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Your problem is very intriguing. When I get fucked deep and hard I cum about 10 times faster than when fucked slowly and not so deep. I have no idea what can be done to solve it :-(

I prefer hairless asses, whether naturally smooth or shaved. The main reason I prefer them like that is because I am very sensitive to smells, and a hairy ass, if not out of the shower is kinda smelly, also, I love to rim hot asses, and rimming a hairy ass is nasty. My ass area is hairy, I continually shave it for the same reason. Shaving that area is very tricky, many times I end up with red pimples which don't look appealing to tops, so I have to only top until they fade.

Sounds nice, very cool there were enough tops and not 1 or 2 to please 20 bottoms like sometimes happen. I'd love to try The Club's one, as I prefer closer/darker spaces for group sex.

Interesting thread, I read all of it because it's well redacted. I haven't been openly outed as a barebacker (but most probably a ton times in private among gossipers). I have always been aware of the social risks associated with being a barebacker. I think that society is not yet prepared to accept us, not even many gays (who most bb as well, actually). I guess many barebacker's lives are kinda conservative, closeted. I started living like that about 6 years ago. For example, I don't have a fb account, I have profiles in gay sex-oriented sites/apps, but don't show face pics. I don't hang at gay clubs, don't go to parades. All of this is kinda easy for me, as I dislike living a public/celebrity-like life. My nature is to be more reserved, I love privacy, going out without having to greet 10+ people, not having to memorize special dates and buy gifts. I do gay things from time to time, but just don't connect. I can go to a gay bar alone, and leave alone, I'm not a people's person who likes to make friends 24/7 and tell everyone what my life is about. I am sure that most probably anyone interested in me in any way will eventually know that I bb, as the community is like a family, everyone knows everyone, and having had sex with so many guys, they'll spread the word. So, once in a blue moon when I am into going to gay places (besides cruising sites), what I do is to go to different and far away ones, not the one that's 10 minutes from home. I'd like to comment that I fully agree that we barebackers should stand strong for our cause, and let people know that we are not going to tolerate their stupidity. I have been assuming that stand for about 4 months. I still don't openly say "I'm into bb sex only", but if they give me a condom to fuck them I say "I'm sorry I feel it won't get/stay hard" and keep looking for others. If they ask me for a condom I plainly reply "I don't have any". I think that barebackers should be more united, fuck with likely minded guys so as to avoid problems. A few days ago I went to a dark room and fucked a guy bb. The room was dimly lit, so I could notice almost everyone used a condom, so I was very afraid, as it always happens, that when everyone notice two guys fucking they come as fast as flies towards shit to stare and jerk their dicks and even worst, start touching. It was a place/time I definitely didn't want to be known as the barebacker of the night. Thankfully, there were few guys when I was fucking, and there were 2 other men already fucking, so they stayed by their side, left us alone. So in these situations I think to myself "why can't we barebackers have our own place so we don't have to go through this annoyance". I don't know what I would have done if I were in such a situation that someone preaches me in front of others. I'm very volatile, to the extreme when dealing with stupidity. I say, if you don't like it, move on stupid bitch, you are not going to be affected in any way. Barebacking is something done among two men that agreed on it, but many times you get the annoying questions while or after fucking. I love when bottoms take raw dick, asked for it like that without a gun pointing their heads, then after 5 minutes or after done fucking ask "you are clean right", "I never do this bb, but you look healthy, not a crazy guy". I used to get scared when asked that kind of question, used to think "this might be a crazy nasty man who is pos already and will try to bother me, etc". I don't anymore, sometimes I reply with a laugh "I think it's kinda late to ask such a question, but don't worry, I'm "clean"". Once a top fucked me bare and came in me, then he said "you are "clean" right? I took a risk in fucking you bb", I replied "we BOTH took a risk, but don't worry, I'm "clean", expect you are as well".

I have mixed feelings about this. If I know or already saw the person I'm fucking with, I always prefer dim light. On the other hand, when at dark rooms, where there are other guys around, I prefer it to be dark, but not completely dark, I need to at least have a good idea of what the person I'm fucking with looks like. I prefer it like that because many times I have problem getting my dick erected at dark room, as there are so many creeps in those places. Also, I like to fuck in a corner/spot, and when these annoying random hands start touching you, that's not nice. So, since it it's dark enough, there's not eye contact and everyone looks the same. That way I can ignore them and keep fucking. If the room was brighter, my dick would get soft as soon as I see one of those creeps coming and/or wanking by my side while I'm fucking or getting fucked.

I couldn't agree more, although I also think it's kinda conservative, I'd say the percentage of barebackers should be around 60, but anyway, 47% is high enough, close to reality. I think what mostly makes a a man to have bb sex with other men is that with condoms you feel less pleasure as both, bottom and top, plus being STD free forever is almost impossible.

I have had sex with so many men that I am not completely sure of which one was my first breeding experience, only have an idea. I'd say that in my first 10 sexual experiences (10 different men) a condom was used. Most probably my first breeding experience was with a guy who was sucking my dick, I was lying on the bed, then he sit on it without a condom. I was very excited but after I came it was not so pleasant, as it was a random man, I was very afraid, almost paranoid. Had sex with condoms for a long time after that. Nowadays, I feel there's nothing better in life than breeding and getting bred by random men.

This is very common, due to stereotypes. It's hard to accept that a butch/tall/toned/big dicked man is a bottom, or that an effeminate/slim/short man is a top. Also, I agree that many bottoms are ashamed of their sexual preference. I experience both, I'm not 100% bottom, but I bottom from time to time, and most guys just want to get fucked by me because I am top looking: tall/average-slim body/masculine/big dick. Also, I don't feel comfortable bottoming, avoid many positions, I just feel ashamed, unless I'm getting fucked by a man who I'm 100% into him, which is very unlikely. I think that what mostly defines our sexuality and self-acceptance is our personality. I am masculine, serious, strong character, I'm a leader not a follower, I like to command not be commanded, taking the lead, more sex-driven than love/emotionally driven, etc. I am not into dominance/slavery role playing though, when I top another man, I do love seeing him enjoying it, try to do my best to please both, him and myself. So that's why it's hard for me to be a bottom, as it involves being all the opposite of what I naturally am. I don't care about what people say or think about me, nor what any relative, co-worker, neighbors think. I can have adds on the nets where it says that I bottom. So, the way I was raised, my self conviction, etc. has nothing to do with my acceptance level as a bottom, it's just in me, changing who I am what's uncomfortable. I feel key is to let others know who we are, what we like/want. People always notice, it's like a 6th sense we have. So, no matter how butch and tall a man is, if he is 100% bottom (all it implies), he will be seen and treated like one, not like a top willing to try bottoming. That's my huge dilemma, I look and act like a top, plus I have very well defined types of men I'd get fucked by. So chances I get fucked at a random park by random men are really low. Anyway, I prefer topping much more, so not a huge problem, just that sometimes I do feel like taking dick and cum in me, sometimes spend 1-2 hours cleaning my ass, and only get my dick sucked and ass to fuck.

I think that many of us who have sex with random people, have sex with criminals from time to time without knowing it; drug dealers, muggers, kidnappers, rapists, murderers, etc. I think we should not judge them, BUT, we should be extremely careful, specially if we have a kind of a relationship with such people (in the case we know it, no matter if he no longer does such things). You never know, even though he did something bad only once in 1993, what he could do to you now in 2013, criminal minds are extremely complex. I have never had repeated sex sessions with men who I knew were into criminal activities, but a few times before or after having sex, they told me about things they did in the past, or currently do. Once a man told me he was in jail because he beat his former wife and her lover, and another one told me he was a drug dealer. It didn't changed my mood, as they were very nice. But again, I had sex with them only once. So, I recommend you analyze what he did, when it was, notice his behavior and decide based on that.

Starting this month there are 2 of such parties in Fort Lauderdale, first Friday of every month at The Clubs and third Saturday of every month at Windamar Resort (according to CumUnion's website). I guess there are many guys in FTL, plus visitors, willing to go to both, but wonder if guys will prefer to go to just one of those places over the other. Have lots of fun and let us know how it goes guys.

Thanks to all you guys who have replied, I'd say all are good responses, I was thinking on another posts I've written when I wrote that people tend to evade the topic talking about other things and such. ff-whole; I'd say barebacking is indeed an extreme fetish, but it's not so when compared to bug chasing, as we are born with sex set in our minds, to do it natural, not to use rubbers, but we are not born with the desire of becoming ill. When we fuck bb, we are obeying nature, when we seek becoming ill, we are doing something weird.

I forgot about that HIV related forum, as I almost always read and write in the general one. But from what I see, it can fit here as well, as I notice that other forum is about fantasies, stories/experiences, and such. On the other hand, this one is more related to general discussion/debate/analysis of a conduct of some gays, so I feel it can belong to any of them. Any way, thanks for your reply wannabeabbcockslut, as I said, most avoid these kind of topics, or comment about non related things, but you were honest about your experience. These kind of forums help us a lot in so many ways, so that is/was my intention and hope to continue bringing up these kind of topics. We must analyze what's going on in our lives. I just don't get the "I want to become i'll and die for no reason, I just want it", there's a reason, a cause for everything, and I'm sure many who have read this thread but didn't reply and who are into that fetish got to think thoroughly about it.

I had a similar experience with a psycho I once had sex with, when we finished we asked for my phone number. I used to give it away pretty easily when I was younger, but never had a bad time. But this one psycho was so hot, so great at sex, that I gave it to him. Then I was like "I should have not done this", so he called me later that night, at about 3:45 am and I answered it, said that I had a good time but got to sleep, and so he continued calling me for about 3 months an average of 2-3 times per day. It was really annoying, if someone you met, or had sex with doesn't answer the first 3 calls, it's way obvious he is no interested, so move on. I once was taking a nap, was half awake, half asleep, and was expecting a call from a friend. Because of that, as soon as I heard the phone ringing, I answered it without checking out who was calling me. It was that damn guy, after 3 months he was still calling me. I told him so, "I accidentally answered, sorry I haven't answered your calls for so long, but I didn't know how to let you know that I have a bf, and need to be cautious and discreet, I had a great time with you, but please stop calling me so he doesn't notice and start asking me who is calling me", he took it ok, told me I should had told him before, but that he understands and is ok, he then stopped calling me. What I learned? I learned to NEVER give the phone number to someone you don't know. Almost everyone nowadays have a computer, a cell phone with internet access, and almost all have an email address. Everytime someone asks me for my phone number, no matter how hot he is, I say "I'm sorry I don't give out my number without thoroughly knowing the person, but we can exchange email addresses and keep in touch that way". Some give them to me, others say such things as "I don't check it often", in which case I reply "then I'm sorry, that's the only way I go", but if we see each other around in the future, we can chat and/or have sex again.

Thanks for your reply newfoundfreedom, I'll definitely look for them soon. I understand your point, but I think everything in life is about cause-effect, nothing comes from nowhere, due to nothing. There's still lots of things to be known about how our minds work, it's the less understood in all of our bodies. I mean by this that many times we have no idea why some people think and do uncommon things, maybe a lot of them don't even know, but there's must be an answer to everything, or a very strong hypothesis; thing is, our knowledge is limited, and we just don't know. Nevertheless, in most cases, guys could say why they think they like x conduct. For example, I can say 10 things that made me start barebacking ignoring the risks, so there's a why, an explanation, such desire didn't come from nowhere.

I feel it is totally normal for all of us to prefer to date guys from our same race and/or country of origin, as we feel more identified in many things. What I don't understand is some guys' extreme fetishes, as they only fuck guys from x race, no matter how incredibly hot some guys from other races are, it's intriguing. There's absolutely no need to get offended if someone thinks we are from another race/culture/country than ours, it denotes you are not happy about who you are, or think you are superior. Even within Latinos, I can't say where MANY guys are from by noticing their looks/accents, I'm just not familiar with all accents, as there must be over 70 including regional ones within countries, so why would I get offended if someone from another race thinks I belong to another country? makes no sense. What do bothers me is when someone says "Oh, I'd never thought you were from that country, as you don't look like any of them, they way you dress, speak", based on stereotypes, such comments are disrespectful.

I have thought of the possibility of a neg man willing to turn pos for love, but the first time I got to know about gay guys willing to become pos just to feel pleasure from it was when I was about 24 yo, from a well known news source I don't remember that made an article about it, which created a lot of controversy, homophobics agreeing with it, and gays attacked by such an insult. A few more years went by and I heard nothing else about it, nor I was willing to search for such articles on the web. I kinda had the idea of such a thing was real from other sites, but again, little information, or I was just not interested in it, I used to think "this must be an extreme case or two, or three at most". When I created my account in this site 5 months ago, I got to see more of it. Since I am very open minded, I am into bb, and so many other things deviated from what's "normal", I kinda understand to some extent some sexual fantasies even though I dislike them 100%, like scat. Nevertheless, this "gift" seeking and giving fantasy has made me think and analyze much further than other sexual fantasies I am not into. I don't doubt such thing does exist, but I do believe it involves a lot of psychological disorders, and I want to explain why I think so. - Considering very young guys (18-21 yo). - Are they actually acquainted of what living with HIV is like? Are they aware of rejection, illnesses, hospitalizations, daily medicines intake and their effects? Are they willing to love and be loved by a special guy, and know that living with HIV dramatically reduces their possibilities of finding that perfect one? (and I mean, in the case he falls in love with a neg one). - Considering guys 21-29 yo. - Are they sure that they have lived enough, know the risks and consequences and are ready to take the next step and become pos. - Considering guys 30 yo and over. - Are these the ones that feel way to old "in gay terms"?, or were even married with kids? It takes a few minutes to become pos. If the top is to pos a neg bottom, and he cums fast, it can take 1 minute. Can someone explain me what's so wonderful about getting pozzed, someone introduces his penis and cums in you in 1 minute! And all the bad things will last for a lifetime. I wish I could understand. I am a pig and I enjoy sex, bb sex even more, it's the best thing in life, more than eating, sleeping, and even money. Getting infected with a virus that even though it's treatable, it's not curable, it's not nice. I'd like to make some analogies involving things humans like to do. I have never heard anyone saying "I want to eat as much junk food as I can so I get diabetes, hypertension". I have never heard someone saying "I smoke 50 cigarettes a day so I get lung cancer", etc. HIV is something I DEFINITELY don't want in my body. I love bb sex and I am pretty aware that I will get it, and will assume the risks. Even though my way of thinking might be seen as being the same as bug chasing, it is not. I am addicted to something (the act) and as an genuine addiction I can't do much to avoid the consequence, but I don't purposely seek the consequence (becoming pos), don't see it as something nice and cool. I have gone through very serious and long depression, but I appreciate life as imperfect as it is, don't want to purposely do something that will only make it even harder. So that's why I ask to myself if this bug chasing fetish has anything to do with low self esteem, depression, way too many problems in life, the thought that life is not worth any sacrifice, or the thought of life as something miserable, or if having such a fetish has anything to do with too many fails as in achieving a career, a bankruptcy, death of a beloved one, or maybe living a str8 life because of family pressure, or if because you were raised in a very religious community where gays were always depicted as devil and not worth anything. Also, if this is done as to challenge society, to better enjoy sex without fear and regrets, or an extreme case of passive suicide. Also, as I already said, I do think this is real, but I wonder if it's also fantasy. Sometimes I must admit I see it exciting as a fantasy. For example, a guy who has been fucked bb by 300 guys but hasn't tested, there's a 98.9% probability he is pos, but if he looks for a pos top and asks him for his load "to become pos", that way it's kinda exciting, it's like ending a cycle, then going testing. Maybe he was pos since load number 2, but thinks the lucky one was load #300. I am very aware that all humans have problems in their lives. Problems are part of life, human (life) = problems. Money, love, health doesn't change that equation, they just give more illusion and energy for those lucky ones who enjoy plenty of those 3 basic things. But I wonder if those who have lived a reasonably happy life, not so many problems, emotionally stable, have such fetishes as well. As all of this was about mixed thoughts and doubts, I won't ask a definite question, I am pretty sure you guys will know what to write. Please express yourself, I notice many avoid these kind of polemic topics. I would appreciate your feedback, whether you are into bug chasing/giving or know anything about it you'd like to share. It was in no way my intention to offend anyone, an extreme barebacker is in no position to offend absolutely anyone, just in case. I just like to talk about different things (from time to time), more in depth, other than the typical sex related topics which only take a few sentences to post and a few to answer to them.

Gotcha. Best thing just in case is to make our adds without so many piggy details. Imagine someone sues you and you have to take such an add to court where you wrote things like you like eating turds, or having the guy peeing on your face.

I have gone plenty of times to bathhouses in some cities and I have barely seen anyone wearing something different than a towel around there waists, naked. Anything else like cockrings, flipflops are optional things you could consider, but basically, that's it. I have seen very few guys in leather gear. But definitely guys wear about anything at bathhouses, even street clothes, which are very annoying, and if I were in charge of such a place, would ask them to leave. IMO, bathhouses are the worst place to have sex, by far! There's the same bitchiness, attitudes, chit-chatting, standing/posing/modeling, etc. that you would find at any regular bar, only difference is they are naked with a towel around their waists. None of them are on the cheap side, you have to pay a considerable amount of money to go through such stupidity, I'm way done of them.

Very interesting post, wonder why it only has 2 replies so far. This is very fucked up. I am not into stereotypes, but I must admit that I always skip kids because of that, they are not mature enough. I think since I turned 25 yo+, the youngest man I've fucked was 22 yo. A 50 yo man could be as ignorant as that or even worst, I know, but it's less probable to happen, and would be more manageable if having a court case. Judges' way of thinking is kids always say the truth, kids are victims, etc. Even though 16 is legal if is he is ok with having sex, it's still extremely dangerous, again, in courts, they always say the absolute truth about everything, so if he said you raped him and you say that he agreed to have sex, what you think the judge's ruling will be? Your experience reminded me of something I have always wondered about. So many adds on sites such as CL in which SO many say "I'm clean, HIV/STDs free, you be too", "tested HIV- on Jan. 5th, record on file", etc. I feel many of such statements are false or half truth. Maybe some are pos and say are neg, and many must be "I have no idea, don't dare to test, but as I feel good, not ill, I'm sure I'm "clean"". I feel if you are really neg, why the fuck are you doing or thinking about when posting a sex add looking for anonymous, one night stand sex? I say, take the risk, or don't bitch about it. If you become poz, it was your decision, the consequence of something you decided to do. So I completely agree, if you are poz, stick to poz guys, please FORGET about bug chasers, and neg ones who are cool with poz ones. Same as with kids, in courts, poz guys are the devil and will be severely punished. Where I live there are huge problems in justice system, it's not efficient and it's corrupted, but at least, there's not a culture of suing and there are still not such stupid laws, if a fag goes crying to a judge saying a horrible devil gay man infected him with HIV, the judge will say, you are a grown up man, and know what the risks are and decided to take them, so case is dismissed, you can leave the courthouse, have a good day. -- Luckily, I had never had such a bad experience, only a couple of times some guys I was not anymore interested in, kept calling me many times a day for a long time, but never have felt afraid in terms of personal safety or of being sued.

Might be hard to convince many companies non sex related to advertise here, but it's just a thought, I have no idea how anything of this works. I don't care about non-sex adds. Sex is what we gays like the most, but it becomes boring, so having adds about other things we like, no matter this is a sex-oriented site, would make us be interested in them. We gays love traveling, so having ads about destinations in the US and abroad, which are friendly and safe would be awesome.

Good points "wanttobeseeded". As I am versatile, many times I have a hard time when bottoming, because thanks to stereotypes, everyone expects me to top, so when I want to bottom let's say in public, or if I say in any conversation that I like to bottom, the other guy generally looses interest in me. I have thought on making a thread on this, will probably soon. I must admit that before living in the USA, since I was not exposed to Black nor Asians that much, I was one of those who said "not into Blacks nor Asians". Once I lived in the USA, and visited a couple of cities, and got to see how incredibly hot many of them are, I no longer say I don't like any race. I lived in the USA being an adult (21 yo+), and in a few months I changed my mind. What intrigues me is, why so many guys who have lived all their life there like to generalize and reject so much. Aren't 15, 30, 45, 60 years enough to see things differently, not to think all Latinos are trashy drug dealers, all Blacks are thugs, and all Asians are lazy/boring bottoms? And/or that not all people from X race or country is ugly?

I understand all humans generalize. It's equally impressive when we say "European" to refer to anyone living in the European continent, or "Asian" to refer to anyone living in Asia. Many times, Latinos=Mexicans, Asians=Chinese, because these are the biggest, most influential countries in terms of culture/geographical area. I feel this is an American thing, as in other countries people say "I like people from X country, or from X race, or from X area", it's not so common to say "I like Whites, Blacks, Latinos..". When I wrote it, I was kinda afraid this was going to be polemic because of that, but from where I come from, it's totally normal, and that's why I put groups of countries which are similar rather than asking for individual ones, just in case. I'd say almost all Latinos (Spanish speaking ones) don't consider Brazil part of Latin-America. Thing is, the term "Latino" refers to people who speak languages that come from Latin, Romance ones. This would make not only Brazil a Latin country, but also Haiti, France, Romania, Spain, some African countries, and still others. I would have used the term Hispanic (countries that were Spain's colonies, and hence have cultural ties to it, and all share some similarities, language being the most obvious), but preferred to use Latino, as it's more known. So please, please, please. Exclude Brazilians this time please! Have to say it like that because I'm sure many will be tempted to say Brazilians, as there is a huge Brazilian fetish in the gay community. I agree, most guys into Latino's like their skin tone, the one that it's not black nor white, which makes them distinctive from other races, and yes, most are uncut and on the shorter side and like white men.

I am Latino (Spanish is my first language), and have wondered for a long time what guys in the USA mean when they say such things like "I like Latinos, Latinos are hot", etc. Latin-America (Considering only those countries in which Spanish is the main language) is composed of 19 countries. All of them share at least some degree of similarities in culture because they were Spain's colonies in the past, but today, some are so different from another ones, that basically, only similarity in both is Spanish being the main language. If they had different languages, they would be seen as different as India and China are. Latinos are basically a mix of all the races on Earth; they range from black to white, from short to tall, from skinny to corpulent, etc. In all countries, you see lots of different people, styles, customs, even in the smallest ones, not everybody looks the same. So, it's a great generalization when saying such things about a group of people that are so diverse in all aspects. I know that being from a different race/culture makes it very hard to distinguish similarities and differences between countries of other cultures, so that's why we group all of those with some sort of similarity into one term. To make this simpler, I'll do the following; I'll group big areas, sorting all Latin-American countries (again, Spanish speaking ones) into groups, according to geographical area, similarities in culture, and looks of guys, as much as these countries can be related based on these things. 1. Mexico. This one is too big in both, land area and population and it's very diverse by itself, not so related to it's neighbors, so that's why I put it alone. 2. Central America: Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, Nicaragua, Costa Rica, Panama. 3. Caribbean Islands: Cuba, Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico. South America: 4. Colombia and Venezuela. 5. Ecuador, Peru, Bolivia. 6. Chile, Argentina, Paraguay, Uruguay. So, based on that, which number represents the group of Latin-Americans you think are the hottest, the ones you refer to when you say "Latinos". If you like any of them as long as he speaks Spanish you can say so, or if you want to select only a country, or type of people within a country is ok as well. If you don't like any, your opinion is respected, but express yourself in a proper way, I don't want this sensitive topic to turn evil.

Also, keep in mind that there are very few total tops. A few hours earlier I went to a park, I spent about an hour cleaning out my ass, and guess what, I only got my dick sucked by a guy, and got to fuck another one, sadly, he asked for a condom. That guy I fucked was totally masculine, fit, tall, a 7 inches long dick and thick, very handsome, so I said to myself "what a great night, this guy is gonna fuck the hell out of me", then he suddenly asked for the condom, I had one in my pocket, gave it to him, and he said, take it, fuck me! I was like WTF. Anyway, as he was extremely hot, I enjoyed it a lot regardless I went out home looking to get fucked. Anyway, I feel that the easiest place to get bred is at cruising sites, but they are dangerous in many ways. At those places, many times guys make quick stops. There are many closeted ones, married ones, bisex, and gays altogether looking to breed or get bred and keep going to their homes, jobs, or whatever. No time for chit-chat, posing, bitchy attitude like at bathhouses, which I think are the worst to have sex, by far!

I agree, you would need to see a doctor for this problem, as I feel there's no simple answer/method to solve it, every single human is different, and considering those things hasn't worked out for you, maybe it's time for you to consider it. I am the opposite, I can fuck for hours, literally, without cumming, which is less bad than cumming way too fast, but it's annoying as well. I have fucked over 100 guys and I have cum in less than 3 minutes only twice. There are some analogies which might be useful, this is hard to explain, but lets see if it makes sense. No matter what I do, I don't cum too fast, I could be tired or full of energy, have jerked off 3 times/day for the last 2 weeks or not a single time in 2 weeks, etc. In those few times that I could cum in a proper time, around 10-15 minutes, I'd say I could do so by relaxing and thinking how hot the bottom I'm fucking is. If he is not hot, but is wonderful at sex, has a warm ass, I focus on that. If the guy is so-so, and I had sex with him but was not so interested, I set my mind and close my eyes from time to time while banging him, thinking on a very nice experience I had with another man that I never forget. I also have fucked guys who were so hot, that I was about to cum even before fucking them. They were either, pro cock-suckers, had a wonderful ass and I started rimming it and was about to shoot a load just by doing it. They were so handsome and/or had such perfect bodies, with such a horny face, etc. When this has happened to me, what I do is to stop what's hyper exciting me, asked them to stop sucking my dick, stop rimming their asses, and this time, opposite to what I already said, I close my eyes from time to time, BUT think in a totally messed sexual experience I had that traumatized me. Also, if I feel I'm about to cum while fucking him and it's too early, I change position, stop fucking him for a while, suck his nipples, and so on. So, what I mean by all of this is that the ability to delay or to cum when it's time might be in our minds. Of course, it involves practice. It could be physiological as well, so no matter mind, pills, techniques, you will always cum way too fast. On a side note, as I didn't know how to incorporate it. I have been fucked by the same guys at sex cruising sites with and without condoms. I have noticed that when they use condoms, they fuck me for a longer time, but when doing it bare, they cum fast. I always remember a guy I had sex with 4 times. First time he asked me for a condom, I said I didn't have one with me, then he fucked me bare for about 3 minutes and came outside. Second time he asked me for a condom, I said the same thing, but he had one with him, seems he wanted to save it, then he fucked me for about 10 minutes. Third time, he didn't even ask for a condom, and started fucking me and came inside me in less than 1 minute!!! This time was the hottest, as he asked me "you want that cum in your ass"? I replied "sure, give it to me". Fourth time he brought a condom with him, put it in his penis then fucked me for about 8 minutes.