norefusal
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she might actually be the smarter businessman. it was reported that she renegotiated her prenup before agreeing to be flotus. of course, how much she gets will depend on how much personal wealth he manages to hang onto, despite the impending court losses. she'll never be Melinda Gates
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i tried it once back in 1990. yuck! STIs go away. i swear i can still taste that fucking condom today. blech 🤮 i know at least two guys who still request it. one in the back room of a bar. i literally just start sucking the raw dick of the guy next to him 🤤ain't nobody got time for that
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Depression & Barebacking/bug Chasing
norefusal replied to cheatingjock's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
well... we live in a post-prep world so surely i'm not the only one getting annoyed by all the bareback=high risk talk like it's forever 1995. as for bug chasing: one thing i've learned about the community is that we all have different reasons for the attraction. not all of it is coming from a place of self- harm. sure, those guys online begging to be made an "aids whore" perhaps fit the depression led me to self- harm mold, but i don't think that's all chasers. -
here's my advice: - yes, go to the gym because it is healthier, makes you sleep better feel better and you'll be less likely to fall over and break a hip at 80 the more you exercise now - in my experience, the gym was a great place to find casual sex. when i was your age, i probably had more sex in the gym locker room than i did at home in my bed - stfu. seriously, you are your own worst enemy. i find that being considered "hot" is a fake it till you make it situation and the single most thing that scares horny guys off is a perceived lack of confidence. if you think your body isn't up to code, so will they. horny guys are like animals, they can smell the fear and perceived weakness. be an arrogant prick, even if it's a character you play like an actor in a movie - accept reality. you are a new guy in a foreign land. anti american prejudice is real in europe so accept that only the more open minded guys are gonna give you a chance. try to fit in, but accept that acceptance is not going to happen overnight. have patience and keep working at it till it pays off. you're not 5 yo anymore, instant friends on the playground is a thing of the past. - accept reality. this isn't the local bath house. it's the world's biggest sex mart you're on broadway now baby, not in the local theatre so make sure you project so they can hear you in the back row. - at the end of the day rejection is more about them than it is about you. accept that's it's their loss and dwell on the victories rather than the losses. living well is the best revenge and nothing feels better than accepting yourself for who you are.
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honestly, i've never felt femme in general. in college i went thru a more "gender neutral" phase which was popular at the time of new wave and punk music and guys in mascara lol but my intro to gay sex and anal specifically was very masc4masc during the political activist gay era - often during the aids epidemic, a hook up would start with foreplay that often felt like a sensuous wrestling match for dominance. a few time i actually threw the match so i could get fucked by a sexy alpha 😜but in general it all felt "real men know how to tske dick" in tone. it took me years to realize what i called "passion" most people simply call "rough sex" lol now that i'm older i somehow seem even less femme even tho im much more of a sub bottom in hook ups. sometimes when a good dicking down has me all wet an open and leaking cum i feel like i've got a cunt but it doesn't feel femme somehow, just me being in touch w this side of the male body and a different kind of pleasure. more like "wow i didn't know a man's ass could do this" - even when i'm enjoying getting my hole eaten out, it just feels good, not femme if that makes sense
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i've actually met Melania which is not the same thing as knowing Melania. in fact what struck me most about her was her almost aggressive vagueness like she doesn't want to be known. that being said, i have a hard time believing she spends much time feeling shame. humiliation is for wives who love their cheating husbands. that's just not my understanding of the Trump union which appears very transactional
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i don't think there's any science behind the idea of jizz being chemically addictive. but damn, i too guzzle that shit any chance i get. when a guy blows his load in your mouth: talk about a "feel good moment"! 😜
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yeah, but where's the lie? 😜
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context is everything and it's hard to say which layer eclipses the others. i had a huge drop in my horniness from late 40s to late 50s but that also coincided w decade 2 of my monogamous marriage. YMMV but apparently i can only go 10 or so years being satisfied w fucking the same guy day in day out. im glad guys in their 20s today can be Hos. i came of age at the same time as "gay cancer" so it's hard to be slutty when most people have a "lock the doors, pull the blinds, and for god's sake don't talk to strangers!" attitude toward sex. i was a total ageist dick at the time but to be honest - older guys were either "wasted aids daddy" or hiding under the bed afraid to have sex. now that my dad bod is possessed by the libido of a randy 16 yo boy, this beggar knows he can't be a chooser. kids w daddy issues and str8 guys on the dl are my two main hook up demographics, rivaled only by guys my age who "didn't realize" they were gay until the kids were off to college. of these 3 groups, i find only some str8 on the dl use condoms. in the last century only someone with a death wish touched another guy's jizz. now guys fucking play with it like silly string. cum inside, now felch, now pass it to me orally... by the time he leaves his load has traveled more places than a college student taking a year off to " find himself" 😜
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as was his mother. ah, str8 boys and their Mommy issues! never gets old 😂
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in the defense's defense: this was such a fact laden case with a long paper trail that it was almost un-winable. even they never spoke once of a possible acquittal but instead placed all their bets on the hung jury possibility. just like his defenders here, don't argue w facts but just throw confusion around to establish doubt. the fact that they kept him off the stand is proof they're better than Habba but that's arguably a low bar. too much time was wasted disputing unimportant facts: it's irrelevant if he came inside stormy or not. but their client thinks court is a political rally so... we got the "you're all just jealous of my boogie" defense
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rotflmao foreign policy: the one thing both sides are guilty of is kissing the ass of israel. but lol at the putin/kim loving, classified info babbled at cocktails party loose lipped financially compromised guy being better for foreign policy. that was a good one! 😂 the economy? lol did you enjoy those 4 years of deficit building, out of control inflation and record unemployment. the pathetic mishandling of the covid crisis alone ruined the economy in ways that will take forever to heal.
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str8 white men are not giving up power without an epic battle - a war really. i just can't believe how much like the terminator the patriarchy is. we've been trying to crush it my entire 6 decades in the planet and everytime the lose a battle they seem to come back with some terrorist bomb
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Is there a med resistant syph
norefusal replied to Simontoxic's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
thanks @viking8x6 for the clarification. i was more triggered by the "this will go down on your permanent record" aspect of the conversation than following the science tbh 😜 -
Is there a med resistant syph
norefusal replied to Simontoxic's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
i was told that's it basically like herpes: it will never go away but will simply be contained. i was told this in part to explain why people will continue to tell me i tested pos for it even tho the levels are low. reinfection is always a possibility tho so that could explain why your levels went up if they did. although that implies you were tested and if so what did the heath care provider who tested you say about it? viking is right, we're not doctors so you should defer to professionals. but as a fellow traveler, i can tell you i was told it will always show up at some level. gono and chly may be visitors, but syph is the unwanted guest that will never leave 😜 -
i've had bad luck w this. basically all i did was waste time and $ just in an effort to be "discrete". at this point, the gals at planned parenthood accept me for the ho i am and don't judge so... anyways, here in the USA it varies wildly by each state's laws. in my case, every effort just ended with the online clinic's recomendation that i go to a local clinic in person.
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ah yes. it's an undisputed sign of a solid argument based in reason when one resorts to cheap insults about typos. very impressive.
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i don't get the question. considering how well documented actual cases are, one could argue that it was "normalized" long ago. sorry, but this kinda smells of "the good old days before woke liberals started screaming about consent and power dynamics" but full disclosure, i don't like my family and have zero interest in getting to know them biblically, so my viewpoint is tainted.
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Does anyone else get hard when they bottom?
norefusal replied to jmw003's topic in General Discussion
when i was younger id get hard all the time but i was also more choosy about my tops and bottomed most to enhance my own orgasm so it was all very male and selfish. the older i got the more i started living in the moment and enjoying bottoming for the fuck. as i slowly morphed into a no cock refused sub bottom slut my own dick became less and less important and rarely gets hard. i usually wear a jock to help hide it. sometimes after the fuck(s) ill realize that the pouch is full of a load i leaked out while enjoying the fuck. it's in these moments i feel most like a bitch w a cunt. -
to be fair: i read posts here all the time that sound an awful lot like rape but then end with "it was so hot im hard just retelling it" so.... sexual assault is in the eye of the recipient also, no one but himself is shaming him for fucking stormy. his denial of the obvious is shame based. same w e. jean. he's not even bothering saying he thought it was consensual. he's literally saying he never met the woman and trust me, 0 people believe him. the only reason we had to hear details in court is his stupid denial no jury believes. instead we all got to hear a porn star describe how she white knuckled her way thru really bad sex she didn't enjoy. yet more evidence of his decision making skills.
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yes, was this event mismanagement, or just the other participants were jerks?
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you've got 3 possible outcomes here: 1. never try it and spend the rest of your life wondering what's it's like to have a guys hard dick in yo mouth 2. try it. realize it's not for you. move on w your life. 3. try it. realize it's your new favorite thing. trust me, there will never be a shortage of guys wanting their dick sucked for free 😜
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help me with the math here: so big pharma had the technology and knowledge to create a new deadly virus in order to make money off the remedy. but they had no remedy, no product for sale ready to go. so they just went ahead and unleashed a virus on the public and only then began throwing $$$$ at scientists in order to invent a remedy, which took years and years and countless $$$ not to mention the initial investment in order to engineer the virus. and they willing spent a decade herroraging $$ in faith that the eventual remedy would make them profits beyond recouping expense? are they drug addicts? because that doesn't sound like logical business investing to me. it's literally chaos. and just exactly how evil does one have to be to be ok with mass death over time just for potential profit?
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honestly, my entire life is ruled by FOMO for better or worse. i don't know if the apps feed it or not. i do know the door open face down ass up nights i spent at the bathouse were 100% FOMO but the apps just helped it along. one night a guy off grindr came to the baths just to fuck me, which i agreed to because the dozens of men milling about all night didn't seem to be fucking anyone.
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this was never my problem but it is perhaps a generational thing. back in my day, only ugly dudes wasted hours in the gym gettin all ripped. they did this so they'd have a chance at getting laid since most guys like you have this irrational prejudice against those who didn't win the gene lottery. they also tended to be so grateful that a gl guy was giving them a shot, they tended to be generous and attentive lovers. very quickly into my sexual career the Butter Face became my go to type for great sex - got a nice dick you know how to use? who gives a fuck about the face, i ain't takin him to prom! it boggles my mind to see younger guys deciding that the way to gender equality is for men to adopt shallow obsessions with physical appearances, body dimorphism, eating disorders and all.
