barecubtop

I agree with the advice of mixing it up. I live in a university town where younger guys will hit me up on Grindr because they see I'm a top, but when we get to trading pics they will either disappear or block me. I also have some people say that my cock looks thick/large and others that claim that's its' "too small" for them (same pic I'm showing in my profile here). So it's a toss-up as to whether my profile will appeal to a given guy or not. I've also tried to mix up the "approach with small chat" vs "approach by sending cock pic or asking if they're a bottom right off the bat". I've gotten plenty of guys that call me rude for being too forward, but plenty of others who will be just as direct with me sometimes. I've found that mixing up my profile by changing pics and info every so often has helped me figure out what works best. Right now, I have very limited info on my profile other than the fact that I'm a top with the pig and devil emojis...and my pic is a landscape pic other than my body. Lately, this profile has gotten me some attention. More attention, say, than when I had a face pic on with more information about me. So, I'll keep experimenting and see what pics tend to go over well and which ones don't, etc... Bottom-line: the apps can be very frustrating and screw with us mentally in terms of the rejection and wondering about what's going on at the other end of the convo, etc... But, for some of us, there aren't very many other options (no bars or bathhouses or anything like that where I live, for example).

Had a surprise last night. My family goes down to the Charleston, SC area every couple years to vacation, and several years ago I had met a cute bearish couple around my age for a casual "meet over dinner". The one was interested in playing (let's call him X), but I don't think his partner was into it at the time. So, we've kept in touch through FB and the apps over the years, and they have moved into an open relationship. All this time, X has kept saying that he wants to get piggy with me and take my load. But, each time we've been back to vacation, I haven't been able to get in to Charleston by myself to meet up with him. So last night, I get home from campus around dinnertime and hop on Scruff and see a profile pic I recognize...it's X and hes 4 miles away! I message him, he doesn't recognize my profile right away but once he realizes who I am, he says "I'm out to dinner with coworkers, come breed me tonight at my hotel". Turns out my university is a client of his, so he might even be back again sometime. Needless to say it was a great time...after all the build up we've had over the years, anything less than spectacular would've been awful. His bear ass felt perfect, he loved my cock in there, and when we weren't fucking we were either making out or cuddling and chatting the entire time (couple hours total). Amazing night...so glad I caught him on Scruff! If/when he comes back, I'll try to find some other tops to tag team him with...we looked a little on the apps during a break in the action but, like usual, when you want to find more for a group it's impossible.

Fucked two 23 year old guys within the past few days. Both from Grindr. 1) short (5'6") latino twink boy that lives an hour away. Through broken English, he said that he had come to town to make a car payment and go to the mall. Hot little ass. Started off with him riding me, but then pushed him over and finished missionary. This was the second time I bred him, but it had been about 6-7 months. Hope he'll be back in town more often this summer. 2) white fit/jock type guy from about a mile away. I had messaged him several times over the last couple years but he never followed through, but this time the extent of our conversation was essentially: me: wanna fuck him: yeah, now? me: sure him: address? He came over, found me naked in bed (my usual scene), and stripped down and got on the bed to start sucking me...pretty quickly transitioned to sitting on my cock, and then just like the Latino I got him into missionary for a few and then into doggy until I bred him. Both guys were pretty much "arrive, strip, suck, fuck, cum, leave" quick hookups...but that was fine with me.

In my university town, I get a lot of younger guys (18-22) that will get into some hot chat on Grindr and say they want my load...then when we get to the when/where it comes down to the facts that they don't have a car and can't host. I've learned my lesson a couple times now that it's not worth driving to them, picking them up, and bringing them back to my place. The few times I've done that, the sex ended up taking less time than the driving to/from...and it wasn't very good either. Once, I drove over to an apartment complex at 2am only to sit there in my car for 20 minutes with the guy never coming out...I could tell he was there, from the location on Grindr, but he eventually went offline. Later he said he had been drunk and passed out...whatever. I haven't gotten any requests to call anyone an uber, though...then again, I don't know that uber is big around here either.

I also like to take a hit or two of poppers while I fuck...makes me fuck so much harder and faster than without. Don't use them all the time, but it definitely makes me more piggy and rough.

I'm a top when it comes to anal...but if a beefy hairy daddy bear smoking a pipe told me to get down and suck on him while he smoked, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I've never actually done this yet, but really want to. I think a part of it is the "bad boy" aspect of it. I'm more of the casual/business casual type of guy, whereas I view pipe smokers as being more "bad boys" who get their leather vests on and take their bikes out on the weekend. And maybe have slings in their basements for playtime. I also wouldn't mind tag teaming some bottom slut with a pipe smoking daddy bear too... ;-)

Went up to Chicago this past weekend, somewhat as a birthday weekend. Ended up being really busy most of the weekend, hanging out with friends and seeing a show (musical theater) with my mom and a friend. Ended up going to some gay bars for the first time up there...was alright, but it reminded me that I'm not the bar type, at least not the loud bars. I did get to see a friend (and member on this site) that I grew up near and haven't seen for several years at one "neighborhood" bar, so that was nice. The only action I got was: 1) after the bars on Saturday night, there was a younger twinkish guy (25ish) at my hotel who came to my room and we exchanged oral and made out a little. Tried to get him to roll over and let me eat his ass, but he wasn't going for it. Ended up fucking his face (at his request) until I blew. 2) on Sunday, after lunch with friends, I told them I was going to Steamworks (bathhouse) and that they could join me if they wanted (all of them have been there before with me, but none of them went this time). The crowd at Steamworks was a little different on a Sunday afternoon than when I've been there on a Friday/Saturday evening. A little more of a balanced variety/mix - older, younger, bears, twinks, different races/ethnicities. But more variety in a crowd sometimes means less options of one's type to choose from. Also, there wasn't ANY public action going on - no one on the fuckbenches or in the slings. So that was unfortunate. In the 3 hours I was there I only fucked two guys: a white bearish type that was probably in his 40s and then a middle eastern(?) jock a couple years younger than me. I didn't realize until later that the second guy (jock) was someone I had chatted with on Grindr while I was in my room at Steamworks. On Grindr he was listed as being nearby (I actually assumed he was in the bathhouse when I first messaged him and he said no) and he had been asking me whether it was busy. I replied to say it was a decent crowd but I had to leave within the next half hour. Then I put my phone down and went for one last walk around the place, looking for some last-minute action. Ended up back in my room and right as I was about to give up, this guy in a baseball cap comes in and we go at it. It wasn't until later when I was on the train home and he messaged me saying "thanks, that was hot, you're totally my type" that I realized it was baseball cap guy. So I favorited him on Grindr for my next trip up there.

My "every 2-3 months" swimmer/jock kid came over tonight. Same situation as usual: he let himself in, stripped down to his jock and put a blindfold on, and felt his way to my room where I took over. Fucked his face for a bit, then got him bent over on the bed and rimmed his amazing hole for a few minutes, then put a dab of lube on my cock and slid all the way into him...he wasn't ready for that and pulled off, but I eased back in and took it a little slower until he was taking it nice and hard and rough like usual. Switched up positions a couple times, but eventually shot what felt like a huge load while I was on his back and he on his stomach. Told him to leave the blindfold on and turned him around to clean off my cock...my dick was still hard, but even after slipping inside him for a few more minutes, I wasn't going to cum again so quickly. But he asked me to put my cock inside him (and I kept fucking as much as I could) while he jacked himself off. Did our usual catch-up chat for a few minutes at the door before he left.

I usually post here when I'm coming up to Chicago for a weekend visit...in case anyone wants to meet up to fuck, or share advice on things that are going on to check out, etc... My birthday is this week and I'm coming up Friday through Sunday to celebrate by hanging out with some friends and seeing a show. Will have some free time on Friday afternoon and Sunday afternoon for sure, if not possibly Saturday night also. Let me know if you're interested in chatting or meeting up.

The way I understand it, if the red spots are still there you could still pass it on to someone else, despite the fact that the meds are working. My spots stuck around for almost the entire 10-14 days that the doctor told me to wait. Also note that future testing will (according to my doctor) always come back positive, but they will do a secondary test to see how much of it is in your body to determine whether you've been reinfected or not.

So...I'm wondering if I'm "too nice" of a top. This evening I was chatting with a guy that I've fucked a few times before, and I asked if he'd had any good fucks lately (secretly hoping it would lead to him coming over tonight, but it didn't work). He said he had met this bigger hairy guy that was a great top. So then I asked what made this top a great fuck. My bud said "Bigger and stronger than me, hairy, takes control, a little verbal." I then said something like "well maybe I need to work on being more dominant" and my buddy assured me that he thought I was fine...yet I haven't had his ass in months, so.... A couple other recent fucks come to mind where I got the impression the bottom wanted me to be aggressive/controlling than I was, so I haven't heard back from them since. My bathhouse fucks are a little different, I go in there with more of a NSA/"not going to see them ever again" kind of attitude and I can get into more of a "fuck and go" mindset. So...here's a couple questions: For the bottoms: I realize most of you bottoms on this site (and other BB sites like BBRTS) are actively wanting "used" and "dominated", but is that the only kind of sex that you enjoy? Do you always want your top to just pound the hell out of your hole, talk down to you and demean you, and not care whether you're in pain or enjoying it? Or are there times when you can enjoy a fuck where it's still a top fucking you (and you're both enjoying it) but there's no explicit dominance involved? Is the latter kind of fucking only reserved for regular fuckbuddies or FWB or partners that you're close with? How do you define a "dominant top", i.e. what does he do to make you feel "used"? For the tops: Are you always dominant/controlling/demeaning to all of your bottoms? Have you run across bottoms that do NOT want to be treated that way? For all: I suppose it comes down to the mindset I mentioned above: I approach bathhouses in a purely NSA way, but other hookups differently (probably because I'm hungry for connection with other gay men). How do others handle this? Most of the guys that want "dominated" tend to be younger, at least in my experience. Is this a generational thing? Is porn influencing what our "new" crop of gay boys thinks: that being a bottom is all about being used?

Slow night at the bathhouse in Indianapolis last night. Was there from about 6:30-10pm and only really played with 2 guys: swallowed a daddy top's load and bred a fit/muscular guy after he finished in the gym area.

I've been taking for 2+ years. I remember some stomach issues the first couple weeks, but nothing serious. I also sometimes feel that I have some gastrointestinal issues the day I open a new bottle of pills (break the seal), but I'm guessing that's just a coincidence as I doubt the "freshness" would be a factor.

for what it's worth, the problem I originally made this post about doesn't seem to be happening anymore...but I'm not sure if that's because of a change or because I'm not "liking" things as much anymore, etc...

I haven't had much luck this year so far...but it's partly my own doing as I've been focusing more on work. (I had originally written a much longer version of what's below, but have cut it down dramatically - I know I tend to skip reading long entries here, and I suppose some of you do too) Sunday late afternoon I got to talking with a married buddy of mine and we started looking for a bottom to tag team. Found a guy that appeared to be nearby (a couple miles), no profile pic, "average" stats, listed as a bottom. He and I exchanged pics and he was into the threeway idea, so I had him and my married bud come over. The bottom guy got here first, stripped down, and started sucking me...had a great view of his bubble ass over his shoulder while he sucked. My married buddy got here a few minutes later and joined us on the bed. While bottom sucked married bud, I got behind him and started rimming his ass. After a bit, I lubed up and slid in to him and started fucking while he sucked my married bud. Married bud took a turn on his ass (with condom) for a few minutes, then I slid in again and shot my several-day load up inside the bottom. Eventually married bud blew his load while the bottom was licking his balls. Bottom guy took a shower while married bud and I chatted and got ready to watch the Super Bowl halftime show. After they both had left, I was actually ready to shower and call it a night. But, another guy I had been chatting with for a few weeks messaged me and basically said, "I'm horny, come fuck me." Well, how could I back out of that after wanting to get with him for a few weeks? Drove over to his place about a mile away in some freshly fallen snow, let myself into his apartment (sort of ghetto), and found him naked in his bedroom. We got right to it and as soon as he got my cock hard he spit on it and lowered himself down on me (no lube). Switched to doggy for a few, then I got him on his back and was pounding him (almost to the point where he fell off the edge of the bed) until I shot. We cuddled and chatted for a bit, until he sucked me hard again and we went for round 2, doggy style. Nice guy, a little redneck, but I'd fuck him again. So that was Sunday night - 3 guys, 2 asses to fuck, and 3 loads blown...all in about 2 hours. While writing this, I also remembered that I had a brief encounter on Monday night as well. A younger (22yo) stocky type that wanted to suck me off. He was good, but said that I was only the second person he ever sucked. He swallowed me, and then he stood up and I swallowed his load too (and a pretty big one at that). We'll see if he comes back again sometime, he might be one of those younger types that is just experimenting a little.

I agree with @Upstateguy518, you should be prepared to tell someone that you don't like being called daddy (either on a profile or after they use the term with you in chat or in person). I'm one of those that enjoy older/younger kinds of sex, so I don't mind getting called "daddy" during sex with a younger guy. I don't get into being called that outside of a sexual situation, though. I also agree with @evilqueerpig in that I don't like it when an ass is referred to as a pussy or cunt. Just my opinion, though.

Originally, when I thought it was HSV-2, the Valtrex was not only to suppress symptom development but also to reduce the amount of "shedding" when there aren't symptoms. If it IS HSV-1, the Valtrex may not be needed daily. I've gotten into the habit of taking it every morning along with my PrEP, so I've just continued.

I'm a fan of tag teaming a bottom with another top, and I've had several of those situations that have worked out well (and a few that didn't). What annoys me: 1) When I tell a bottom that I'm open to tag teaming him with another top while we're talking about interests and such, they automatically go for the "do you have buddies to join us" as though I have a stable of tops ready to come over at a moment's notice. When I say "no, not right at the moment" they proceed to focus on the idea of the tag team and any hope I had of fucking them 1on1 disappears. "Well now I'm all turned on by the idea of you and another top fucking me, so let's try to find another top..." UGH 2) When there is a profile/ad (i.e. on BBRTS or CL) that asks for someone to join in for a threeway or group, and I fit what they're looking for, yet never get a response. QuickConnect ads on BBRTS are notorious for this - "looking for all tops to come give me loads on the eastside", yet when I ask for the address and see that they read my message, no reply. UGH

Threesome up in Chicago some weekend? I'll be up there for sure Feb 23/24/25, if not earlier.

I typically don't mind if people recommend me, but I'd like it to be open as to who gave someone the info. One guy texted me and said that he had heard that I gave head to bi/married guys. I asked him who referred me and it ended up being a guy that I had emailed with but never met up with. So that was interesting. (I did have the referred guy over, he was alright) However... It's one thing if guys chat and provide positive recommendations. It's another if there's negative talk or slander. There have been fellow tops who have come over and either because a bottom didn't show or because we planned to do so, we end up laying next to each other in bed with our phones out on Grindr. We will ask each other, "have you ever talked to or met this guy?" And I don't lie...if I have met them, I will say so and definitely recommend the guy if I had a positive experience with him. If I did NOT have a positive experience with a guy, I will also say that, but I try not to influence the other top either way. I might say, "I didn't really connect with him" or "he ended up not being what I expected" or state a fact like "we fooled around but he wasn't prepped well that night and it turned me off", but I try not to tell the other top NOT to consider the guy for another time. He might end up having a great time with a guy that I did not have a good time with. That being said, I often do ask others for recommendations - but it seems as though others don't want to share the info. They want to keep their "fun" close and not risk losing their bottoms to another top. At least that's my experience where I live (small town rural Midwest).