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i've always wondered how guys are measuring? Starting from the anterior or posterior side (which switches when erect)? If you start from the anterior, it will be shorter than if you start from the posterior (from the taint). in that context, i' 7 to 7.5 and tend towards girthy. And i swear, the less i have used it as bottom, it seems to be shrinking.

This is a hot vid on several levels for me https://xhamster.com/videos/drink-it-boy-3743226# The boy in this vid comes across to me as wanting to please... the look in his eyes? idk, he totally reminds me of a dog ("pup?") who wants to please. i can see a lot of guys this will appeal to. For me, i respond better to seduction than force. If someone forces me, i have to fight myself to submit, seduction awakens in me extra effort to please. i've never drunk piss. i have two fears, choking on the stream or flow and reacting with wanting to spit it out because of taste. Those are mental barriers for me, not objections. i love and appreciate FelchingPisser's input and advice, it's very practical for getting accustomed to drinking piss. Psychologically, though, i associate piss with the pisser, and something in me doesn't want to disassociate the two. Drinking my own piss would feel like being my own top. When i contemplate it as a way to laarn, it feels like trying to fuck and inseminate myself. i know, weird, i have the same sort of issue trying to use a dildo on myself. i think it's because, for me, it's not about the piss, but about the Man the piss is coming from. When i fantasize or imagine drinking a Mans piss, it's always from His cock. Drinking piss from a glass loses something vital for me. Here's how i imagine being trained/seduced into drinking piss: i am sucking a Tops cock and He 'accidentally' lets some of His piss flow, just enough to test me and my response. i imagine myself being startled, but also swallowing it if it's just a little out of the desire to please. If i were to then see a smile of recognition in my Tops eyes, i'd also be tremendously turned on by that. It would be like He found the way to flip the switch in me where i deeply love to please Him. i imagine Him doing this progressively, letting a little of His piss go at a time until i am more used to it, but more importantly, thoroughly turned on by His pleasure and success at turning me, seducing me and sort of addicting me, not to piss, but to receiving piss from His cock. i don't know what it is about piss that makes me want it directly from the Tops cock? i've taken more than a few used condoms and put the cum in my ass, never having seen the Top. Piss for me seems different. I've taken piss up the ass several times and love to hold and absorb it, and maybe that's why i have a different response to it? When i take it up the ass and absorb it, i can smell my Tops piss when i end up urinating, kind of proof of impregnation to me where i can only imagine the effects of absorbing His cum.

eh, that's actually a good point. i'm surprised at the number of guys on their phones when i go to a bath house. Still, i do like and miss the cruising that happened prior to online and apps. Even in restrooms between stalls, that energy one feels is really hot without the delay... both are obviously there for sex NOW, you avoid a lot of stuff, like flaking. i used to even have regular FB's at certain places, was pretty awesome.

^^This^^ On the one hand, we identify things we don't like about women ("fag hags"), but on the other, women are traditionally the ones to talk about feelings. Why is that? my culture taught me that 'real' men don't talk about how they feel. We even have honorable cliche' like: "the strong silent type" that sends the message that real men don't discuss their feelings. i've even seen it espoused in some circles that women are naturally more feeling and men more intellectual. i don't think that is accurate, at least, not to the degree that we have made it a sort of rule. i don't think men lack feelings, i think we have been culturally conditioned to hide/bury those feelings as 'un-manly.' Fuck that. If it is untrue, why buy into it? i see the gay community often emulating stereotypes of 'manliness' (out of fear?) instead of actually being who they are (i.e., men). i think it has gotten to the place where, from lack of practice, men are out of touch with their feelings and often lack the skill set to articulate their feelings. That makes relationship shallow, if not impossible.

This is interesting and hopeful stuff: An international group of researchers met in Seattle in March to review the evidence before conducting the literature review, the authors said. They started with the small existing trials for doxycycline as PrEP or post-exposure prophylaxis. A small open-label study of MSM with HIV and prior syphilis infection randomized to doxycycline found a reduction in Chlamydia trachomatis, Neisseria gonorrhoeae, and syphilis versus a control group. Here's the whole article: https://www.medpagetoday.com/infectiousdisease/stds/81958

Trying to step back and look at this clinically, i have wondered why so many women are manipulative? One reason i can see is most women have developed in a male dominated culture and there are consequences on both sides. i know this is an over simplification of something complex, but i think in some ways women have developed manipulation as a survival mechanism. I.e., in a direct confrontation, they historically lose in a traditionally male dominated society. Instead of giving up, they have developed different ways to play the 'game.' Again, i think it's complicated, but i'm not convinced that looking at the surface of how men or women act gives us the reasons why. Personally, i despise manipulation and subterfuge, i don't want to copy something i don't like about being a women. To me, those methods impede the very thing that makes life rich: connecting with other guys. When i say "connecting," i don't mean only the physical, but on emotional and intellectual levels as well, which seems to be what you are wanting? i'm not a proponent of "fighting fire with fire," but rather, fight fire with water. i like being a man and being with men, so why adopt or copy methods women often use that will make us like women? One of the things i like about being a man is being a risk taker. It takes courage to be vulnerable and direct about your feelings, but i think it is also one of the things that is hot about being a man. i'm not suggesting you wear your heart on your sleeve, but i'd argue for telling him how you feel and what you want without embellishment. i think it's a mistake for you to assume "...a ''formal'' date as that seems to make many guys go into meltdown." Bluntly put, isn't that stereotypically how a woman would approach this? We've all heard the jokes about how a man pursues a woman until she catches him. Again, manipulation and subterfuge. Do we really want a guy we'd have to trick into a deeper relationship?

i Love how you analyzed this for yourself. Funny (and fun) the differences between all of us. Re your last paragraph, i am exactly opposite. i'll present to any guy who has the need, desire or inclination to breed me, but i am most attracted to smooth, slender, unassuming, guy-next-door types. Subtle vs overt. For me, personality is the bigger attraction, but visually, the packaging i'm attracted too reflects that in the aforementioned attributes.

It depends. if i am horny and just looking for cock and cum, it's doesn't matter. If i am looking for potentially deeper connection (which seems to often be the case), i've learned that age alone is not a factor. i've had some incredbly sensitive, intuitive and intelligent FBs who were in their 20's and have known older guys who didn't improve with age. Stuff like intelectual and emotional maturity are not necessarily associated with age, which is counter intuitive. One wants to think that maturity comes with age, but it doesn't. Maturity comes from experience and how we process/respond to that experience. There are plenty of older guys who have not learned from experience and are clueless. Conversely, there are younger guys who started even younger, paid attention and learned and apply what they know when with others. The guy i want a relationship with, who, for me, makes for the best sex as well; is the guy who is self aware, aware of others, and articulate.

i think you worded this very well. It's a tricky and complex subject. Coming from a religious background (which i am no longer a part of), i find it ironic that the church folk that push this sort of stuff are largely hypocritical. They push abstinence, which results in them pushing marriages that often happen before people are ready to make that kind of commitment because it's the only way they can get sex. Another funny factoid is back at the time Jesus was purportedly born it was common for women to be "betrothed" at age 14 or so. Mary was likely that age when "God" impregnated her, which by US law (heavily influenced by religion), would make "God" a sexual predator and pedophile. Religion aside, i still think this is a complex subject. i think if everyone had a "do no harm" outlook, age would not be the deciding factor, but competence, which is a whole lot more individual. Some guys are more mentally and emotionally competent at 15 than other guys are at 45. One would hope that the experience that comes with age would equip one, but experience is not the only factor of maturity. Generally speaking, i think society has to set an age of consent because people are not individually, universally, responsible. i.e., there are adults who would prey on younger kids and there are laws in place to try and protect those kids. It doesn't fit all people, but what is the alternative?

my read is hypnosis can be a paradoxical experience. On the one hand, i read ErosWIred's account of being mentally "raped," the experience not being "hot, fun or sexy." On the other hand, he also notes that we can only be persuaded to do something that we want on some level. For me, this raises a question of fantasy vs reality and how we often discover (or suspect) that what we want won't equal reality? Many of us here push the edge and look to make our fantasies real. What seems to happen in hypnosis is, once a person is truly under the control of a "tist", the ability to change ones mind if the experience is not what they imagined, can be compromised? It gets down to a question of love and the ethics that accompanies love. A loving person has ethics and does not violate another persons volition. But we tread an edge in D/s relationship. With conscious interaction, we invent things like "safe words" to employ when one perceives they are going beyond their edge. It seems hypnosis has the ability to remove that safety, putting full(er?) control (after a fashion?) into the hands of the Dom/hypnotist? i can see where this could have appeal on both sides of the relationship with some guys in a D/s relationship. i recognize lots of parts in myself that love being controlled, manipulated, molded, groomed. But, i always imagine the wielder of power "loving" me, thus i feel safe to be used in those ways. Many of us, myself included, even perceive forms of 'humiliation' as "loving." i think the bottom line is, experiences like this cannot be generic or "hook up" in nature, but need to be a part of a committed relationship where a deep trust bond has been established. i know i already have that safe guard in place, i'm not an automatic or easy sub. A Dom has to find the keys and places to use them in order to lock, control or bind me. my experience has been, that process is what both the Dom and sub find rewarding in a D/s relationship, though i know not all who identify as D/s see it that way.

Thank you for your sweet and generous comments. From where i sit, you a thoughtful and insightful person and i'm both excited and grateful for your participation on this site. i love this community for similar reasons that you note. To me, both self awareness and the ability to articulate what we see, are largely acquired skills, i believe the more we exercise them, the better they get. This site provides an arena for us to exercise both in a relatively safe environment. i am truly happy you are here and participating, you enrich this community.

This isn't a black and white question for me. For me, it is about the breed, a Top leaving a part of Himself inside of me, inseminating me, hopefully impregnating me with Himself... 'breeding.' That doesn't always men a load. Sometimes it means altering my hole, Him making it His. Or sometimes He's a big mind fucker and He loads my mind and feelings with His seed, even a dildo or hand can 'load' me depending on the Top.

lol, good point, we eat additives and preservatives in our 'food' from an early age. What we eat is the primary cause of disease in the west today. You could always go the opposite direction and start eating a whole food plant based diet without added salt, oil or sugar. i'd love to hear your experience after you have used them, please let us know what you think?

^^This^^ (simply put). i too want to be aware and "participating." The appeal to me of stuff like hypnotism is the desire of the Top/Dom to control me. It's the power exchange, not the taking of power that captivates me. It's the, almost magical, ability that some have to get me to relinquish myself to them. There is a gray area for me, where i become aware after the fact that a Top or Dom has gotten me to do something or done something with me like stealth pissing my ass, and i am still bonded by Him. That still involves my participation, if not my outright permission at the time. That's a sort of risky act on the part of the Top/Dom, when they do it in hopes of finding a place in me to collar vs just doing it because they don't care about me. That is the biggest stumbling block that some in the D/s community seem to trip over with my type of sub nature, that submission is not carte blanche but rather an achievement, a demonstration of the Top/Dom's prowess.

my sense of you over time is that you are a real and honest person. i trust you and what you write, so this piques my interest. i've never been hypnotized, so far as i know. i had a FB who used what i retrospectively considered "hypnotic techniques" (massage to relax, blindfold to sensory deprive), but i think mostly He understood how to find my vulnerable places and capture them. my interest in hypnosis, and D/s in general, is the dynamic of molding and grooming. i have no desire to be used unscrupulously, i look for compatibility and relationship, the attraction and bonding of opposites at the deepest levels of who we are.

This is really hot to me, but in a more subtle way? I.e., having a Top who nonchalantly puts a diaper on me with no mention of "adult baby," but with the intent of molding me. i'm not into role play at all, i love real. But molding and grooming can be enormously Hot, especially when done in a subtle way.

For me, i love the stealth side of pissing. Love when guys stealth piss inside of me. i guess i don't qualify as "pig" because i don't really like my bed drenched in piss, but rather something more subtle, like discovering a Top has pissed in me or left His mark somewhere. i love it when He does it matter of factly, presuming it's appropriate. Hard to explain. i do love the idea of being diapered and not really forced to pee myself, but kept occupied by my Top with the intent of not giving me a chance to go to the bathroom so i finally have an accident. For me, my peeing has a humiliation element that is erotically charged when a Top controls it, sort of like Him controlling my orgasm. i feel about His piss like i feel about His cum, it's precious stuff. Complicated i guess.

You've got a gorgeous ass and pussy.

lol, well mine certainly has changed. One particular Dom FB made it His goal to permanently change it, which i realized after the fact because He was very patient, slow and methodical (changed it over about a year and a half). But honestly, it was already a pussy when He got to it, He did make it more permanently opened though. It's definitely more of a sex organ now than an elimination organ. I.e. it's much more equipped for receiving than retaining. i wouldn't say i'm proud of it, but it feels damned sexy.

Chia is insoluble fiber, they make a lot of goo lol, and i suspect create the "slick" environment many think of as "ass cum." Psylium is soluble, so yeah, you're doing some balancing. i tend to advocate for a whole food plant based diet (WFPBD), which provides nutritional value on top of the fiber, but in the absence of that, fiber supplement strikes me as a good thing. 🙂 Psyllium can be found on Amazon or Costco, cheaply, as is chia. A tablespoon of (freshly) ground flax seed a day is good too. Also fruit, berries and veggies.

Hell yes it makes sense! i really love and appreciate this insightful and open explanation of who and how you are. i wish more guys had such self knowledge and the ability to articulate their feelings, needs and desires. i don't relate to the desire/need for the physical or "rough" struggle. in fact, i have an aversion to perceived bullying or physical force. As best i can tell, it's probably a reaction on my part to being physically bullied and beat up as a kid. Looking back i realize i was 'sub' in nature from as early an age as i can remember. i sought out boys as friends who were 'dom' in nature and had crushes on several of them. i think that i must have thrown off signals and attracted dom guys in general. Of course, as children, none of us had much understanding or sophistication and we were all playing out "The Lord of the Flies." But even as a kid, i learned what worked and what didn't and learned to hide my sub side. As an adult, i practiced marshal arts and have a second degree black belt. The sub in me has always resisted bulking up with weights, so i'm a tall skinny guy, but i can break concerte with my hand lol, so it's sort of deceptive. The thing is, all my training is sort of deadly and destructive, so i'd never use it in a sexual context. But i got into marshall arts, in part, to compensate for being beaten up on as a kid. i didn't like it then and don't like it now. Weirdly, i enjoy sparring immensely, but find most of my joy in sparring as being a part of the dance with another guy, not winning by striking the deciding blow. i perplexed more than a few sparring partners when i praised them for landing a punch or kick on me while sparring (and i didn't give them that, it was full 'competition'). But that was all controlled with protection and pulled punches and kicks that can kill or cause severe harm. i've experienced a few guys who wanted to get rough during sex and have had to control myself from reacting with pent up childhood rage lol. In a contest of strength, i'd lose to a lot of guys. In a contest of actual fighting, i'd win because most don't have my training. Okay, that's physical. As noted, i identify as "sub" and know intimately how true that is. It really seems to be an intrinsic part of my nature as far back into childhood as i can remember. But it doesn't manifest in a physical contest of fighting, rather in an intellectual/emotional 'contest' of wills? i submit to seduction, but it is a contest and i don't just submit to anyone. So in that way, i really relate to this, but still from a bottom/sub perspective. i know versatile guys are different from me because of their nature their needs are met on either side of the equation, mine aren't. Differently, my ideal connection is with a 'total Top/Dom', the Yang to my yin. To me, at it's basic form, it's physics, the attraction and bonding of opposites.

fiber, fiber, fiber. (nerdy nurse here, certified through Cornell University on reversing and managing disease through diet) Enough soluble fiber can increase the "slick" coating that one might think of as "ass cum." What it is is fiber that becomes gelatinous when mixed with water in the body. It's also good for blocking/buffering absorption of sugar (which is why it's better to eat an apple that has fiber, vs drinking apple juice). Insoluable fiber adds bulk and helps with clean out as well as helping keep ones colon cleaner. Fiber is indigestible by our body, but it feeds our gut bacterial microbiome, it's vitially important to good health and, for aforementioned reasons, can reduce the need or extent when it comes to clean out.

i did a search for some study evidence re enemas, here's what i found: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3348737/ (i cut and pasted the pertinent part) "Enemas general act by causing rectal distention and sometimes irritation of the rectal mucosa. Although generally safe, enemas may cause serious damage to the rectum by misinsertion resulting in trauma to the rectal mucosa. Phosphate Enemas Commercially available sodium phosphate enemas are hypertonic solutions, which cause stimulation and some degree of macro and microscopic irritation of the rectal mucosa. Like most other OTC agents, there is little convincing evidence of their efficacy, mostly because of lack of well-designed trials. It is important to ensure that a patient using a phosphate enema can evacuate promptly as hyperphosphatemia has been described in multiple case reports, sometimes life-threatening in severity. Saline, Tap Water, and Soapsuds Enemas Saline, tap water, and soapsuds enemas also cause rectal distention, prompting evacuation. As a group, they are less irritating to the rectal mucosa if used in small volumes. With larger volumes, water intoxication has been reported with tap water enemas. Similarly, electrolyte disturbances have also been reported with larger volume soapsuds enemas. Saline enemas have been proposed as a survival technique in situations without pure freshwater."

i think they are!! But then, ironically (because i'm total bottom), i find a guys ass to be the most attractive part of the male anatomy. i can watch guys asses all day long, they fill me with lust. i think age has absolutely nothing to do with being able to wear a thong. You can be 75, and if You have the ass and body for it, go for it (and Yay You!). To me, You sound like you have the perfect ass to wrap in a thong, and i find thongs enormously sexy. And, please take pics and post them 😉

Re fallen angels procreating with humans. Yet another one of the bibles many contradictions. Words ascribed to Jesus imply that angels are sexless when he stated there will be no marriage in heaven. Kook stuff either way it's sliced. And yeah, 'the Ark Experience." So much of Christianity is showmanship. Thanks for the article link discussing chemical bonding, very interesting stuff. Though it's anectdotal, in my own experience i have gone from being selective to pretty much indiscriminate when it comes to mating with men. i have a general and universal affection for men that i didn't have initially. i've attributed that to age, but i wonder if it would be more accurately attributed to the quantity of guys i've fucked with? That the loyalty and commitment centers in my brain have become generalized? Maybe there is something to that, but i also note a continued desire for a more exclusive bond with a man vs many men. When i think about that, i consider relationship with one man to have a potential for depth that a hook up cannot have, and i desire that depth. In the context of incest, i still have dreams about my cousin who i had a crush on from about age 9 and i both lust after Him to this day as well as think romantically about Him even though there has been no contact with Him in decades.