tallslenderguy

Damn yes. i met a guy on CL when i lived in KY. He became a FB and we got together about once a week for a year and a half before we both moved away. He introduced Himself as liking to give massage and asked if i wanted one. We wrote back and forth for awhile, and He had me totally wanting it. Last minute He dropped that he wanted me waiting naked and blindfolded on my bed, ass up and door open. This wasn't a stretch for me because that's how the ad read that i'd placed, except for the blindfold. Though the words were never used, He was my first long term experience with a Dom. He used massage, the sensory deprivation of the blindfold and an ongoing monologue to get me into a suggestible place, and He was really good at it. It was about 6 months before i realized what He was doing, but i was hooked by Him from the start. He was very patient, slow and purposeful and always got what He wanted. His long term goal was to "remold my hole into a puaay"... He did that too. i don't know for sure, but i think He was purposefully using hypnotic techniques.

i fucking love this advice, the only thing that would make it better for me is to ask your Top to give you a ruined orgasm to help train and condition you to meet their desire.

Are you saying that You in particualar are turned off by guys with wives/girlfriends? Why is that? Pretty much opposite to what the OP feels. Personally, i can be attracted to a Bi guy or gay... not sure about wanting a straight guy though, because that seems conflicted, or just physical at best?

interesting question. i confess i love this dynamic with a Top where they minimize my penis. One way i and certain Tops have found around this is they never refer to what i have as a "cock," it's either a generic "penis" or some have called it a "clit." "Clit" has a deeper psychological effect (for me anyway) and it makes the distinction, even though i am not the least bit fem... actually not being "fem" makes it even more powerful for me. Talk about penetrating me and some forms of affectionate humilation get me hard as a rock, being penetrated makes me soft though and talk of me using my penis never gets me hard. So, the psychology behind calling it a "clit" (for both parties) is it's little, not a cock and refers to a penetrative part of anatomy. Yeah, it gets engorged when excited, but it's an encorged clit, not a cock. it gets excited for a whole different reason because it really isn't a "cock."

my sigmoid is pretty shallow, so most guys who breed me end up breeding my sigmoid, and once it's there i can keep it. If it doesn't go that deep, i am still able to somehow pull it in, not sure how that works, but i don't leak. i think leaking pussy is sexy as fuck, but i also hate the thought of losing any of a Tops cum, so i guess i've just learned how to retain and am lucky my sigmoid is shallow for retention. Butt plugs. i've never considered butt plugs to be a way of keeping cum or piss in. For me, the effect of a butt plug is mostly psychological. i like if a Top uses one on me for whatever HIs reason may be, but i don't use them on myself as a rule. When i read that what you wrote: "...use a butt plug, but that doesn't feel good and i dunno how you walk and do anything with one in," it immediately made me wish for a Top who'd put a butt plug in me... for exactly the reasons you state. For me, the butt plug would become a collar and leash for me that i'd associate with the Top.

What CumBustion said. i use an 18" and it helps, but it hasn't completely modified me. All of us are a little different down there. i happen to have a fairly deep curve, so hitting it meets more resistance and can cause more pain. For me, the advantage of having that deep curve is retention, i can hold onto a Tops cum and/or piss without losing it...and i love to keep and absorb what a Guy puts into me, so i like that. It also makes it more of a challenge to clean out initially, A lot really depends on the Top. Some Tops are either ignorant or don't care. If they have a long enough cock to hit my curve, i just sort of squirm and take it. Other more experienced or knowledgable Tops love to pop that "second hole" and love the process of opening and getting in to fuck deep.

mine is definitely changed ever since a Dom Top made it His goal to change it, which i love that i can associate it with Him and His desire. mine is a slit and not a pucker anymore, but not a gaping hole (though i love the way that looks on guys). Unlike some, i like lube, lots of lube or cum, either works, but i love sloppy and a noisy, sloppy sounding hole when any Top fucks. i love it when a Top loads my hole up with lube if it's not already sloppy with cum. One of my favorite feelings is the since of immediacy i get when i have to go to the bathroom. i don't leak, but i have to squeeze my inner muscles sometimes to hold stuff in. i like it because it reminds me that my hole is no longer designed primarily for waste removal or retention, but is designed for easy access, penetration and fucking. To me, that since of urgency is my body reminding me that it wants to be empty and ready for a Man to penetrate. it's also got a little bit of a humiliation edge to it that's hard to put words on, knowing any guy can look at it and know that i love to be a place for a Man to penetrate and release His pleasure into.

i know, right? "Verbal" doesn't have to be mean or abusive. The most effective Dom i have ever sucked Dommed me by continually coaching me to take HIs massive, thick cock deeper into my throat. He was totally positive, but relentless, saying things like: "that's it, just around the curve, deeper...." When i would do it, He'd gush "Good boy, I'm so proud of you, arent't you proud of yourself?" Like He was talking to a little kid or a pet dog, it was subtle humiliation. He had me in an awkward positon, but had me look Him in the eyes. i was tearing from gagging, and my nose was running from it too. He'd ask me questions He knew i couldn't answer with my mouth full, but still expected some type of response. The overall effect was i adored Him. He had me so verbally Dommed, He collared my inner cocksucker and made me HIs.

i think the term "faggot" is fluid. For me, that fluidity has boundaries, for instance, it can only refer to a guy who takes cock, not who gives it. To me, a faggot is a guy who needs/wants to be physically, emotionally and intellectually penetrated by another guy. A faggot is the receptive one in a gay or bi relationship (i use "relationship loosely here, even a hook up is a brief "relationship"). Thus, the fluidity. For instance, a versatile guy may have times when he is a faggot whereas a total bottom who would be fine if he didn't even have a penis is getting more towards "total faggot." Anyway, that's how i see it.

i think it’s more a mental than physical phenomenon. I don’t think it depends on the bottom as much as it does the Top. A sweet ass is a thing to behold, and feel, but i believe most of this has to do with the mental and emotional disposition of the Top.

my previous thoughts were thinking out loud, not absolutes, just thoughts. Thinking more about it... i was married for half my life, most of my adult life, to a woman. We had sex, lots of it. i'd be lying if i said i didn't like it, but i still identify as "gay." So, maybe i'm off on my analysis of what constitutes "gay, straight and bi"? When i divorced, i thought i might be bi, because hell, i'd functioned well enough sexually with a woman for most o fly life. Before i married, my sexual attraction was pretty strictly towards guys, but it wasn't an option in my religiously conditioned brain and emotions. i did date a few women who i considered attractive, but when it came to sex, it was a no go for me. i didn't want it. i consider my marriage as sort of like straight guys who go to prison and have a romance with a guy, it's all that is available. For me, my "prison" was my beliefs that being gay was wrong. Once i processed through that, turns out, i'm gay lol. i even dated a trans person (FtM) and though i totally cognitively accepted this person was the guy he identified as, there was just something personality wise that reminded me of a woman and that turned me off sexually. i've had prolly a couple of thousand guys, but only ever had one woman, so i guess i do qualify as gay, but i did "try" sex with my former wife a lot more than once lol, so it may be that a straight guy can indeed have multiple sex encounters with a guy? idk. what's the attraction then and what qualifies him as still being straight and not bi?

i think this can be a hard one to nail down with a simple lable like "gay" or "straight." If we're being strict about the meaning of words, if a guy practices sex with males and females, he's bisexual. If he's "never had a boy before" he might be gay, straight or bi and still figuring it out. If you're his first boy, it's a 50/50 chance of which way it will go. If He likes it and wants to do it again, he's at least bisexual. If He decides, whoa, wtf, this is what i have been missing my whole life, he may be gay. If He tries you and just can't finish, or decides after that it was "meh" or even "gross," chances are he's straight. Honestly, i think the latter is gonna be pretty rare to get as far as penetration and unload if there is no attraction at all? It doesn't make any sense that He's gonna be able to get it up and slide it in without being turned on? i'd guess that you are looking for specific traits in a guy that you associate with being straight? Because by strict definition of terms, once He's fucked you the second time, he's no longer straight lol. The first time can be chalked up to giving it a try, but really, i just don't see a straight guy doing it more than once and keeping the title "straight?" what he said

Wow, this is a fascinating thread. It seems to me anyone in this situation should go for couples counseling to figure out the why's behind it and in order to determine a course of action. i don't think it's a healthy relationship, but all that has pretty much been said. What did strike me is that the rule of monogamy would be invoked. I don't think "monogamy" applies in a relationship that has no sex, that's a platonic relationship.

Guys like sex, you'll always be able to get some. i don't believe it's a question of age, even though that's a factor for some. There are many factors that influence getting sex, among them are looks, age, population, environment to list a few. One of the bigger impediments that i find is not just the Tops list of qualifications, but the bottoms. I.e., do you have them? From what you have said, you do. For instance "condoms used for anal" is a deal breaker for 99% of the guys on this site. Your profile says you are looking for "muscled," so for many reading that, that would leave them out. We have little control over another guys qualifications, but we do have some. But we have complete control over our own qualifications. The more you have, the less sex you will get.

lol, yeah that happens, eh? When i go to the gay resorts in Palm Springs i sometimes encounter a stubborn shower head, all the resorts were made in the 50's it seems, and some of the original plumbing is in place. i've always had success, so i'm guessing the hard to budge shower heads are the exception? i doubt they are permanently afixed, prolly just rust or a really tight hole.

I’m a little different with this, I’m pretty sub and the way I’m wired, I get off most on doing what my Top likes. I like the way I feel in panties on all sorts of levels, but what makes it work for me is if my Top asks or wants me to wear them. I associate stuff like that with a Tops desires, so as much as I may like wearing them, doing so independently feels like topping myself. My own individual twist I guess

I travel with a shower hose attachment, pliers and a shower shot. The hotel graciously provides the shower. It’s a 5 minute job to take the existing shower head off and substitute your attachment, then replace before you leave. If you’re staying a few days, you need to remember to switch it out before maid service ( unless your maid is a hot guy).

Okay, waking this thread back up, and got distracted ^^^ i did a search on here for "waxing" and this seemed to be the most recent thread with some discussion on the topic. i have a naturally hairy ass, and as mentioned earlier in the discussion, i go back and forth about hair removal. Personally, i get really turned on by hairless, smooth, on me and other guys... especially the ass. But, as also noted, i'm more concerned about what my Top likes, but not reopening this to try and figure all that out. Waxing. i bought a wax pot on Amazon, got the French wax, etc.., and have tried it a couple of times after watching some youtube how to vids lol (i love youtube, you can find "how to" anything there). Turns out waxing yourself is pretty challenging. So is shaving, and i have a yoga background. i do like the results better, no prickly stubble to worry about or razor rash or ingrown hair... but i haven't figured out how to do it without having to go over and over and over a place to get all the hair? Anyone else do it yourself? Please share your methods and discoveries?

"loved" this pic in the reaction section when i first saw it, but seriously, you deserve some sort of award or trophy for having one of the worlds most beautiful holes. i'm pretty much a total bottom, but i'd breed that... if i didn't die of excitement first.

i'm one of those guys that vets my hook ups. Yes, i confess, i'm one of those who will do lots of back and forth emails. i'm trying to do two things: one, i mentioned earlier in this discussion, i'm trying to connect emotionally and mentally with the guy. Two, i'm trying to make sure he's a Top. i've even taken to explaining in some of my profiles that i love bottom and versatile guys, but they won't work chemistry wise when it comes to sex. i push pretty hard and directly in the pre-hookup discussion to make sure this guy wants nothing to do with my penis. Still, some guys don't read profiles?!? and a few slip through, no matter how clear you are, As to "picky," that can be a two edged sword. i don't have a lot of regrets, i'm pretty at peace about my life. But, i do wish i had learned at an earlier age what i know now, and that is that fucking is about a lot more than i realized when younger, that it's not just about the body or looks. Sure, those are factors, but i put much less weight on them now. i've had some awesome sex with guys i never would have dreamed of spreading my legs for when i was younger. i seriously do not have a huge problem finding Tops, it's still work, but my only qualifiers are they want to fuck (or be sucked) and they are able to do so. That's it. If they can get it up and get it in, they qualify. So to bottoms who have a hard time finding Tops i'd ask: "will you take any guy with a functional cock?"

i discovered i had a pussy at a very young age, 7 or 8, way before i discovered my penis sexually. A neighbor boy, who i had i crush on, took me inside His house one day and showed me and enema nozzle and explained in gleeful detail what it was used for. Cognitively, i knew nothing about sex or being gay at that age, but emotionally, He was probably the first dom in my life. And looking back, i can see how He had a dom nature, even though immature, and i had a sub nature, also immature and we just naturally attracted to each other. As soon as i got home, i found our enema and he nozzle and inserted it into my rectum associating it with him. After that, pretty much anything i could think of went into my hole. i had no idea what i was doing, but i was unknowingly training my hole to receive. i was religious and resisted having sex with a guy till i was 27, but by then i had a ton of experience taking it up the ass. i didn't own an actual dildo or plug till way later after i was divorced, but my hole was well trained by then. When i was in my twenties, before i had my first cock, i had one particular tool at work that i penetrated myself with. i worked at a high school as a maintenance person and my office was private, in a mechanical room with a large collection of tools. There was one solid metal tool, a pipe thread cutting tool , that was my favorite. The pic i linked is similar, but the newer ones are smaller than the one i had. There was more of a ball shape at the end that was about 2 inches in diameter. the shaft about and inch and a half across? It was solid stainless steal and i'd put the cutter side in a vice and then impale myself on the ball and shaft. I was probably more open than most guys when i took my first cock lol. i almost never use dildos now because emotionally it just feels to much like i am topping myself, but it's rare that i need one now to prep myself for cock. i estimate i've had between a thousand to two thousand cocks, my hole has a life time of conditioning to receive. Mind you, i'm not like some fisters who have size trained, i bow to them when it comes to gape, but as far as natural conditioning to take cock... i'm there. Every time i have to 'go' , i have a particular sense of urgency because my hole is no longer built to retain. i have to use my cock squeezing muscles to hold it in (good exercise lol). It's a daily reminder that i have a pussy for cock primarily and a hole for waste removal secondarily.

i've mentioned this before, but the sigmoid is my friend and enemy lol. i have to be very careful when cleaning out, take my time, rest between cleaning and use a dildo to try and get trapped water. Conversely, that part of my anatomy (we're all a little different down there) does retain piss too. i had an experience where a Top stealth pissed me on two separate occasions at and ABS through a GH. The first time, i figured out what He was doing, the second time, i didn't know that He had pissed in me and i took a couple of cocks after His. They both fucked and bred me without any piss leaking out. i am pretty practiced at holding in a Tops cum and have learned to ignore it if i have a sense of urgency after taking a load or loads and there is a natural pause mechanism in the body that will let you delay... but the sense of urgency kept coming back and i figured i had more than cum in me, so i evacuated, not expecting piss. When i saw it was piss, i was really disappointed the i hadn't held it in. Hold it in deep and long enough and your body will absorb it, which is awesome.

When a Top fucks me, i am generally lying on my stomach. i really love that position, it feels most subdued and powerless for me. Sometimes my Tops hands will wander up close to my face and sometimes i cannot resist taking His thumb into my mouth and sucking it. i have never had a Top pull away, and several have obviously gotten really turned on by it, a few have shot as a result of the added... stimulus? i'm not doing it for effect, it can just be wonderful to have Him in my mouth and hole at the same time, as long as He's happy.

There is no snark in this question. Isn't that a big part of the point? At least for some? i guess not for all, i honestly don't know. Last time i was in Palm Springs a really cute guy picked me up and wanted to spit in my mouth, i didn't want it, He was cool about it, not forceful or bullying, which is something i'd usually associate spitting with? He ended up putting some of His spit on His cock... He knew i'd suck His cock, so it was a way for Him to get me to eat His spit? i have no idea what He was thinking or feeling.

The line between need and want is often blurry for me. i don't have anywhere near a complete handle on the degradation thing. The few times guys have gotten rough with me, by emotional response was so automatic and palpable, that they all backed way down. Any sense of being bullied triggers me. i was bullied a lot as a kid, and looking back, i can see there were boys who were responding to my obvious signals of being sub. i learned to hide the obvious stuff and by age 14 no longer had a bully problem (comparatively, as younger, boys abused me physically and emotionally). It left a mark on me, as an adult i practiced martial arts for about 25 years, second degree black belt. i'd probably shock the hell out of some guy who didn't get the message, i'm afraid he might get the brunt of old rage, but prolly not, a non sexual mugger would though. i have experienced a form of degradation/humilation that was so deeply erotic that i can still feel it's effect years later from the memory. There was no bullying or meanness, indeed the power of it was in affection. i've written about it elsewhere on this site, but the Dom read me so well and knew exactly where my buttons were and how to push them, and He did. Before Him, i wasn't much of a cocksucker emotionally, i just loved to get bred. He changed that, not by taking anything away, but by adding ardent cocksucker to the list. He had me in an awkward position and His cock was so big (both long and girth) i was gagging (which i hate... well, hated before Him, now it's just an inconvenience), my eyes were streaming tears and my nose was running. i must have looked awful. He wanted me to look Him in the eyes, which was awkward as hell in the position i was in lying between His spread legs. He'd ask me questions while i had my mouth full, looking expectantly for an answer. He also kept talking continuously, He combined coaching me on how to suck Him, encouraging me: 'that's it, just a little deeper, around the curve." And when i would do it He'd exclaim: "Good boy!!" but utterly matter of factly, not like some good-ole-boy would, but exactly like He was talking to a young boy or a pet dog. He'd tell me how proud He was, and ask if i was proud of what i had accomplished... and i was. i was absolutely glowing with pride and at the same time, embarrassed at how i felt. In the end, i absolutely adored Him, and still do at the thought of Him. A few other's have found similar places in me and 'collared' me, but none as thoroughly as He did. i don't think He made me this way, i think He saw it and knew how to bring it out of hiding and to the surface, how to use it to get what He needed/wanted. Even with the humiliation of it, i wish for Him or someone in my life who took the same pleasure in exercising the same power.