tallslenderguy

critical care nurse

Not for me. i'll take a physical hook up if that's all that is available, but my desire is always a deeper connection. "Dumb," or worse, the pretense of 'dumb' is a complete turn off to me. i won't even hook with a guy if i perceive he is pretending to be something he is not. i don't just want his cock and cum, i want him.

The more i think about the original question, the more i think terms like "wreck" and "destroy" are largely euphemisms? i met a guy on Recon who came as close to this as anyone i have ever met. I.e., He wanted my hole constantly prolapsed and draining, and the more i got to know Him, that desire extended to my whole person. He wanted me to be sick with AID's and dying, weak and emaciated. The truth is, He found something in my sub nature that loved Him for all of this, but realistically speaking, it wouldn't be sustainable. i suspect He knew this as well, but looked at subs as disposable. When i consider the word "destroyed" or "wrecked," there is a sort of finality to it, nothing beyond that? That does appeal to my submissive nature, but because it's not sustainable, my submissive nature also rejects it because my nature wants to survive to experience submission.

The ones that really make my eyes roll out of my head are guys asking for pics who have none of their own. i agree, if they go down that road, i typically write them off for the very reason you identify, i don't want to be with someone who considers me "borderline do-able." That so nails it for me. i see it as immaturity, not a lack of age, but of experience. i've watched myself evolve over the years from wanting a face pic to wanting a body pic to wanting a cock pic to hitting on guys with no pics on their profile lol. i'm one of those guys who wants to exchange some detailed emails before hooking because i want to get a feel for the guy before getting together... mostly, i want to get an idea of his lust level at the time. For me, it's almost all about the need/desire to fuck and the face/body that contains that need/desire is not the deciding factor. Guys asking for pics are looking foremost for their idea of beauty, not breeding or being bred. my idea of "beauty" has changed to drive... a guy with the need/desire to breed is beautiful to me.

Interesting question. To me, it's the direct connection with the guy who is producing the piss or cum that gives it value? i say that, yet have been known to take found used condoms and deposit the contents. For me, piss it different, in some ways it's more powerful to me than cum. i associate piss with asserting dominance, marking territory. But i also get something from being bred with it because it has a demonstrable impregnating effect, ie., when a Dom/Top pisses inside my hole and i absorb it, i can smell His piss when i urinate and it is obviously HIs piss mixed with mine. i want the added ability to associate piss with an actual encounter with a person.

And this virus is probably unique in it's ability to survive because it has 'found' a population that works hard to ensure it's spread, some purposefully (i.e., "chasers" and "gifters").

i tried answering this, earlier. i trip over the question because it seems to binary to me. For example, i answered how the Greeks use the word eros to describe sex and we translate the word as "love." Even western civilization has a term that connects the two: "making love." Which is to suggest that sex is a form of love. i don't think the question is as "simple" as you are trying to make it? Which is not intended as a criticism. i think i get at least a point you are trying to make, the cultural imperative to associate sex with more than a hook up relationship? i don't think it's as simple as "men being sex machines." i have a really good quality sex machine, and i rarely use it. Sex is more than mechanical and i think it's more than physical, though i don't think we are always in touch with or aware of the emotional and mental reasons we have sex. i freely fuck with men with little to no thought about STD's when i am doing so because i love men, not just sex. i can have sex with a machine, and it might do a better job, but i'm not just a sex machine, so i'm not satisfied by sex with a machine. Society may make sex harder to do through stigma, but it doesn't alter my need or drive, it just makes it harder to realize.

Never been inside of a sleeper cab (not from a lack of wanting or trying), but have had plenty of sex at truck stops. i wonder if its because of stigma and maybe the truckers being on the DL? i lived in Louisville for a few years (2009-2013), first in La Grange, then in The Highlands, i tried all the rest stops without much happening. When i lived in La Grange, there was a truck stop one exit down from where i lived, just off 71 and it was right accross the street from a sex shop. Truckers would park in a big lot next to the sex shop, but never hooked in one, always had sex in the sex shop. Same in Clarksville just across the Ohio River in Indiana, big sex shop with lots of truckers parked outside, but have never been invited into a semi sleeper. Clearly, these guys are parked at sex shops for a reason, so it is curious to me that they don't invite guys back to their place.

lmao. "...strong political ideology?" i draw the line at orange skin.

"Gayness: is it love or sex?" i don't think this is an either/or question, and i think this question is different from the two hypothetical questions you pose? To me, the question also has (inadvertent) heteronormative underpinnings. I.e., it's a heteronormative (and i think they got it from religion) notion that sex is 'dirty' or 'bad' or (fill in your own negative term) outside a (sanctioned) monogamous context, and therefor in opposition to 'love? ' "Gayness" is the desire/need to be with someone of the same sex, and even that lose definition is inadequate. i know guys who identify as gay and haven't actually had sex with a guy, and there are lots of guys who identify as straight, and yet, they fuck around and want (need?) sex with guys. i'm not convinced that if sex was just as easy with women, all those 'straight' guys having sex with men would suddenly disappear off the hookup apps. And, while i'm at it, sex with guys on hook up aps isn't all that 'easy' lol. i think gay people can experience love with sex and i think we can experience sex without love. So can straights, or anyone? When it comes to "love" and "sex," sex is comparatively easy to define. What is our working definition of love here? The Greeks had three different words for 'love:" agape, eros and phileo. Losely, the first refers to a sort of selfliess, sublime stuff, the second is physical love (the word "erotic" is a derivative), and the third refers to a friendship type love. We translate all three into "love" in English. No ethnocentrism there. Having, or removing, discrimination doesn't affect feelings of the heart, just makes them easier to express? And we know laws that outlaw discrimination don't remove discrimination, they just add consequences that may or may not be enforced depending on whether or not the judge is a Baptist. It wasn't that long ago when it was essentially illegal to be gay, yet, here we are. Thinking about it, both discrimination and STD's are negative consequences (unless you're a chaser) that can effect freedom of expression? But i think they are linked too. STD's are rampant because of discrimination. They'd be a lot less of a factor if sex was not stigmatized.

Some guys hustle to disassociate from their own needs/feelings. I.e., he may have a problem with accepting that he likes guys and asking for money gives him a 'reason' for what he is doing other than needing to be with a guy. i don't know, but i'd hazard a bet that he is into you, which is not to say he isn't hustling you too, he is. It's not necessarily black and white, people are complex beings, eh? He has discovered that he can get both satisfaction from you and money. But with the money exchange, you both lose something: an affirmation of intrinsic value. I.e., Instead of you having value for who you are, your 'value' is that you pay and you become a commodity. He also turns himself into a commodity by reducing sex into a money making opportunity. You know you can get sex without paying for it, it's not just something you "think." This isn't your first hook up. Even with him, you know it's possible to get sex without paying, but once you paid him you've demonstrated a willingness to do so. There's a power exchange in that gesture. You might be able to regain the status of sex without paying, but that kind of depends on him. If he is taking money to rationalize his need for being with a guy, depending on how important that is to him, he may drop you. It's just conjecture on my part, the fact that he had sex with you so many times without mention of money could mean he is struggling with who he is, or it could just be part of his hustle, or maybe some combination of both.

Humiliation is a mystery to me. Cognitively, the appeal just doesn't quite make sense to me, but emotionally i am pulled in, so i obviously have some inner places to be collared using it. i don't think any of relationship is generic, that all things work for all guys just because they identify as "Dom" or "sub" etc.. i wonder about guys who expect to have instant relationship without getting to know a person, just reacting to a label? Sorry, i digress. i was picked up by a guy who came back to my hotel room with me. He removed His clothes and sat on my bed, leaning against the head board, legs spread. He didn't say anything, but i automatically stripped and lay between His legs to suck Him. He immediately took on the role of a coach, telling me how to suck Him. He was gentle, relaxed, but relentless and matter of fact, like He had no doubt i'd do what He wanted. His cock was large, not horse size, but a good 8" with a lot of girth, so He was uncomfortable to suck. From the beginning, He'd gently hold my head, just to assert some control, but not force? But He was very verbal, constantly instructing, coaching, encouraging. He wanted me to take it all and would say things like: "that's right, all the way, just around the curve, you can do it, you know you want to...." Then when i would get it all the way in, He'd practically gush: "Good boy!! I'm so proud of you. Aren't you proud of yourself?" He was continuously telling me to look up at Him while i was sucking Him, which was very awkward. He'd also ask me questions that He knew i couldn't answer with my mouth so full, but He would look at me expectantly waiting for an answer, which was usually a mumbled affirmation when asked if i was proud of what i was doing, etc.. i was continually gagging on His cock, and my eyes were tearing and my nose was running. The over all effect was feeling very embarrassed and humiliated, and at the same time proud that He was so obviously pleased. i felt like a little kid the way He was talking and treating me, but at the same time i had this burning adoration for Him and just worked as hard as i could to please Him. This guy obviously had my number. i've had bullies who had the opposite effect on me, trying to humiliate me, but they failed. So, for me, this is a very intimate connection that cannot be generic.

This article cites a study of a process that has eliminated HIV completely for the first time in rats. Human trials may start as soon as 2020.

Here's a link from Harvard Health: In one sense, everyone has hemorrhoids (or piles), the pillow-like clusters of veins that lie just beneath the mucous membranes lining the lowest part of the rectum and the anus. The condition most of us call hemorrhoids (or piles) develops when those veins become swollen and distended, like varicose veins in the legs. Because the blood vessels involved must continually battle gravity to get blood back up to the heart, some people believe hemorrhoids are part of the price we pay for being upright creatures.

i don't know. What's clear to me is "more studies are needed." i think it would be pretty awesome for there to be any such studies about gay men and the physiological effects of semen on regular cum takers. Fore instance, we know there are female hormones in semen, things that make women more fertile, but i wonder what effect those hormones have on men, if any. Even the effects on women are little known. The NGF discovery is fairly recent, we don't begin to know all it's effects, but it seems clear to me that we absorb at least some of the components of semen and that there is a possible effect. That doesn't seem a stretch to me.

Why can't you do Rush? Do you have a bad reaction? If you do, chances are you'd have a similar response from other brands, they're all vasodilators.

i, like many (most?) of us here, am intrigued by the effects of cum on the recipient (bottom). Tops love the idea of affecting, and in a male to male way, impregnating their bottom. Bottoms crave that impregnation. As much as i want these things to be true, as a scientist i look for evidence to base my beliefs on. Unfortunately, there just haven't been a lot of studies on the physiological effects of semen in male with male sex. None that i can find :-(. Thaere have been some studies with women though, so i'm going to speculate a little. This is more along the line of untested theory: the results of a study by Gordon Gallup and Rebecca Burch. In this study, they had almost three hundred female students fill out questionnaires relating to sex and mental health. The results showed that women who always use a condom—and so are protected against the effects of proteins in the semen—score almost 50 percent higher on a scale of depression-related symptoms than women who never use condoms, which might indicate (but doesn’t prove) that substances in semen interfere with the female nervous system In essence, this study suggests that semen has anti depressant qualities. Since it was conducted in only women (sexist?), we don't really know if it would have the same effect on men. We do know that the colon is made for absorption, and other studies have shown that at lease some of the components of semen is absorbed into the blood from the colon, so there's a chance that semen has a similar effect on the male nervous system. Neural Growth Factor (NGF) is a hormone that has been isolated in human semen, it's potent and has been linked to fertility in women, but no studies have been done with its effects on men when absorbed. For the other nerdy guys among us, here's a great article pulling a bunch of studies together on "Semen arrousal". Of course, most of us don't need a study to know the potent affects of cum.

yesterday afternoon, 5 loads in pretty rapid succession at an Adult Shop through a glory hole. GH sex is awesome, but can also be a little restrictive. Even with thin plywood walls, there is thet slight barrier keeping me from getting the whole cock. One of the guys had about 4 inches, but it was probably one of the thickest cocks i have ever seen, which is saying a lot... i;ve had a lot of cock. It may have been perspective, i.e. the shortness made the thickness seem just the much thicker? In my opinion thee is no such thing as a cock that isn't beautiful though. Something else i was struck by is the growers. i've noticed that a lot of guys won't take a soft, small cock. i love the feeling of sucking a small, soft cock and feeling it grow hard and down my throat before i present my ass for breeding. After taking the loads, there was a cute guy who was only sucking cock, so i offered mine. Wow, he was getting a lot of attention, but then guys would leave before cumming and i found out why. He had no idea how to suck cock. That, or he was really good and just trying to tease and frustrate guys. He pretty much applied no friction or pressure with his mouth, it was like he didn't want cum. weird. He didn't get mine.

Wow! this is sweet, my kinda Dom. So many in the D/s community are into bullying force, and that's cool with me if that's the way they want/need it, but i don't respond well to bullies or force at all, i have an almost wild animal response. A Dom who grooms and seduces me is the most powerful thing i have ever experienced, whispering in my ear is extremely effective, can totally disarm me. i fucking love how this Dom used and almost hypnotic approach to subjugating you. Fucking awesome.

He pissed a lot, so yeah, there was plenty that came out of my hole... but i also obviously absorbed a lot. it's not a problem for me to hold a guys piss in, i suspect i have a pretty severe sigmoid curve? idk why, but holding a guys piss in me comes pretty naturally (which i love). A Guy stealth pissed in me on two occasions at an ABS and i didn't even realize it till later after getting home and evacuating... both times it was a surprise and i had to piece together in my mind who had done it. He had bred me through a glory hole and was really good at stealth pissing a pussy, did it with little pauses while fucking. He didn't piss a lot, which i think is why i didn't notice, it was spurts of piss over the course of the fuck. The first time He did it, two other guys bred me after before i left to go home and i still didn't notice. i have to be careful when cleaning out because i tend to trap water, but the added benefit is, i trap piss too.

First thing i noticed. i've never drunk piss, but have been pissed on and had it up my ass many times. For me, i value a Mans piss almost as much as His cum. For me, psychologically, it's all tied together. His body made it, i want Him to put it in me. i especially want it up the ass because it goes straight to the colon where the body absorbs most of its fluid. We all fantasize about DNA being absorbed with cum, but absorbing a Tops piss when He breeds with it is a fact. The first time a Top FB pissed in me, He just did it without asking, He knew me and we had a bond of trust (an awesome place to be). He regularly bred me anonymously, me naked and face down on my bed. This time after cumming, instead of pulling out, i felt His body relax. After a few, His cock twitched and i started to feel a warm fullness inside and realized what He was doing. i was startled and tensed up, but He knew just what to do, He held me with HIs full weight on top of me, and whispered in my ear that He was making me His piss slut. i immediately relaxed and got totally turned on. When He was done, He plugged me and locked the plug in with a chastity belt and left. He texted me several hours later to tell me where the key was, but by that time i'd absorbed quite a bit. When i urinated, the first thing i smelled was His piss, it was obvious, distinct. It's literal impregnation... obviously not a baby, but the Top is impregnating the bottom with something He made with His body, it's fucking awesome.

i've found guys are horny the day after a holiday more than the holiday itself.

re-reading this, the idea of ownership/possession has a deep appeal to me, but it would have to be right, not contrived. not just anyone could possess me, but i've felt that pull before from some guys who have managed to collar my inner_____________.

i don't know if this is actually a "fetish" or if it's just a need/desire? i'm pretty deeply focused on "impregnation," and i don't mean a fantasy of having an actual baby in me... i get the , but it's not me. my desire/need is for my Top to have a need/desire to leave some part of Himself in me, not just physical, but psychologically too. He may want to open my hole and turn it into HIs 'pussy', or plant His seed or piss or scat inside my hole, give me breasts that produce milk for Him, collar my inner pussy, The list can be long, but ultimately it's about Him having a hold on me, a sort of possession, and ideally, wanting to maintain that ownership.

Thank you... and ditto, i think you are a very cool and insightful guy! i grew up in a strict religious christian fundamentalist culture. It took me way to long to process through that mind fuck, but i did thoroughly (and i believe, completely). Since then i have learned that fundamentalism is not the sole purview of religious folk, one can be a fundamentalist anything (e.g. fundamentalist atheist, gay, muslim, etc. etc.). i think "fundamentalism" is a mindset; a disposition of absolutism. i've had enough proverbial cock down my throat to (usually) overcome the gag reflex when someone makes an unequivocal comment like: "all bottoms should___________" or "all subs are______________" or "all Tops are______________" or "Dom is__________________" ad infinitum. i do have a hypersensitivity to fundamentalism in any form though. i work hard at trying to stay aware of absolutism in myself. It seems so easy and almost natural for us (humans) to impose our perceptions and notions on everyone and turn them into universal facts of life lol. Especially the stuff that is near and dear to us. For me, plumbing the depths of reality has always been "... the hottest fucks" compared to role playing or conforming to the status quo, no matter how edgy that status may be. my idea of "mind fuck" is two guys connecting in to what is in each other, not an idea or ideal of what should be. It's self discovery and vulnerable in BOTH parties, otherwise the connection is incomplete from. From what i have experienced, the absolute rules we make are literally self defeating and thwart the very thing we crave: connecting and bonding with another person.