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Mixed experiences here. I always mention that I prefer bare when I chat with someone. If they insist on safe only, unless they're hot, I'll decline. If they're hot, and the chemistry is good, I'll use a condom the first couple times and hope that they stop insisting (this has happened with a couple guys) A few hookups have said "safe only" in chat, but when it comes to in-person they'll just lube up and slide down on me bare with no discussion.

After several days of being catfished, ghosted, and generally being played on Grindr (I only say that for context of how worked up I was getting), I finally got some undergrad ass tonight. A 20yo Asian I chatted with the other day. One of those situations where his profile said "around my age only", but I hit on him anyways, sent him my pic, etc...and this morning he said "wanna meet up tonight after 8?", so I said sure. He had only been fucked once before with a condom. He is now a fan of both bare and poppers. After I unloaded inside him, he asked to lick me clean (uh...yeah, go for it), and then we made out some more and cuddled and chatted. He said this year was going to be a sexual exploration year. As we were chatting, he asked my age...when I said 35, he flipped out a little and called me an "old fuck" LOL...but then admitted that my pic looked younger like 25 (and I guess that means in person I look younger too - I've heard that from several people actually). Not sure if I'll be invited back, since I'm now the "old fuck", but could be fun if he does.

I haven't posted for awhile because this summer has been relatively slow, or just not very good, in the sex arena. A couple experiences that stand out... 1) I was staying in a hotel near the Indianapolis airport one night and was browsing the apps. A jockish Asian flight attendant was staying at a nearby hotel on a layover and said he'd take my load. Went over there, got to his room, stripped down and got on the bed where he started sucking me and I got him turned around to rim him. As we were about to start fucking, the hotel fire alarms went off. He just assumed everything was fine and we started fucking, but it was slightly distracting to have the alarm going off while we were going at it. The alarm did eventually stop. He had a great hole...he probably gets fucked on all of his layovers lol...and was very passionate. If I hadn't been so tired, I would've stayed for another round. 2) I spent quite a bit of time on campus this summer doing research for my thesis, and it was pretty quiet with all the undergrads being gone (and all the other grad students slaving away in their buildings also). But, there was a university staff member that I met on Grindr one day that sucked me off in a unisex bathroom (lockable door) in one of the older buildings on campus. First time we met he asked for a facial, the second time he blew his load (and got some on my shorts) before I did, and last time he took my load in his mouth but I think he spit it out (he had a meeting to get to). He's a cutie, would love to get his pants down and fuck him, but he seems to be into the anon blow-n-go scene only. 3) There has been this 20yo Latino guy on Grindr lately with the usual broken English. When we chatted, he gave off the impression he just wanted to suck me off and not fuck. He looked really cute in his pics...boyish face and jockish body. And since I haven't gotten much this summer anyways, I was open to just getting a load sucked out. A couple of attempts to get him to come over didn't pan out, but as I was leaving campus yesterday I saw that he was online and asked him if he could host. He said that he was able to for about 45 minutes and did the "pin drop" location thing. I asked for the actual address and he said something like "only here for 2 weeks, don't know the address"...he also admitted that he spoke no English and that he was using Google translator to chat with me. I was tentative about how this would go down, but I went for it anyways. Got to his apt, dropped my pants, and sat on the couch to let him do his thing. He did more stroking of my dick than sucking, and at one point he spit on the floor next to me (no idea what that was about). He then asked me something that I didn't understand...it might've been something about a condom, because right after he got the rest of his clothes off, turned around and sat on my lap. No penetration this first time, but then he took some more hits of poppers and spit on his hand and rubbed his ass, so I knew where this was going. He lowered himself on my dick and got down to the base...and then just sorta ground himself on it for a bit. That does nothing for me, so I eventually lifted myself off the couch to a standing position so I could actually fuck him. He was moaning and his ass felt good, but he eventually grabbed his phone and did the translate thing to say that his friend would be there soon. That ended up being the end of it...didn't get off. Wouldn't mind another chance at him, though. Other than that, nothing much to report. I still want to get up to Chicago for a Steamworks visit sometime soon. All the undergrads are coming back to campus this week, but they're bringing all their attitude with them on Grindr *sigh*

hmm I'll have to keep an eye on hotel prices this week and see if I can make it up there....sounds like a good time.

I was thinking about coming up for Market Days, but hotel prices seem pretty steep when I've looked on Hotwire. Anyone on here planning on going? I've got it in my head that it's more of a street festival, but I've heard others say it's better than Pride in some ways. What's the draw? Is there a lot of sexual stuff happening during the weekend? Just a lot of drinking and partying?

So, any report of how it went?

I also use the silicone Gun Oil sometimes. It does last awhile without needing to reapply, but that also makes it a little harder to clean off afterwards, as with any silicone lube. Lately, I've been using FuckWater water-based lube for most of my hookups. It looks like cum, nice and slick, easy to clean off, but will need re-applying since it's water based and absorbs into the skin.

Thanks @swrdswlr and @scott0882. I had plenty of interest on the apps (Grindr, Scruff) while I was down there. A buddy who lives there took me to Alibi and Rosie's on Monday night and showed me around the gayborhood. Then on Thursday I managed to get away from family for the late morning and afternoon, so I went back to Wilton Manors and did some walking around and found a couple asses to breed along the way. Unfortunately I got a sunburn at Hollywood Beach the day before, so I chose to avoid the bathhouse (where I would've wanted to use the hot tub and steam room - not a good idea with a burn). Inn Leather would've been a short walk away from my hotel, but didn't manage to get over there. As for non-sexual things, we did the Jungle Queen on Monday, Ft. Lauderdale Beach on Tuesday afternoon, the moonlit turtle walk offered by the DIscovery and Science Museum on Tuesday night (well worth it if you've never seen a loggerhead make a nest!), and Hollywood Beach on Wednesday. My family did the Discovery and Science Museum on Thursday while I did my whoring around ;-)

I've done a couple slutty nurse types and one cub in medical school up in Chicago that likes me to hit him up when I get up there.

I watched this a month or two ago, and drscorpio's review is spot on. As someone who was a kid during the 80s and 90s, I always enjoy documentaries like this that help me to understand what it was like.

As a top, I enjoy rimming certain asses before I fuck them (sort of depends on the situation and the body type of the guy I'm rimming, etc...). I do not enjoy being rimmed myself, although I won't stop someone if they insist. However... Last summer I had several digestive issues resulting from parasites and infections, ultimately resulting in my doctor wanting to do a colonoscopy to check things out. Everything checked out fine, and I've been a lot better since. But...thinking back on when those issues happened, I think it's safe to assume that the issues MIGHT have resulted from rimming and felching I had been doing. So, nowadays I haven't given up on rimming, but I'm more careful about asking if the bottom has cleaned out/showered or sniffing/feeling things out down there before I dive in. It's hot to do it, but a couple of those periods of digestives issues had me wanting to die...so...I'd rather be more careful/selective now. Perhaps that's why you're seeing that rimming as foreplay is not as prevalent?

I was up there the weekend of the parade last year...did the bear event at Steamworks on that Saturday afternoon and had fun. So is Steamworks also busy during the actual parade on Sunday then? Or just in general all weekend?

I'm curious about the Pride weekends up in Chicago. I see that the "festival" is one weekend and the "parade" is the next. Any locals have suggestions on finding action either of the two weekends? Are there bigger crowds for the parade weekend than the festival, i.e. more potential at Steamworks that Saturday before the parade? Or vice versa? Anybody know of any orgies or sex parties held either weekend that are open to visitors? Or...is it better to come up to city later in the summer to find fun at Halsted Days or something? (context: I'll be flying back into O'Hare on the 15th from a vacation...debating whether to take the train home that day or stick around for the festival weekend)

If you do go talk with your doc, I'd be interested to hear what he/she has to say and whether it helped with your concern. I've been on prep for about 4 years now and haven't had any bad side effects (other than maybe some nausea for the first couple weeks I was on it). But, I'm also young enough that if there are long term side effects that have been documented for sure, I'd like to know about them.

A good 4-5 years ago at a bathhouse in Indianapolis. I'm not a huge fan of darkroom sex, I guess I'm more of a visual guy. But, back then I would wander through occasionally, see if there was anything happening. One night I wandered in and it was packed full of guys...I squeezed in along the wall and realized that some bottom, seemed like a younger twink, was bent over and being fucked while all these guys watched and touched him (enough light to see that at least). So I dropped my towel and started stroking...and this guy (might've been whoever brought the twink) reached over and felt my dick, and he must've liked it, because he pulled the twink's ass over to me and backed him up on me....I fucked and unloaded pretty quick (was really turned on), and then left the room. Since then, the bathhouse has changed the darkroom...they made it larger, which you'd think would be good, but for me it has had the opposite effect and I rarely go in there anymore.

35 This would have made a good poll question, so we can see the skewness in the age distribution (as you can tell already, there are more guys responding so far that are 40+ than under 40). It's interesting that sites like this or BBRTS where men openly talk about or look for raw sex is sort of like the crowd at a church - mostly older, more established. We all know that there are plenty of younger guys in their (legal) late teens and 20s who are open to and looking for raw sex (hop on Grindr late on a Friday or Saturday night), but I sometimes wonder if we need to be encouraging them in some way to seek out sites like BBRTS, this site, or bathhouses. Or would they care about being in more of a BB community like this? Thoughts?

How far are those places from the area where I'm going to be staying? 5, 10, 30 minute Uber rides?

I'll be down in the Fort Lauderdale area June 11-14. Unfortunately I may be with family (sister and nephew) for most of the time, and I won't have a rental car (I plan on using Uber if needed). We're staying sort of near the airport by the convention center. Questions for those that live there or have visited there: 1) We don't have many plans other than my nephew's competition at the convention center on one of the days. What are some things (touristy, kid-friendly) to do around the area? I've heard there are good boat tours/swamp tours? 2) If I get an afternoon/evening away from family (I know I will need it), where are the nearest places to find some adult fun?

A married buddy and I have had a couple threeways the last two weekends. He (married bud) is an amazing kisser, and he's talked about bottoming for me (safely) sometime...he loves it when I eat his ass...but usually he'll come over and we'll lay on my bed with our phones out looking for someone to come suck us off or bottom for us. Last weekend (8 days ago), married bud had a middle eastern guy (let's call him H) from campus that he had met before come over to join us. I had seen H on Grindr before, but either didn't talk to him or he didn't respond to me. Well, he walked in and looked incredibly hot...very fit with nice furry pecs and a great ass. He started moving from cock to cock with his mouth and eventually up to our mouths. He was VERY intense...lots of pulling our bodies into each other, sucking on tongues/lips, etc...including giving me a couple little hickeys before we were done. The three of us played around for quite awhile...easily 1.5-2 hours, and I could tell married bud was getting antsy to get going, so I went down on him until he gave me a load. Married bud got out of bed, cleaned up, and headed out. H hadn't made any move to get dressed or anything...came into the bathroom and watched me pee (turns out he would've taken it on him, but that's for a future visit), and then we started grinding into each other again right there in the bathroom, all the while him telling me how sexy he thought I was (was nice to hear!). We moved back to the bedroom and he wanted to learn more about me...turns out we're both grad students in neighboring buildings on campus, but he was leaving the next day to go home for the summer. We tried to fuck (condom), but it just wasn't working very well between his tight hole and my cock not liking the condom. Another half hour or so later, he left...after we exchanged numbers and agreed to meet up regularly in the fall when school is back in session. This past weekend (yesterday), married bud had been messaging me on Grindr and was implying that he was horny and wanted to have some fun again. After looking around all afternoon, I think he was at the point of just wanting to come over and jack off to porn or let me suck him off again. As luck would have it, I managed to hit up a 22yo from campus who was interested in coming over to get tag teamed. Let's call him U for undergrad. I briefly explained that I was on PrEP and was open to bare or safe, but that married bud would be safe only, and U kept asking more questions about PrEP...to the point where I thought he might be getting freaked out enough to not come. But, he did. He was visibly nervous, but once he got on the bed and started sucking us, he became more uninhibited. U wasn't the best sucker by any means, and married bud was fairly quick to get behind him, take the buttplug out that U had arrived with, get a condom on, and start fucking U (married bud was very short on time at this point). U was asking us to be rough with his nipples, ass, and balls...so married bud was slapping his ass while he fucked and I was twisting his nips while he sucked me. Married bud came in his condom, and went to the bathroom to clean up, and U asked me to slip on a condom and take my turn. I was concerned about the condom ruining my hardon, but managed to get it on and slip inside him. Gave him the hardest fuck I could, married guy came back to the bedroom and was checking his phone while I finished unloading into the condom. While I was in the bathroom getting rid of the condom and wiping off lube, married bud said goodbye and showed himself out. U was still naked on the bed (I've been surprised at the last couple younger guys I've met not running off right away like most guys). We chatted about PrEP some more, he admitted he was "90% straight" and got the itch to suck and get fucked by guys every once in awhile (like every 6 months). After some more chatting, he asked if I had another fuck in me...to which I replied, "if you suck me hard again, sure." He sucked me hard, then squeezed out some lube on my dick and slid down on it raw and rode me for awhile...asking me again to be rough with his nips. I don't do well with being ridden, so I told him to get on his back and gave him another pounding for awhile until I shot a load in his raw hole this time. After I pulled out, he put his buttplug back in (hot!). We moved into a situation where I was biting his nipples and pretty much slapping/punching his nuts for a few minutes and then he blew his load...said he had been denying himself for a week or so, so it was nice and thick on his abs. Chatted for a bit more before he left. Have no idea whether I'll see him again or not, given that this was his "6-month itch". Tomorrow night, I may have a buddy that I haven't seen in awhile coming to spend the evening (and maybe overnight) with me before he goes to see family on Wednesday in a nearby town. Told him I'd save up a couple loads for him.

Went to the bathhouse in Indianapolis last night. Slid into 3 raw holes (fit white, bear white, fit Latino), but only bred the last one. Some oral give and receive throughout the night. Decent crowd overall. My "Latino jock buddy" hit me up on Grindr this evening...asked if I wanted to fuck, and within 5 minutes of me saying "yeah" he was walking in my apt door. Gave him a load and he was on his way as usual. An undergrad says he wants to come over later tonight for a load, but he's been saying this for months now and hasn't ever come through...so not holding my breath.

I'd like to assume you meant this in a good way, but I first read it as a slam. The reality is that the cum-craving sex-addicted bottoms on this site that will essentially let any dick fuck them are still a relative minority, especially in certain rural areas like where I live. So, while my dick pic may be all that is necessary for some bottoms on here and some bottoms on BBRTS (I've been rejected there for unlocking non-dick pics also), it is not enough in general. And the mental health issues related to Grindr have been popping up in research and blog articles... https://www.advocate.com/current-issue/2016/5/05/grindr-tinder-scruff-recipe-loneliness https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/4/4/17177058/grindr-gay-men-mental-health-psychiatrist https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/04/18/does-grindr-affect-mental-health-dating-apps-and-mental-health/

I'm a top myself, but I also like the guys you've described...either as bottoms for me to fuck, or as tops that I can tag team some bottom boys with. Love to see a bear (muscle or not) railing a younger slimmer guy.