tallslenderguy

i'm a bottom, and ideally "total" bottom. i also have a sub streak. i don't want my penis touched and want my hole treated as primary sex organ (mouth is secondary). But that all sounds so clinical to me. i think who and how we are is reflected in relationship (even if it's just the hook up kind). Like ErosWired, it too have been frustrated by guys who wanna touch my penis, and i'm very explicit in my profiles about NOT wanting that. When in the actual situation of having sex though, i have submitted to guys touching my penis, but the key word is "submitted." It's not what i want, but i've been known to submit to it to please. i think a lot of us (Tops and bottoms) often miss out on the psychological aspects of sex. If we don't exercise introspection, we don't know much about our self or feelings. If we don't learn how to articulate who and how we are, we don't achieve communication and that makes it really difficult to connect with the guys we need and want? i will all gay guys developed and exercised those skills, but i swear many don't even know they exist lol. Since we are internet inclined, that usually starts with a profile. i don't think Total Tops or bottoms are extinct, just hard to find because they often make themselves invisible by not being clear or open. Most sites make it to easy and have drop down menus for self disclosure. Of course, there's a lot of guys who haven't learned how to read, and just respond to pics, sigh. But i read, and i write epic profiles (i often have to edit them down in fear that i'll scare away guys who hate to read). For me, a good profile is every bit as important as the piece of ass it advertises. i typically skip past the ones saying "Versatile" and even "Top versatile" (but will read them if desperately horny). The guys i pursue are the ones who go beyond the label and describe the contents. If a Top goes beyond the label and writes stuff like: "I'm a Total Top, I don't want to touch your cock, to me you don't even have one. As a Total Top I am the only one in the relationship with a 'cock' and the bottom is there to receive it." That attracts me and i'll respond by contacting you legs spread and ass presented.

People have always fucked and disease has always been around. The crime in my opinion is the stigmatization of sex. We have fucking cures for all of those diseases, and it's not to stop fucking. Society irradiated polio,when a cure was found, by mass treatment. Granted, the treatment was a preventative vaccine, not a disease cure, but there was no stigma attached to treatment, pretty much everyone participated. An algorithm could easily be created to get everyone routinely tested, and treated if necessary, and in time the disease could be significantly reduced. The only missing piece to significant reduction of these diseases in participation in testing and treatment and i posit that everyone getting tested and treated would go a long way to removing stigma. Course, that's not gonna happen as long as sex or being gay is a "sin" or "immoral."

Love the replies to this and how they express our individuality. For me (and i get this is my individual perception), power is manifest in understanding and seduction, not force. Bullies evoke a fighting response in me, whereas affection and a display of need or desire from a Top opens me right up. i don't perceive "need" as weakness. Tops need to penetrate, breed, inseminate and bottoms need to be penetrated, bred and inseminated (the list is long, eh?). It's weird. i get FaceLoad's disappointment and relate to it in a way, but not completely. Personally, i am disappointed when a guy has an embarrassed or apologetic attitude about His need or desire. For me, the most powerful Top is the one who sees that He doesn't have to force or bully me because He knows i need/want Him and He knows how to tap into that. For me, a Top's most powerful tool for tapping into my need to submit is by exposing His own needs and desires. The Top who says something like: "I want to piss in you" or "I need to piss in you," elicits my need and desire to be what He needs and wants. He is not asking permission, He is just revealing Who He is to me and my natural response is to want to fulfill that need/desire. For me, force or bullying is like a denial of my desire/need to submit.

No. i dearly love me some faggots and fellow bottoms. i can easily feel romantically towards another bottom. But i'm practical too. i won't compete with another bottom, i'll wink and smile and let my sweet brother have the Top. i know that is not sustainable for me in a romantic relationship setting, i'd be afraid my own needs would not be met, i'd get hurt and start feeling resentment. i hate resentment so i am purposeful to not put myself in a position that might foster it. If i were to have a ltr of a romantic nature, one of the pre qualifiers is that it be with my polar opposite (i.e., a Top). i'm convinced that working with nature (opposites attract and bond) offers the best chance for a successful relationship of that kind. I'll hug, kiss, sleep with and dearly love another bottom, but it is naturally different from what i can have with a Top. i don't see it as a matter of choice, just reality.

Every time i see the title of this thread, the image in my head is that of a surprise birthday party where one walks in the door to their dark abode after a hard days work and the lights go on and a room full of people shouts "surprise!!" Except now all the people shouting "surprise" are naked Tops with hard cocks instead of other party favors.

For me, it's not the length of the connection that matters, but the connection itself. i've been with guys who went for a long time and my perception was their 'stamina' was related to their lack of presence in the moment. i hate mechanical fucking. Some guys seem to be more impressed by how long they can go than with the fact that they are penetrating another human being. Despite the physical connection, something vital is missing. Quick or fast orgasm always communicates excitement about the connection, so while i might wish it would go on longer, i love the Top dearly for the gift of Him, no matter how brief. A guy who can go 30 minutes and still manage to be somewhere else has failed to fuck by my estimation. The most incredible guys are the ones who can fuck for long periods and be engaged (and thereby engaging) the whole time.

Today at one of the local ABS. 5 loads through a GH. 4 by mouth an 1 in my ass. The first one i'm not even certain was a "load" more like a drip, but i loved it and the man it came from either way. i love the pleasure and satisfaction of the Top even more than the substance of cum. The next two happened in rapid succession, as though they were waiting their turn and neither got hard enough to even present my ass to for breeding. The fourth got rock hard fast, but was short and thick. i sort of begged Him to come into my booth so i could get all of him, the wall impedes. i offered my ass, He withdrew, so i sucked Him a bit longer and He gave me a wonderful load and sigh. The fifth Top was uncut and long enough for His cock to reach down my throat, even with the wall of the GH between us. i ran my tougue under His foreskin and pushed it back with my lips. loving the tip of His cock and then swallowing HIs entire shaft. He was wonderfully hard and girthy and i felt He's enjoy fucking so i slid my hole onto His cock and pressed into Him as He pressed into me. He thrust deep a couple of times and stayed deep, not making a sound, fucked a few more times then withdrew and cleaned up and left. i thought maybe He didn't like my hole, but then felt with my finger and was very creamy. i held it a few hours and felt it leaking out, i have a big wet spot on my sweats and can still feel some inside trying to get out, i refuse to push it out, so I've been holding it in for the last 90 minutes... Kegals are good for several things turns out. i was texting to a dear heart who lives far away and who has stolen a chunk of my heart. i sometimes think i'd be happier with a lover than hook ups. i suspect we look for pieces of substance in numbers and hook ups when we lack one person with those qualities? idk, but i left happy and grateful either way.

Oh yeah, i got my Kegels down pretty well for my hole, and really for controlling my urine flow too. Hot Yoga helped teach me how to control urine flow. The practice is an hour and a half in a 105 degree room at 50% humidity, so one needs to be very hydrated, but you can't leave the room once the practice starts, so i've gotten pretty good and bladder control... that and i'm a nurse and it's common to go for hours without having a break to pee lol.

Thank You, that's good input... i sort of knew that, but didn't want to admit it to myself. i'm a romantic and love the idea of affectionate training. i tasted my urine for the first time the other day, kinda warm and salty.

To me, this speaks of our need to be connected to each other... or maybe more accurately, to find ways to demonstrate our connectedness? i love being at the extreme end of the spectrum of Top/bottom, D/s, because when i find my opposite/s, the connection is just that much more intense and strong (i.e., opposites attract and bond). A Top wanting (needing?) to piss on His bottom is like Him putting HIs collar on the bottom, there is no hiding it and it leaves both the Top and bottom with a feeling of connectedness and completeness on so many levels. i particularly love the emotional element of the Tops pride and the bottoms humiliation, especially when it's done with love and affection. The "mess" to me is more of an expression of honesty and reality than the unmarked clothes and bottom are... to me, being unmarked is like hiding or disguising what really is.

To me, a man with a cock in need of release is always hot and sexy. A look of lustful need in His eyes and i present my hole.

LMAO... have often thought of doing this too. i've frequently mentioned on here how sometimes an ad will dom me into buying a toy. i figure that's what it is, because using a toy on myself is just disappointing to me, i need the interaction with a Top or Dom guy to make it 'work,' otherwise, it's like using a broken toy for me. Still, i have a drawer full of toys that rarely, if ever, get used. i ofter wonder if i suddenly died and someone came over to empty my house and open my toy drawer. Eek lol. i have dildos, plugs, vacuum pumps, electro, a fuck machine, several cages, sounds, really big plugs for stretching, enemas, catheters. These are all things i wish another guy would buy because He wants to use them on me.

As one who subscribes to the sexual spectrum theory, it's impossible for me to give a black or white answer to this.... however, with that qualification lol i was married to a woman for most of my life. my wife tried to give me anal penetration a couple of times, but never with a dildo or strap on. Her obvious reluctance with just a finger made it so i didn't want her to even attempt to penetrate me. After divorcing, i thought i might be Bi since i had been able to have sex with her, successfully, and even part of me enjoyed it. i did/do love her. i tried dating a few bi women after divorce, they wanted sex, i did not. my former wife is the only woman i've ever had sex with. Turns out, i'm pretty damned gay. i'm also bottom with a decided sub streak. Honestly, i think the fact that both my former wife and i were both sub in nature was the biggest impediment between us, which for me, brings us to the topic at hand. Penetration, to me, is a Dom act. There are certainly Dom women who cage and penetrate their men, and i believe there are lots of straight guys who are wired that way. Women and Men are different in ways i have found hard to put my finger on or describe. i dated a FtM trans person for awhile, really liked this person a lot. i believed and cognitively accepted when he said he identified as male (he had not physically transitioned). But there was something emotional, something i just couldn't identify that said "WOMAN" to me that i just couldn't escape. He liked to top, using his hand, but i never had sex with him because emotionally, to me, there was something decidedly 'woman' about him. It wasn't a physical thing, it was emotional. For me, getting fucked is in big part mental and emotional. i have been penetrated and fucked by guys who used a dildo or their fingers and felt every bit as fucked and penetrated as if they had used their cock. They were so connected to the dildo or whatever they used that they penetrated me with their self. And for me, that is the most important, vital part of being with a Man, Him getting inside of me and leaving a part of Himself in me, not just the physical part (which for me is connected to the emotional/.mental part of Him). For me, even if by some form of surgical magic a woman managed to get a functional, semen shooting penis, if those emotional aspects i cannot name, but identify as 'woman" are still there... i will not feel the same. i will not get what i need or want as i would from a Man who is maybe using a strap on or dildo, but is still fucking me and penetrating me with His Self.

i think there is a vast, untapped mind fuck potential that few ever wander in to, and this is a part of that. Personally, i don't just any of the kinks frequently discussed on BZ independently. i relate to them as powerful D/s (for lack of a different frame of reference) places where we can connect. To me, "collaring" is about finding a deep and complimentary need whose opposite attracts and presents and opportunity for bonding between us (bondage?). E.g. a 'dom' has the need to control, the 'sub' the need to be controlled. Continence represents an area we are conditioned to control from an early age. There are books and studies devoted to "potty training." Giving up that control is giving up something deeply conditioned. For me, having someone (a "Dom") who affectionately "collars" that in me and attaches a leash to it (so to speak) that He controls, it a a way of bonding with each other in a profoundly deep way. i don't pretend to understand it thoroughly, just around the edges... it's mysterious, but profound. For me, doing this to myself is sort of like masturbation, which i find a substitute for what i really want/need.

Just tasted my own urine. Was sort of spontaneous, i didn't have to go much, so i just cupped my hand and squirted a little into the palm of my hand and slurped it from there. Warm and a little salty with some other flavor i can't identify. Honestly, i guess a part of me wants to be a little prepared for when a Top pisses while i am sucking Him. The flavor isn't really something that matters to me, i just don't want to be repelled by the flavor when it happens and have a negative response. i'm also a little concerned about quantity, i.e., if a Top has a huge amount that comes out and sort of overwhelms? i wanna do it right and well when a Top gives me HIs piss, so that's where my mind and emotions go when i consider it. Honestly, tasting my own urine feels a little bit like cheating to me, which i know is silly, but it's because, for me, it's the idea and intent behind taking a Tops piss that gets into my head. When i think of WS with another guy, i have urine to be discarded, He has valuable piss to mark, inseminate and impregnate with. It's a part of Him the He can use to effect and possess a bottom.

lol, obviously there is a god and He's into all this stuff. i am truly happy to read of your positive experience though. So much hype out there, it's really great to read about something that made life better for you. Yay you!!

Being fucked by a pierced cock is sooooo hot on different levels. I love the way it feels and I love the idea of it, it feels incredibly Dom to me, looks so hot, feels amazing and makes me feel so sub. I fucking love it and the men attached to them.

I see a difference between “femmes” and female ( i.e. MTF). I’m bottom and gay and love a guy who’s Top, I don’t care if He’s femme, that can even be a mind fuck turn on for me, but I’m gay, I am not bi or straight, I’m not attracted to a female, and not attracted sexually to other bottoms.

"Top" contacted me on A4A saying he is on the DL and not too experienced. He told me he only uses a condom, and when i told him i don't use condoms he said he also likes a "good bj." Yep, i do that, as long as it's skin on skin. i arranged for him to come over to my house and walk in my open door. He hesitated and wanted to knock, so i told him i'd but a sign that says "cock sucker" on the front door, so he'd know he has the right place. He walked in, got naked and sat on my sofa, legs spread, and i came in from my kitchen, nelt between his legs and began to suck. He had a nice 6.5 with bigger than average balls that promised a good load. i love it when a Top makes sounds and gives feed back, and he let me know how much he was liking it. He held my head in both hands and at one point wrapped his thighs around my face. That made it a little harder to get my breath, but he obviously liked it and asked if it was okay, and i mumbled "yes" with my mouth full. Once he had my face between His thighs, He got very turned on. He was trying to make me work for it, and said so, but it didn't take him too long before He announced He was coming and began to thrust into my mouth. When i felt his cock do the telltale enlargement before coming, i took his cock into the back of my throat in time to feel Him shoot a nice, long full load into my throat. i always keep a guys cock in my mouth after, do a sort of cool down where i just hold it in my mouth with occasional sucking while it goes soft. i hold it in my mouth soft for awhile just in case He needs to piss. He didn't. but it was of course awesome. To me, it always is. awesome receiving a Mans orgasm into me. sigh.

i've been searching my memory, but i honestly cannot remember. i can remember the first guy i sucked, his name and every last detail. Same with the first guy who bred me, but i cannot remember my first anonymous load, and there's prolly been a few thousand? It was likely in a restroom under a stall wall, i took countless loads that way, especially early on. i was DL and that was the only way i knew how to get bred.

i've always wondered how guys are measuring? Starting from the anterior or posterior side (which switches when erect)? If you start from the anterior, it will be shorter than if you start from the posterior (from the taint). in that context, i' 7 to 7.5 and tend towards girthy. And i swear, the less i have used it as bottom, it seems to be shrinking.

This is a hot vid on several levels for me https://xhamster.com/videos/drink-it-boy-3743226# The boy in this vid comes across to me as wanting to please... the look in his eyes? idk, he totally reminds me of a dog ("pup?") who wants to please. i can see a lot of guys this will appeal to. For me, i respond better to seduction than force. If someone forces me, i have to fight myself to submit, seduction awakens in me extra effort to please. i've never drunk piss. i have two fears, choking on the stream or flow and reacting with wanting to spit it out because of taste. Those are mental barriers for me, not objections. i love and appreciate FelchingPisser's input and advice, it's very practical for getting accustomed to drinking piss. Psychologically, though, i associate piss with the pisser, and something in me doesn't want to disassociate the two. Drinking my own piss would feel like being my own top. When i contemplate it as a way to laarn, it feels like trying to fuck and inseminate myself. i know, weird, i have the same sort of issue trying to use a dildo on myself. i think it's because, for me, it's not about the piss, but about the Man the piss is coming from. When i fantasize or imagine drinking a Mans piss, it's always from His cock. Drinking piss from a glass loses something vital for me. Here's how i imagine being trained/seduced into drinking piss: i am sucking a Tops cock and He 'accidentally' lets some of His piss flow, just enough to test me and my response. i imagine myself being startled, but also swallowing it if it's just a little out of the desire to please. If i were to then see a smile of recognition in my Tops eyes, i'd also be tremendously turned on by that. It would be like He found the way to flip the switch in me where i deeply love to please Him. i imagine Him doing this progressively, letting a little of His piss go at a time until i am more used to it, but more importantly, thoroughly turned on by His pleasure and success at turning me, seducing me and sort of addicting me, not to piss, but to receiving piss from His cock. i don't know what it is about piss that makes me want it directly from the Tops cock? i've taken more than a few used condoms and put the cum in my ass, never having seen the Top. Piss for me seems different. I've taken piss up the ass several times and love to hold and absorb it, and maybe that's why i have a different response to it? When i take it up the ass and absorb it, i can smell my Tops piss when i end up urinating, kind of proof of impregnation to me where i can only imagine the effects of absorbing His cum.

eh, that's actually a good point. i'm surprised at the number of guys on their phones when i go to a bath house. Still, i do like and miss the cruising that happened prior to online and apps. Even in restrooms between stalls, that energy one feels is really hot without the delay... both are obviously there for sex NOW, you avoid a lot of stuff, like flaking. i used to even have regular FB's at certain places, was pretty awesome.

^^This^^ On the one hand, we identify things we don't like about women ("fag hags"), but on the other, women are traditionally the ones to talk about feelings. Why is that? my culture taught me that 'real' men don't talk about how they feel. We even have honorable cliche' like: "the strong silent type" that sends the message that real men don't discuss their feelings. i've even seen it espoused in some circles that women are naturally more feeling and men more intellectual. i don't think that is accurate, at least, not to the degree that we have made it a sort of rule. i don't think men lack feelings, i think we have been culturally conditioned to hide/bury those feelings as 'un-manly.' Fuck that. If it is untrue, why buy into it? i see the gay community often emulating stereotypes of 'manliness' (out of fear?) instead of actually being who they are (i.e., men). i think it has gotten to the place where, from lack of practice, men are out of touch with their feelings and often lack the skill set to articulate their feelings. That makes relationship shallow, if not impossible.

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