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That's a great idea.

As mentioned: I don't think it's ever a decent thing to lie. Whether it's a this or that, that or this, or a mix of both ... lying is simply not ok. Whatever the contrivance; it's just not ok to lie about stuff. Guys and parry, guys can change the subject, guys can do any number of things to avoid telling the truth. Any astute hearer of the previous will be able to understand quickly that the guy is simply not going to be honest, and either move on or accept the situation. Some may say that the guy in question should not be expected to answer certain questions, and that's a different discussion. The question in this topic though, is clear and unmistakable. And, my answer is no. If/when asked, any decent guy should tell the truth.

I get that everyone is all about this show right now and that I am antithetically not really that impressed. 🙂 I'll accept my role as iconoclast. To lightheartedly make fun of all the bruhaha, however, I created a really low-brow series called "RELAXED COEXISTENCE" - I had to take a break from editing Trunk and Cage. [think before following links] https://x.com/poztoxverspig/status/2014691885953241102?s=20 [think before following links] https://x.com/poztoxverspig/status/2014793946581631275?s=20 I am actually drawing from storylines in the show.....it cracks me up. I can finally fuck again so ya'll only have to deal with me a few more hours! 🙂 TGIF! 🙂

Yeah, it was ..... any sexual act you can imagine taking place on any/all three floors at any given time. There were other baths in Chicago of course, and I went to them occasionally. But "home" was always at Chuck Renslow's fuckjoints.

I feel like I was asking you a similar question to that you were asking to Trump supporters. But you got frustrated and angry with me. But let's go back to the statement: Then let's go to: Ultimately, you answered your own question, "This goes out to Trump supporters. i want to know and, hopefully understand your perspective." Because both sides have their extremes. Under Biden, Democrats had been governing from an increasingly extreme position. Democrats not only failed to offer Republican voters little to switch sides, they alienated over 6 million of their own 2020 voters. I realize I'm direct and that's off-putting to many. I will take my lumps on that...and do so regularly. But I don't understand why it's so hard to understand the vote and his continued support. Let's go to this version: consider this 2013-14 issue in West Hollywood. [think before following links] https://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-rainbow-flag-west-hollywood-20140113-story.html Does anyone in the LGBT+ community feel even a little sad, even if you agree with taking down the flag? If so, that's a conservative principle -- of preserving or conserving culture heritage. If a person feels this way on the political left, why do they demonize others -- e.g., Christian conservatives -- when they have those same feelings in other contexts, say on immigration? We don't have to agree but can't we understand it better? Think about being a Christian conservative, after being demonized on immigration for trying to preserve your culture...and you see people on the political left in WeHo doing the same thing. Don't you get angry, fed up, etc. and some point just shut down? And isn't that as good as any example?

It isn't. What is addictive (or at the very least, habit-forming) however, is the wanton sexual behavior that earns a bottom a Top's load. Better yet, a number of Tops. More, that addiction, properly identified, is extremely addictive, thank Whatever.

"Is stealthing morally okay?" ^ the title of this thread (it's almost a whole blanket of threads by now) could easily be expanded to a wider question: "Is dishonesty morally okay?" While there may be situations where lying can save an innocent life - in wartime, for instance - the basic question would be as directly above. I doubt any person likes to be lied to, and thus that person (i,e. every person) that doesn't care for being lied to should, obviously, refrain from lying to others. There are ways to parry unwelcome, obsequious probing questions, some more blunt than others. In either case, dishonesty is not the proper way to parry the offense. A reply with something like "talk some other time" (the more polite version) or "it's really none of your business" (a more blunt response) is always better than returning a lie with another lie. At least the respondent doesn't stoop to the liar's level.

Hey @lttltvbb - congrats. I have posted a bit on this topic - I'll send you a link about my experience. I'm currently in the recovery period from my last upsizing which is a thing in and of itself if you're going for a 2, 0 or 00. I hope you love it as much as I do!

and that is completely honorable, P.T.V.P. It's not asking too much to be completely honest with our (potential) fuckmates; whether in-the-flesh or here on BZ (to a lesser extent, obviously). There's everything right about being honest, and nothing wrong with it; particularly in sexual contexts. If some potential trick doesn't care for some facet of me, that's fine. There are plenty of other holes in the fuckjoint, so each guy can find what he most needs. I too am completely comfortable with being honest about sexual proclivities at the fuckjoints.

I just re-read my earlier post, and I want to clarify because they seem as though they are at odds with each other: I think I make best available efforts to inform any sexual partner of my status - via public profile updates, as well as clarifying their understanding of my status. To the extent I hook up with someone randomly, anonymously, whatever, I'm not compelled to stop things in their tracks to ensure that someone engaging in anonymous sex is aware of any potential risk they might be facing, nor do I expect someone to tell me if they don't know their status (HIV or STI). When and if asked in the latter situation, I will always obligate myself to honest.

@PozBearWI the fact of the matter is that nearly 2/3rds of the states in the US have HIV criminalization laws. You've seen and read PLENTY of MY posts from me about the ridiculous low rate of transmission, but the fact of the matter is - if I don't disclose it, I'm still liable under current law in a lot of places. If not criminally, civil charges can also be made. These laws are UNFAIR, and should be overturned, but they are the law. What these laws criminalize: HIV-specific charges: Elevating charges for sex crimes or other offenses if the person knows they have HIV. Non-disclosure: Failing to tell a sexual or needle-sharing partner about HIV status, even if transmission risk is zero due to treatment. Exposure: Actions with no realistic risk of transmission, like spitting or biting, especially in correctional settings So the reality is - YES, under the law, we ARE required to disclose this in most states. And I sure as shit don't want to have to hire criminal and civil defense attorneys and get involved in a protracted court case...we can fight this, disagree with this - but I for one don't want to spend a decade of my life and a huge amount of money being the poster boy for HIV Criminalization reform. Also, your comparison between the flu and HIV is inaccurate. HIV is a retrovirus which integrates with mRNA and attacks the very core of our immune system. The flu does not - it isn't near the level of sophistication of HIV and the way it fully integrates via mRNA into its host...it is helpful to make appropriate comparisons here because they are fundamentally different.

It never occurred to me to attempt to count .... there would be a number of zero's involved though if I did.

Great post! I am mostly bottom and absolutely admire PA and those who have them. Yes, has chickened out several times. Luv to hear more!

If asked, and if poz detectable, you should be honest. If not asked, and if at a bathhouse and darkroom, there should be no obligation to volunteer. If I were poz, and in a 1-on-1 situation, I’d most likely tell my partner.

Truly? Is your day to day life out of control? Or do you enjoy an enviable supply of dick and the other parts of your life are working out OK?

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Yes, what you think and feel about many of my views has been evident to me. i do not think i'm being obtuse because i do not agree with your view on some things. Here's how i read your above comment: You see and understand clearly, and you've tried repeatedly to educate me, but alas, have failed to get through to me. You state: "...being a tyrant and being a fascist are two wholly different things." Why and how do you mean? Is that one statement supposed to finally get through and i repent? i see trump as a tyrannical fascist. i see him as both. Not just based on my sole feelings or opinion. I'm not alone in seeing him as such. Do i think i can't be wrong? No. But so far, you have not convinced me otherwise. Here's a separate (from you or me) take on fascism from Britannica: "...Although fascist parties and movements differed significantly from one another, they had many characteristics in common, including extreme militaristic nationalism, contempt for electoral democracy and political and cultural liberalism, a belief in natural social hierarchy and the rule of elites, and the desire to create a Volksgemeinschaft (German: “people’s community”), in which individual interests would be subordinated to the good of the nation." This reads an awful lot like trump and his regime to me. He has used the military to take over Venezuela. He threatened to use the military to take over Greenland. He wants to take over Canada. He has used the military to 'police' Americans who protest against him. trump asked former defense secretary Mark Esper: “Can’t you just shoot them? Just shoot them in the legs or something?” trump threw himself a military parade for his birthday. He 'hired' Elon Musk to change/dismantle large pieces of government agencies and programs. As i see it, the list is very long and fitting. i think the label "tyrannical fascist" fits. To me, trump is the very essence of "excessive." Hitler grabbed Austria and Czechoslovakia cause he needed them for ____________. After WW2, Stalin grabbed half of Germany, all of Poland and Czechoslovakia, and more. Two great examples of fascist and communist tyrants. trump has grabbed Venezuela, then quickly tried for Greenland, and has made no secret of his 'needing' Canada too. They all seem like birds of a feather to me. The fact that trumps style is fascism vs communism doesn't really matter to me, both systems are "extreme" in my book. Yes, of course "extremism happens on both ends of the continuum." As does tyranny. Stalin, Xi Jinping and Kim Jong Un come to mind as examples of tyrannical extremists "collectivists--communists, socialists, etc.." And yes, of course, we do not want to swing 'extremely' in the opposite direction of trump and just get another tyrant of the opposite color. i disagree with at least some of your "thesis." i think tyrants from two extremes are holding the power of several countries that, i think, are a threat to the whole world. i think trump is one of them. i do think we might agree that a silver lining to the dark cloud of trump is he has inadvertently gotten a lot of countries and Americans engaged and looking to take more responsibility, countries and people who were not before. Where i think i disagree mostly with you is i see more people in the center territory than you do. i think what throws us who and what we include in our "center." Though it reads otherwise to me, i'm going to give you more credit than you seem to give me and take your question at face value as a question vs a thinly veiled assertion. i think the question is a good and proper one we should all continually ask ourselves. Yes, i really do want to understand people who think and feel differently than me. Which is not to say i will agree with them or stop arguing what appears a better way to me. my questions are sincere and i genuinely do try to listen and hear others. i realize i do not always succeed, that it has to be an ongoing endeavor. my purpose when i phrased those questions was an attempt to find common ground, to parse out the smaller, more individual details that bring us closer together vs only focusing on what divides us.

I don't think me always saying "you know I'm poz right?" makes any good sense. Especially being poz and on meds. TasP was proof enough that we do not pose the risk in the raw sex time, at least regarding HIV. Before I started meds; yes that made some sense to tell them they're taking a risk. But I question anymore whether we really have an obligation to say that. If we care enough about it we should bring it up. If we don't care; it isn't like infection is likely. When we kiss, do we make sure we say "you know it is flu season right?". I understand why back in the 80's that made sense to put an onus on the poz guys to inform. There wasn't a good "poz and on meds" going on back then. But HIV manifests in society now in massively different ways than then. And certainly the onus should no longer be on the poz guy.