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Wow I was on IRC in the early nineties on EFNET - I owe thanks to the supportive community on there when I was coming out. I remember many late nights in front of a text only terminal in the uni library chatting with guys across the world. The primary U.K. university channel was #ukpoofs and we had many Meetup’s and parties all over the uk. There were a lot of chat channels for all kinds of interests and I met some nice and interesting guys in my formative years on line and in real life through IRC. I also remember Lintilla which was a multi user text based adventure thing. There were various worlds to explore and the gay one was popular. You could explore and chat to guys and earn points to your profile which unlocked various abilities like being able to lock a room for privacy or kick out a troll. Chat was of the horny one handed typing variety... and led to some sticky situations in the library and computer centre at uni.

I think every sauna or cruise club has someone like this. I've given up with the typical british passive aggressive responses as it rarely works and will directly confront people and challenge bad behaviour in these situations. Most are really shocked you call them out. It works best if others are present to witness it rather than 1-2-1. In UK saunas talking in a public cruise space is kinda taboo so if you call someone out there in front of others the effect is quite magnified and it scores you points with others who might be thinking the same thing. Some modify their behaviour and some just avoid me - which is totally fine.

I much prefer meeting in clubs and saunas to online as the websites and apps seem to be so full of flakes. That said there are aspects of different sites that are good. I like the way you can leave "reviews" of encounters on Squirt so you can see if someone is a player or a fantasist easily. I like the way I can easily find guys into similar fetishes on Recon. Planet Romeo / Gayromeo has a features where escort profiles are flagged and you can switch them off or specifically search for an escort if that's your thing. I think the key to a site aimed at this community is to somehow make it exclusive to keep the tourists and one handed typists out. Some kind of reputation score would work ?

I'm looking at getting a sling to use at home. I'm after something well made that can be erected and put away when necessary. I'm considering whether to put some fixings in the ceiling (from joists in the attic) to hang a sling from or buy something with a frame or even make something myself. So... guys who own slings - any advice on what to go for? What works well and what doesn't? Any recommendations (particularly in the UK/EU) ? I've had someone advise me to replace chains with rope to make it quieter (I live in an apartment, so loud noise is an issue) which was something I didn't think of. A.

An interesting and honest post, Rawdawg13. A lot of what you say chimes with me... I've always been been a bit shy and self-conscious. It means I'm reluctant to take my shirt off in a club. If I'm in a play space I am more often in the periphery than the centre. When I saw friends and playmates getting far more action I took a long hard look at why and all I could conclude was a matter of attitude. Let me give an example: If I saw someone I liked in a cruising place - I might admire from across the room - edge closer - see if there's any body language or if he's noticed me - pick up courage what to do or say - and by the time I've made an approach I usually get a rebuttal or he's moved on and interested in someone else. I watched how my friend Marcus worked similar situations: he was really direct. No messing - straight in there, often on his knees! So I decided to try that approach and yes sometimes you get refused but the success rate was so much higher. In my case it just needed a bit of courage and getting over the possibility of rejection. I also looked at how more prolifically successful guys worked the clubs and saunas and in terms of group action they were not afraid to push their way into the centre of an active group and get stuck in. Guys like me watched from the outside and hoped that another guy on the outside might be interested. So I changed my behaviour again and became more assertive in groups to stay in the 'eye of the storm' and be actively involved. These things didn't come naturally to me - they still take effort - and are a little easier after a beer. The final hurdle was the taking your shirt off thing. I remember going to Cumunion when it was in The Flying Dutchman in London, and was wearing a jock and t-shirt. The guy running the event was chatting to me at the bar and tried very hard to convince me to un-shirt. I did and it made me very self conscious that first time - so much that it showed in my attitude and affected my success. A week later I was at SOP in Central Station and the barman there I knew said much the same thing - you should take your shirt off and show off your hairy chest - so I did. This time I felt less self conscious and got more attention. The next time it didn't bother me at all and it helped a lot. The other thing I've noticed is to make your stamp on a place early. If I play early-on in a place where other guys can observe then others who are interested seem to come forwards more readily during the rest of the evening. I've noticed other guys do this - play with someone they know and make an impression early on... So for me it's a journey - I'm constantly looking at how guys who are seemingly less good looking but more prolific in the scene behave and adapting my behaviour - even if it takes me out of my comfort zone. Good luck Andy

I think what works well depends on the area. Where I live - outside London in the countryside - all the apps are a bit thin for local fun. Maybe 10 guys within 1 mile on Grindr or Scruff and its always the same 10 guys... So I tend to use BBRT as it is a little more focused on what I am after and have to travel 20-30 miles to meet guys as they tend not to want to travel themselves. There does seem to be a high amount of flakes and like 100 bottoms for every 1 top. When I am travelling - particularly in Berlin - BBRT seems to pick up mostly other travellers as the locals seem to prefer GayRomeo (very popular in mainland europe) and a german bareback hook site (I forget the name). I've not had any luck with nastykinkpigs or squirt in the UK. Although squirt is useful for finding cruising spots. Recon is good for more fetish oriented guys. Grindr and BBRT are much better in central london where there is a higher density of people but there are still a lot of flakes. By far the best way in the UK and EU seems to be to go to clubs, parties and bathhouses/saunas. Nothing beats old school cruising for success. Parties like CumUnion, SOP and venues like Central Station and The Vault in London are far more successful for finding like minded horny guys for fun. In the summer Hampstead Heath too. Guys seem to be a bit more open to versatility in person, where as on the apps they seem focused on 'bottom only'. I might augment physically visiting a place by advertising on BBRT that I'm going but have never knowingly benefitted from doing so. It intrigues me when I read on here about people posting ads online or in apps and getting a dozen guys show up to breed them. Does this really happen? Talking to UK based friends I can't seem to find any that have had this kind of experience. Maybe British 'reservedness' kicks in and stops guys from behaving like that?

If it isn't real then perhaps some of the bathhouse/sauna/darkrooms venues should take note next time they plan a refurbishment!

I saw this clip on Tumblr a while ago and I've always wondered where it was filmed - looks like a cool place to explore! Any ideas, anyone? https://verbalpozforneg.tumblr.com/post/156696011357/never-get-tired-of-watching-this-one Thanks Andy

As I say on my BBRT profile... a good attitude counts for a lot more importance than youth, abs or inches.

Something has been playing in my imagination lately, and I'm looking to turn that fantasy into reality: When I go to clubs and saunas I get really turned on watching guys getting bred multiple times. But my interest isn't in joining in the fun and adding my load to the mix, or trying to muscle in and steal some loads for myself. What I crave is a load from the guy whose ass is full of other guys' spunk. Finding a 'versatile' cumdump is proving tricky! Anyone wanna help out?

So a mixed bag last night of good and bad... Did the rounds of the bars around Nollendorfplatz. Lots of little bits of fun but the interesting encounter was a nice piggy top with a big PA. First time getting fucked by a guy with a PA and it was pretty incredible. We left the bar and went to his apartment - lots of fucking and ass play. Nice. I had to rein it in when he wanted to use a bottle brush alternately on my hole and his hole, but unfortunately not before he pushed it in me. It felt really unlike anything I've ever had up there and quite nice - although the redness when it came out really freaked me and that stopped any further ass play for me. I am hoping it will heal up enough to have fun at Laboratory this evening. The real kicker was walking back to my hotel I got set upon by a dude who tried to rob me. Fortunately it happened very close to my hotel and the staff came out to help. I am glad I never take my wallet or iPhone out when playing.

A favourite of mine being into boots and sneaks is to put some poppers onto a cotton wool ball or tissue and insert inside a boot - then sniff the boots... this works best on boots that have the tongue stitched in like Timberlands and German or Austrian Army boots as it limits the incoming fresh air. It doesn't work well if the boot is warm from being worn as the hear makes the poppers evaporate too quickly. Also cold poppers (kept in the freezer) works better.

Had two experiences in Berlin like this. A friend was in The Bull and dropped his wallet. The manager managed to ID my friend from the photo on his driver's license and after a couple of questions to confirm identity the wallet was returned. We were both impressed as that was an unexpected outcome. On the other hand, I had someone I was playing with pick pocket me in the backroom of Reizbar. I knew who it was because the bar wasn't very busy and he left in a hurry afterwards. Luckily all he got was a cock ring, hotel keycard (which was easily cancelled), and about sixty euros. I always go out with what cash I need and leave my wallet in the hotel safe. Most bars/clubs in Berlin have some way of dealing with valuables so you don't have to carry them in the venue. It amazes me that you see guys in such places with their iPhones on show.

I'm just recovering from HSV2 and HEP-A - its been a very miserable six weeks since the Acyclovir seemed to aggravate the HEP-A and I was advised to stop all meds and let it go away naturally. Honestly, its been so miserable I really don't want to go through anything like this again, and it has made me seriously reconsider active participation in the BB hook-up scene. MuscledHorse asked why some people are on Acyclovir - probably because in the UK the local NHS trust deems that is the appropriate medication to treat HSV and the clinics have to follow the set treatment pathway. The cynic in me wonders if it is more to do with price than effectivity but I am sure the decision is likely a balance of factors.

You're not the only one looking for something more... I have a number of fetish interests and the list keeps growing. It's a big ask to find someone who'd be interested in a relationship and shares all my play interests, so over time I have come to believe that "play" is a separate thing to the physical side of what you share in a relationship. I'd never want to suppress my play interests for the sake of a relationship, but I'd be happy to emotionally commit. It's a tough job finding guys who understand this - guys seem to be very binary in their approach: no commitment playboys or monogamous commitment love puppies. My approach so far is to go to events, clubs, etc. and talk to guys - engage in person, play, see where it leads. Online sites work well for no-strings hook ups but there don't seem to be many guys looking for more around.

I'm planning on being there!

I'm a relative beginner at this so bear with me... Last Saturday was the Bear's party at The Greenhouse Sauna in Darlaston. It's a 90 minute drive from home but usually worth the trip - although the bear's party does seem to attract a lot of guys who are just out of shape, there are some nice bears and otters in the mix... First load was a guy I've played with before - I think he said he was a prison officer - anyway we went into one of the private cabins where he gave me a nice sticky load and to my surprise afterwards used his fingers to work it in - at first sensually but then quite roughly - very hot. Number two was a muscley smooth guy who was in one of the lounges enjoying attentions from several of us. I kinda recognised him - but thats normal when you go to these places as often you see the same guys. Anyway after a while we leave the other guys in the lounge for a private session in one of the rooms. From the outset it was intensely passionate - lots of licking, deep kissing, nipple play and rimming. Made a nice change from the pump'n'go you usually get in these places! Anyway alternately sucking and rimming was getting him close so I switched around and offered him my hole. As he began to push in I remember thinking he's a lot bigger than I'd normally take and the previous hole abuse had left me quite sensitive. Anyway to his credit he recognised my reactions and went slow until I was used to his size in me. Then the action ramped up and he pumped full strokes banging hard. Didn't take long for him to shoot... but after he shot he didn't stop. He flipped me on my back and carried on fucking his load in while expertly wanking me off and playing with my nips. I tell you - he must have had magic fingers and wash hitting my spot - a few minutes later I had one of those awesome whole-body orgasms that seem to go on forever and leave you weak and shaking. His hands covered in my spunk were used to lube his still hard cock and he slow fucked me as I recovered... very nice. Then a bit of a break - and a soak in the jacuzzi. Chatted to a few guys, and chilled for a bit. Then this guy gets in the jacuzzi - he's what I'd call an alternative type - tattoos and piercings - neck chains - everything in a kind of pagan theme. I'd seen him before and wanted to play but never had the chance. Anyway hands tend to wander under the bubbling water and it wasn't long before we were passionately exploring each other. The first highlight was when he dived under the water and introduced me to the delights of not only receiving an under-water blow job but masterfully done with tongue and lower lip piercings. The tongue piercing was a ball and the lower lip was a spike and were expertly used... and yeah he could hold his breath! That's when guy Number two gets in the jacuzzi and comes over to us and says "So you met my boyfriend too..." hehe. Small world! So not a huge load tally - but for me it's quality over quantity and I had a great day.

Visiting Antwerp 10-13 March - anyone around?

One of the few things I quite like about Squirt.org is that you can leave a mini review of the guy on his profile with a handful of sex emoticons to say what you got up to. It makes it easy to see who's likely to be a real player and who's just one-handed-typing. It seems to work quite well. Generally with online things, fairly early on I usually give out my number and say if u wanna meet, call and we can set it up rather than endless messaging. That usually is a good barrier to sort the serious from the fantasists.

Hey anyone in the bristol area want to meet up in the evenings? I'm staying in the Filton area but can travel.

Prefer to be "in gear" and by that I mean: sports gear: football/soccer, running, gym wear, motocross. Dainese Bike leathers. Rubber. Used/Worn work gear. Anything kinky and sweaty.

I went for the first time in December. I wasn't really sure what to expect, but it didn't disappoint. When I arrived they asked for my BBRT screen name and I was given a black bin bag to put my clothes in. Once changed I joined the queue for the cloakroom. This is my one criticism: the cloakroom process seemed very slow and inefficient and the queue was somewhat long and slow moving as there was only one guy handling the bags and tickets. I exchanged my bag for a numbered wristband, bought a beer and started to explore. Since it was my first time I started off by just watching and sussing out the scene, but quickly got involved fucking a number of guys. Some guys seemed to be very much in the mode of getting as much action as possible while others seemed very picky who they played with. There were one or two sling hogs who found a spot and stayed there most of the time, it wasn't problem, though, as at the beginning and towards the end it was not so busy you couldn't get a spot. As with all these things there were a lot more bottoms than tops and I felt that there was a lot of competition for the tops attention. Being versatile I think thats why I ended up fucking but not getting fucked which I have resolved to change on my next visit, tomorrow. If you see me there say hi, and even better give me a prod! Andy

I am in Bristol area (Filton) next Mon-Wed - is Lads Locker Room good?

I haven't been in a while but Lockerroom in Kennington had a sling.