around I do because I enjoy getting fucked at a gloryhole too. But if it's not at a gloryhole I prefer to just suck if the top requests it, but the load I like it up my hole.

I don't let anyone fuck me with a condom...I just don't enjoy it and I prefer not to get fucked. But nowadays most guys don't insist on wearing a condom. I once met at the sauna a guy with whom I've had work meetings as we both worked for the same Agency. I was on the sling, he recognized me and he wanted to fuck me, but with a condom. I told him that I don't get fucked with condoms, but after having left my room, he came back, fucked me bareback on the sling, gave me his load and left the room. Many tops, even if they say they only fuck safe, fuck bareback.

A cum sloppy hole is what sometimes takes for some 100% bottoms to turn into tops for that one time.

I personally don't like the idea of a "tight hole". When I'm getting fucked I use my ass muscles but just occasionally and that way I explore what the tops enjoys most. Some tops prefer a looser hole and that way thy an last longer. Tighter is not always better. And once I notice that the top is ready to shoot his load I don't like to "milk his cock" and instead I prefer to open up my hole and let the top dig in deeper if he wants more friction.

Me too. But I'm also aware that men have a lot of different erotic/sexual needs and fetishes that can only be experienced in places like a sauna. A guy may have the need to walk around amongst other men naked showing his big hard-on with absolutely no interest in another guy touching or sucking his cock. His "trip" may just be to be able to show his big cock to other men, something he cannot do anywhere else without being judged. In a sauna I can reach over an touch another man's cock without being accused of assault, a freedom I don't have anywhere else. Basically, we have no choice but to accept that not everyone is into our sexual scenarios, which is true also when it comes to barebacking.