BlackDude

Guys already know if they want to fuck or not. Don’t allow him to play games just to boost his ego. They’re are alot of guys into gay baiting, especially at work. They know they can get certain guys to do certain things for them with a little flirting. If he’s married, and your being clingy, he will eventually make the calculation that spending ti w with you isn’t worth his marriage. If you want to fuck, be upfront. If he says yes, enjoy the time and let him decide how far he wants to take it. If not, fine, move on and let him enjoy his wife.

Maybe I’m crazy, but can you tell if a guy has a big dick? Is this some kind of instinct? I think there is just a certain swag or confidence a guy has where I think “yeah he’s got a big dick.” Usually I’m right.

This is why you never make a nurse a fuck buddy. Their job is the ultimate excuse and they can never coordinate unless it’s on their time. There forever working yet somehow on Grindr perpetually.

Some of it was an exaggeration. Some of it was real. It was meant to covey a sentiment that “sex was hard, calculated and difficult”

Gen X-ers

Most of us Gen Xers were lied to. I know I was I was told all the action was “online now” I was told you had to have chemistry with a guy before fucking I was told I had to look like an underwear model Personally, I was told I should settle for being the “black friend” I was told being A-Sexual was a thing I was told I should wait til a guy was past his prime I was told I should suppress my sexual desires to make straight people comfortable. I was told friends don’t fuck I was laughed at for cruising I was told Treasure Island was fantasy I was told _____ guys just don’t like black men I was told by mediocre guys i should be Greatful for their presence Then this summer came. And I seen you young men were friendly. And most importantly fucking. Out in the open, raw, uninhibited. Big, short, tall, fat, fit and all. No chit chat. No games. No oral only.” No “saving it for later.” No pretend girlfriend at home. Just raw breeding. You know what you want and you go for it. Shamelessly. You’ve reassured me everything I thought was true is. And I’ve had a blast doing it. Thank You.

I enjoy the chase. I love cruising, the mystery, The Who’s doing what. But I’m not letting cock blockers off the hook. I really believe it’s as simple as: A. I’m not fucking and I feel bad about it, so your not going to fuck either. B. I hate ______ so I don’t want them fucking. Take The Rock for an instance. I’ve seen a guy sit in the cruising area with a large cup of coffee, with the full intent of letting people know there would be no fucking today. I’ve seen guys keep their high beams on the wooded areas, to shine light on and discourage cruisers. I’ve seen guys at the bar filibuster, while keeping an eye on you to make sure you’re not fucking.

Preach. I’d say it’s about 40/60 leading toward white guys who don’t like black men. It’s cool, I wish they’d just have the balls to say it. Although, I found out the more mediocre the guy, the more he hates black men. They think their whiteness alone is currency. And it’s validated everyday by gays. I agree, Most white European guys are fucking from my experience. They only thing I would dispute is POC. I don’t include black people in that because blacks people are the only people who can’t be classified as white. They can go back and forth, we cant. Latino men are about 25/25/50. 25% will fuck you, 25% will fuck you until there is a white gut available, and the other half are white or white-Latino exclusively. Problem is some black guys are so desperate for some “exotic sex” they’ll do anything including lie about their experiences. I have NEVER been with an Asian man, not been approached by one. I don’t even see them with each other. They seem to be exclusively into white men As a black man, you find very quickly this “accepting” community is no better, probably worse when it comes to race. They gay community is 50-60 years behind. I’ve also had successful/good looking white men tell me that the whole whorship thing is a turnoff. They want a regular guy with confidence who is real, not some guy begging for validation or acceptance. That’s my two cents though.

I have to more to add: The politician: This guy goes around and tries to convince people as he can to not fuck you. He usually has really low self-esteem or a strong political or racial viewpoint. He doesn’t like______ and he will convince other guys why they should like____ either. This can also roll over into handcuffing or the Chatter Box, As his main intention is to see you not fuck. The Damper- This is they guy who shows up with a bad or elitist attitude. He usually has some dour look on his face, with the main intent decreasing the sexual energy. He may actually watched you have sex or fool around, but he will never engage. He will keep his towel on, stay clothed at sex parties; or roan the trails eternally. He hast to show you that he is just above it all, and his intent is to kill the mood for everyone else.

No. I believe 99% of “bisexual” men are making the calculation between if a guys hot enough and is it worth the “risk.” Straight men don’t really want to hang out with other men 24/7 like that, if only strictly for appearance sake. If you don’t care what a woman thinks then…. These men are more that likely gay.

I just had an experience with “message guy” a few weeks ago. This you get cute white jock comes to the cruising spot and we start talking. Message guy comes up and asks “am Interrupting?” I said not at all. So message guy whisks him away. Jock guy asked if i wanted to come along, I politely declined. After about 30 minutes. Message guys is still doing his thing. Jock guys has this “save me” look in his eyes, so I go over, and jock starts to give me head. I rub his ass and head that whimpering every top loves to hear. Long story short, it turns into a full on orgy with message guy standing there to the side with his cock in his pants about to explode. He still to prideful to participate, and he’s full of anger, but it’s so hot, he has to watch. Here we are doing whatever to this hottie and he’s sitting there with his hard dick in pants on some “I’m too hot for this” attitude. The whole thing was hilarious.

Damn. Discourteous for sure, I would t necessarily call that cock blocking. You got to kinda expect group sex at a spa/sauna. Sometimes we lose out, happens to everyone.

This post is not meant to be negative. Only to share my experiences and help navigate through the BS and get to the action. It’s summer time, and people got fun on their mind! As a note, please have no sympathy for cock blockers. These guys are not naive. 99% know exactly what they’re doing, and their actions are coming from a place of vitriol, insecurity and arrogance. If you see any of the activities below, don’t waste you time. Move onto the next trick, as they have the particular art on cock blocking down to a science. The Handcuffer- This is the guy may or may not have fucked. But then he will follow the trick around or monitor him an intercede in any additional action The Chatter Box-This is the guy who will run their mouth endlessly in hopes of wearing the trick down and running out the clock. Since they know they probably aren’t fucking, to most of these guys, talking is like fucking. So waiting and hoping they will shut-up is a time waster. The Stooge-This is the guy who is jealous of his better looking friend, and will do everything in his power to stop him from fucking. He figures one of two things: either he can’t fuck his friend so why should you, or he’s just miserable with his lack of sex, and he wants company in his misery. The Former INCEL-This is they guy who couldn’t get a woman, now he finally found one girl who will fuck him. He now thinks he’s alpha as fuck, and that includes stopping gays from fucking and any other gay hating activity. Women-In straight society, women control access to sex. Unfortunately, some women think that control trickles over into gay men, and they want to interfere and control gay mens access to sex too. The Rock-This is the guy who will set up shop in the prime cruising spot or in front of the bar. He’ may be fucking, but his main intention is to prevent other guys he doesn’t deem as worthy from fucking. Message Guy-His whole goal is to get the guy relaxed, and out of the mood for sex. Then he thinks he’s going to rush him away for some private time alone all by himself.

If your not fucking (or showing dick) I don’t care.

That won’t change people hearts and minds. Only legal requirements.

I think I’m in the minority here (but that’s usual). Guys who want to fuck, fuck (if that’s what you want). Men who want to fuck don’t turn down sex with guys half their age. Yes, there are truly some guys who are conflicted. Unfortunately, or fortunately, honestly is always the best policy. When you’re not upfront, you waste time. In the gay experience, you’ll have many guys who will pretend to not fuck. They’ll have every excuse in the book to keep you on the hook for whatever reason without actually having to do anything. Alot of times, it’s to keep you in orbit To gratify their personal ego because their partner is not for filling them at home. Don’t let that be your problem. You are young, and you need to use that to your advantage. Decide what you want. If he doesn’t like it, move on. Don’t sacrifice your wants to fulfill someone else’s ego. There will be plenty of time for that. Your young, be selfish

I can honestly say I’ve never bottomed. I told a guy I would once but as soon as he pressed the tip, I backed out. I don’t ever see myself being able to bottom. I don’t even like getting rimmed. Even in porn, I like clear roles. Once a guy bottoms, I can’t really watch him as a top unless it’s a quick breed pump and dump situation. Maybe I’m just the odd ball.

I’m starting to log in less and less to that site. I’m hearing more stories like this, plus as it grows, we get more guys looking for that “magical experience.” They know a lot of guys on there value anonymity and they take full advantage. aWouldn't surprise me at all if the ended up selling peoples credit card info.

Using others for your benefit is abuse at a minimum. And I could argue using the struggle of others to ecomincally benefit and gain resources for another group is a form slavery. People have gotten so use to using black people to further their agenda, they have now become entitled and even cavalier about it. When reality our experience is unique and their is no other experience comparable.

I preferred older daddy types my 20’s. Still do.

Why all the vitriol toward Thomas?

The gay tops are here. We’re waiting for the bottoms to stop chasing “straight” married guys.

Okay I’m going to say it: This post is about standards. I haven’t read each post in this thread but I’ve read a few. And I’m not surprised at what I see. As a black person, and to a lesser extent other non black people, we have a standard placed upon us. And we have be to be honest, the standard people have sexually for white guys is almost non-existent until they hit about 55. Some of the people in this thread are so shocked and offended that others would actually have a standard placed on them. They are just so used to their whiteness being the standard and getting where they want they can’t fathom a world where they are told they will be rejected sexually. And you have a group of guys who will say “yes, I don’t care what happens, as long as you’re white, I’ll fuck you”. (See the post about Q-Anon). Join the club, for the rest of us it’s not “just about sex.” We get asked millions of questions that have nothing to do with sex. To me, this is just checking to say “hey, all that matters is your white still right?” And seeing if people are still on code with that.

I believe this post got the reaction that was intended.

I don’t get the logic that says the media should cover the dealing of a private charity over the dealings of the president of the United States (Trump, Clinton, etc. equally). Because even if you believed that to be true, that $2M-$3M stolen by those black immigrants pales in comparison to 80% of the Red Cross “administrative costs.” I also don’t get the logic why the loss is private property should get equal coverage of a “demonstration” that resulted in the breach of our nations capital. You have black panthers who have been in jail since the 70s for even talking to a foreign government, but these “demonstrators” are getting slaps on the wrist (with little coverage). I also seen little coverage of the assassination attempt of the governor of Michigan.