blackrobe
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I have a time/distance travel rule. Ideally, the play is twice as long as the round drip travel time, but never less than the round trip travel time. 30 minute each way needs to be between 1 (minimum) and 2 hours of play. If I get pushback I tell them if I'm making a commitment of my time and resources, they need to make a corresponding commitment of their time and effort. I had a character on Sniffies tell me he had a proposal for me. He asked me to pick up a traveling guy he wanted to play with from his place and drive him to the hosts place. That was a 45 minute one-way trip. He didn't say what was in it for me, so I asked him what the inducement would be. It hadn't occurred to him he'd need one! He muddled about and said that I could watch. It astounds me what some guys have the gall, the effrontery, to expect from strangers. I passed.
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What you're describing here is not a "typical sub" in my experience, it's a bossy BDSM bottom (not at all submissive) who has confused what he wants with actual power exchange. Nor is the performative domination you describe what actual power exchange usually looks like. These bottoms are either ignorant, manipulative, or fundamentally misunderstand what submission is. A typical submissive bottom is there for whatever experience the top requires. Good alignment in interests can make the experience better for both, but it's not usually what drives a submissive bottom. They want to please the top as the first order goal. Wilde was right, "Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power." Meaning there are power dynamics at play in all sex. What you describe as using a bottom definitely has elements of your control and your desires being met your way. Lots of bottoms who don't identify as submissive will *love* that energy from a top. How you deliver that use determines whether it's read as demanding, selfish, piggy, dominant, etc. You can be a cumdump without being submissive and vice versa, but plenty of bottoms become cumdumps because of their submissive journey.
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Welcome! You're the dad we all want to help out with our hungry asses.
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I think the point is that there is nothing wrong with you. Whether you are just curious and exploring, or whether this is a part of your sexual evolution, you're totally okay.
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bdsmlr doesn't render any content in my feed, just ads. I've researched, flushed caches, tried different browsers, etc. but it's worthless on Safari and Chrome on MacOS.
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No, not at all.
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What would you call the man who swallowed your sperm?
blackrobe replied to a topic in General Discussion
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...aaaand now I have questions.
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Sluts, how often do you deal with STDs?
blackrobe replied to breakland's topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
There are plenty of asymptomatic STIs that you wouldn't know to test for. That's the reason regular testing periods are the gold standard. Not having symptoms of an STI does not equal being STI negative. -
Dentists are very poorly trained, both in what the varied clinical uses of Truvada and Descovy are, and in how to communicate and ask questions about them. I went to the UW Dental School clinic and they assumed I was HIV+ after seeing Descovy in my meds (even though it wasn't in my history) and when I explained that it was used for PrEP and how it worked they had no idea about it and didn't believe me. I spoke to one of the supervising instructors and told them that the students need to be better educated for their clinical work? Also, how was it that the UW Student Health people hadn't educated their students about PrEP as an personal option for all sexually active students?
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To me, the topic title and the contents of the topic aren't the same subject. For me, "a man I don't like" isn't about their looks at all. It's about them being unkind, an asshole, etc. In other words it's about their behavior and impact on others, not their looks. Now if it had said, "a man I don't find attractive" I'd have understood. When you're presenting your ass with the door open in the bathhouse, you don't know who they are, or anything about their character. Just what you might glimpse in the dim light as they rub their meaty cock over your hole and dip it inside you. If I recognize an unkind/asshole guy or someone makes me feel unsafe I'll wave them off, but otherwise all men get hole. It's how they fuck me and how much they enjoy themselves that determines how I end up feeling about, and remembering them.
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In the absence of a CNC negotiation, hell yes.
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Deep impregnation for the win.
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Drugged and raped, so very negative.
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Best Cruising sites for Storefront, ABS, etc.
blackrobe replied to Reble's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
Squirt.org is dead. They're being outcompeted more broadly, their in-person cruising niche has less and less value as cruising becomes more online, with less users their user sources cruising data gets more stale and less useful, and their user experience is so old it's kind of embarrassing. They're also compromising that user experience with all kinds of annoying ad email (I suspect to try and keep the lights on). Unless they have a brilliant pivot they haven't signaled, it's a matter of time before they sell their cruising location data or fade away. -
I think a straight guy is messing with me
blackrobe replied to Sharp-edge's topic in General Discussion
While I'm into watching an attitude adjusting fuck, I'm not wired to administer it. Nor will the change in attitude be enduring. Men like this often pendulum swing hard back into their usually behavior (seeing the way you spelled this word made me a little homesick) as a way of invalidating that kind of experience. -
I think a straight guy is messing with me
blackrobe replied to Sharp-edge's topic in General Discussion
Incidentally, these kinds of men are repellant to me and they end up on my "unfuckable" list. -
I think a straight guy is messing with me
blackrobe replied to Sharp-edge's topic in General Discussion
Interesting. He reads as manipulative, sexually predatory, and controlling. The impression I get is that he has an underlying insecurity and enjoys having power over others. -
When they say they are not sure, what they are really saying is "we haven't done the research yet". In the beginning, the HPV vaccine was only for girls before they became sexually active (9-12 years) and they were only focusing on cervical cancer. Then they realized it was boys of similar age that might give HPV to them, and that men were getting HPV related cancers in the mouth, throat, dick, and ass, so eventually boys were included too. Then they gradually studied more age groups and saw that there were benefits. Doctors serving gay men knew it would be important to give to any sexually active gay male. Anyone who knows basic probability can see there is benefit to being vaccinated for HPV regardless of life-stage. 150 strains overall, 50 genital strains, 13 or so cancer causing. Imagine being the guy who caught one of the cancer-causing strains *after* he let his (ignorant/sex-negative/homophobic) doctor talk him out of getting the HPV vaccine. Fuck that noise. Be your own advocate and insist on it.
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I think of what tops grab with their hands as they thrust inside me as my ass, and what tops stretch open with their cock and that enfolds them fully while they thrust as my hole. Most every top has an erotic context and name for our asses and holes. I'm happy to hear them call my ass and hole whatever names get them erotically fired up to breed. The most frequent I hear used are hole, pussy, and cunt. The most frequent prefixes for those names are slut, whore, cumdump, dad/daddy, and boy. Some men like white and pink as additional prefixes as well. What turns them on works for me.
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Agreed. Preventative health care such as vaccines should be covered and at no out of pocket expense. Check with your local health authorities if you get any resistance from an insurance company.
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Amplifying @Blacoe, there are about 150 different strains of HPV and around 50 of them affect the genital area. It's a startlingly common virus for people to have and pass on, with 90% of sexually active men catching HPV in their lifetime. There are 13 cancer causing strains and there's no easy test to figure out which you've been exposed to. Even with two exposures, it's extremely worthwhile for you to get the HPV vaccine if you haven't already, regardless of your age. If you have a gay doctor, they should already have been recommending it to you. If you haven't already, get the HPV vaccine now. Everyone who is sexually active needs it, regardless of age. The treatment for anal warts depends on your case. For me, I had cryotherapy to freeze and kill them, inside and outside. It was rather confronting for the mid-twenties me as it was my first STI.
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A useful perspective. I grew up and was educated outside the USA in another English speaking country, so I'm always tripping over things that I don't expect to be fraught, but end up being. Other variations don't flow as well, or fit in the character limit, but I'll give more thought to removing the ambiguity.
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That isn't a complex sentence and it's not poetry. If they can't grok it, I'm fine with missing out on those men.
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Treating it as a game theory problem, it's a completely nonsensical strategy. I'm looking for chemistry and connection, and failing basic English comprehension isn't a good start. I've also had a number of men read part of my sniffies profile and decide a) I don't like big guys, b) I don't like men of color, and c) I don't like older guys. This is the relevant section: Honestly, if an English speaker can't correctly parse the meaning of these two sentences, my read is they've come to my profile primed with a pre-existing beef, bias, or trauma. I'm telling guys that regardless of the thickness of their cock, they are welcome in my holes. I'm not sure how you glean I don't like big guys, but maybe "slender" is a trigger word for some even when it's describing cock. Thinking I don't like older guys or men of color when I explicitly say I'm open to all adult ages and all ethnicities is just bewildering to me. Whether it's dickful thinking, poor comprehension, or something else, no hole for them.
