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Amplifying @Blacoe, there are about 150 different strains of HPV and around 50 of them affect the genital area. It's a startlingly common virus for people to have and pass on, with 90% of sexually active men catching HPV in their lifetime. There are 13 cancer causing strains and there's no easy test to figure out which you've been exposed to. Even with two exposures, it's extremely worthwhile for you to get the HPV vaccine if you haven't already, regardless of your age. If you have a gay doctor, they should already have been recommending it to you. If you haven't already, get the HPV vaccine now. Everyone who is sexually active needs it, regardless of age. The treatment for anal warts depends on your case. For me, I had cryotherapy to freeze and kill them, inside and outside. It was rather confronting for the mid-twenties me as it was my first STI.

A useful perspective. I grew up and was educated outside the USA in another English speaking country, so I'm always tripping over things that I don't expect to be fraught, but end up being. Other variations don't flow as well, or fit in the character limit, but I'll give more thought to removing the ambiguity.

That isn't a complex sentence and it's not poetry. If they can't grok it, I'm fine with missing out on those men.

Treating it as a game theory problem, it's a completely nonsensical strategy. I'm looking for chemistry and connection, and failing basic English comprehension isn't a good start. I've also had a number of men read part of my sniffies profile and decide a) I don't like big guys, b) I don't like men of color, and c) I don't like older guys. This is the relevant section: Honestly, if an English speaker can't correctly parse the meaning of these two sentences, my read is they've come to my profile primed with a pre-existing beef, bias, or trauma. I'm telling guys that regardless of the thickness of their cock, they are welcome in my holes. I'm not sure how you glean I don't like big guys, but maybe "slender" is a trigger word for some even when it's describing cock. Thinking I don't like older guys or men of color when I explicitly say I'm open to all adult ages and all ethnicities is just bewildering to me. Whether it's dickful thinking, poor comprehension, or something else, no hole for them.

It's 100% dickful thinking. Horny men get fixated and push everything else out of their minds but what they want. It explains guys wanting to get fucked hitting up other total bottoms. It explains ignoring profile content and your expressed preferences.

For fuck-joints, I think I'd summarize as: "Bare and breeding comes standard, anything else is a special request and requires notice."

Men of all sizes deserve an eager hole to take them fully. It's always a delight to find a heroically endowed man like this who has acquired the skills to make bottoms take them completely and beg for more. It's not as common a skill or motivation for some hung men.

I'd assert that's not in question. Firstly, it's technically possible. Back in 2019, Pen Test Partners were able to use trilateration to build a map of gay app (Grindr, Recon, Romeo) users locations with the distance data these apps get from geolocation. They published data on the exploit and It looks like only Recon has fixed the problem. Next, there are many stories from different unfriendly countries of them actually using gay apps to entrap, capture, detain, and torture LGBTQ folks. It's a probability approaching certainty that techniques like trilateration are being used by police in LGBTQ unfriendly countries to target people.

Another option is to develop a service mindset. One where giving service is more important and powerful than your perceptions of who is attractive and not.

Or more accurately: "It use[d] to be considered a form of safe [*unsatisfying*] sex."

Your point is very well taken but, to be clear, Grindr wasn't banned in the Olympic Village (see the technical facts earlier in the thread). Despite hysterical (in both senses of the word) protestations to the contrary, plenty of folks will have scored super-fit hole and pole in Paris by the closing ceremonies on August 11.

This kind of thing makes me laugh. I'm a bottom (pretty submissive, but also primal) and wear Andrew Christian briefs because the construction of the pouch is more comfortable for my cock. Nothing to do with loving taking dick and seed in my ass. If I'm getting fucked they're going down or off anyway, no matter what type they are.

Of course you do. As we all know, nothing says you support an organization unreservedly like refusing to interview with them on ethical grounds. 😏 It's time to hang a "Don't feel the Troll" sign on this thread.

If that's what it looks like to you. Once again, I won't be engaging on your facile and specious hypotheses. Cheers.

You managed to take my having worked on PR issues in the technology industry and extrapolated that into having worked at Grindr. I'm beginning to see how you might have arrived at your highly speculative hypotheses. Full disclosure: I have never been employed in any capacity by Grindr. I was approached by an executive recruiter once several years ago regarding a senior position there and, knowing their history, I declined.

We bottoms, pussyboys, and fags appreciate you men who are born wired to fuck and breed us and fill and mark us with your cum. Our seed taking instincts match and serve your own.

Grindr is a for-profit company, of course its actions will be self-serving. Attempting to blunt and manage to neutral the PR problems it saw at the last two Olympics was about protecting its brand and stock price. I'm critical of Grindr on many issues, but there is nothing surprising or sinister in their actions on this issue. I've worked in technology and been part of team dealing with PR issues. Based on my experience, this looks like business as usual. My lack of comment on the above mentioned hypothesis was quite intentional.

TL;DR: Not a ban, not homophobic, and not the whole story. I have lots of problems with Grinder, from its technology, to its ethics and business practices. The temporary and geofenced changes they've made at the Olympic Village in Paris aren't among those problems. Firstly, I don't think anyone could convince me that Grindr or the French are sex-negative or homophobic, but secondly the history of Grindr and other location-based hook up apps at the Olympics and other International events give a pretty clear context and justification for their actions. In 2016, a 'writer' and editor for The Daily Beast, Nico Hines, wrote a click-bait story that outed gay athletes at the Rio Olympics causing an uproar that earned him Internet infamy as the epitome of the self-serving and amoral journalist. Hines, who is straight, set up a bogus profile on Grindr and used it to trick Olympic athletes into chatting with him. He didn't identify himself as a journalist unless he was challenged, and his sex-negative and shaming article described the athletes he spoke to in enough detail that it was very easy to identify them. Some of the outed athletes were from extremely anti-gay countries, meaning that Hines’ irresponsible piece put them at risk when they returned home. Hines used the location-based features we're discussing to explore inside the 2016 Olympic Village and find the athletes he ultimately exploited and potentially endangered in his story. The uproar of condemnation that met his article resulted in The Daily Beast very quickly stripping out the identifying information, but even with the details removed the furor continued and the article was taken down completely. At the time I remember thinking, "Why is a straight guy writing about gay hookups at the Olympics rather than the overwhelmingly more numerous straight hookups? I guess there's no clicks in outing straight folks..." Then at the 2020 Tokyo Olympics, TikTok and Twitter users decided that using the same features and method to find gay athletes was a great way to "create content" in the form of screenshots and screen recordings of athletes on Grindr. The same furor arose for the same reasons and TikTok and Twitter took down the exploitative content at Grindr's request. Grindr had found themselves in multiple PR fires at multiple Olympics being used as kind of digital accessory to outing and endangering athletes. Is it any wonder they finally sat down in the wake of this high-profile negative press to find a way to protect athletes and prevent people doing the same thing at future Olympics? In 2016 I'm pretty sure they thought the Olympics PR problem needed a PR solution, but after 2020 they realized they would need a combined PR and technology solution going forward. Here's what Grindr says they are doing at the 2024 Paris Olympics to mitigate past problems and give athletes the safest experience possible (Source: Grindr and Enhanced Privacy for Athletes at the Paris Olympics, July 24th 2024): I don't see anything that could be framed as a "Grindr ban" in these steps. What I do see is a company trying to figure out how to prevent bad actors (yes, Nico Hines and those specific TikTok and Twitter users, I mean you) from using their platform to breach a high-profile group of users privacy and safety. Looking at the history, any suggestion that Grindr's actions for the Paris Olympics are "homophobic" is nonsensical to me. Positioning it as a kind of "ban" is, at the very least, uninformed, if not actually intentionally misleading. I can only assume that the OP was themselves the victim of some lazy or sensationalized reporting to frame the survey question as they did. I'd assert instead that Grindr has credibly attempted to thread the needle on preserving capabilities for athletes in the Olympic village while protecting them from those bad actors outside the village trying to monetize the athletes sexuality at the expense of their privacy and safety.

There's some of the bait-and-switch, for sure, but that's certainly not all of it. Let's be real, on some sites nothing but a cock pic gets any traction at all. I think sometimes guys learn that lesson and think it's the same on every site and app and, in some locations, maybe it is. We all try and learn what works through experimentation and iteration. I've ditched these cock-gazing sites as they are primarily old technology and the user base is more about getting imagery for their wank back than hooking up. OP, I don't think all these guys are intentionally doing a bait and switch. I think at least some of them learned what works on legacy sites and they are mentally stuck there. I tried going with no cock pic on Sniffies, but then everyone wanted to see one before getting together. So, I put up a cock pic and, then even though my main profile pic is my ass full of dick and the others are two hungry ass pics and my profile clearly says "Submissive Bottom", I still got guys asking me to fuck them. Sigh. Then I tried a caged cock pic to send the message that I wasn't going to be topping anyone, but that reduced and narrowed the guys who I connected with unacceptably. In the end I deleted the hard cock pic, found one that was semi-hard, and put that on my profile to satisfy the tops who need to know what you're packing (either for a fetish or insecurity), and a head-fake to the zero reading comprehension crowd that my dick isn't going in their ass. In the end, it's all wishful, or more accurately, dick-ful or ass-ful thinking. No matter how diligent you are about representing yourself accurately, someone is going to be so single-minded about what they want that they completely ignore what you want and project their needs onto you. P.s. On tops with ass pics, put me in the 100% support column. I absolutely love hot-assed top men, so seeing an ass pic on a top's profile totally works for me. It's one of the things that encourages me to contact them. Not everything is strict position signaling. Sometimes tops just have hot asses that bottoms love to grab and pull into them while we're fucking.

I think this one needs some elaboration.

I've been to Stockholm a couple of times. What sex or cruise clubs do you recommend?

Are we sure that it's ignorance driving this behavior and not some kind of straight entitlement or plain old magical thinking?

I had the same error and it was fixed. There have been at least two app updates since that bug.

It's about more than counting to count coup. You can track how good the experience was with your partners with notes, when you were tested, when you got results and what they were, treatment, and reminders for future testing. Based on what you've done since your last round of testing, you can determine what testing needs to be done as well. You get reminders to take Doxy PEP within the window after unprotected sex and for PrEP, and record when you took PrEP and Doxy PEP. The UW sexual health clinic has a raft of detailed questions about your number of partners and BBB helps me answer accurately. When I have a spontaneous fuck with a stranger, I record it under Anonymous. Quick and easy. The app gives me tools to be proactive and help manage my sexual health. Knowledge is power.

I'm a daily user and that bug was fixed. Update to the latest version.