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Was cruising around on Recon today and before signing in , this ad popped up for the "CUMELOT I - Milking plug for forced ejaculation" As a sub bottom, i was immediately interested lol, but unless there is some new, magical technology, this looks simply like a hyped prostate toy, and not a very good one at that? Am i missing something? i totally love the description and immediately wanted one and the Dom to go with it, but my brain kicks in and tells me this isn't a real thing?

"Help, I'm too tight..." sounds like a pick up line.

i'm 99.999999 bottom. i do fuck on occasion, but it takes really specific kind of guy to arrouse me in that way, so i stopped putting "bottom versatile" on my profiles and just put "bottom" or "total bottom." it's accurate, i am happiest that way. i've gotten to the point where i'm almost afraid to hook with anyone who has "versatile" in their profile because that seems to consistently mean "i want to get fucked" in my experience lol. i went to a lot of trouble to pick a guy up (literally, he had no car and lived a couple hours away) and spend the weekend with him. He was "versatile" in his profile, and we spent days chatting online before the hookup. i was painfully clear about being a total bottom and not wanting or liking my penis touched, and he repeated stated that he knew lots of guys like me and understood and respected that "fact." Damn if he didn't do my penis twice. When i spoke to him about it he got upset and made fun of my being a total bottom and not wanting my penis touched. i've begun to think it's just an ego centric thing where these guys simply don't get that everyone is not like them, that there are actually different people out there. sigh

Not the least bit surprised that you've "become very good at top fisting." What surprises me more is total Tops or total Dom/Tops who are very good at fisting. Not knowing first hand how it feels or what the bottom is feeling, yet still being able to connect, is pretty remarkable to me. What i wonder is how it affects you or what you are feeling as a top fister? On an internal, emotional level, i don't make much distinction between topping with a fist or a cock. I.e., for me, it is the emotional/mental disposition behind wanting to penetrate, and for me 'possess,' another guy that is behind the act that really pulls me in.

These comments seguey for me. i do get that a creating a very opened and accessible hole requires practice/training, that it's unrealistic for a bottom to think a Top can work instant magic. In the absence of an ongoing relationship with a Dom or Top who wants to train my hole, i typically will only hook with fisters who are cool with not getting in and who are into the process of opening. i'm clear that i have not taken a whole hand yet and what i want. i've also met more than a few Dom's who relish the idea of being the first to pop my cherry and make my hole Theirs. That mentality really appeals to me because it's just as much the mind fuck behind fisting as it is the actual act that draws me in.

i don't want to believe this. i have this fantasy of a relationship with a Top who has complete control over my hole and it is His sole domain to open it and mold it as He wants it? To me, putting things in my own hole is like trying to be my own Top, it's a hard hurdle for me. On the other hand, i get if one doesn't have that kind of relationship and wants to hook with Tops who want to fist, or have a gaping hole, that's an ongoing process, not a one time event... i do understand it takes time to develop a loose, fistable hole...

"mind?" i pretty much crave anything that comes out of a Top that He wants to put inside of me. Piss is awesome, in some ways more than cum to me, because i absorb it and it is obvious when i urinate that my Tops piss has mixed with mine. To me, it's a type of impregnation. Also love if a Top expresses His needs and lust through not only using me as a human toilet, but sharing me that way.

i bought one of these as a gift for a Dom who had aspirations of opening my hole for Himself... He ended up flaking on me, so it sits in my toy drawer awaiting a Top with similar needs and desires.

Great question/discussion topic NLbear. i don't know if i will ever embrace a "daddy status." i am a father of two sons and there is no hint of a sexual relationship there, nor is there any desire for one. "Daddy" for me is emotionally engrained as a heteronormative identity on both sides of he fence. I.e., one of the harder things for me to adjust to when bottoming for older guys of a certain body type/appearance, over the years, was if they reminded me of my own dad. i know the label "daddy" has a different connotation in the gay community, but i have not disassociated it's long term other meaning in my mind/emotions. Additionally, in the gay community, i find most guys who use the term equate daddy with top, and i tend to do that myself. In the fetish community there's a distinction of being a "boy" that i've often been categorized as... but honestly, that seems kinda silly to me especially when a guy younger than me is calling me "boy." On the other hand, some guys have pulled off calling me "boy" and it touched something very deep when they'd encourage me or praise saying: "good boy." Go figure? It's definitely all emotional for me. The distinctions seem like role play to me, and i eschew role play. On a purely physical level, i'll hook with anyone who needs to breed. Relationally, i have found that my needs/desires have been towards guys my own age. i love plenty of younger guys, but relationally, there just isn't the connection... they're at a different stage in life and i have a hard time imagining a "lover" type relationship with a younger guy. Though i have had plenty of FB type relationships with younger guys, the "daddy status" has never entered into it.

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Not for me. i'll take a physical hook up if that's all that is available, but my desire is always a deeper connection. "Dumb," or worse, the pretense of 'dumb' is a complete turn off to me. i won't even hook with a guy if i perceive he is pretending to be something he is not. i don't just want his cock and cum, i want him.

The more i think about the original question, the more i think terms like "wreck" and "destroy" are largely euphemisms? i met a guy on Recon who came as close to this as anyone i have ever met. I.e., He wanted my hole constantly prolapsed and draining, and the more i got to know Him, that desire extended to my whole person. He wanted me to be sick with AID's and dying, weak and emaciated. The truth is, He found something in my sub nature that loved Him for all of this, but realistically speaking, it wouldn't be sustainable. i suspect He knew this as well, but looked at subs as disposable. When i consider the word "destroyed" or "wrecked," there is a sort of finality to it, nothing beyond that? That does appeal to my submissive nature, but because it's not sustainable, my submissive nature also rejects it because my nature wants to survive to experience submission.

The ones that really make my eyes roll out of my head are guys asking for pics who have none of their own. i agree, if they go down that road, i typically write them off for the very reason you identify, i don't want to be with someone who considers me "borderline do-able." That so nails it for me. i see it as immaturity, not a lack of age, but of experience. i've watched myself evolve over the years from wanting a face pic to wanting a body pic to wanting a cock pic to hitting on guys with no pics on their profile lol. i'm one of those guys who wants to exchange some detailed emails before hooking because i want to get a feel for the guy before getting together... mostly, i want to get an idea of his lust level at the time. For me, it's almost all about the need/desire to fuck and the face/body that contains that need/desire is not the deciding factor. Guys asking for pics are looking foremost for their idea of beauty, not breeding or being bred. my idea of "beauty" has changed to drive... a guy with the need/desire to breed is beautiful to me.

Interesting question. To me, it's the direct connection with the guy who is producing the piss or cum that gives it value? i say that, yet have been known to take found used condoms and deposit the contents. For me, piss it different, in some ways it's more powerful to me than cum. i associate piss with asserting dominance, marking territory. But i also get something from being bred with it because it has a demonstrable impregnating effect, ie., when a Dom/Top pisses inside my hole and i absorb it, i can smell His piss when i urinate and it is obviously HIs piss mixed with mine. i want the added ability to associate piss with an actual encounter with a person.

And this virus is probably unique in it's ability to survive because it has 'found' a population that works hard to ensure it's spread, some purposefully (i.e., "chasers" and "gifters").

i tried answering this, earlier. i trip over the question because it seems to binary to me. For example, i answered how the Greeks use the word eros to describe sex and we translate the word as "love." Even western civilization has a term that connects the two: "making love." Which is to suggest that sex is a form of love. i don't think the question is as "simple" as you are trying to make it? Which is not intended as a criticism. i think i get at least a point you are trying to make, the cultural imperative to associate sex with more than a hook up relationship? i don't think it's as simple as "men being sex machines." i have a really good quality sex machine, and i rarely use it. Sex is more than mechanical and i think it's more than physical, though i don't think we are always in touch with or aware of the emotional and mental reasons we have sex. i freely fuck with men with little to no thought about STD's when i am doing so because i love men, not just sex. i can have sex with a machine, and it might do a better job, but i'm not just a sex machine, so i'm not satisfied by sex with a machine. Society may make sex harder to do through stigma, but it doesn't alter my need or drive, it just makes it harder to realize.

Never been inside of a sleeper cab (not from a lack of wanting or trying), but have had plenty of sex at truck stops. i wonder if its because of stigma and maybe the truckers being on the DL? i lived in Louisville for a few years (2009-2013), first in La Grange, then in The Highlands, i tried all the rest stops without much happening. When i lived in La Grange, there was a truck stop one exit down from where i lived, just off 71 and it was right accross the street from a sex shop. Truckers would park in a big lot next to the sex shop, but never hooked in one, always had sex in the sex shop. Same in Clarksville just across the Ohio River in Indiana, big sex shop with lots of truckers parked outside, but have never been invited into a semi sleeper. Clearly, these guys are parked at sex shops for a reason, so it is curious to me that they don't invite guys back to their place.

lmao. "...strong political ideology?" i draw the line at orange skin.

"Gayness: is it love or sex?" i don't think this is an either/or question, and i think this question is different from the two hypothetical questions you pose? To me, the question also has (inadvertent) heteronormative underpinnings. I.e., it's a heteronormative (and i think they got it from religion) notion that sex is 'dirty' or 'bad' or (fill in your own negative term) outside a (sanctioned) monogamous context, and therefor in opposition to 'love? ' "Gayness" is the desire/need to be with someone of the same sex, and even that lose definition is inadequate. i know guys who identify as gay and haven't actually had sex with a guy, and there are lots of guys who identify as straight, and yet, they fuck around and want (need?) sex with guys. i'm not convinced that if sex was just as easy with women, all those 'straight' guys having sex with men would suddenly disappear off the hookup apps. And, while i'm at it, sex with guys on hook up aps isn't all that 'easy' lol. i think gay people can experience love with sex and i think we can experience sex without love. So can straights, or anyone? When it comes to "love" and "sex," sex is comparatively easy to define. What is our working definition of love here? The Greeks had three different words for 'love:" agape, eros and phileo. Losely, the first refers to a sort of selfliess, sublime stuff, the second is physical love (the word "erotic" is a derivative), and the third refers to a friendship type love. We translate all three into "love" in English. No ethnocentrism there. Having, or removing, discrimination doesn't affect feelings of the heart, just makes them easier to express? And we know laws that outlaw discrimination don't remove discrimination, they just add consequences that may or may not be enforced depending on whether or not the judge is a Baptist. It wasn't that long ago when it was essentially illegal to be gay, yet, here we are. Thinking about it, both discrimination and STD's are negative consequences (unless you're a chaser) that can effect freedom of expression? But i think they are linked too. STD's are rampant because of discrimination. They'd be a lot less of a factor if sex was not stigmatized.

Some guys hustle to disassociate from their own needs/feelings. I.e., he may have a problem with accepting that he likes guys and asking for money gives him a 'reason' for what he is doing other than needing to be with a guy. i don't know, but i'd hazard a bet that he is into you, which is not to say he isn't hustling you too, he is. It's not necessarily black and white, people are complex beings, eh? He has discovered that he can get both satisfaction from you and money. But with the money exchange, you both lose something: an affirmation of intrinsic value. I.e., Instead of you having value for who you are, your 'value' is that you pay and you become a commodity. He also turns himself into a commodity by reducing sex into a money making opportunity. You know you can get sex without paying for it, it's not just something you "think." This isn't your first hook up. Even with him, you know it's possible to get sex without paying, but once you paid him you've demonstrated a willingness to do so. There's a power exchange in that gesture. You might be able to regain the status of sex without paying, but that kind of depends on him. If he is taking money to rationalize his need for being with a guy, depending on how important that is to him, he may drop you. It's just conjecture on my part, the fact that he had sex with you so many times without mention of money could mean he is struggling with who he is, or it could just be part of his hustle, or maybe some combination of both.

Humiliation is a mystery to me. Cognitively, the appeal just doesn't quite make sense to me, but emotionally i am pulled in, so i obviously have some inner places to be collared using it. i don't think any of relationship is generic, that all things work for all guys just because they identify as "Dom" or "sub" etc.. i wonder about guys who expect to have instant relationship without getting to know a person, just reacting to a label? Sorry, i digress. i was picked up by a guy who came back to my hotel room with me. He removed His clothes and sat on my bed, leaning against the head board, legs spread. He didn't say anything, but i automatically stripped and lay between His legs to suck Him. He immediately took on the role of a coach, telling me how to suck Him. He was gentle, relaxed, but relentless and matter of fact, like He had no doubt i'd do what He wanted. His cock was large, not horse size, but a good 8" with a lot of girth, so He was uncomfortable to suck. From the beginning, He'd gently hold my head, just to assert some control, but not force? But He was very verbal, constantly instructing, coaching, encouraging. He wanted me to take it all and would say things like: "that's right, all the way, just around the curve, you can do it, you know you want to...." Then when i would get it all the way in, He'd practically gush: "Good boy!! I'm so proud of you. Aren't you proud of yourself?" He was continuously telling me to look up at Him while i was sucking Him, which was very awkward. He'd also ask me questions that He knew i couldn't answer with my mouth so full, but He would look at me expectantly waiting for an answer, which was usually a mumbled affirmation when asked if i was proud of what i was doing, etc.. i was continually gagging on His cock, and my eyes were tearing and my nose was running. The over all effect was feeling very embarrassed and humiliated, and at the same time proud that He was so obviously pleased. i felt like a little kid the way He was talking and treating me, but at the same time i had this burning adoration for Him and just worked as hard as i could to please Him. This guy obviously had my number. i've had bullies who had the opposite effect on me, trying to humiliate me, but they failed. So, for me, this is a very intimate connection that cannot be generic.

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i don't know. What's clear to me is "more studies are needed." i think it would be pretty awesome for there to be any such studies about gay men and the physiological effects of semen on regular cum takers. Fore instance, we know there are female hormones in semen, things that make women more fertile, but i wonder what effect those hormones have on men, if any. Even the effects on women are little known. The NGF discovery is fairly recent, we don't begin to know all it's effects, but it seems clear to me that we absorb at least some of the components of semen and that there is a possible effect. That doesn't seem a stretch to me.

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