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To me, You're one of those guys that is intimidatingly hot either way, Your pics both simultaneously turn me on and make me go weak. When a guy looks like You do, it comes down to personality/attitude more than whether or not You have hair, because looks wise, You're flawless either way. Your power to make me present (i.e., my pussy) is in Your expression of need and desire, not how You look. Having said that, there is something about hairless that has extra mind fuck power for me. When a guy presents as hairless and all of His power is in HIs personality, it throws me more off balance and gives Him more power with me. For me the most powerful Man is quietly confident mixed with a little humility, not assertively 'loud' or proud in how He presents.

i can't remember the name, but i used to go to an Adult Shop/theater near Fort Knox when i lived in Louisville, seemed to be the place the guys from Ft Knox would frequent.

To me, like it seems for many others here, "repugnant Top" is a contradiction in terms, an oxymoron. We all have our respective needs, one needs to seed, the other needs to receive seed. If the need is great enough, nothing else gets in the way.

i can trace my sub nature back to 6 or 7 years old, when i had my first Dom friend. Of course, at that age, neither of us had a clue about sex, let alone D/s dynamic, but looking back i can see it clearly. At about 9 or 10 years old, i had my second D/s relationship with my cousin who was a year older than me. We never had sex, but i wanted Him badly and still have dreams about Him to this day, even though i haven't seen Him in decades. As little kids, He was always wanting to play tackle football or wrestle, and He was always stronger and always won, He Dommed me big time lol. When i was in 8th grade, i went to live with His family for about 6 months. They only had a two bedroom apartment and His parents had one room and He and His older brother shared the second. i slept on the floor between them. His older brother was often gone, but was always on the floor next to my Cousins bed. Sometimes i'd turn the control of HIs electric blanket up hoping He'd take HIs covers off during the night, but sadly, i never connected with Him sexually. i never had any sexual attraction towards any other of my family members, then or now. i loved my dad, but there was no sexual attraction at all. In fact, i was turned off by guys who reminded me of him when i did start having sex with guys. i also have 2 older brothers, but the age difference was 13 and 10 years older. The oldest was gay even, and hot, but he never turned me on sexually, even when i knew i liked guys. The other brother was straight as an arrow and there was not sexual attraction there either, though i loved him pretty deeply as a kid growing up. i cried like a baby when he went into the Navy.

yesterday... i think i took 11 loads at the local ABS, but i lost count. A few stood out though. One big bear like guy came into my booth. He had a nice cock, but it didn't get fully hard and He said He only liked to get sucked. i sucked Him for about 30 minutes and at first, while i was sucking, He told me to "watch your teeth." That kinda disconcerted me. i take a certain amount of pride in my cock sucking abilities and usually get very positive feed back. i usually curl my lips over my teeth so i can put more pressure while sucking and prevent teeth from touching a Tops cock. After a few, i got vigorous again and He again cautioned, with a bit of a threatening edge in His voice, to watch the teeth. At that point i thought He might be feeling stubble from my upper lip, so i stopped curling my lip and no further problem (note to self: make sure to have my upper lip clean shaved before sucking cock). He clearly had a Dom streak, just had that attitude about Him, but not the kind of Dom that typically collars my inner bitch. He was more of a bullying kind, which doesn't work on me. We invited another guy from the next booth in who was putting His cock through the GH and He had a beautiful, rock hard uncut cock and i had the thrill of running my tongue under His foreskin during prefuck sucking. Another guy was an emaciated skinny homeless looking guy who was obviously tweaking, He came into the booth with me and wanted to fuck but couldn't get it up and was doing the all over the map tweaking thing lol. i just sort of took control by taking His cock in my mouth and plastering Him up against the wall blowing Him. He came really hard, even though He stayed flaccid, and He had that oversensitized response of being over stimulated. i like to hold a guys cock in my mouth for awhile after He comes (secretly hoping He'll piss), but He withdrew and was bouncing off the walls and couldn't get away fast enough. The best fuck was the first guy who took me. He was also apparently Dom in nature and put the tip of His cock on my pussy slit as i bent over and rammed it balls deep. i responded with the appropriate (but not made up) groan, but it only hurt for a few seconds. He obviously took pleasure in making me make noises, so He would alternate gentle fucking with ramming. He was sweet and i loved Him. After He came, i stayed bent over, and He dressed to leave, then hesitated and returned to my upturned ass and petted it, then gave it a hard spank. i haven't been spanked much, and mentally don't really like pain, but He owned me on this one and i continued to love Him. He alternated hard hand slaps on my ass with sort of petting and scratching, His intent was to leave me with a red ass, and He totally His a hot spot on that one... psychologically, i love to be 'marked' by a Top, and He did. He was the most memorable.

i married young, barely 21. i knew i wanted a guy, but was bound by religious belief. i was married for 6 years before i tumbled and had my first cock. i separated from my wife thinking there was no going back and i didn't want to cheat, but i underestimated the hold religion had on me and after six months of separation, guilt, we got back together... but i didn't tell her i'd cheated. i was naive and i figured i had gotten it out of my system, that as my religion taught, "being gay is a choice." i was completely sincere in my beliefs, but that didn't change the fact that i'm gay. It took divorce for me to realize that sex became my only means of affirmation. i dispised my weakness at not being able to resist being with a guy, i cried (a lot), prayed all the time, begged "God" to help constantly, even while driving to a place to hook up, i'd be begging "God" to help me not do it. i tried years of "reparative therapy." Immediately after hooking up, i would cry and hate myself for failing. It was a tortured existence. A few years into my sexing with guys, my wife got sick and i was convinced i'd given her aid's. i went to my pastor and told him what i'd been doing, and he told me i had to tell her. i did and it was pure hell. She was devastated ( though she knew before we married about my attraction to guys). She insisted that in order to heal, she needed to know every detail of what i had done. She had me driving her to all the places i'd hooked up, she was ruthless in her pursuit of every detail. It was one of the most painful times of my life, but i was relieved that it was in the open and i wasn't lying. i figured that had to help me change... it didn't. it took me forever to process through all the cultural and religious garbage i was raised on, but i did. Once i got free of my beliefs, i was no longer obsessed. i still needed and wanted a man, but it was just reality, not an addiction. Prior to that, i simply could not help myself, getting fucked for me was like a fix, self medication, and if i didn't get it , i went through withdrawal. i was driven to be with men and nothing i tried or the shame or guilt of what i went through changed that.

This fascinates me. i'm not opposed to kissing, in fact i love it. Anyone can fuck and breed me, and it's not just sex with me either, i often can feel real affection for a hook up. But kissing takes some different kind of chemistry that i have a hard time articulating. my first wet dream of a guy was when i was in high school. i had this dream of a sweet guy who i barely knew, only in passing (ironically "Randy Lay" was his name lol). In the dream he came up to me looking into my eyes and gave me a warm, sweet kiss. i woke up wet. i can't count the number of cocks i have taken, but i've only kissed about 15 guys in my life. i think it's really strange that it has such an emotional effect.

Several. Just yesterday i sucked one off because he was tweaking so hard he couldn't get it up, but he could cum and his cum was distinctly bitter. i had a regular homeless fb who used to contact me for anonymous walk in, me lying face down, door open. It always took awhile for him to get to my place because he was on foot and always coming from a different area. He was sweet and awesome, i loved him. Another guy would contact me to fuck and also as a way of having a place to sleep overnight. He'd start looking a bit before the shelter closed their doors for the night and if you didn't say yes soon enough, you were out of luck because he couldn't get out after "doors closed."

i do, but it's not "play" for me. To me, i see piss as a serious way that a Top marks His territory or asserts His dominance. For me, force is a sort of hide behind, it's just how i perceive force or bullying, a guy that is not sure of himself relies on force. But matter of fact, presumptuous or even asking shows courage and confidence to me. i love when a Top expresses this with His piss. i've had several Tops piss in me without asking while fucking me, and i love them. i've never drunk piss before, and am afraid too, but also wishing and hoping for a guy to just let His piss flow while His cock is in my mouth without asking. i also love the idea of a Top taking a piss on me after breeding me. To me, these are ways that He marks me and i love Him for it, it has the desired effect of marking me and making me His.

When i was younger and trying to not be gay, i'd sit in cruise restroom stalls and read the writing on the walls. Once i started having sex with guys, i was a regular at all the cruisy restrooms. i remember the first time i got fucked under a stall. i knew he was jacking, he tapped, i tapped and i moved to the side off the seat, but still level with it. He did a reach under and went straight for my ass, his fingers were covered in lube and he went directly into my hole with the intent to lube me. He then pulled on my legs to get me to squat down while sliding his own cock under the wall. He obviously knew what He was doing, and used to being quick in a public restroom situation, and He was in and fuckng me quickly. He came fast and as He pulled out a big wad of His cum followed His cock and landed on the floor, hard to keep it in in that position. There was another department store that had a cruisy restroom, it was right next to the furniture department. Guy that worked there would often follow me in and one time He came into my stall and fucked me while i was facing Him, i managed to brace myself on the assistive bars on the wall. He had to keep shushing me because He was big and was making me moan. i had to flush the toilet to cover the sound when He made me cum fucking me.

Great question and some wonderful first time stories here. If you've read many of my posts on BZ, you prolly know i came from a very conservative religious culture, so i was one of those guys who tried to de-gay because, you know, "god." As a result, i got married to a woman at a young age. i knew from a young age that i liked guys, even got up in church and "confessed" that "sin" when i was 19, and my wife to be was present at that event... but we were all ignorant about what being gay really was. So, i was repressed and suppressed. Ironically, my first sex with a guy was when i was 26. "Ironic" because it happened on a christian missionary ship with one of the crew members. "Skip." He was about my age and hot. i had driven down to San Pedro for the weekend to help refurbish the ship while it was in port. They bunked me with Skip in a small berth with a bunk bed and a single bed across from that. i took the lower bunk, Skip had the bed across from me. When we were introduced, Skip took me on a tour of the ship. He had short shorts on and as he'd go up ladders in front of me, the view was glorious. We worked in separate areas that day and after work, i showered and bunked down. The room was tiny and the only light was from a small port hole from the harbor lights. All you could see were shadows, and those kept you questioning as to what you'd actually seen. i recall waking up later as Skip came into the room, quietly so as not to wake me, as a crew member he'd been with his friends. He didn't know i was awake, we didn't talk and he just climbed onto his bed. Again, all i could see were shadows, but i strained my eyes to watch him and so began a game of cat and mouse. i had skimpy nylon briefs on, one of my few nods to being gay, and as the night progressed, i uncovered myself making sounds like i was sleeping, but restless. He did similarly, as best i could see, slowly stripping off till he was lying naked on top of his bed. He made occasional sucking noises with his mouth, it was a dark and long seduction that seemed to go on for hours. Finally, i could no longer resist and my years of resisting my desire for a guy were over. i got up and quietly went to his bed and he wordlessly offered me his cock. i could barely see what i was doing, but i sucked with a lifetime of hunger and he came pretty quickly. After he came, he rolled over without a word pretending to be asleep, and i returned to my bunk and after awhile drifted off to sleep. The next morning when i woke up, i was excited as hell and wanted to talk with him an make plans for marriage lol, but he was gone. He avoided me that whole day, and i had to leave without seeing him, but i was high as a kite. The next week i returned for the last time to work on the ship before it left port. We didn't bunk together, but i saw him with some other guys and he acted as though nothing had ever happened. The result for me was pretty drastic though. i ended up separating from my wife and moving from the west coast to the east coast. Unfortunately i was alone and was not able to make the separation stick, the religious pull and guilt were too strong in me and we got back together... but that was the start of my cheating and anonymous sex. After that, hook up sex became the only affirmation i had for being gay and i remained addicted until i finally accepted myself years later, left my religion and got divorced. Skip was the first and the one who helped me really know how much i needed a man.

Lot's of good advice already given, so i'll try to add some different points and emphasize a few. Most of us are in this for the long term, i.e., getting fucked is a life long event, not just something we do for a few months, or even years, then stop, so it makes sense that our approach should take the long term into account. As bottoms (heck, everyone) we want to promote and maintain a healthy colon. With that in mind, i would advise against the practice of using chemical enemas and meds like lotrimin as neither of those promote colon health and repeated, long term use probably does damage. Our gut is home to bacteria that we live in symbiosis with. We have 10x more bacteria living in our colon than we have cells that make up our entire body. The Western Diet is bad for that environment. The healthiest diet is a whole food plant based diet with no added sugar, salt or oils (WFPBD), but most of us are not goiing to do that, so we try to eat healthier. Several have mentioned fiber. We don't get nearly enough fiber on the Western diet. Fiber is food for good bacteria in our gut. Fiber is not something our body can break down and absorb, so it passes through and adds bulk. Nerdy fact, cultures that have plant based diets don't have diverticulitis. Diverticulum are little pockets that form on the colon. A big part of clean out problems are related to what we eat. If we eat lots of meat, dairy and processed stuff that has relatively no fiber in it, it has no bulk when it reaches the colon and it cannot be removed effeciently or completely because it is not filling the colon that is moving it. Fiber supplements can help, eating lots of fruit and veggies is best.

Lol, yeah, "vomit" occurred to me too, and yeah... wouldn't want that... but i am surprised how far i've come. For me, i love having something of Him inside me and even mixing with me. Piss does that. i'm a nurse and have to put catheters in. Some guys it hurts, others don't care. i've put them in myself to see how it feels, doesn't hurt to me, but we're all different. For me, my Top using a catheter to empty my bladder so He can fill it with His piss is like Him fucking and impregnating me, the idea is awesome for me, both mentally and physically. i've never swallowed piss, but psychologically could be easily trained to do so and have begged for it before at a glory hole. If your Top has put a catheter in you with a valve, once He has pissed inside you, you have to hold it till He opens the valve and lets it out 😉

yes, no doubt this happens sometimes.

i think there are guys who do that, i.e., hook up and then have guilt or something. It's sad, i know what you mean about loving to make a Top happy... i feel sad if i don't, that's such a big part of it for me.

Wow, i think you were really sweet. You kissed him and thanked him, what nice guy! For me, it doesn't happen often, usually at an Adult Store where a guy obviously doesn't want to cum, just wants to be sucked. For me, it's not just the cum, i want to take a Tops pleasure and orgasm into me, if it feels like he is bored, i lose my desire.

i think this has been touched on in other threads, but i don't think it has a dedicated thread of it's own, so thought i'd start one 🙂 Most of my experience with piss has been from Tops pissing up my ass, which is probably my favorite type of insemination from a Top on so many levels. i'm both a physical and psychological bottom, and am sexually wired in such a way that i want/need another guys presence in me. Of course, that is pretty typical of a bottom. All bottoms want cock, many more want cum, then some want piss too... and other still (waves hand) want pretty much whatever comes out of their Tops body deposited in their body by their Top. To me, that is the gay version of insemination and impregnation. On topic, one of the ways i have fanatsized about a Top putting His piss in me is with catheters. i have two particular fantasies i'd love to have as realities. One is a Top placing a catheter in my penis to empty my bladder of urine, then He attaches my catheter to one that He has placed in His cock. Both catheters have valves on them (i have this set up in my bathroom cabinet, i'm a nurse lol). After He attaches our catheters together, He then opens the valves and empties His bladder full of piss into mine, then closes the valves and disconnects, leaving me with a bladder full of His piss. The second is sleeping with a Top who has places a catheter in His cock and then connected it to a tube that He's fed deep into my rectum and gut. He uses an inflatable enema nozzle in me so there will be no leaks and then we sleep connected like that through the night. He has a valve and He can either open it during the night any time He needs to piss, or He can just leave it open and as His body produces piss during the night, i become His bladder.

i appreciate HardaddyMA's comments. It's ironic some of the religious cultures that judge us for things like D/s relationships are control freaks that are really responding from a place of being out-dommed. For me, piss is a vast topic, but then, i'm thoroughly into mind fuck. To me, mind fuck is delving into the psychology behind what turns us on and learning how to exercise the deepest parts of our sexuality. The mind and feelings are a huge part of our sexuality, but we are not taught to see, let alone understand, those parts of us. Certain cultural influences have made them "dirty" or "disgusting" or "taboo." The first time a guy pissed inside of me he related the experience as feeling "like a long orgasm." How many times have you been in a restroom and heard a guys deep sigh while taking a piss? As a bottom, one of the hottest parts of getting fucked is hearing my Tops sigh as He cums. i hear a similar sigh from guys taking a piss. Guys are wonderfully sexual, we can sexualize just about anything lol. Having said that, there's a lot of scientific evidence suggesting there are sex pheromones in our urine and sweat (not enough research has been done to reach definitive conclusions). In one study gay guys had a similar response as women to a guys scent. Male animals use piss to mark their territory, so the implications of that can be far reaching in a relationship with another guy. Personally, one of the most powerful things a Top can do is piss in me. When i hold His piss in and absorb it, i can smell His scent in my own urine when i void, which is evidence of impregnation. Impregnation is not just about making a baby. In this case, it's about one guy putting a part of Himself, something His body has made into the body of another guy and making it a part of him. You can do that with piss. A lot of guys are really into the idea of absorbing another guys cum and, thereby absorbing his "DNA." There is no evidence that happens, but there is easy evidence that i absorb a Tops piss when He releases it into me. To me, the mind fuck implications are endless and "piss play" isn't play at all.

i honestly don't get the association between drinking and sex. Does drinking make him hornier? i have a Dom friend who likes giving booty bumps (i.e. wine mixed with water in an enema) to make His bottom more pliable. You have to know what you're doing with that because the alcohol is absorbed directly that way and you can over do it and get alcohol poisoning. To me, "abstinence" (from cumming) is the best way to make a guy pliable. In a D/s relationship, chastity is a logical choice to my way of thinking. That way You have complete control over his penis and how and when he cums. Orgasm prevention will keep him horny, since cumming is what relieves horniness. Controlling orgasm is a fairly simple and direct way to keep a guy horny, but the other side of the coin is stimulating desire. i think an advantage of being in an actual D/s relationship is the journey of getting to know each other personally. We are all individuals and there are no generic hot spots (i.e., what turns us on), we have to get to know and learn those in each other. i see "hot spots" as our individual sexual needs and desires, i think they often manifest as "kinks." For instance, some guys penis is "wired to" their nips. So, locking a guys penis in chastity, then stimulating his nips would do two things: make him horny by stimulating him, and keep him horny by preventing release. You can then take that horniness and use it to control and mold him, redirect it from his penis to his hole, for instance, and take him through the process of disassociating his pleasure and release from his penis to his hole. "Nips" are just an example, they're not a hot spot for everyone, so you have to find his. To me, those "hot spots" represent places for collaring. i think the most powerful collars are finding the deep psychological kinks in a guy an learning how to collar and put a leash on it. It doesn't necessarily have to be a physical thing to have a sexually arrousing affect. For instance, some guys are deeply aroused by humiliation. Again, it's all individual, but most of us, Dom, sub, Top, bottom, are dying to know and be known in an intimate way, once there is a bond of trust, the other bonds can follow.

Ditto those who are factually stating that this is blatant sexual harassment and invasion of privacy. You are absolutely right, who you chose to share your sexuality with is your business. Most businesses have policy on sexual harassment, even if they are too small to have a HR department. A harassment law suit can really wreak havoc on a business, they don't want it. You are protected by Federal law and either way you slice it, the company stands to lose if they don't handle this properly. Since you are concerned about outing your self, report it anonymously to human resources if your company has such a department, or to someone in management.

Idk, i like politics in places like Sweden or Holland better. To me, American politics seem generally heteronormative. i wonder how we'd be if we hadn't been influenced by the dominant culture and internalized so much from it? Mostly it seems to me that parties don't rule so much as the money behind them and the people who buy them. To me, politics is largely a facade.

Just got an ad for CBD suppositories in my email from Fort Troff. i confess, i had to google "CBD" . The FT version is a suppository (which anything that goes into my ass pretty much automatically turns me on) that is supposed to "relax your ass. Take XL cocks and more." i'm mixed about stuff like this. On the one hand, the idea of being a more capable bottom is always appealing to me. On the other hand, i'm not one for using drug enhancements personally. On the other hand, i've always had fantasies of Tops who secretly do things to me, not damaging or hurtful things, but control (it's complicated lol). So, the idea of a Top slipping one of these things into me without me really knowing what He's done is a turn on, but it's not something i'd do to myself. So i guess it's not what's in the suppository that's a turn on to me, but the idea that a Top would be looking for ways to control my hole and make it His for HIs pleasure.... As an aside, stuff like numbing agents, and now this, make me wonder about their potential for damage because you don't have the normal signals to slow down? The other aside is, i always wonder how it will affect the Top? E.g a numbing agent may numb my hole, but it can also numb the cock that fucks it, i wonder if CBD might also affect the cock that is fucking the hole of the bottom who has one in?

When i read your post i wonder what qualifies as "Men" for you?

What a great question!! i don't know that there is a simple or complete answer i can give, just bits and pieces. i've always had a vivid imagination, so i find myself editing porn in my mind, wishing they'd done it this way or that. my favorite 'porn' is simply amateur vids guys have made of actual sex experiences. For me, the best pro porn is the stuff that manages to look 'real' vs trying to be hot. i love hidden camera stuff. We hear the theories that porn raises our expectations about sex to an unrealistic level, and i'm sure that can be true in some instances, but i don't think that is true about everyone who watches porn. For me, it's usually been the opposite. I.e., i look for porn that can approximate what i imagine or want. But i rarely go for the professional stuff because i know that it's contrived. For me, the flawed vids of real life experience are more of a turn on because i know that can really happen, it's not a production or make believe, just an example of what can be.

i think the reasons behind attraction can be hard to parse out. It has really helped me being a nurse because all i do is take care of people outside the norm. Part of my job is to examine and assess each and every patient i have. i do an admit, or go into a perfect strangers room first thing in the morning and after the pleasantries of introduction, i explain i need to look them over and ask them questions and ask them permission to do so. It's a hospital, and no one says "no," asking is more of a polite formality. One of the first questions of my assessment is: "when was the last time you had a bowel movement?" That's part of what i refer to when i say my job has "conditioned me" against feeling awkward with stuff that is 'normally' socially awkward or not spoken of. People with disabilities who have been living with them for awhile have experienced enough reactions from people that they can probably fit us into groups. There's the 'sympathetic" who "feel sorry" for them. Or some of us go the opposite direction and try to pretend and act like the disability is not there. The truth is, most kinds of different make us feel awkward because we don't have experience or a frame of reference on how to deal, act or respond, so we flounder and that makes the situation even more awkward. That 'awkward' experience may be unusual for us, but the person who has something different about them deals with that awkward response with a huge percentage of the people they encounter (read: "all the time"). Their "norm" is people being awkward around them, it's new to us, not to them. Yet, our response is to often respond presumptuously. For example, insisting on helping, or the opposite, ignoring them assuming they don't want help. Both are presumptuous. People with disabilities are just like us in more ways than not. Just like us, they appreciate when someone cares enough to ask how they feel or think or what they want or need. Just like us, they're the expert on what they need and want. We often make a disability more than it is, transferring the fact that we don't know what to do onto the other person. Chances are, they've been living with their disability awhile and they are a lot less disabled by it than we are.