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Really .... thanks for surfacing, ShyCubbyBottom. As you well know, all kind of viewpoints are expressed here, and we hope you let us hear more from you. Every guy get's an equal voice. And if you're not already, please protect your health. You can get it through the mail if you prefer. Easy.

I think it's because our refusal to "toe their cultural line", which is interpreted as flipping them (and their values) off. It's interpreted as dissing them. It's interpreted as marginalizing the already extant sense of marginalization. They think gay folk are beneath them, and we know we aren't - we're merely equal to them. Thus, the Republican interest in repressing not only gays, but other groups they feel is beneath them on the social order. I am not alluding to the validity of the conservative viewpoint; there are liberal/conservative parties in nations across the globe, and they usually managed to work together to advance the lives of their citizens. We can do our best to work with them, as equal citizens, and try our best to achieve small advancements in caring for the welfare of all our citizens. We must vote in every single election. Proof positive has been amply demonstrated that the down-ballot elections matter tremendously. Take part in local politics. Let our voices be heard, and not in an antagonizing way. We can set an example in the practice of citizenship. Thanks for the questions. I hope other guys respond as well.

To my mind, the source of this discontent has been around for over 150 years now. It's only in the very recent past that those clinging to disappointments, envies, jealousies, grievances, have crawled out from the rocks they've been steeping under for that century and a half. It's only lately that these above-referenced "moderate Republicans" have felt emboldened enough to be so open about their self-serving views, caught up in the truly ignorant platitudes of the amazingly dull "legislators" doing absolutely nothing to advance that Moral Arc of the Universe that bends towards Justice. The odd thing is, once the mindset of at least attempting to be part of the "Greater We" fades away, thus laying their mis-directed sorrows bare, the urge to rip everyone and everything apart can take hold. It's almost unimaginable that one of the major political parties has not advanced one single piece of legislation that might stand a chance of at least smoothing things over, if not actually ameliorate some of the more egregious wrongs. Thanks for the interesting discussion.

Hello, marum, and welcome. Per the above, the interests of Big Business are paramount to all elected officials, and to those seeking office. This is the very deep well from which they get their multi-millions in "seed money" to run ads in major media, hold rallies, etc. While the liberal/progressive legislators are generally more inclusive in their outlook, many are still a bit behind-the-times in forward-looking political decisions. The conservatives have chosen to limit their outreach for dollars (and votes) to the less educated, less responsible, and obviously less caring of their fellow citizens. These "conservatives" in the general population are more concerned with preserving their imagine preeminence in the cultural life of the US, and care little for the trials and hardships of "the other". Yes, there are gay conservatives, but they are Conservatives first, and gay secondly. Thus, and by default, the "group of interest representing us" is the closest thing we have to a political "home". Given that the liberal party has many other groups and sub-groups in their fold, the resources are spread over a wider pool of recipients. There are so many groups that desperately need representation, the effect of getting attention seems to get watered down, compared to the conservatives. The obvious answer for us, is to take part in the political life, as 'out' gay men, be recognized and thus a valued component of the so-called Progressive Wing of the liberal party, and no bird I've ever heard of has that many wings. It seems more and more clear these days, that one political party is looking backwards far more than the other, but it's simply not the 1950's anymore. What were clearly defined limits then, are fading away, which is what we call "progress", socially, culturally, and as citizens. That progress cannot be made, however, unless the majority of all the citizens agree on certain basic principles like respect for others, respect for oneself, listening to other's viewpoints as well as offering our own. No, it was not impossible. In fact, we got really close to that. An acceptance of others as-they-are was the order of the day, and quietly accepted even by the conservatives that never believed it in the first place. But greed, jealousy, self-interest over the welfare of everyone took hold unfortunately, and may again rear it's hideous head. When a group of citizens fears are pandered to by a con-man, then the forward progress - I mean culturally - can easily be arrested. But fear is a powerful thing when let loose, as we're seeing all around us in the US. The only sense I can make of this issue, is the creation of a non-existent "threat" in the minds of straights, regarding their children. No parent, regardless of political connection, wants their child to be exposed to "sexualization" or drugs. The way I see it, no parent should be forced into anything, or kid forced into anything sexual or drug-related. The problem arises when poorly-educated parents seem think that their kids learning about other groups of people have differing thoughts about what is right and proper for everyone else's kids. Parents get to teach their own kids what's right and wrong, and so does every other parent. No one gets to decide for others what is "right" or "wrong". Thanks for the post.

Eating Hole ...

For a beginner, I would suggest one of deerskin, and fairly short - 2, maybe 3' lengths. A 16 or 18 fall flogger would be a good place for beginner to start. And, never consider an SM scene like this without the required negotiation.

Welcome, cummmmhole. We look forward to hearing more from you.

Sure I do .... Santa, the Great Pumpkin, ufo's too ...........

Actually, I'm considering that too. I have 3: the regular type in the fuckroom, a slingstand outside in the back yard (I don't keep the actual sling for that one outside, obviously), and a portable, heavy-gauge steel slingstand w/standard leather sling in the garage. It took me a couple of years to get everything settled back in Chgo when I relocated, bought a small condo while all of the stuff was sold there. No extra room at all, so I just bought one that disassembles easily. Haven't used that one in years now. Somehow, I don't think a run-of-the-mill garage sale would turn the trick though.🙄

I've read and re-read the article; I don't see anything suggesting that the actual virus - in and of itself - carries any physical power to induce, influence, expand, or otherwise affect or create a deeper lust for wanton sex than existed prior. What I do see is that becoming hiv positive can alter the behavior, meaning that something like "it's already happened, so I might as well get as much as I can" type of outlook. That is easy to understand.

As far as I know, that is the single most crucial thing about a relationship. Honest communication. No judgements, just honest communication. Kudos, and the best of luck !!

Well said. There's also the possibility that some guys simply weren't raised with any manners. If that's so, and they've never bothered to realize/try to remedy that fact, the default reaction could be defensive aggression. Another possibility is that they're feeling shamed, and lash out from a sense of insecurity. I'm no shrink, but what's so wrong with treating others with some measure of respect as the default setting?

Aren't they always ....... but, maybe he learned a thimble's worth. 🙂

and thank you for using that modifier properly. Would you be willing to educate Madame Maddow as well ??? I tried; nothing.

I'll bet you did it as kindly and respectfully as possible too, despite the source.

I see you identify as a cumdump; that would imply that any Cocksteel wouldn't be involved in much Topping. That said: As long as you keep it completely clean as it heals, you won't have any problems. Get plenty of those little ear-cleaner things; you'll need them. Obviously, wait until it the healing is complete though before you resume following your calling. Any open weal is susceptible to extraneous "accidents", and you don't want that to happen. I wore Cocksteel for decades, but it had to come out for a surgery some years ago, and by the time I was back in action, I just didn't bother. Had a lot of fun with it though (particularly at airports !!!), and I'm glad I did it. You'll need a heavy-enough gauge, so the ball can be turned up to block the hole (if you get an Albert), otherwise piss will dribble out on your balls, pants. Just be sure to wait until it's fully healed before you have sex, in that Sperm can get almost everywhere when we're in heat, accidents happen, and that's a risk you don't need to take.

This references the first thing I do: take a "sniff-test". Of course, the principal thing I'm checking for is "preparation", and if f there's something that doesn't seem right, I murmur something acceptable and move on. Can't say I recall ever smelled either of those two chemicals in the fuckjoints though.

That Hole looks simply delicious !!!

Hell, NO !! You definitely should express how much you love the Top's raw Cock. The only potential reason not to, is if the Top expressly asks you to be quiet. Why a Top might do that is beyond me, I think we Tops always love rutting in a Hole that clearly loves getting fucked/Bred. A bottom that loves raw Cock up his gut and lets others know how much he loves it is like iron filings to a magnet for other Tops. Tell him how much you love his Cock, how he uses it, how much you want his load fucked deep inside you. It's music to our ears!!

from the article linked above: "Lay Summary In 2000, Starks and colleagues speculated that HIV infection could alter host behavior in a manner that facilitated the spread of the virus". While brief, the key descriptor, mentioned more than once, is the word "behavior". Not once was there any hint that the actual virus increased wanton sexual behavior, it references more than once a behavioral result of the hiv virus. I take that to mean that the actual virus is not at all inducive to wanton raw sex with countless men. The presence of the virus only induces different modalities in how the pozzed guy thinks about wanton raw sex. I well understand how some men need some kind of reason to be the men they were born to be, particularly given the cultural repressions most of us face at one time or another, and becoming positive may well do that for them. I'm no clinician, but it seems to me that one way or another, and despite all the repressive messages we receive from our earliest days, one of two things will happen: 1). We will intellectually/emotionally/spiritually come to the understanding that we are fundamentally different sexually, and the repressions simply don't apply to us. 2). We will not find the strength within ourselves to reject the cultural bullshit, and thus, suffer all kinds of mental/emotional anguish throughout our lives. That kind of repression can get internalized, and we wind up not living up to our potential in all the other facets of our lives. In other words, we surrender to the cultural/religious pressures, and become lesser, more stunted men than we could have been. I have yet to hear/read or otherwise run across any input from any source (meaning outside of the institutions that offer only repressions), that the second option above is more uplifting, more fulfilling, induces more happiness, more well-being, a richer life. We must make the effort to examine ourselves, quietly and soberly, and actively search ourselves for the answers to who we are. Only then do we find the the inner strength to flaunt convention, spit in the eye of those who would judge us, and live our lives joyfully, express our wanton sexual behavior exuberantly, and as often, with as many partners in that joyful mating, as we need.

Pubic "style" ???? ohferchrissake ....

Nah ... that shit doesn't work with me ... if some stuffed shirt tries, I just grin and say something like "oh? you want some too, huh?" I realize that invites a rejoinder, so if I'm disinclined to engage, rather than get into it, I just say "yup", and move on ...

If a bottom asks me to stop, then of course I stop. If, for whatever the reason, he's not enjoying it, why would I even want to continue? There are plenty more in the fuckjoints that will want it.

I agree. Tops balls can't compete with Holes, for generating loads/taking loads. Bottoms can drain Cock after Cock after Cock, and unfortunately, balls seldom generate enough Sperm to Breed every single one of them.

Having been to both a number of times, I can honestly unequivocally say that Berlin is the hottest fucktown I've ever been to.