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If you found someone who had never had sex and never gotten horny, they would look at two guys (or maybe even a guy and a girl) having sex and scratch their head, because nothing about it makes logical sense. In this case, why would someone want to swallow what comes out of another person's cock when it has nothing to do with regular food or drink, and especially considering what usually comes out of there? Almost everything about sex is mental. It's our inherent desire to do it. It's because it makes us horny beyond words. We crave it. You can't communicate that to someone who hasn't experienced it. I think that answers the OP's question though - it's because we've done it. And we love to do it. And that helps to make it taste better too, at least in our minds at that moment in time while we swallow it as we're about to cum ourselves.

Your preferences are just as valid as anyone else's. Sighted people use their eyes, and blind people use their other senses. For the senses you have available, your preferences make perfect sense. Even sighted people can't agree on what makes a person ugly or hot, or a 1 or a 10. For some, a hairy guy my age, dressed in leather sporting a cigar, with a bit of a belly is an 8 or a 9, and a slim smooth twink in lycra a 1 or a 2. For others those ratings are reversed for the same people. For yet others, the deciding factors are more about hair color, eye color, cock size, hole tightness, hiv status, etc The end result is, I may be a 6 or a 7 to one person, a 3 or a 4 to another, and an 8 or a 9 to yet another. All that really matters is what my partner thinks, and I'm high enough that we've been together for over 20 years. Whether you're looking for Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now, look for someone that thinks YOU are an 8 or 9 (but at least make an effort to have good hygiene - few guys will rate you high if you don't).

Everything is relative. Yes, compared to 1950 or 1980, it's tremendously easier for a boy or teen to realize what they are, and to feel good about it, or least be much less apt to feel like they're an abomination, before they even think about telling anyone about their feelings. In that way I wish I'd been born in the early 2000s. However, where you grow up geographically, and who your parents are make a huge difference in whether, after you come out, you're happy and expressive, or whether you'll get shunned or beaten (or worse). Always remember that straight people are (with few exceptions) the only ones who create gay babies. When the gay babies grow to gay teens, the straight parents many times don't know how to react, and depending on their background, their parents, their religious beliefs, etc, the results can be terrible for the kid, even though the world around them is mostly accepting. I'm thankful that things are, in general, so much better than when I grew up. We still have a long way to go, but just like with racism and religious-based wars, homophobia has been going on for millennia and I doubt we'll ever get to a perfect state. Unfortunately. But we're a lot better than we ever have been.

HelloBlindRawFucker1, Detectable and undetectable can change depending on if they're on or off their meds, and tattoos are permanent, so a tattoo noting that wouldn't work too well. Biohazard tattoos are usually added to tell others that a guy is positive. I've never seen a symbol to tell people that a neg person is chasing. Scorpions with their back raised up and their body positioned in a way such that they are ready to sting is another symbol that's used to suggest that the person is positive (and toxic). A biohazard symbol is hard to describe to someone who can't see it, but I'll give it my best shot: Imagine a circle. Then imagine three additional circles, arranged so that they are all touching each other. Imagine the group of three circles centered within the first circle. The first circle extends only about 20% of the way into the diameters of the group of thre circles. Finally, each of the three circles in the group is thick on the side towads the center where they meet, and thin on the outer side farthest away from that, and on the far side the lines break, sort of like if you hold your thumb and nearest finger in a circle, but the fingertips don't quite meet. Does that help you to envision it?

I'm of similar age and had much the same experiences, except I never succumbed to the pressure to get married to a woman. I spent over half of my life in the closet (peeking out every so often at bars and online, once it was available). It was rough. The other half I spent out, at least to everyone who matters (the local family, work, etc). I don't see a need to announce it to every person that I meet on the street. It was a different time back then, and I fault no one who stayed in the closet in those days, especially if they didn't have the fortune to live in a metro area. Times are better now, and coming out is much more welcoming an experience than in the past (although still dependent on where you live, to a degree). The marriage complicates things for sure, but if the marriage itself is struggling, and the wife is unhappy as well, then you have to consider if it's best for all involved to come out and start living the life that makes you happy. Our time on this earth is finite and we can't afford to be unhappy for all of that time. We each have to deal with our own individual closets though, and decide which ones we're willing to stay in, and how and how often we poke our heads out the doors. My husband is not at all into the kinks on this board, so I am closeted in that way, and since i don't want to give him up, probably always will be. That doesn't mean that I can't enjoy the kink though, by participating on here, and chatting with guys who are fortunate enough to be able to be out of that particular closet and actively chasing, or whatever else makes them happy and horny. There will always be closets. Hopefully they will be used more and more just for clothing. I think there will always be people hiding in the corners for one reason or another though. It's sad, but it's life.

Every time I shower, or every couple of days, whichever comes first.

I think that pretty much sums it up. I also love truly sick boys. :)

25 (I think - could have been a year earlier or later). I wanted it when I was half that age, but sometimes life sucks (and not in a good way).

I am now! I hadn't seen him before but will be looking.

Agree 10 out of 10, though I live in a metropolitan area of the U.S. midwest, and it seems that you don't have to go very far at all outside of the metro area into the rural areas for opinions and actions to change dramatically.

Only two comments/suggestions: Item 6 "Pre-cum is a natural lubricant that gets blocked with condoms." - The main point is true, Pre-cum gets blocked by condoms. However I disagree that pre-cum is all that most people need for (comfortable) penetration. Pre-cum is nice 'n slick, delicious, etc, but some people produce only a small amount and others drip gobs of it. My experience has been that you usually need something in addition (spit, 'proper' store-bought lube, etc) to help it out. I would change it to a bullet point about condoms requiring more and different lube. Maybe re-work part of your wording in point 8 into this revised bullet point. Something like: "6. Condoms require more lube than going bare - Condoms require lots of lube, otherwise the increased friction will damage your hole and make you hurt. Sex shouldn't hurt.. Condom-compatible lubes can also be worse for the environment than regular lubes." Item 4 "The hottest porn stars don't use them.". I agree with what you're trying to go for in general, but I'd re-word it to "The hottest porn is always bareback" and re-work the rest of the line accordingly. I've seen a lot of really hot young guys in porn that use condoms. The condom is an instant boner-killer, but the guys themselves are undeniably hot. I'd also move it down towards the bottom of the list, since this is more of a subjective point, and most of the rest are more fact-based. I'd list the fact-based points first. For that reason, I'd swap points 7 and 8, and move this one to where 9 currently is (or at least after 7). In general, I like it. It's well thought out, and I commend you for bringing this point of view into your gay youth group. Gay youth, just like gay adults, need to look at all sides of an issue and make their own informed decisions, rather than just blindly do what other people in their life tell them. In school all they hear is either "always use condoms" or "don't have sex at all". You're giving them another viewpoint, and backing it up with logical reasoning. Good job! Btw in your header you mentioned that you're out to them as 'pro-HIV'. I'd stress to your group that they can be anti-condom but still not be pro-HIV. All of the points in your list are valid regardless of whether they are on PReP, or want to be come chasers like yourself. The list is all about reasons not to use condoms. Being an active chaser is an entirely different matter (though if they want to go down that road too, that's very cool :) )

Good for him! I'm sure that will give him inspiration for new scenes when he returns :)

The main thing is that you've thought about it, talked about it, and weighed the upsides and downsides. All one can do in any situation is to make the decision they think best at that moment in time, so I wish you two the best of luck on your journey and hope you find the experience to be everything you envision it being. Keep us updated on what happens!

It should be all about you. Yes, he's your BF, but how many BFs have you had over the years? Is he going to be your BF/husband five years from now? In the same way that getting a BF's name tattooed on yourself is a bad idea, so is becoming poz because a BF suggests it. Tattoos can be removed (painfully), but a poz diagnosis can't. If you yourself want to be poz, get incredibly boned over the idea, can't get it out of your head, have researched it, and know you will be able to obtain affordable meds (assuming your choice is to go on meds, which it sounds like is likely), then by all means, go for it. You'll find a lot of people to support your decision here. If it were me though, I would let the decision simmer for at least six months or more and make sure that it's really a long-term passion of your own, and not just something you're doing to please him. If he's still into you after you tell him you're either not doing it, or not doing it right now but maybe later, then that's a good sign for your relationship.

Sometimes wholesome is needed to advance the story line in a believable way. But - I'm sure you have plenty of unwholesome poz sluttiness ahead! :) Great stuff, continue on!

There are guys who are sadists. There are guys who are masochists. There's nothing wrong with the two meeting up and having a party, and both getting what they want. But... as many others have said, you should do this with someone that you've known for some time, and who you trust won't take things too far. Someone who your friends know, or at least who you can leave behind reliable contact information about, for someone to give to the police if things go terribly awry. Is it really likely that he's planning on hauling you home in multiple pieces in a suitcase? Probably not. But just like for every 50 people that get horny and say they want to get pozzed and 1 actually tries hard, there are probably similar odds out there for guys into 'sane' sadism vs craziness. Is the risk that you'll find that one crazy person high? No. But, if you turn poz, you can take meds. If you turn up dead or permanently disabled, was it worth it?

I have to admit that my BB heroes are more likely to be the twinks that he was fucking, but yes, Chad was a very familiar face in gay porn back then. He was the very first name that came to mind given that description.

Chad Douglas?

I won't be there at Pig Week, but I predict that those who are will have a fucking hot time (and a hot time fucking!). Enjoy yourselves!

When he talks about the girl, does he use the word "girlfriend", "friend", or "roommate"? That's important. As ErosWired said, going after another guy's girlfriend will get you into a lot of hot water (with the girlfriend at a minimum), but depending on the cost of living etc, a man and a woman living together could be a completely platonic and financial thing, especially if he's gay. That requires more investigation on your part.

Proceed, but proceed cautiously. Remember that he may well be 100% straight, and just enjoying your friendship. It varies by where you live, but these days in most places it's not dangerous to either hint, or flat out come out and say that you're gay. Admitting that you're both gay and attracted to him will be a little awkward to say the least (since he has a girlfriend), so if you do hint about being gay, then best to leave the attraction part out for a while and first see how he reacts to the first part. Be prepared, though, that it could cause a rift in the relationship if he recognizes that you're attracted to him, but he doesn't reciprocate. It's a dance. More so when there's a girlfriend involved. It can turn out really well and you could find someone who gives you wild nights in the sheets, or it can turn out really poorly and you could lose him as a friend. Unfortunately there's no way ahead of time to really know how it's going to turn out. Only you can decide how far you want to test he waters, and how fast you want to take it. When I was in my 20s I crushed really hard on a guy, but he turned out to be a very straight religious sort of guy. Fortunately I never took it far enough that he knew I was crushing on him. With another guy it could have turned out differently though. There are other fish in the sea, so if this one escapes, keep throwing the line in! Good luck!

Question for the younger guys: Since bookstores and arcades are going away, and gay bars are few and far between compared to what they used to be, how are you getting your pig on? Where are you learning the ropes and realizing your inner need for seed?

I was never raped, nor did I have more than a couple of sexual experiences when I was underage. All of my fucked-up kinks developed naturally, mostly in my 20s, and either from my own warped fantasies,or from reading or watching different types of porn. I don't blame the porn one bit, btw, since I was the one that would seek it out. No one forced it on me. My first times were around the age of 8 or maybe 9, with a boy just a year or two older. He coaxed me into getting naked so that he could look at me, after which he did the same for me. On another two or three occasions there was more touching involved, but never anything overtly sexual (mainly because I was totally clueless and he was only slightly more knowledgeable). I know for a fact those brief events lingered in my mind for over a decade, leaving me with the desire to see more boys naked, but I strongly doubt whether it 'turned me gay', and I'm certain had nothing to do with the adult kinks I developed later in life. So no, in my case it all came naturally (or at least without any coercion)

I don't remember the exact year, but my first time was at about 12, +/- a year, with a boy in my class. I wanted badly to do a full suck job and swallow his cum, but he was straight (now married to a woman) and I 'lost' a game that we were playing, with my penance being to suck him. Regretfully, I was too shy to admit to what I really wanted, so I played like I was straight too, and instead just wrapped my lips around the base of his cock for a few seconds and didn't even let my tongue touch his shaft. Not taking it further with him is one of my bigger regrets in life, since we spent weekends at each other's houses and it could have developed into a regular fuck-buddy thing. It was post-college before I had another cock in my mouth. I think 12 was the right age to start though. I just wussed out (though in my defense, it was the late 70s in a rural area, people got beat up for being gay, and I wasn't that brave)..

Amen brother! I envy today's young gays so much. When I was 18 I was just starting to realize that there was something else in the world besides being 'bi-curious', and had never seen a single gay porn photo or video. Today's 18yo's (many of them at least) been stroking to gay porn for years. Some have already progressed to what used to be considered "advanced topics" like fisting and bug chasing, which used to be practiced only by guys twice their age. The world's never perfect at any point in history, but I'd love to be 18 and gay today! As for the OP's question, absolutely, I'd love to. The only thing better than a horny twink bottom is a horny twink top :).