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"If a conservative is a liberal who's been mugged, a liberal is a conservative who's been arrested." Tom Wolfe From where i sit, the notion of "rule of law" is often an almost romantic misnomer when it goes beyond stop signs and enters the arena of social 'moral' standards. To me, we seem more ruled by the politically appointed judges that interpret law. Those rulings can have opposite impact on society, depending on the (double entendre) 'ruling' courts. Roe v Wade strikes me as a recent example of this. Anyone who thinks that the hard won rights of gays in the US are now a given, has not lived very long or is very unaware of where we came from. We recently had a Vice President (Mike Pence), voted for by more than half the US voters, who would, citing religious belief, endorse this judges decision... and more. Let the climate change, and those who believe "God hates fags" will resurface and undo or reverse any protections we have gained, arrest and even imprison us for living as we are. i was arrested in 1998 for asking a cop pretending to be gay in a well known gay park if he wanted to fuck me. i was charged with a felony using a 100 year old law.

Published August 17, 2022 in "Scientific America" "Can monkeypox be transmitted by people without symptoms? Many cases have involved close contact between people with visible lesions or other symptoms, but there have been some reports of people testing positive for monkeypox without any obvious symptoms. In a study published in August in the Annals of Internal Medicine, among 200 anal swabs tested for monkeypox at a routine sexual screening clinic in France, 13 were positive (6.5 percent). All of the subjects in these cases were initially asymptomatic, and two subsequently developed symptoms of monkeypox infection. It’s not yet clear whether asymptomatic people who test positive are “shedding” virus that can infect others. If so, that could have implications for the current monkeypox vaccination strategy. Other researchers published a case study of a man who developed monkeypox after traveling to the U.K. and attending a crowded outdoor event involving dancing and close contact with others who did not have obvious lesions or other symptoms. He did not report any sexual contact but said he had shared an e-cigarette with a woman at the event." [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/monkeypox-explained-transmission-symptoms-vaccines-and-treatment/

For those looking for scientific info: Published August 11,2022 in "Nature" "As global monkeypox cases continue to soar, researchers are learning more about how the disease is spreading. Early predictions that the virus transmits primarily through repeated skin-to-skin contact between people have largely borne out, according to a tranche of new studies." “When you put all these studies together, we see that the clinical presentation everywhere is similar — but also surprising,” says Oriol Mitjà, an infectious-disease researcher at Germans Trias i Pujol University Hospital in Barcelona, Spain, who co-authored one of the recent studies in The Lancet1. That’s because the symptoms and pattern of spread don’t look like what researchers had observed in West and Central Africa, where the monkeypox virus has caused isolated, persistent outbreaks for decades." "Whether monkeypox is sexually transmitted in absolute terms — passed from one person to another through blood, semen or other bodily fluids during sex — is still unclear. But several studies have found that DNA from the monkeypox virus is present in a person’s semen for weeks after they become infected2,3. One study also isolated infectious virus from a single individual’s semen six days after their symptoms appeared." [think before following links] https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-022-02178-w

Thank You. The truth is, i think He accomplished what He set out to do. Personally, i could have seen it going on, and deeper, but it didn't seem mutual. i'm grateful for what we had. i'd love to have that with someone, but know it cannot be forced. i would love to have a deeper, ongoing something with a Man, but meanwhile i experience getting and giving pieces of want/need with Men. All stuff i know You understand.

Ha, i never thought to count, but you are right about the number of times. i consider myself very fortunate to have had that kind of chemistry with a Man, and He with me. Balance is vital to me in relationship. The time factor was important to His nature because He was what i have come to think of as a 'subtle Dom." There was never any use of words like "Dom" or "sub," etc., but i can see it clearly retrospectively. Part of the "subtlety" was how He molded me without my being aware of what He was doing until i was mostly molded. It was a profound dynamic of mutual nurturing as i see it. Probably the longest lasting relationship i've had where there was symbiosis. He left His signature on both my physical and psychological 'hole,' and the experience helped me learn just how deep and intense a bond can be. Going by feel, i don't think i would have been visually attracted to Him, but that interferencewas removed by my never seeing Him and seemingly strengthened the places of mutual attraction that were there.

Great topic, thank you for posting BlindRawFucker1. From a total bottom/receptive place, for me it's touch with hearing as a close second. i had a FB who i've written about here in various places. We got together every 5-7 days for about a year and a half before relocation separated us. He approached me from CL saying He liked to give massage. i'm a touch magnet, so after chatting, i bit. Once He hooked me, He added that He wanted me waiting naked, face down and blindfolded. And that is how it was the entire year and a half, i never once saw Him. His massage was hypnotic, and looking back, i think that was intentional. He kept up a sort of monotone monologue along with this simultaneously relaxing and sexually stimulating massage. i realized about six months in that one of His primary goals was to open and mold my hole, which He did slowly, subtly and with intent. He used touch in several ways, not just massage. He'd bring 'toys' that He'd use on my hole. When He came in, i'd feel what felt like a cloth sack that He'd lay on my legs while He unpacked what was inside. He'd line the contents against my outer legs, the feel kicked in my imagination and i pictured dildos. He's never scrimp on the massage part, it was sort of repetitious each time, almost like it was how He tranced me? Idk, it always made me very receptive and very horny at the same time. He was Masterful at making me feel craving need in giving just enough touch to make me want more without satisfying me. i never had an orgasm with Him. Sound, i'd hear Him opening containers that i imagined were various lubricants. Mainly, He used a monotone voice that was continuous sort of 'dirty' talk as best i can explain. It was more like leading me along a path, opening my psychologically while HIs hands opened me physically. Not seeing Him definitely enhanced my other senses and not seeing required trust on my part, which He handled very well and never violated, still, a feeling of vulnerability was there that never went away, sort of a dependent feeling.

i can't speak for anyone else, but technique makes a big difference for me. A slow grind vs punching is the difference between agony and ecstasy (well, not quite, but i like the way it sounds, so i'll keep that). i'll take either, but Top who slowly opens and then stays there and grinds is likely to hear "i love You" escape my lips. It's a much more powerful and seductive fuck, like He is taking possession and the final planting His seed where it will be absorbed finishes me and makes me His. It's not just the physical factors, there is a different emotional feel and intent that fucks and impregnates my head as well as my gut. And pretty much my whole body is an errogenous zone, some areas more than others. That goes back to "technique" for me. Using the 'second hole' as an example, a Top who opens and grinds in my second hole turns it into a hyper erogenous zone, the one who punches it does not. "Erogenous" is both physical and psychological for me.

FB just left. He want's to fuck a lot more lately, it's a great arrangement, almost routine. i say "almost" because i've never had a routine fuck, it's always awesome. What's great about a FB arrangement is not having to go through all the preliminary stuff. He needs to fuck, i need to get fucked, He wants to fuck me, i want Him to fuck me. He texted me with only a little time before work, so i did a quick prep and was ready and lying ass up on my bed. Last couple of times He's gotten into some spanking, which is pretty hot, the surprise of it makes me clench His cock, which may be why He does it? Feels so good to have Him (His seed) in me so often, been several times this week, just makes the whole day better, i feel so warm and happy in my gut, no other feeling like it, lasts for quite awhile.

For me, the length of the fuck depends on more than one thing. It's not just physical for me. If a Guy is mostly disconnected and just looking to relieve Himself, of course i want Him and will receive Him, but if i feel like He is having a hard time cumming, i start to feel His angst too and want it to end. As long as i sense His lust and need, i want Him in me fucking. How long is dependent on that energy of His need/desire, because that is the primary connection for me. i've had Tops who fucked me for a few hours (rare) but were obviously into it the whole time. One Man stands out, He came three times and was pissing in me in between. One of the best breedings i have ever had, both physically and psychologically. But i've also had fucks where the Man barely gets in and is already shooting His load. It's different, but still very fulfilling for me to connect with Him, have His need, lust, orgasm and seed transferred from Him into me.

Fuck, i got pregnant just reading this. For me, one of the really awesome things about a Top breeding me beyond that bend is He deposits His cum deep in a place where i seem to absorb it. i got bred yesterday by a FB i love, i held His seed for about 14 hours, but when it doesn't go beyond that bend, it eventually comes back out... which is sad to me, i never want to lose a drop of what comes out of a Mans cock and goes into me. For me, that's an advantage of piss, the quantity and consistency ensures it flows beyond the bend and deep into my gut where i absorb Him and i can always smell the difference in my pee after because His piss has impregnated me. Also, not all anatomy is the exact same measurements, some guys bend is closer than others. Here's a pic of what we are talking about:

About 20 minutes ago, my FB. He came in my unlocked back door as usual, sees me lying naked and face down, as usual, sighs and says: "I won't lie, I'm probably gonna nut really fast." i told Him any way He fucks is awesome, that i love having His cock and seed in me anytime, anyway. About 10 minutes later, He was dressing and leaving, my ass creamed and both of us happy. He asked if i'm going to be around tomorrow.... yep.

lol. There's been a few threads on BZ about the 'second ring,' i've even posted anatomical pictures so guys can see the sigmoid curve that is interpreted as a "second hole." i'm a total bottom, but obviously this is a thing for Tops, and something enough Tops feel to want get there and 'open' it. It's totally real, just different from what ones cock might perceive. It's not a second hole but a bend in the hole a Top is fucking. A bottoms fuck hole is a malleable, flexible tube made of flesh, muscle, nerve endings, etc. When a cock hits that bend, since it is flexible, the Top is using His cock to straighten the bottoms fuck "tube" to accommodate His cock. Which, to my way of thinking is every bit as hot as opening a second hole. A hard cock is basically bending the bottoms hole to gain deeper access for breeding, and i imagine when His cock hits that bend it adds a feeling of more squeeze and friction to the tip of HIs cock. It's fucking hot and real, just not a second hole technically, but a bend in the bottoms cock home hallway 😉

Yeah, poppers are a vasodilator, they used to be used for heart pain prior to nitro glycerin. Both can cause a head ache in some people, it's one of the side effects i see frequently in my patients i give nitro to. Poppers are fun though, nitro? meh. i've never been stoned or drunk. i've been around it my whole life, just never partaken. i do get a rush from poppers though, especially when a Top puts them under my nose and wants me to sniff them. i get very turned on when a Top shows a desire to affect me sexually, seduce, open... subtle approach gets me very open. But then a Top who kisses my neck or ears has a similar effect. When a Top is behind me and kisses my neck, shoulders, my ass raised up to meet Him, it's like a button that also opens me. Physical opening can be very connected to psychological opening for me.

lol, nah, to me, holes are for Tops to penetrate and "eat out."

To me, a bare cock through a GH is fair game. my experience has been they will let you know what they want by their response. i have often just backed onto a bare cock presented through a GH and that usually ends up with a load in my ass. If they don't want ass, they will pull back, in which case, i offer my mouth and end up sucking them off.

Your use of the word "automat" got my attention. i often compare app hook up sex to "fast food sex" lol, so Your use of the descriptor automat struck me. i'm grateful for Your perspective. i'm one of those guys who "writes endless messages" in an attempt to get to know more about the person because i love connecting with an individual vs a generic commodity. Cheers

Interesting feedback BareLover666. As i read it, YourNoLiimitsBottom is not talking about "ask[ing] what [you] EXACTLY want" but stating what gets his attention (and why) when a person voluntarily states in a profile who they are and what they are looking for. i see a difference.

Not sure you'll be able to definitively nail this one down (so to speak). First off, as an aside: as a bottom i measure a Mans cock by more than physical size. For instance, my penis measure ~7" and is fairly girthy, but i perceive it as smaller than Top who has a 'large' drive to penetrate and breed. 😉 One possible explanation for Your morning wood variance could come down to circulation. Our endothelial function is effected by what we eat. A meal high in salt can severely restrict endothelial function in the first hour after eating. A high fat meal can do the same for about six hours, the effects peak at about 4.5 hours after. The endothelium lines our vasculature and is responsible, among other things, for secreting vasodilators that help regulate blood pressure and circulation. ED is a circulation issue. So, one could propose that since You are not eating things that may effect Your circulation because You are asleep, Your circulation improves while You sleep and the positive effects are in evidence in the morning. There are all sorts of other factors, just playing with fun physiological facts here. For instance, another factor could be decreased circulatory demand while You sleep. I.e., You're not moving around and placing more demand from other body parts. Apparently, a cock never sleeps.

i hadn't thought of that angle... even friends of Dorothy would suffer.

Just left. my sweet FB, taking me trough covid and now monkey pox, really grated for the connection we have. It's easy and casual, but always deeply satisfying. When He needs, my need it turned up (always seems to be present), and within usually about 15 minutes He is here. i'm always naked and face down, door open. i prep ahead, leave lube on a towel next to me, and another towel by the shower. He likes to shower after. He pumped me full, i can never tell how many times He comes and only really know for sure when He is done and pulls out, though He always leaves a lot of evidence, always a cream pie. i think we both like the convenience of our connection. Last time, after, i asked if He wanted to piss and i followed Him and drank from His semi flaccid cock. His piss was strong, but i still swallowed while He was pissing. He offered on His own today: "I've gotta piss if you want." i wasn't sure whether He wanted or not, i hate to miss an opportunity to receive a Tops desire/need. i wasn't sure if He wanted or was doing it just for me, so i didn't follow Him into the shower. i hope i didn't miss Him. It's important to me to have mutual desire, not just Him doing cause He thinks i like it. A big part of my desire/need is to meet a Top at His desire/need. Time will tell. i have told Him to feel free to piss inside of me, He hasn't... yet? I'd love it, either way, as long as i can see lust in Him for it that merges with my own. Meanwhile, it was an awesome fuck as always. i'm creamy and gaping. All's well with the world.

Right? Our society has both subtle, and not so subtle, stigma against sex... especially gay sex. Half the population of this country voted for a guy who thinks God's gonna judge us all for having gay sex. Yet there are so many things that are obviously bad for us, like eating pizza or buying stuffin a ginormous plastic containers that turn into micro pebbles and permeate the fish we eat, or visiting a friend or family member in the hospital, ad infinitum. i have a sweet friend who texts me whenever he flies on an airplane saying if anything should happen, he loves me. It's too sweet for me to point out that he has more chance dying in a car crash on the way to the airport than dying on a plane, but he doesn't text me every time he gets into a car. Reality is, life is full of risks, whether we are conscious of them or not, we take many risks on a daily basis. i think an argument probably could be made that repressing ones sex drive could have deleterious health effects. 😉

I'd say "safer" vs "safe." Connecting with FB's vs hooking with anonymous strangers is prolly the only form of 'safer sex' i'll practice. Even that was rare, and nothing for the first 8 months of Covid. Now i'm back to one FB because of MP. Didn't qualify for the vaccine recently. Could of lied, but will get it when it comes more available.

To me this is a great example of the connection between who and how we are psychologically and our sexual physiology. As i see it, You were fucking this guy before Your physical cock entered his hole. To me the Guy who understands that our brains/imagination/emotions, etc., are also our sex organ, can develop a whole range of 'foreplay.' i don't take it so much as a compliment, well maybe a little, as i get excited by His excitement. my bottom wiring is such that i am very responsive to my Tops energy. If He is excited, primal, ready to bust, all of that is contagious to me. i pick up His rhythm and when He cums, i am ready to receive it. For me, it's not only His cum i am needing/wnating/receiving, it's His need/want to breed, to have an orgasm inside of me. The fuck builds anticipation, the orgasm is the "climax." How quickly or slowly His orgasm occurs, His orgasm still leaves His body and enters mine.

The title is tongue in cheek. i'm big on profiles. i'm often guilty of writing books when writing a profile, especially on sites that are more dating focused than hook up... though i have often wondered if gay guys only date in movies? Thought it might be fun, or maybe cathartic, to have a thread where we can post some of our 'favorite' profiles. Who knows, this could be educational too. i just read one today on a gay site that is relationship oriented: "Looking to meet a man with similar interests." That was it. No attempt to mention what those interests might be, he didn't even have a profile pic. Another favorite, and common among scammers: "Looking for LTR" or similarly: "looking for the love of my life." But again, nothing else. Okay, maybe they check some of the boxes indicating they are "top" "bottom," or "versatile," but nothing to idicate who they are or who/what they are looking for or distinguish them from bots or scammers. Another: "i never know what to write, if you have questions, feel free to ask, i'm an open book." lol, more like a blank book. If there isn't anything to indicate what the 'book' is about, how's a person to know if they want to read it? THen there's: "i like to watch movies, eat out and walk on the beach." That one is really distinctive. What are some of the profiles that just make you shake your head in wonderment?

i think the anonymity of online makes it easier for guys to be inconsiderate, bringing out their inner three year old. my guess is anyone who does that would to be a less than stellar fuck anyway, obviously self absorbed. It is enormously frustrating though. i think online hook up culture has mutated too. i used to have a fair amount of success with CL, running an ad where i'd be waiting naked and ass up. But it's never been perfect or 100% Nothing has ever beat cruising spots for me. "On my way" is never an issue at a cruising location because the real, serious Guys who want to fuck are already there. If i'm seriously in need of cock, i don't even attempt apps, i just go to the local ABS... covid put a damper on that for awhile, thank goodness for FB's.