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Okay, that's an interesting response... this would never have occurred to me, and i have easily had thousands of cocks up my ass, and been arrested once in 1998 for asking an undercover cop pretending to be gay and cruising if he wanted to fuck me. It seems to me it would be virtually impossible to trace the semen let in a condom to an actual person and address. Doesn't seem very cost effective, unless i am missing something?

Right? lol As a healthcare worker i've whitnessed several surgeries. One that stands out in my memory was a Davinci robotic surgery where a woman was having her pussy rebuilt... they were wrapping it in kevlar. Pussies can wear with time and use, hell, there are more than a few on this site (both Top and bottom) who want "wrecked" assholes. Which is why i went where i did with my reply to the thread. i see far more patients in hospital with colon issues from 'food' they ate than from cock they took. Not saying it cannot be a factor, but i think it's comparatively rare. The only patient i've ever had with even a prolapsing rectum, was a woman. And i've had my share of gay and trans persons as patients. i do not think age or penetration is necessarily a factor in pussy or asshole health, but i think a lack of it can affect your emotional health.

i cannot tell what you are looking for in response to this? You give no specific information, so that precludes specific response. i'm a critical care nurse with some specialization /education/certification in reversing certain disease process through diet. The human colon is home to bacteria ("the gut microbiome") that add up to 10x the number of cells that comprise our body. One could argue, there's more of them than of us. What we put in hugely affects that. Our digestive tract starts at the mouth and ends at the anus. We have about 27 feet of intestine, about 23 feet is small intestine, about 3-4 feet is large intestine or colon. The colon is the main location of the gut microbiome, so things like enemas can affect it, but the greatest affect is from what we eat. I.e, we eat a hell of a lot more often than we clean out or get fucked. Which is not to minimize the effects that putting stuff up our ass can have, it's to point out that what we eat is the primary component to a healthy or unhealthy gut. You may have some sort of physiological issue with your gut, idk, you do not say what your particular issue is, so what i just wrote is general information that affects everyone, but may not specifically address your issue. For anyone who is interested in the science behind the gut microbiome and how it affects your health, i'd suggest reading "Fiber Fueled" by Will Bulseiwicz. It's based on about 600 studies which you can download and read if one is interested in the actual evidence behind the book, but the book itself is written at a level anyone can understand and covers a lot about how to heal certain conditions and prevent others. good luck.

Earlier (much) in this thread there was mention of freezing semen and how it affects HIV, here's info on that topic for those interested: "...sources at the federal Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta; at the national headquarters of the American Red Cross in Washington, D.C., and at Johns Hopkins said yesterday that freezing, even at colder temperatures, will not kill the AIDS virus. "Freezing the virus does not kill it. In fact, our researchers freeze it at minus 75 degrees centigrade to preserve it," said a CDC spokeswoman." [think before following links] https://www.mcall.com/news/mc-xpm-1987-04-23-2579925-story.html

idk,i think it depends on the individual. Some guys live in open relationships and it's perfectly fine, others do not.

Ask: "do you wanna fuck me?" Also, i have presented my ass on many occasions and had lots of takers that way. Guys will let you know if they don't want to fuck... and yeah, i think it's presumptuous to just automatically put a guys cock in your ass. i think the Top should put His cock in the bottom vs the bottom putting the Tops cock inside him.

me too. i just pass empty online profiles by, or worse, guys who check all the "ask me" boxes instead of putting a little of their self out there. It never seems to occur to these guys that why would someone ask questions about someone who's invisible to start with? Guys who don't want to "waste time" communicating ahead of time end up wasting time traveling and getting together with someone they are not interested in, or vice versa. i think it's childish.

No, not a fan. Even with hook up sex, the underlying drive for me is not just physical, but symbiotic connection with another guy. To me, that sort of thing is like being spammed, like there isn't a person on the other end.

To me, that sort of presumption is, yes, "impolite" and immature. There's a self centeredness that, to me, is the essence of immaturity; a presumption that because one is turned on, others will be similarly affected or desirous. As i see it, relationship is about connection and to connect with another person, you need to know something about them. A three year old has not yet developed or matured to a degree where they understand or grasp that life is not all about them. That's where tantrums come from, a self absorbed "i want it and i want it now" attitude. i see it as entitlement, which i also see as the ultimate form of 'adult' immaturity. Few things are as obnoxious to me.

i literally have a drawer full of toys... that i never use. i have a fuck machine, and never use that either. i will edge when talking with a guy online, but it's to increase my horniness for Him and make me more needy (wierd, i know). if i'm alone and finally do cum, it's to a fantasy or porn of a Top breeding me, but i don't put anything in my hole, thats Top territory for me. i never jack just to cum, always to edge, and when i do cum it's a lot and hard, but i'm immediately disappointed. i don't really wanna cum, especially by my own devices, i want a another guys orgasm inside of me... i want Him to cum in and as a part of me. His orgasm becomes mine.

idk if i would say "rude." That's how you feel, and as you note, there were plenty of slings that were vacant. One could also ask if the Tops were being rude choosing only you when there were other bottoms around? Everyone wants to be desirable, that's why they are there, but there is no accounting for taste. Having said that, i have often gone for the guy not getting attention and enjoyed the connection of mutual desire and need a lot more fulfilling than going for someone who ranks their self as "the hottest." To me, attitude is part of the equation, and i do not find guys who act like they are the hottest, "hot." But that's me, obviously there a lots of guys who feel otherwise. When physical beauty fades, will there be any other substance to take its place?

i have both real life and fantasy examples of what i think of as "seduction" or "grooming." This one is a real example: i have a FB when i lived in Louisville. For about a year and a half, He'd contact me on a weekly basis. He lots of things, but i think His primary goal was to open my hole, change it, which He did in a very subtle, slow, purposeful way over time. i didn't realize He was doing it until one day i realized i was continuosly more open. i realized when i had the need to use the bathroom, there was more urgency. i found i actually had to clench to hold it in, and it dawned on me that my hole was now more useful for penetrating than for retaining. But that's sort of a side note, a little history. He always wanted me waiting face down, naked and blindfolded on my bed. i never saw Him the entire time we got together. Before He'd leave, He would breed me as i lay prone and blindfolded under Him. The whole time we were together, He'd sort of have this continous, monotone whisper of 'dirty talk' which was almost hypnotic to me. Usually, after breeding, He'd just get up, dress and leave. One day, after about 5 or 6 months of getting together, He stayed deep inside of me and just relaxed after cumming. After a few, i started to feel a warm fullness and i realized He was pissing inside of me. It startled me, i had never been pissed in before, and He felt me tense. He knew me well at this point though and knew just how to handle me. He whispered in my ear how good it felt and even asked: "please take it, it feels so good." That was pretty much all it took, i immediately not only relaxed and took it, i got very horny, excited by His pleasure. And it's like He knew i would respond that way, because His whispering continued: "that's right, you like it, your just a little piss slut, aren't you?" Though i had never experienced it before, He had me and He knew it. i practically whimpered "yes" i was so turned on and controlled. He didn't need to force or bully me at all, because He already knew He had control, power with me.

This poll is meant as an honest query. i am not suggesting one way is right and one way is wrong. i don't think there is a standard everyone should conform to, but that needs and desires are personal and individual. i see no right or wrong answer to this question, just wondering where others land on this. i'm a total bottom with a submissive bent. Personally, i shut down when a guy tries force or bullying, but open up and respond deeply to seduction and 'grooming.' For me, it's a lot more powerful when a guy asks or takes a seductive/grooming approach to get what He wants/needs than Him trying to force or bully my submission to His need/desire. When a Top gets that lustful look in His eyes and asks, it's almost impossible for me to resist that desire/need i see in Him, i'd have to actually fight myself not to give in. When a Top tries to force or bully me, for me it's like He doesn't recognize that He already has power with me to get me to do what He wants/needs, and it doesn't evoke submission in me. How about you? Top or bottom, how do you feel and/or think about this?

Wow, have to admit i am surprised and fascinated by the responses. i do get the submissive part, and i respond deeply to what i call "affectionate degradation," so nothing in my wiring objects to that. But spit to me is not erotic, so i personally have a disconnect there. i was at a gay resort a few years ago and a random guy wanted to spit in my mourh and i declined, He then spit on His cock and offered it to me and i didn't hesitate to take it... and i have likely taken gallons of spit that way, as well as ass juices and cum from where ever His cock has been, so it's obviously an emotional vs rational response on my part. i suspect i could be seduced into it.

Prone is by far the way i have taken the most cock. Especially when CL was alive and well, my most frequent hook up was lying naked and prone on my bed, door open. Top comes in and finds a naked, waiting ass to fuck. Most of the time i never see the guy who is breeding me. i think there is something to be said for that visual anonymity, it seems to free up a lot of Tops who might be otherwise shy or afraid to breed for a variety of reasons because of being seen. i too like the feeling of vulnerability and submission that goes with it. To me, it's the most submission position there is. i do like being on my back too, but that is a lot more selective for me. i am not visually attracted by every guy. But if there is visual attraction/connection, being bred that way can be very powerful with eye contact and kissing.

Waking this thread back up. Covid in not over. It has declined with the vaccine, yay!!. Where i work, the only poz people are those who didn't get vaccinated. The hospital where i work has seen a dramatic drop in cases starting in June. Those who are coming in are non vaccinated people. One of my last Covid poz patients was a 42 year old woman. She was not anti vaccination, just had not gotten a vaccine, and she regretted it. She was in the hospital 20 days, she had a rough go of it, but made it through.

There are religious organizations who believe gay people are "an abomination to God." They are convinced, even in 2021, that they are doing "Gods" bidding to make who we are illegal. It may be hard for someone who has never experienced this. I was arrested in 1998 and charged with a felony for asking an undercover vice cop who was pretending to cruise if he wanted to fuck me (a hundred year old law was used). That's not that long ago guys, and there are plenty of people who are fighting to outlaw us in 2021. Check out this list of groups, then google their actual home sites if you doubt. [think before following links] https://www.splcenter.org/fighting-hate/intelligence-report/2010/18-anti-gay-groups-and-their-propaganda It's not MC who is making the decision to come after gays. Follow the money. MC and credit card companies want our money, they don't really care how they get it. They are being pressured, and bowing to the pressure, of outside groups. Check out this BBC aritcal . "A letter seen by the BBC, signed by more than 10 campaigners and campaign groups, says porn sites "eroticise sexual violence, incest, and racism" and stream content that features child sexual abuse and sex trafficking. One leading site, Pornhub, said "the letter [was] not only factually wrong but also intentionally misleading." Mastercard told the BBC they were investigating claims made in the letter on pornography sites and would "terminate their connection to our network" if illegal activity by a cardholder was confirmed. The letter was sent to 10 major credit card companies, including the "Big Three", Visa, MasterCard and American Express. The signatories from countries including the UK, US, India, Uganda and Australia have called for the immediate suspension of payments to pornographic sites. The signatories of the letter include the anti-pornography non-profit group the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) in the US, and other faith-led or women and child rights' advocacy groups." [think before following links] https://www.bbc.com/news/world-52543508

One of the hazards of online communication is the lack of tone and visual cues that accompany face to face communication, so we all encounter situations where someone infers tone and attitude that are not intentionally implied. Online is not the gentlest of worlds for exchange, i wish more grace was exercised online, given the pitfalls. i too have been guilty of inferring tone that may be unintended by you. On the other hand, you do know how to write and your posts are not devoid of inflection or enhancement that show disdain for certain 'types.' [laughing] i often/repeatedly find myself checking your icon, convinced you're an 'alpha top.' No emotional stereotypical response going on there, eh? You do sometimes come off to me as generally disdainful and maybe a little superior. And honestly, you strike me as one of the deeper thinkers in this community, so i may have higher expectations from you? idk, i am being vulnerable by writing this stuff, i am not challenging you. As expressed earlier in this thread, i do think there are guys who are more sub than bottom. The challenge of words is they can never fully describe the individual. i think the OP's original question and the various answers to it demonstrate that. E.g., just reading this thread demonstrates how many different perceptions there are of the word "pussy." i think we would all do well to honor each individuals perception as theirs, a part of who they are instead of grousing if it doesn't fit our perception (not saying you are doing this, speaking generally here). i too object to people who want to deny who i am as a bottom because i do not conform to their notion or idea of who or what a bottom should be. i do not want or need anyone to conform to my identity as a bottom, or vice versa. i believe you make a great point earlier in this discussion that it is crucial to use qualifiers like: "i think" or "i believe" vs just stating ones opinion/feelings as though they are universal facts that apply to all bottoms or Tops. i think there are a lot of people who simply do not understand how to write, and then others who really believe what they think/feel is universal.

i'm a total bottom, so i just do not relate to wanting to breed anyone. Some of my most intense connections as a bottom have been with black guys though. i've thought about that a lot and have formed a sort of theory about it that has to do with a lack of 'white privilege.' i hate to use that term because it evokes a lot of volatile emotion, polarizes many. But it's a real thing no matter how one may feel about it and it affects us all. my experience has been that many black guys are more emotionally available. i have had to bite my mattress to keep from declaring my love and adoration for the complete black stranger who is breeding me lol. i've had that with white Tops too, but it doesn't seem as consistent or common? It has nothing to do with cock size, it's demeanor, who and how they are, a missing barrier. It has nothing to do with my seeing His color, i'd still feel and sense the difference if i was blindfolded. my guess is this would be the case, Top or bottom? It's something internal, not external. The only thing i can figure is it's because black guys don't have some of the automatic, built in cultural stuff that white guys do? idk, i don't pretend to have it all figured out, i'm still trying to see and understand this. As a white guy, i have found my privilege/color gives me blind spots, among other things. i've found similar stuff with being male vs female. Being gay helps because it gives me some perspective on what it means to be a part of a minority. i know what it means to be treated as "gay" first, and a person second. The thing is, a gay person can hide his gayness in a closet, a black person cannot hide their color, so they cannot buffer their selves from stereotype. It seems to me that a black gay guy gets a double bias (intentional or not) to deal with from white guys who are unaware and not on guard of our cultural conditioning. To the black bottoms (or Tops for that matter), who are particularly attracted to white guys, why? What is it you see or want from a white guy that is different from being with a black guy?

i think it's an internet thing that has evolved over time. There are no ghosts when people are face to face. There are social boundaries that are easy to violate when separated by the ether. The ether makes for ethereal beings, eh? It does show something about the person though. The person who is willing to ghost another is true to the name, without much substance. It's selfish and inconsiderate. i think Gimmiethatload has a point too. There are guys who may be deeply closeted, who would never go to a gay bar or bathhouse or other place where he is exposed. But that same person is also pretty selfish and inconsiderate if his only intent is to lie and lead someone on so can masturbate. If that person is to shy or afraid or not ready to meet in person, they should be upfront about it. There are plenty of guys on a hookup site who are willing to just share fantasies online. Why lie and deceive?

i like this answer and agree, but i am not sure everyone is aware of the distinction? lol, and you have come off as pretty authoritative/matter of fact to me too in some of your posts, but i have a pretty thick skin. A lot of guys do not qualify (or realize) that their opinion is just that, "their" opinion. Ethnocentricity seems a macrocosm of egocentricity to me. Eh, i would not state it as strongly as you, but yeah i notice. i have a particular sensitivity to any form of absolutism having worked my way out of fundamentalist religion. To me, "fundamentalism" can be applied to just about anything, it's the absolutist notion that repels me. How can one have a discussion with someone who is absolutely right and only their to convert or instruct? i get having strong convictions, but i do not see knowledge and belief as the same. i do think there is a subset of guys ("subset" is a double entendre in this case), who put a guys desire above getting fucked. i know this one pretty intimately because i have a decided sub side to my nature/make-up, but i am more bottom than sub and i know and admit that. There are some situations where a Top can touch my penis without violating who i am, but there's a whole psychological side to it for me. i do think there are guys who may be more sub than bottom who would put the Alpha part before the getting fucked/bred part... but my impression is most who identify as "bottom" need/want to be fucked more than they need/want to please their Top. Not that i do not think they want to please their Top, i think they really do, i just believe it is often connected to what they want/need as well, not some altruistic, selfless gesture. Doesn't matter, it's their life. but i know that is not me. i love (need) getting fucked and bred by a Top who loves (needs) to do it, and it's that full connection i crave, not just to 'please my Top' cause i have no other interest. That would be a lie on my part.

i have not experienced my position/view as unique (and i have a fair amount of experience having been fucked by more than 1000 guys). But then, we likely all gravitate towards affirmation. And my perception is derived as much from those Tops i engage with as it is from bottoms... probably more so from the Tops. i would proffer that bottoms on either side of that equation want to get fucked foremost because it is their desire, not foremost because it's their partners desire. The bottoms i know and see want/need to be fucked. Reading the posts of bottoms just on BZ, time and again i read things like "i don't care what i am called, as long as i get their cock and load," or some variation on that theme. Rarely (if ever?) do i read a bottom writing something akin to: " i don't care if he fucks and breeds me, as long as His Alpha nature gets off" lol. As i perceive it, the notion of superiority (on either side) is a thin veil more often than not. i never feel that i have more power. For me, it's more of a dance where i want my Top to lead. i can, of course, deny a Top my hole to fuck, but not "a hole to fuck." To me the essence of interaction i seek between a Top and bottom is the achievement of mutual need/desire.

Maybe bronze the old pair and hang the from the rearview mirror of your car of something. The fact that you've worn out a pair of "fuck me boots" strikes me of a trophy of accomplishment.

i enjoy reading discussion on this topic. For me, it's not so much the word a Top uses, but the attitude and intent behind the expression/s He uses. Personally any hint of bullying or force is a turn off to me. If a top has to belittle me to make his perception of himself grander, well, 'the top doth protest to much me thinks.' To me, that person comes across as unsure of himself and his position/power. i love cock, not cocky. To me, there is nothing more powerful than a Top who looks me in the eyes and tells me He wants my ___________, or even asks for it, while both of us know full well how much i want/need His 'cock' (which to me is so much more than the organ between His legs). It's almost like a tease, like adding salt to make me more thirsty. A Top who has both of His heads in the game is what grabs and gets me. A top who calls my hole a "pussy" with a superior attitude or inferring inferiority on my part, doesn't get to me at all. He may get to fuck me, but only with his body. A different kind of Top, one who really sees me, can call my hole a "pussy" and He'll end up owning it and more. To me, the Top/bottom dynamic is about connection and bonding of opposites. Not about taking control, but evoking the desire, even need, in the bottom to give control over. Not assuming this is universal, but i have connected with enough Tops like this to know it's a thing.

Bigger, more open hole... make the target easier and more accessible? i used to encounter situations where a Top would hit the mark, but bounce off a tight hole, those days are gone lol. Now, once a Top gets close, He's in. Other than that, not sure there's much more of a solution. i'm never quite sure about whether to lend a hand, some Tops appreciate that, others want total control, so that's a role of the dice in my opinion. i suspect for most of us, your hot self included, coupling inevitably happens, no matter the challenge.