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All of the above may be helpful (assuming a lot of guys even know what some of those flags / pins mean), but the best way to attract the notice of other gay men is how you project your "presence". Look a prospect in the eye, hold his gaze a moment, and give him a hint of a smile. Not a big fat smile, just a hint. Break the gaze and do something else, and glance at him again while you're doing whatever - pinching tomato's at the grocery store, pretending to search for a product of some kind on the shelves, whatever. If the guy nods back, or even smiles back, walk up to him with a confident step, and talk to him. Don't be overbearing (at least not at first). Project that which you would respond to in someone else. All the doo-dads are ok, I guess, but nothing will be more productive than self-confidence. Make sure it's a friendly face, with a bit of a smile he sees. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, as the old saying goes. Good luck, bud !!

There are a number of gay cruises on ships out of Ft. Lauderdale & Miami. As far as I know, they're still running. I don't know anything about them other than hearsay, since I've never taken one. I do hear that any kind of food-born illnesses can spread like wildfire though, and during covid, the cruises were either stopped or diverted from this area. Never heard of a specifically bareback cruise though. Even during the height of the covid scare, guys would fuck with N95 masks on, but I never ever saw a rubber ...

Since you're presumably discussing biological families, I'll never know. We were adopted kids, but when my folks passed, I did find some documentation in their lockbox at the bank relating to the birth parents. Apparently, I was a "love-child" of two horny teenagers who later on got married and raised a family. I'll never know if any biological siblings turned out to be sluts - or even gay. That fact did make it easier for my adoptive family, since all the relatives knew that I wasn't actually "their" blood. Frankly, I'm just as happy knowing I'm not of their blood too. I never hear from any of them anymore, which is fine with me. Life is what we - as separate, individuals - make it. So far, I haven't wasted much of mine.

I don't know how to do that. It was the opening subject on John King's noon broadcast (EST) on CNN yesterday. Maybe the people who make the links at the CDC hadn't done it yet? A little later, one of the talking heads specifically mentioned Ft. Lauderdale/Miami.

In the places I like to Breed, almost everyone's a <polite cough> slut. Tops, bottoms, and in-betweens. But that's what makes it fun and worthwhile to go there.

Thanks for the kind words, quackquack. I haven't read fiction for ages, and have never bothered to try writing it. The truth is often sordid enough !!! Per Javier though, I haven't heard from him. I suspect that the bf either deleted my # from Javier's phone, or cowed the young man into doing what the bf told him to. I have no idea of other circumstances - i.e. financial arrangements, housing arrangements, all of that - so maybe I'll hear from him - maybe I'll run into him again at the bar - who knows. If I do, I'll mention it. Thanks again !!

About 30 minutes ago, the CDC released a statement advising that the LGBT+ Community is at greatest risk of contracting monkey pox. Apparently, someone can be infections before the actual pustules develop, which will eventually form "crusts", at which time the individual is no longer contagious. Also apparently, there are relatively minor symptoms (similar to the common cold) before any of the pox form on the skin. By all means, guys - check out the information on the CDC website for yourselves.

I agree. He's no doubt faced quite a number of bottoms that take a look and wonder how the fuck they're gonna take it. Since you're already friends, I'm sure he'll soothe your concerns with whatever it is you need, and you can be damn proud of yourself when he's finished. Good advice from the previous responders too.

Get in contact from some of the guys from Berlin .... they're experts at this kind of scene !!!

I get the competitive thing - but what is the part about "being the best baby-daddy"?

When I saw this post, I sniffed around a bit too. In my area, both were heavily dependent on public parks/spaces, most of which I'd never heard of because I never go to them. There were some of the infamous local bars/fuckclubs, which I already know about. I don't imagine I'll bother with either of these. It makes me wonder who's behind these. In the fuckjoints, either they're there to fuck or get fucked, with none of the potential risk of arrest. I know some guys find that risk exciting somehow, but I've never been arrested for fucking in public, and I reckon I'll keep it that way.

^ is simply a different, and very well conceived way of saying the same thing I've gone on about - calling it "the connection" achieved occasionally. It's very real, and every guy can participate if he opens his mind to it. Somebody in Germany ROCKS !!!

Well, why not get the various inoculations, get on PReP, and protect yourself as best you can? Sure, some bugs will find their way to you, and those are mostly treatable. Might as well stay as healthy as you can, and still be the man you were born to be.

Thanks, BlackDude for this reply. The more I read, the more deeply I understand. One thing I don't understand though, is why would some Black men ........ would want to place themselves in the situation where the old ways are reinforced? Why would any Black man put up with the racist crap, let alone seek it out? Why would any Black man put up with the same old racist garbage? While I don't endorse the perverse notion of White Privilege, I can at least comprehend how desperately some white folks are clinging to it so desperately. For many, there's not much else to them in the first place. To be blunt, there are far too many white men that don't deserve any honor at all in this context, and think that merely an accident of their birth constitutes Privilege. The tragedy in Minneapolis served to awaken millions of clueless Caucasians to the perversion of humanity we call racism. That is, at least, the thinnest of silver (no, not even silver - how about tin) linings to that truly evil event. If these Black men are looking for validation, looking to centuries of oppression by white men would be - I would think - be the very last place they'd look. Validation from their oppressors? I just don't get that part. They should look to the gargantuan amount of perseverance their own ancestors created and have maintained, handed down through generations.

LOL ..... lets let our Boots get together and have a little chat together, take notes, then tell it ALL !!!!

Well, I'm not exactly sure if this belongs in the "last load" thread, but it might .... So was at my favorite fuckjoint last night, did my usual circuit of the place, hit the darkroom, rutted in a few Holes, and then went to the bar for a beer (it's byob, btw - you can't buy any liquor, only soft drinks). A few sips, and this very good-looking Hispanic guy sat down next to me, with this big fat smile pointed at me. I didn't recognize him at all. Small chat ensued - still smiling. Turns out he was one of the Holes I'd been in, and he recognized me from my boots !!! Now. One cardinal rule of the darkrooms, is never wear good Boots to a darkroom. They'll get stepped on, stomped on, scuffed and fucked up. It cost me a beautiful pair of John Ashbourne's to learn that lesson. So, I wear an ancient pair of old engineers when I hit the fuckjoints. The Rockettes could dance on them and not do any noticeable damage. That said, he was engaging, pleasant, told me his name is Jose, and thanked me for fucking him, etc etc. Apparently I did pump my load up his Hole - but it's way too dark in there to know for sure. After showing it to me at the bar, I did remember it though - exactly what I love most in a Hole - full of thick, rich black hair, fanning out over the cheeks, up to the lower back, down the thighs .... matted down with drying loads .... grrrrrrrrrr. We traded vignettes, "do you have a boyfriend", blah blah blah, he asked what kind of business I was in, I told him, and I returned the question. Seems he's an R.C. Priest !!! And, he lives with one too. Both are from Puerto Rico*, have known each other for quite some time, and - - - here it comes - - - they each give absolution to to other for all their "sins". Each guy tells the other what he did, how he did it, and in salacious detail, the Cocks get hard, and then they fuck each other !!! When I mentioned that I wasn't R.C., he seemed a bit disappointed, but said something like 'that's ok - we won't mind', insinuating that I might be invited for their next "Crime against The Church". He assured me that even if I were a non-believer, the absolution would count**, and I'd be "forgiven" for doing what I know needs no forgiveness whatsoever from any deity whatsoever. I thought I'd heard it all ..... but no. If the other one is half as good looking as this one, and has half as hot a Hole, I just might, but if they dress up in the long dresses, cassocks, all the rest, I think it would put me off - certainly not because of religious fear, but just because it would seem so silly. I have no judgements to make of them - whatever gets you off is great (as long as no one is harmed). I'm just afraid I'd laugh and kill the mood. What if they used ritz crackers for ..... oh, never mind. Not really sure what I'll do ... but he did give me his number .... *read: hitting one of my soft spots ** like I'd give a rats ass

Well, well .... nice to have some survivors of the religious/cultural repression turn up on BZ !!! The first gay bar was on the South side of State St, maybe the 4 hundred block, and the owner was Earl, a retired cop. The front door was never used - guys would park in the area behind the bar and use the back door. I don't think I ever saw anyone come in or go out the front door. I can't recall the name either though. I even used to park over by First Lutheran and walk over !!! Later, there was another abs that opened, also on State St, maybe the 2 or 3 hundred block from the river, but I never went to either of them either. That one was frequented by the pastor of yet another Lutheran church, where he was often on his knees at the gh's, "praying" for (presumably) loads down his throat. Just when I was going away to school another bar opened up somewhere in the area, but I never went there. Haven't been back there for years, and have zero plans to do it either. There's another guy on BZ from Rockford - it's great to know that at least a handful of us managed to flush the religio/cultural garbage we were raised on, and managed to become the men we were born to be !!! Thanks (former) neighbor !!!

No problem, Say what you mean, if you don't care to be challenged. ReCon meant a LOT to many of us at one time, and seldom merely for "hookups". Friendships lasting decades were developed after initially becoming acquainted via ReCon.

I beg your pardon. I seem to recall that somewhere else you mentioned that you're 30 years old. Thus, when you were about 10 years old, ReCon ("World Leathermen" at the time) was a most appreciated method of connection between those of us the uphold and honor the Leather Ethic. Then, it was magnificent to even be in communication with Leathermen from all over the world. I still enjoy friendships I initially made via that website, to this day. I don't use the apps anymore, and there since there are very few days - even in what passes for "Winter" in FL - to wear the Hides, let alone Full Dress, I am nothing but grateful for ReCon (at least as it once was - perhaps not the case now). ReCon may be useless to you presently, but that has not "always" been the case - no matter how beautiful and talented in the Leather Arts you are today. Thank you.

Thanks for this information. Not being aware of the SNR construct, I think I understand what you mean. I know "fap fap" when I read it, try to dismiss, and gather the more important parts of a post. Earlier in this particular thread, I flunked - thus the re-reading - and resulting re-reply. I do hope that I don't piss off some guys; I know I can be somewhat firm in my beliefs (or even ability to present them), but every voice on BZ is equally important. This site gives every guy the platform to discuss issues pertaining to our particular requirements, and for that I'm grateful I stumbled upon it some months ago. Admittedly, there are some times I don't have as much time as it takes to incisively read between the lines (when there's something hiding there) of all the commentary. Thanks for the post. I learned a little bit more than I knew when I sat down - which is the whole point !

Well, the reputation precedes both of us put together in FL. Key West, for instance, has been "live&let-live" for many decades. Hit the beaches on a nice day, and there are scantily-clad women (many far too old for bikini's) everywhere. So I doubt it would ever come close to the NW. Illinois has been solidly blue for over 60 years now (the Government, I mean), when Hizzoner first got elected in Chicago. True, there are definitely "red" counties, to the west and south of Chicago, but the State Government (i.e. the place where policy is formed) has been solidly blue for a long time. Leave the city though, and there are plenty of red counties. Actually, the second-largest (at the time, population-wise) was Winnebago County, about 100 miles W of Chicago, and I grew up there. Some one actually opened an adult bookstore w/gloryholes on 7th St, a block from the church we virtually lived in. What happened? The church bought the entire block of 7th St where the abs was, tore the entire block down, just to get rid of the Satanic Influence. That's pretty damn red. Of note, the asst. pastor of a different Lutheran church was often on his knees at those gloryholes ... I think you might be right, in that sexual needs top political sway every time. It wouldn't surprise me at all if there were plenty of gay sex going on downstate.

I'm not aware of anything around Ft.L. closing their doors, but then I don't hit the tubs much. However: reading the above post/replies, I notice - maybe because of my own political views - that they seem to be in "red" states. If there's anything to that, I would imagine that DeathSantis here in FL will be closing down everything he can if he does make a run for the Presidency. The bars/fuckjoints here are nothing if not cash-cows, and no politician can resist cranking his neck the other way when there's dough being doled out. If stripping women of their intensely personal bodily rights is ok, he'll have a field day going after us. Register and VOTE !!! (Florida primaries are August 23rd - just sayin ...)

Well saie, tallslenderhandsomeyoungman ..... We're still human beings, we're still men, it's just that we fuck a bit differently than most other men. Fairly small potato's, in my book.

Raw. Period.

I think we should get CumDumpSLT a much bigger bed !!!