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Actually, this is a question of semantics. Porn isn't porn if it's not raw porn. The more proper descriptors would be pornette, porn-light, wannabe-porn, timewaster, yawn-porn .... and I bet all you other guys can cum up with some even better ones .....

Same here. There's also a pre-existing contraction - that being fucking bareback - or "bb" when hiv first surfaced. Before hiv, everyone fucked "bareback", and it was just called "fucking". There wasn't even a separate word for "bareback" until every one who wanted to avoid a certain and desperately horrific death began using "rubbers", and the handful of men who still fucked without condoms were already on the slippery, terminal slope. There was no racial connotation to the the term at all.

That's a perfectly good description. There's one un-addressed facet in your post that I happen to know about. Being born in Sweden (my family emigrated to the US when I was an infant) to a city that is virtually a mini-Stockholm in the US. Thus, there are particular cultural repressions it took me some time to shrug off. That, and Lutheranism were the initial stumbling blocks for me. If you've been brought up in the Lutheran Church, you'll need to carefully examine what is fact in that peculiar belief-system, and what is only cultural. I wound up rejecting Organized Religion altogether, and am the better man for it. My family went back to visit every other year for decades, and I found it stultifying as I got a bit older. The cultural repressions, particularly in a relatively closed society, can be like invisible chains, binding your thought-process, controlling your behavior, and you don't have to accept it. It took me no small amount of time to flush it out of my system, but with some mental/emotional work I managed to break free, and have lived a better, richer, more fulfilling life for it. I remember one time we went to visit an aunt of my dad's, over towards Jonskoping (sorry, no umlauts on my computer), but still out in the country. The old woman was sitting on the front porch of her little house in a rocking chair, didn't so much as glance at us as we drove up in the yard. She only looked at our family once, as she stood up, and said something on the order of "like the USA so much? So go back there then", and stomped into her little stuga. What a sorry example of cultural repression; either our way or the highway. It could be that it's the cultural repressions that are bothering you. If you're Norsk, maybe it's not so crushing over there - I don't know. But reflecting on how deeply cultural repressions affect us can help us realize that they simply don't apply to us, meant only to control us, and thus, makes it easier to shrug them off and become free. It seems that all social structures are infused with restrictions, controlling mechanisms, and for men like us to be really free, we must carefully consider what the impact of cultural repressions are, how to flush them out of our minds, and move on with our lives. Best wishes as you begin the journey to freedom.

Well, of COURSE ... that's his responsibility. Some Tops think that Topping makes them more masculine, and the rougher they are the more butch they are. And, that kind of mindset cuts them off from a chance of "connection", or some would say "bonding" if even for a few moments. A Top's job carries a bit more depth and skill than just walking up to a Hole, jackhammering it for a while, and remaining completely outside the emotional/spiritual/connectivity that some of us know is the real essence of Breeding. We all have certain acts within the context of fucking that we particularly love - sometimes even need - to completely bond/connect with the other guy. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't, but that doesn't mean we should revert to an insular hauteur if things don't work out precisely as we'd like. I'm no shrink, but that scenario seems to be cutting off the chances of a better fuck for both guys. It takes two to .... um .... waltz? 2-step? polka? ..... well, one of those dances .....

When my life-partner passed, I fell into a similar situation. The main reason of course is obvious, but the potential remedies are similar. A prescription for V. D3, helped, and the kindness and understanding of a few close friends helped. The lack of sunshine in Chicago (it's cold, dark, unpleasant for 4 months), and when there is sunshine, it's too damn cold to go outside to soak it up, and one can't go shovel snow wearing nothing but a pair of shorts either. So your location could have something to do with it. I can't say I completely lost interest in fucking guys, but for a couple of years it just wasn't all that it had been. Have you suffered a loss of some kind? That can bring a sense of loneliness that - while not completely factual - can still bring depression. The almost constant contact with *real* friends (meaning not just fuckbuds), helped a lot, meaning that they forgave me "in advance" for being mentally elsewhere, and just rolled with it. But what I can say is, moving to an area with permanent summer has really helped. It sounds like you're tied down by your day job though. Since your sexuality has played such a dominant role in your business-life, I can easily see how one domino can lead to another, then another, and presto - we find ourselves in a hole it's tough to get out of. Are there any other interests that might help? For instance, concerts, theatre, art, dance, lectures, exhibits that might interest you? The "fresh start" angle? I really hope you can re-set and, if not actually overcome, then at least come to terms with the situation. Best wishes.

One thought: There are Tops that think very highly of their Cock (for good reason or not), and enjoy watching it being ridden. Personally, I find that inclination a bit "over the top", and there's a whiff of self-interest about it that obviates the chances for that ephemeral "connection". There's a lot more to Breeding than just getting your Cock worshipped. Unless we're bothering our fist yet again, it still takes at least 2 men to Breed effectively.

To answer the question, no, I just posted about my own m.o. in some other thread the other day, so I won't repeat here. The point, however, is there are variables for the Top to consider, some of which would be a) has the bottom been taking loads for a while, and thus should already be accommodating, b) how thick is the Top? A thick Cock shoved into a tight Hole willy-nilly can wreck the scene for both men. It's supposed to be fun, thrilling, satisfying - all positive feelings - for both guys, but that only happens when communication (either verbal or via touch-exploration) happens.

Adding my best wishes for your recovery, rawTOP. re: the chat function - don't sweat the petty stuff, pet the sweaty stuff !!! Take it easy, and know we're all sending you our very best wishes. Breeding zone is a fantastic site, and we'll wait patiently (won't we, guys?) until you're recovered. 😊

I concur. Talk is easy, cheap and oftentimes worthless noise. It's what guys do that counts - what they say, not so much. When a "straight guy" is cruising on the apps, or in the fuckjoints, he's already demonstrated everything we need to know about him, and without listening to one word of self-forgiving bullshit. Maybe he's fathered a dozen kids, and so what? Who cares? Look at what a man does - that tells you all you need to know,

One of my very favorites is eating a hot (preferably hairy) Hole. Even if it hasn't taken any loads yet, and provided it's "clean". If last night's supper is still lingering, I'll avoid it, but a clean Hole is where I like to start. The usual m.o. is: 1. Sniff test, to ensure edibility. 2. Putting my mouth on the Hole, running the tongue around the whole Hole (pardon the awkwardism). This gets the saliva flowing, for ... 3. Tongue-fuck the Hole, tasting previous loads if any, savoring the individual musk, tongue-pushing saliva up there for lube if no Cock(s) have pumped load(s) up there yet. I don't like being the first, but some guy's Cock has to be first, right? 4. When the pre-Breeding requirements are finished, stand up and start rubbing the Hole with my Cock. Being a bit on the thick side, I try to take it easy at first, but if there was a lot of Sperm up there when I was eating it out, I'll just shove it in. Sometimes bits of previous loads squirt out, splashing on my balls, and that drives me nuts. I don't particularly care if the bottom "cleans me up"; I like to button up damp 501's, prowl around looking for the next one with Sperm off other Cocks still on mine.

Makes me wonder how the Ukrainian boys are doing these days ... sitting in their trenches, waiting for the Spring-cum-Summer offensive to begin ...

I'll buy the first round for all of us ... and then we can get down to business ...

or, the Darkstain state - formerly known as the Sunshine state. Thanks to His Dullness, the farm workers have been leaving FL in droves, leaving the crops to rot in the fields. Many seasonable vegetables are simply not available, and when they are, the p.p.p is breathtaking. Only fresh produce brought in by train from other areas is reliable these days. Give the forbidden books, the MickeyWars, the repressions of almost everyone, there are school teachers leaving the state now, looking for teaching positions in other states now that Summer break is upon us, and I don't blame them, This cretin ruins everything he touches, leaving not much alone. I wouldn't surprise me one bit to hear the the refrains of Die Fahne Hoch echoing through the streets one of these days. There's a major 4-lane, N/S arterial called Powerline Road on the western side of Ft.L. The other day I saw a ratty old pickup with guys in the truckbed in ratty, old jackets/pants, cobbled-together bits of worn out trash they were hoping looked reminiscent of uniforms. They had unspeakable flags nailed to 8' dowels, driving the length of the road, turning around, going back the opposite way, grinning like drooling idiots escaped from some asylum. I don't think DullSantis could be elected street-sweeper/dogshitpickerupper these days,

The "grammar police" gave up a looooong time ago ....

I've sampled the action in a lot of places, but nothing beats Berlin !!! Expecially Folsom-in-Berlin (where is that piggy emoticon ...)

What a great idea ... thanks for sharing it. When I take the dog out, I don't carry the wallet. I use a little leather photo-holder from an old wallet with a photocopy of my id. But, like your Grandpa, I carry the cash in a front pocket, but not because I want a blowjob from one of these guys. There's one particularly unfortunate homeless guy that usually asks if I want to fuck him. I doubt he's showered in years now, and I do prefer some small measure of cleanliness 🤢

It's not that I simply wouldn't - but paying for sex seems a bit too gutteral to me. I do carry a few bucks walking the dog, since there are a some homeless in my neighborhood, and it's not up to me to judge why that is. It just is, and everyone gets hungry. I also "kept" a cumdump for a few years, but that was for my own pleasure - it was more of an investment than anything else. In the fuckjoints, pecuniary advances would just turn me off.

I think it was H. Richard Niebuhr, whose "work" I don't admire, advanced a thiiiiin line of reasoning that Paul was himself gay, based on certain non-canonical letters. This goes way back to undergrad days/required courses at that institution, and I haven't researched any of his stuff, but - thought I'd mention it. He was probably sucking off the altar boys at the time anyway. I'm so pleased that entire ball of shit got flushed out of my mind as early as it did.

One logical place to start would be the offshore bank accounts of members of Congress. Just sayin ....

I heard years ago that our (in the US) "gay" is a translation of the French word "gai", meaning "cheerful". Never researched it ... just mentioning.

I suggest making certain you know what you want, will allow, will not allow. Take the time/effort to figure out what it is you truly want out of sex. If you decide you want it safe, great. Make that clear right up front. If you decide on safer, great. Say so. If you want it raw, great. Make that clear too. The profile isn't exactly full of information, so if you're not on PReP, by all means get on it. Get tested for the lesser bugs regularly. It's your health, so make your decisions carefully. The point is, you are in control of your body, not someone else. Then you won't need to try to figure out what the other guy might/might not do. Good luck, and let us know how things are progressing !

Well, that's a new one to me .... no guy in the fuckjoints has ever asked me for money, probably because he'd price himself right out of business since there are so many other Holes gladly taking loads for free.

Not that I was counting, but - I don't recall any diminution of rawmen doing what they must last November ......

Perfect !!! The Big Con finally reduced to a one-word descriptor !!!

🙄 This ^ is the sum total of what I think about "no nut November", "sex-free September", "jackoff January", "fuck-free February", "mouth-on-toes March", "don't-touch-ass April", "yes-you-may-worship-earlobes-May", blah blah blah.