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Another springs to mind... finding a very prolific and successful bottom guy who agrees to make me his apprentice. Of course this is fantasy because what bottom would ever give away the chance to get a load to his apprentice, but the idea of being whored out by another guy - who is in control - appeals immensely.

I have been tempted by G-Star Raw's t-shirts that say "RAW" in various styles on the chest. I'm going to pick one up at their shop in Ku'damm this week. There's a guy that runs a photography blog Fro Knows Photo - he's pretty irritating to watch - but he sells merchandise including t-shirts and hoodies that say "I always shoot RAW".

Surprised to hear the comment about having your passport taken away if arrested - is that really a thing in the US/Canada? I'm lucky to live near some pretty active cruising spaces in the UK. Hampstead Heath is still the best and busiest but the apps have had an effect and it did used to be busier. It's not unusual to find leather guys, rubber guys, worker guys etc up there. No problems with the police these days, but I think guys have learned to be discrete. Lesser known provincial spots attract different guys - more "straight" guys looking for something on their way home or at lunchtime. They're great if you like blue-collar type guys. Some of my more local spots seem to go through periods of activity, get popular then attract unwanted attention - and not just outraged locals - a couple of years back we had problems with gaybashers turning up when spots become notorious, then the authorities step in and cut back the bushes, restrict parking or put patrols in which kills the fun and then everyone moves to another place as there are four or five good cruising patches around. I enjoy the 'hunt' when out cruising and the apps take that away. Its sad when you go out cruising and a guy is so absorbed in his smartphone that he doesn't notice guys around him paying him attention. As for cruising on the street i can't remember the last time I had a guy make eye contact as you pass each other and do the walk two paces and turn back to look thing - does this still happen?

The answer to the OP's question seems to be "Berlin" but I have a question to USA based guys... I have a load of Airmiles on Virgin Atlantic I need to use before they expire Dec 2018. Was thinking of doing a trip to the USA but I've not been for a few years now. Avoiding the big parties like MAL etc. where is the best place to spend a few days and find lots of BB action and a good fetish scene?

I think what I like about Berlin is the acceptance. Apart from BB, I have various fetish interests - mostly around boots sneakers socks and feet, and if I indulge them in a bar or club in Berlin (not necessarily a specialist fetish place) then there is usually no reaction from onlookers - or if I'm lucky others will show an interest too. Try that in London outside a specialist club and you get people pointing, mocking outrage and laughing. In berlin, it seems almost everything is accepted and people are much less judgmental.

Horse fair is December 16th which is before I get there.

I bought my ticket for the Biohazardmen Party this December and can't wait to go. It should be awesome. I quite like the smaller BB parties at places like Stahlrohr, Scheune or Bose Buben that you see advertised in Siegessaule or Barebackfucker online. The bigger parties - especially at Folsom and Easter seem to suffer from being too busy as guys seem be caught up in the possibility that someone prettier will be along in a minute. The smaller ones seem to be a bit more friendly have more local guys, fewer tourists and have a higher number of loads for me.

Last June when I was in Berlin guys with PAs seemed to be a theme. Two of the best and most memorable fucks from that weekend were from guys with PAs. I loved the feeling of the steel pressing against my hole prior to penetration and once inside it felt awesome. Not at all painful but neither were big gage PAs. Now if I see someone wearing a PA, they're top of my list. On another occasion a guy at SOP in London wanted to piss up my ass... and like some guys found pissing when hard a bit tricky, but he had a PA and it kinda worked like an anchor keeping him inside even though as he was pissing he was getting soft. I'd love to find someone with a PA and a Ladder to see how that feels... any volunteers? I am cautious when sucking off guys with PAs as it might be easy to cause damage if things get a bit rough. If I wasn't so squeamish about needles I've have a PA and a guiche.

A couple spring to mind: first would be to seek out a prolific load taker at a party like biohazardmen or cumunion, wait until the end when he is full of cum and well fucked, and convince him to fuck me using the mix from his ass as lube. Taking his load knowing how many loads he’s taken would be awesome. second revolves around hard and rough fucks from specific guys, like Pigboy Ruben (Ruben Litzky) in sleazy locations. I am sure it’s the product of watching too many Cazzo videos but being the plaything of a gang of Skinheads or Punks is also on the list. Specifically getting fucked while down worshipping their boots would be fine.

Quite often happens at SOP at Central Station in London. The piss pool is good to get multiple streams: I recall getting piss fucked by a hot bear with a PA while three guys soaked us.

I will also be in Berlin from 26th Dec - 3rd Jan and I'm looking forward to it - hope to see you there.

Lloyd’s pharmacy online doctor allows you to order it online and collect from their pharmacies, mines in the local Sainsbury’s supermarket. It isn’t cheap but it is the genuine stuff.

See http://mobil.siegessaeule.de/en/todays-events/event-detail.html?sislistelements[termin]=29479&sislistelements[caldate]=20171112&cHash=e1cb308070a7e00009d135e9a6f0f391

There no shower, but as a regular there and faced with a commute home here’s what I do: 1. take a complete change in clothes including shoes to wear clean home. 2. Take a small towel. I rinse my face and hair in the bathroom sink before changing when it’s time to go home. 3. Take a black bin bag to put wet clothes and shoes in so your backpack or whatever doesn’t get dirty 4. I’m not usually a fan of scents except natural man scents but Lynx body spray/deodorant spray works well to mask any remaining aroma if someone sits next to you on the train home 5. Wash your gear out when you get home ASAP as piss has a way of dissolving adhesive in sneakers and they kinda fall apart (Nike TN especially) if left for a day or two unwashed. 6, alcohol hand gel for you hands if you get the munchies on the way home.

Maybe a few of us should get together and arrange a meet there?

Hey guys - have you got the right dates? According to blf.de Skinweekend is the weekend of 3/4/5th November not 7-12th november. As it happens I'll be there 9-13th - Sportlads@Stahlrohr, Snax Sports Party@laboratory, Berlin Bastards (BB) @ Stahlrohr. Andy

Yup I’m there. Also doing Sportlads at Stahlrohr the day before and Berlin Bastards on the Sunday.

Always nice to find a new venue... I saw an ad for this place and wondered if anyone has been? Interested to know what sort of crowd goes and how busy it is for BB. Www.menspleasurepark.com

Don't forget SOP is also on Tuesday nights - I've not been in a while as I have a regular commitment on Tuesdays but from what I remember it was a little less busy but more intense than the Sunday.

Yup I really like SOP. I like the friendly atmosphere there - lots of horny action, but also some really nice guys and no attitude. I’m there most Sundays and usually put an event on BBRT but it never gets much interest on there.

Wow I was on IRC in the early nineties on EFNET - I owe thanks to the supportive community on there when I was coming out. I remember many late nights in front of a text only terminal in the uni library chatting with guys across the world. The primary U.K. university channel was #ukpoofs and we had many Meetup’s and parties all over the uk. There were a lot of chat channels for all kinds of interests and I met some nice and interesting guys in my formative years on line and in real life through IRC. I also remember Lintilla which was a multi user text based adventure thing. There were various worlds to explore and the gay one was popular. You could explore and chat to guys and earn points to your profile which unlocked various abilities like being able to lock a room for privacy or kick out a troll. Chat was of the horny one handed typing variety... and led to some sticky situations in the library and computer centre at uni.

I think every sauna or cruise club has someone like this. I've given up with the typical british passive aggressive responses as it rarely works and will directly confront people and challenge bad behaviour in these situations. Most are really shocked you call them out. It works best if others are present to witness it rather than 1-2-1. In UK saunas talking in a public cruise space is kinda taboo so if you call someone out there in front of others the effect is quite magnified and it scores you points with others who might be thinking the same thing. Some modify their behaviour and some just avoid me - which is totally fine.

I much prefer meeting in clubs and saunas to online as the websites and apps seem to be so full of flakes. That said there are aspects of different sites that are good. I like the way you can leave "reviews" of encounters on Squirt so you can see if someone is a player or a fantasist easily. I like the way I can easily find guys into similar fetishes on Recon. Planet Romeo / Gayromeo has a features where escort profiles are flagged and you can switch them off or specifically search for an escort if that's your thing. I think the key to a site aimed at this community is to somehow make it exclusive to keep the tourists and one handed typists out. Some kind of reputation score would work ?

I'm looking at getting a sling to use at home. I'm after something well made that can be erected and put away when necessary. I'm considering whether to put some fixings in the ceiling (from joists in the attic) to hang a sling from or buy something with a frame or even make something myself. So... guys who own slings - any advice on what to go for? What works well and what doesn't? Any recommendations (particularly in the UK/EU) ? I've had someone advise me to replace chains with rope to make it quieter (I live in an apartment, so loud noise is an issue) which was something I didn't think of. A.

An interesting and honest post, Rawdawg13. A lot of what you say chimes with me... I've always been been a bit shy and self-conscious. It means I'm reluctant to take my shirt off in a club. If I'm in a play space I am more often in the periphery than the centre. When I saw friends and playmates getting far more action I took a long hard look at why and all I could conclude was a matter of attitude. Let me give an example: If I saw someone I liked in a cruising place - I might admire from across the room - edge closer - see if there's any body language or if he's noticed me - pick up courage what to do or say - and by the time I've made an approach I usually get a rebuttal or he's moved on and interested in someone else. I watched how my friend Marcus worked similar situations: he was really direct. No messing - straight in there, often on his knees! So I decided to try that approach and yes sometimes you get refused but the success rate was so much higher. In my case it just needed a bit of courage and getting over the possibility of rejection. I also looked at how more prolifically successful guys worked the clubs and saunas and in terms of group action they were not afraid to push their way into the centre of an active group and get stuck in. Guys like me watched from the outside and hoped that another guy on the outside might be interested. So I changed my behaviour again and became more assertive in groups to stay in the 'eye of the storm' and be actively involved. These things didn't come naturally to me - they still take effort - and are a little easier after a beer. The final hurdle was the taking your shirt off thing. I remember going to Cumunion when it was in The Flying Dutchman in London, and was wearing a jock and t-shirt. The guy running the event was chatting to me at the bar and tried very hard to convince me to un-shirt. I did and it made me very self conscious that first time - so much that it showed in my attitude and affected my success. A week later I was at SOP in Central Station and the barman there I knew said much the same thing - you should take your shirt off and show off your hairy chest - so I did. This time I felt less self conscious and got more attention. The next time it didn't bother me at all and it helped a lot. The other thing I've noticed is to make your stamp on a place early. If I play early-on in a place where other guys can observe then others who are interested seem to come forwards more readily during the rest of the evening. I've noticed other guys do this - play with someone they know and make an impression early on... So for me it's a journey - I'm constantly looking at how guys who are seemingly less good looking but more prolific in the scene behave and adapting my behaviour - even if it takes me out of my comfort zone. Good luck Andy