polyglutton

Thank you for sharing your experience.

When I began taking daily PrEP I didn't feel well and had very loose stool for the first 3-4 weeks; then the side effects disappeared. Even when I have been intermittent (during prolonged periods without sex) the side effects never returned. I hope that if you hang in there, your body can also get used to it, even if for event-based PrEP

I'm not sure where to post this (mods please feel free to move this to a more appropriate page if needed). I have a few questions and I hope I've worded these respectfully, however this may come across as uncouth or basic. I support trans rights all the same I first became aware of trans men on Scruff about 12 years ago. I occasionally see trans guys that catch my eye, but I've never felt like I would be interested because I prefer a cis male penis (incidentally this is the same reason I'm turned off by cis men wearing chastity devices), and have never felt an attraction to the more ample versions of labial folds (I wish I didn't have this reaction, it feels stupid). While I trust the findings of sexologists that show most humans fall within the spectrum of bisexuality, I'm happy being on the far gay end of it. With that said, I don't like to set arbitrary boundaries for myself. The other reason has been fear of unintentionally getting a trans man pregnant, as I have a strong disinterest in having actual children (despite having a breeding/mpreg kink, go figure). When I first started my sexual life, I was fully versatile but due to various circumstances I transitioned to predominantly a power bottom by my 30s. Despite this, I've never given up my desire to get back into topping. Some circumstances shifted early this year, and I've since been finding my way back into it. The more I top, the more I want it, and it brings out an almost devilish impulsive hunger that has genuinely surprised me. Turns out I'm not just a power bottom, but a power top with comparable endurance. Still, my range in who I want top is narrower (attraction to face, chemistry, kissing, etc.) than whom I will be into bottoming for (really broad 🐷). I get into periods where all I can think about is topping, and it's distracting. I get so horny to breed at times that I start thinking entirely with my cock. Suddenly today I saw a trans man on Scruff and was surprised to find myself contemplating hitting him up. Because I want to treat trans people with respect, I don't want to ask them questions that could come across as impertinent. My big question is how to ask the question about pregnancy risk? Maybe it's no big deal to simply ask, but if any trans men have advice for me, I'd be very grateful for any input. I only fuck bare and I don't pull out to cum.

I had side effects with Truvada for the first month when I started in 2014, afterwords they went away entirely. The symptoms had been loose stool and feeling worn down. Hang in there and keep taking it, and it might just be fine.

Yes, it is a construct! From a European/Western/Colonial context: it was only in the late 1880s that the concept of homosexuality was invented. Before this, sexual orientation was not medicalised. Sexologists and anthropologists show that the majority of humans fall within a spectrum of bisexuality, with extremes of exclusive hetero- or homosexuality as a small minority. A majority of pre-colonised (by Europeans) indigenous cultures worldwide didn't/don't have norms of exclusive heterosexuality. I highly recommend these books for more on this: Sexual Hegemony by Christopher Chitty When Brooklyn Was Queer by Hugh Ryan Bad Gays by Huw Lemmey and Ben Miller Dawn of Everything by David Graeber and David Wengrow

Beautiful!

We evolved for this. Sexuality is a much larger part of human need than our culture or conditioning allows for.

(😇) try to see if an injectable PrEP like Apretude works better for your side effects (😈) continue taking all loads regardless

So hot! Please continue

Sorry you're going through this. I would try to see a proctologist if you can. Sometimes a specialist can make all the difference.

This may be TMI but it might be useful to some: I first started having sex with men at 22 in 2001. I was really excited to get fucked, since I started arse play already at 12 years old. I had worries about faecal matter, but I guess when I was finally about to get fucked, that worry slipped out of my mind. Back then I’d never heard of douching and I don’t recall it coming up as a practice in any of my web searches on anal play at that time. It turns out that I was lucky because up until age 33, I’d only had two experiences where there was any faecal matter present when I bottomed. Both instances were because I'd only eaten cashews all day, the other was when I’d only eaten mangoes all day. Tops in my 20s never asked before hand about my preparation, and my gay friends never brought up the subject, so I just assumed that all those derogatory terms like “fudge packers” were just pure homophobia. When I started to douche in my early 30s it was because I was eating so many greens that sometimes little pieces of lettuce or kale would end up on the guy’s dick. So I got a shower hose douche attachment, and there was a learning curve. I had to learn that I was using too much water that went too deep. After my first time douching, I got fucked by a super hot guy who lived just down the street from me. 10 min in there was some tinged liquid coming out and sadly it was the end of that connection since he never contacted me again after that. It happened next with a big dicked guy and I had recently gotten into juicing beetroot with carrots; when the water came out he thought I was bleeding. Both times were mortifying. I soon after did some reading online and got used to douching effectively, and it didn’t seem to have any ill effects if it were done daily, as I was having a lot of sex back then. 8 years ago I moved to a rural place for my work, and sex is pretty rare for me here. Hose-end shower attachments are out of the question because the water is rainwater catchment and there are parasitic nematodes in the water. Eventually I figured out that if I swallowed a dozen psyllium capsules with each meal (I always drink a lot of water with them) I was good for fucking. The only times I abstain is if my bowel movements are irregular (e.g. IBS) or I can feel that there is a bm pending. I buy them in bulk at Costco and always have some in the car too. Only about 0.5% of the time is there any issue even with big cocks, and I don’t miss douching. If I lived in a place with safe municipal water again, I might use a shower douche again, but I am really glad that this works for me. I look back with gratitude on my 20s as a lucky time when my arsehole was magically clean. It might be worth mentioning that I don’t eat meat, and aside from yogurt I don’t eat much dairy. I wish I had more greens in my diet these days, but it’s something I’m working on. I know that when I eat brown rice or muesli, my bms are the best. I used to use loose psyllium (cheaper than capsules but too messy for eating away from home) which works well if I had a heaping teaspoon, but it is messy and where I live the humidity is always so high that moulds quickly. I've also used the loose Metamucil but don't like the flavours and somehow it doesn't bind things as tightly and cleanly as the larger size loose unground psyllium husks. Metamucil may be good for bm regularity but in my experience it doesn't cut it as a douching replacement.

Such a hot story!

Thanks for bumping this up, it's hot

Really hot!!

Super hot story! I keep coming back this one.