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Thank you for sharing! I am encouraged by stories like this - as it seems the daily-grind(r) of finding a connection is more miss than "hit". I cannot wait until I am no longer "new" so I can like and up-vote things...unless I can do this now - but I don't see the options.

I love your updates and feedback @ErosWired; I am still too new to be able to like or up-vote. Thanks for sharing 🙂

Thanks for the additional explanation. I guess I still have a follow-up question or two (or three). What is the consequence or "risk" of being a non-responder? What should a non-responder be doing to monitor and protect health so one can still bare-back? Does this potentially change over time? Can a non-responder become a responder? Thanks again!

Great question. What does it mean to be a non-responder or non-respondent to the vaccine? Are you non-respondent to the virus itself, or even more exposed? I guess I am confused by this and would appreciate any insight the community has to share. Thanks!

I love this topic. Great question. Isn't this something we have all been confronted with at some point in our bottoming careers? If you haven't (been confront by this yet) might I recommend that it should cross your mind at some point if you want to enjoy better peace of mind when getting fucked. Personally, If I have not thoroughly douched I am always worried about something unpleasant. Am I over-reacting? I have enjoyed reading through the other areas of the forums about how easily guys just pull their pants down and take a raw cock...yet we never or rarely hear about any of the preparation (if any) that went into it (or not). Nor do we hear about the consequence of a dirty dick, etc. in the absence of preparing to get fucked. Is it part of the fantasy? Is it being glossed over or left out? Maybe it's in a part of the forums I have not yet read as I am still new...forgive me if that is the case. Is there not already a hand-book on this topic? Something like "THE NO DOUCHE DIET"? That could also describe how and when to douche to freshen up depending on the volume of cock(s) you plan to get within any given time-frame? If it doesn't exist it should, lol. I know there are a few nurses or medical professionals in this community; so If someone could edit and organize all of the information and knowledge within these forums posts we could probably create our own hand-book. hahaha I digress, but I do wonder about the following on a regular basis and would appreciate any of your collective wisdom or insight on resources, etc. Am I douching too much? Is that even possible? Are there any signs or symptoms of douching too much or too frequently? Is it a condition and does it have a name? Is it possible to over stimulate ones colon while douching? Is this bad? What are the long term consequences ? Can one become dependent on douching or laxatives to have a bowel movement? Is this why everyone prefers to keep their shit "tight" and take psyllium supplement in order to douche less?? How well does it (Metamucil or psyllium) work and how long does it take to get into a consistent bowel movement cycle? At the end of the day a big part of my goal is to be able to put that cock back into my mouth. So, I want it 100% clean. I guess the alternative is not to put it back in my mouth... sad face.

Bonjour mes amis!! Is there an update on this post-COVID? Or is the Hotel Gouvenerneur still the best option? Anyone have any recent experience here that they could share? Any local guys have any advice on the best way to set oneself up to take (anonymous) loads?

Thanks for the updates, guys! Please keep them coming. I am thinking of planning a trip to Montreal this summer or fall. In the absence of a bath-house option; do any of you know or can recommend a good hotel or motel conveniently located in Montreal for getting a lot of action? Thanks!! Anyone live in Quebec City? Is there any action there??

Great question. I have been working to understand my own "desire" in this regard. I agree with all other preceding responses too. I do enjoy being a sexual object. Something a top uses to achieve his best possible orgasm. I also enjoy the animal, carnal and natural physicality of being mounted. The horny grunting and moaning of pleasure. The actual moment when the top inserts his erection drives me wild. I delight in receiving their orgasm and cum as a means of thank-you for providing an outlet. It's like meeting up for a game of tennis or racquetball and leaving satisfied that it was fun to get physical with another man. I appreciate that it is a "win-win" situation - each guy gets what they want out of the arrangement. Unlike a sport or game where score is kept and someone loses. I like it when it is anonymous. I do not need to "know" who is taking pleasure from my horny, talented holes. Unless it was awesome, then I want to know who that was so I can make it easy for them to come back for more. Is there a topic or question someone has started about what you do NOT appreciate or enjoy when being fucked as a cumdump? That might be an interesting topic to explore. Cheers!!

Here is yet another reason why I am very fond of this community. This is well thought out and concisely articulated through the various responses. *group hug* Is this an either or situation where you "have" to choose one at the exclusion of the other - OR - is this a polarity which could be managed, and a balance that can be achieved? @ErosWired so clearly describes the "lows" we may be tempted to over-look or shrug-off. One might want to mitigate for those conditions in approaching it as a polarity to manage type scenario. I apologize if I am not making any sense. I want to express how much I truly appreciate all of you guys and for sharing your personal experiences and perspective. My desire to be a "cumdump" (if I have to label it) (which has the potential be full-time as ErosWired describes; I mean I could find myself easily ending up there just out of tunnel vision for a need to have and please every hard cock that I can persuade to slide into me bare and compliment me with his orgasm and jizzzm) conflicts with my relationship making the actual process of navigating these desires tricky. Especially when you do not have the "supportive" or "encouraging" partner in your corner cheering you on. All of this to say, it's not easy. It's not straight forward, neither situation is very likely to just fall into your lap and everything requires some degree of effort. I guess it just depends on your attitude, your priorities, and your desire to find and strike or strive for a balance which helps you manage the polarities and find contentment. xoxoxo

One of my favourite guys stopped by this afternoon. He appreciates being anonymous, so I setup for anonymous fucking and get out the blindfold and wait. He messages me when he's like two minutes away. I pull my blindfold down and message him back that I am ready and in position. He knows the rest of the drill... He comes inside and finds me naked with my ass presented towards him. He get down and dives right into my hole...tongue goes in and he starts getting me all sloppy and wet. Personal note, how many of you absolutely go wild when a top gets your hole wet so he can just slide in. It's hot and I love it - it never gets old. Obviously he stands up and slides in all the way down to the base of shift and balls deep and just let's out a sexy sigh of how good it felt and how long it had been. After a delightful fuck match of several strokes of varied pace and intensity he let's out the most delightful orgasm and grinds himself as deep up into me as he can get. Personal note, I love it when a top grinds his load in as far as he can get it (something so carnal about that). It never gets old either, lol. I clean him off when he slides out and he thanks me as he pulls up his shorts. I do enjoy watching him walk away.

Makes no sense. Perhaps it is just an issue of supply vs. demand? Perhaps the OP had bad luck finding the plethora of available raw bottoms in the GTA on that day at that time. If you are ever down in Niagara, please hit me up. I love a hot sticky load (the cheer gear is optional).

100% Agree with @ErosWired on all points. I was happy to see this thread as I was wondering if "cumdumps" also have to be "pigs". And again, I find myself wondering WHY we feel the need to put labels on stuff all the time. Is it so that companies can sell us "piggy" branded merchandise? I appreciate that a lot of what drives my behaviour is animal and carnal at it's foundation, but that does NOT mean I roll around in the mud and embrace the character of a pig. So, no - I am not a PIG and would encourage we move away from using labels. Just enjoy the sex.

What I appreciate about the BZ community is how much I can relate to my peers. The above statement is exactly how I feel on the subject of cumming during sex. I could have quoted so many of your other great responses... I find that when bottoming, cumming is like pulling the "emergency hand-break" on my desire to look for more loads. I find that I am insatiable and want a never ending line-up of hardens to breed me...so cumming is not my focus until the last load is in...then, I could quote someone else who identifies that the best way to unload is into another horny bottom.

This should have been setup as a poll question LOL. We might see Swallow out-numbering Spit by large margins. Why spit it out? I cannot think of a reason to...

To my knowledge, what @BadInBrooklyn described above is one of the "few" options we have left. It is like a "pop-up" personal or boutique bath-house - to borrow a modern retail term. LOL You simply have to do your best to "advertise" on as many platforms as possible, and make it easy for people to find and access you. Thus the sleazy motel. Those usually have direct room access from the parking lot, and guys can by-pass any front desk, etc. If you search BZ you may also find topics which list good cities where guys have had luck. Enjoy!! Anon loads is a special treat.

Fantastic, great story - well done. Count me-in. I LOVE everything about taking anonymous loads. It is extremely erotic and I agree that it can be quite addictive. The thrill of waiting ass out to be mounted and used - is the best. Plus no small talk or chit chat - I enjoy getting right to the good part and getting that cock hard and in my horny holes. Please hit me up if you are looking for an anonymous hole to use in Niagara. 🙂

You certainly are not alone. I was on Grindr for the past 48 hours and would say the ratio in my area is about the same. And even for people like myself, whom advertise as versatile - when it comes right down to it I would definitely prefer to get fucked than do the fucking. It's even more discouraging when the one or two "Tops" are also 100% flakes. Which might drop the above ratio in actuality. Having said all of that, I did do my fair share of "topping" the last 48 hours because I see it as a virtuous cycle. The more I help other bottoms "get their itch scratched" aka hole fucked, I am hopeful that karma will be kind to me and bring a top or two or three (or more) my direction.

Hi guys, was the following already covered somewhere in a previous post - I may have missed it. BUT, what if (or more likely when) "one" realizes that they are actually and I mean by ones actual actions - are not as ethical as they may have believed or had themselves convinced they were/are? Does that make sense? I feel like I try my hardest to be ethical because that is how I would want to be treated. And then I realize how slippery this slope actually is... IRL. I question myself often - are any of you disappointed with yourselves and what you found you would actually do to get that "load"? xoxoxo

For those of who do not live in Toronto or near Regatta Road can you describe what the scene is like? Is this area also known by other names? Is it only this active because the weather is now warm enough to fornicate outdoors? Are there ticks to worry-about? So curious, I have always fantasized about something like this...getting a visual of what one could expect is helpful in getting up the courage to try. Thanks for sharing, sounds like an ideal night out. If anyone is ever in Niagara and needs a willing hole, please direct message me. Cheers!

I should multi-quote. There was another poster who said it was the Top's choice. This is true and ultimately it is. However, having said that, I usually only choose to meet those tops if I am desperate to feel a cock slide into me regardless of whether it is covered or bare. Otherwise, as indicated above, I tend to pass over the guys who bring up condoms. I will spend more time chatting with guys who never bring it up or claim to be on PrEP (seems like a code these days for let's fuck raw).

Thank you for the whole reply; this part particularly made my day. I can appreciate that moderation in practice is easier said than done... love to all

I simply wanted to thank you for adding this very thoughtful comment to the conversation. This is after all what I was looking for in this community. I can relate a lot to what you describe here and so I up-vote or virtual high five this insight. I also want to iterate the importance of your "warning" as perhaps some may have overlooked that gem of insight - but we should be mindful of the consequences of what you describe when you say "sounding off in an echo chamber". There is a reason we are the 1% and NOT in the billionaire type of way - ahahahahaha.

I love this thread and topic. Thanks for the interesting and thought provoking material. I do appreciate this community. *group hug*

My personal favourite aspect of bottoming is everything previously mentioned - but it is mostly feeling a guy's cock throb and grow bigger and get harder as he's edging himself toward his best possible orgasm in my hole. I love it when a top gets into using my talented holes and does what he enjoys the most in order to have the most intense orgasm. An intense orgasm feels like a bigger, juicier load. I crave that.

Great questions!! Love this topic. Here are my 2 cents... 1) I may have done this; let's just say that I try to avoid doing this. I had one memorable hookup with a young guy (22-ish) living in my neighborhood who got comfortable with me after a few meet-ups...and he would literally "dish" any gossip on anyone. So, I have to confess that it was fascinating to learn about his experiences with others - but I did not really learn anything new. It was mostly just gossip. 2) You may have guessed my position on the ethics - I think there is a time and a place for this. Many guys have pointed out that it can be a great way to meet new guys who share similar interests or are like-minded (who does not want a good referral?). On the other hand, I am afraid that more often than not it is mostly gossip-y and unproductive. I think we should remind ourselves that there is a reason why we were all taught NOT to KISS AND TELL. In conclusion, referrals are great - finding like minded buddies is helpful. And BUDDY is a good term as earlier pointed out. BUT the gossip aspect makes me uncomfortable.