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LOL .... well, honesty is (usually) the best policy ..... Or, seconds, thirds, fourths ..... well, you get the drift.

First, Gu1llaum3, Welcome to BZ. Secondly, you have nothing to apologize for, your use of English being better than a number of English-speaking guys (as their native language). There are tons of man around that enjoy both men and women sexually. Sounds to me like you're one of them, and there's simply nothing wrong with being equally attracted to both men and women. While it's not for every guy, if it's right for you, then do what you need to do. That's a good question. If it's ok for her, then why not for you too? If by the term "lovers", you mean ongoing sexual relationships, then you're definitely a verrrrrry generous man with her. I can understand that you may not want to upset the current relationship with her, but it sounds like she's a bit too demanding, without extending her "privileges" to you too. If you've been accepting that kind of behavior from your wife for some time, then breaking her of that habit may prove most difficult. Add in the fact that you and she have children together, it's a situation you don't want to adversely affect. The fact is though, that each of us possesses agency. By that, I mean we're all of equal worth, our needs are of equal worth, and she wouldn't have said it if she had your fulfillment uppermost in her mind. Perhaps you've heard the old saying "what's good for the goose is also good for the gander". It sounds to me like you've been allowing her an undue amount of control in the household. What you do about that however, is up to you. What level of risk of a major rift with your wife are you willing to risk? Maybe you need to address, in your mind, just how much you want to maintain the current situation, versus how much you need sex with men. Once you have that answer, you'll have a more clear idea of what you need to do for your own fulfillment. Best of luck !!!

Welcome, new members. We look forward to hearing your thoughts/perceptions on the varied topics being discussed.

Thanks for this question. There are "bottoms", and then there are cumdumps. The second - the cumdumps - are bottoms, of course - but they're also so committed to their skills that they find total satisfaction in servicing cock after cock after cock. They are very special men - men who have embraced their lusts to the ultimate degree - entirely embracing who and what they are, and that's achieving a successful life. They truly love themselves for their ongoing commitment to servicing hard raw cocks, one after another after another after another - secure in their sense of self-worth. They simply know that it's answering their calling, and find fulfillment in that calling. They are literally "in love' with who they have become, and why they've become so. Cumdumps don't give a rats ass about all the other facets of the lives of those they service. They care only that they service as many men as they possibly can as often as they possibly can. When there's a hard raw cock up their sperm-holes, it's because they need the load - not because some other guy else needs to pump it up their guts. A true cumdump has the most flavorful, tasty, lovely hole than other men. Eating out a cum-filled hole is one of the true joys of life, before adding one's own sperm to the mix. There is another, more ethereal facet to what a cumdump has to offer, which is connection to every other Top that has bred the hold prior. What could possibly be more "connective" for a Top, dedicated to his own lusts, than tasting/consuming/ "connecting with" the sperm of his (unknown) brothers that have already sated that particular hole? It's hardly all that different from a cocksucker that loves sucking off cock after cock after cock. The thrilling difference is, the essence, the sperm, of all the previous cocks is still there, inside the cumdump's gut. And, by extension, all the men that have ever pumped their sperm up that hole. In that sense, we're all literally "connected" - across national boundaries, across oceans between us, with no possible divisions amongst us.

I realize that all the attention has been focused on the President's inability to exert any influence whatsoever on Putin, and the unfortunate side-effect of that focus is that the P.M. of Israel has begun his march of destruction into Gaza, without much attention paid in the major media. Some nations in the world have voiced intentions to "recognize" an "Independent State of Gaza, which would mean official condemnations of Netanyahoo and his depraved policies regarding those terribly distressed, starving, broken people. While the World is focused on the pitiful puke emanating from Washington's Mouth, attention has been diverted from the ongoing, depravity still happening in Gaza. All those ICE guys would be put to far better use over in the Levant, rather than in our cities streets. I can only hope for the best for both Gaza and Ukraine.

There are a couple of guys on BZ that I just don't bother with; always skip over whatever they have to say.

I think a lot of guys conflate "big dick" with skill in using that 'big dick'. There's nothing at all under the sun wrong with owning a "big dick" - and there's nothing wrong with owning a modest dick. We have what we have, and everything depends on the learned skill with which we use what we've got.

The word "rape" implies nonconsensual sex, and it's to be avoided, and condemned. There are far, far too many guys around that need hard raw cock pumping loads up their guts. Forcing oneself on someone who doesn't want it is against every humane quality we possess. brnbk (above) is correct. Rough sex is fun, it's thrilling, it's fulfilling and magnificent when it's consensual. When it's not, it's despicable.

re: cheating vs open relationship, I think 'actually" cheating (i.e. sneaking extra sex on the sly) isn't healthy for either guy in the relationship. I much prefer an "open" relationship, in which either guy can fuck anytime he wants fresh meat, and not have to carry the burden of deceit. If one of the partners in a prospective "relationship" is insecure enough in the love they feel for each other, then keep building the security of the relationship until it's foundation is secure enough to - oh - what's the phrase - "open things up". Deceitfulness rots the relationship from within; why not be honest with one's partner? If one guy is dead-set against an open relationship, there's trouble in paradise in the first place. If he's able to at least consider it, It could lead to ever-greater sexual thrills for both men, and avoid that which will eventually sink the whole ship. At least that's being honest.

I voted no. I look at breeding holes as a joyful experience - and if I'm not feeling "up", excited, other messes on my mind, I don't go get hole. The other stuff will get cleared up one way or the other, so I wait until I'm "ready" - mind, body & spirit.

I couldn't possibly manage anything near accurate. All I could say is, there'd be a number of zero's involved.

Really .... you can't possibly be serious ....

Agreed. Judging others is not our job, fucking others (or, getting fucked by others) is our job - without any judgementalism. Everyone has feelings, no one wants to be looked down on, especially for acting on their honest cravings. Everyone deserves a basic level of respect, unless they act an an anti-human fashion. Every guy has agency - and no one should try to demean others (compensating for what, I wonder). Cumdumps are guys that have already passed through that fire of being judged, and they know how much value they possess to those who need men that are free to express their sexuality openly.

These days I mostly hit the fuckjoints, which means I'm wearing clothes. There are some lockers at Slammer, but they're almost always taken. Besides - I don't think I'd be much good completely naked; the ac over there is on full blast, and there's not that much insulation, body-wise. I don't like being cold - at all. Clearly though, lots of guys don't mind being naked - plenty of guys are wearing only sneakers over there.

Interesting question. I guess I would have to say I don't know for sure. In the darkroom at my favorite fuckjoint, it's pitch black ... one moves around by touch, not by sight. I can't say I generally feel up the bottoms on the fuck-benches, I just feel up the ass/hole, and start doing what I need to do. Can't remember ever reaching around the bottom's belly to find out what's there .... most of them wear jockstraps.

I was in the publishing business for years, and I think you have real talent. The story flows smoothly, and reads easily. and the characters are more developed than in some of the similar stories posted on BZ, and that's tp your credit as well. Hard-on's all around (or should that be Hard's on ???) 😄 It takes a truly filthy mind to create this kind of story out of whole cloth; Well done.

I think we still have a strong community - albeit sometimes not in-the-flesh. There are some guys on here I feel I actually "know", from their posts, replies, all of that. The advent of universal online "communities" is, as I see it, a boon, not a boondoggle. Gay Marriage may have fractured the original sense of "community" a bit, but it didn't turn out to be a serious fracture. We - as a community - are merely widening our spheres of consciousness - and that's a good thing. There's room for every guy in our corner of the World - even if some of them never did learn good manners. There are plenty of obnoxious straight bores too.

This signage must be in front of a Metropolitan Community Church ... the "Gay Church". Just a guess, but - - - I'll wager 10 to 1 that (s)he's a member of BZ as well.

These days, it seems - at least around here - that the predominant definition assumes the qualifier "bareback'. It's the condom use that needs a qualifier, not "fucking".

Agreed - operative word above being "letting" - or allowing - pursuing - seeking - raw cocks & their loads. It's the behavior, the thrill of wanton sex that can become controlling - or "addiction". It's the emotional rush, the thrill one gets when a guy realizes that he loves hard raw Cocks pumping loads up his gut more that almost anything else. It's simply what one wants to do more than anything else.

Actually, for the men you're describing - those who were actively fucking during the "80's. 90's" - i.e. before hiv came along - it's the way everyone fucked - the "normal" way to fuck. Using condoms was an 'un-natural" or fetishized way to fuck. Only a handful of men actually "fetishized" using rubbers; fucking without barriers of some kind (i.e. condoms) was completely normal and universal (except for those few who "fetishized" use of condoms. It was the only way to have sex if one wanted to live out their lives. Condoms came into virtually universal use almost overnight, once the mortalities started piling up. Any guy that wanted to live his life either used condoms, or quit fucking all together.

Maybe - I hope you're right. But, given P.S's track record, he'll keep deflecting until his last breath. Somehow though, I doubt he'd spare any group of people, if he had a moment's worth of thought that he could demean any particular subset of Americans and save his own corpulent ass.

Once a bottom realizes that Hard Raw Cock is the most important thing in his life, he's on his way (if not already there) to being completely happy in fulfilling his lusts. He only cares about the Cock, the Load - the source becomes less and less important to him. Hard Raw Cock is on his mind constantly, and he'll compromise on all kinds of responsibilities in order to get his next load. Clearly, a true "cumdump" need a "sponsor" - a "daddy" - a man who not only completely endorses his craving, but facilitates them as well. A man who understands how deep his needs are. The behavior is addicting - in that until he's taken his first load of the day, he's incomplete - he's only partially able to deal with his day - it's a state of mind that simply cannot be compromised by lesser considerations of is daily life. This is why he needs to serve a man he defines as his Primary Cock - who enables other facets of his life as well as his dedication to his calling - which can be as exciting to the Enabler as it is to the cumdump. Whatever "name" one gives the relationship; Lovers, boyfriends, Dad/son, Master/slave, matters little - it's the mutual dedication to fulfilling each man's calling that is so completely thrilling and rewarding. Addiction to sperm isn't a physical thing, it's an emotional thing that deserves to be upheld by every man.

Scheune never disappointed me - at all ....