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Great topic, thank you for posting BlindRawFucker1. From a total bottom/receptive place, for me it's touch with hearing as a close second. i had a FB who i've written about here in various places. We got together every 5-7 days for about a year and a half before relocation separated us. He approached me from CL saying He liked to give massage. i'm a touch magnet, so after chatting, i bit. Once He hooked me, He added that He wanted me waiting naked, face down and blindfolded. And that is how it was the entire year and a half, i never once saw Him. His massage was hypnotic, and looking back, i think that was intentional. He kept up a sort of monotone monologue along with this simultaneously relaxing and sexually stimulating massage. i realized about six months in that one of His primary goals was to open and mold my hole, which He did slowly, subtly and with intent. He used touch in several ways, not just massage. He'd bring 'toys' that He'd use on my hole. When He came in, i'd feel what felt like a cloth sack that He'd lay on my legs while He unpacked what was inside. He'd line the contents against my outer legs, the feel kicked in my imagination and i pictured dildos. He's never scrimp on the massage part, it was sort of repetitious each time, almost like it was how He tranced me? Idk, it always made me very receptive and very horny at the same time. He was Masterful at making me feel craving need in giving just enough touch to make me want more without satisfying me. i never had an orgasm with Him. Sound, i'd hear Him opening containers that i imagined were various lubricants. Mainly, He used a monotone voice that was continuous sort of 'dirty' talk as best i can explain. It was more like leading me along a path, opening my psychologically while HIs hands opened me physically. Not seeing Him definitely enhanced my other senses and not seeing required trust on my part, which He handled very well and never violated, still, a feeling of vulnerability was there that never went away, sort of a dependent feeling.

i can't speak for anyone else, but technique makes a big difference for me. A slow grind vs punching is the difference between agony and ecstasy (well, not quite, but i like the way it sounds, so i'll keep that). i'll take either, but Top who slowly opens and then stays there and grinds is likely to hear "i love You" escape my lips. It's a much more powerful and seductive fuck, like He is taking possession and the final planting His seed where it will be absorbed finishes me and makes me His. It's not just the physical factors, there is a different emotional feel and intent that fucks and impregnates my head as well as my gut. And pretty much my whole body is an errogenous zone, some areas more than others. That goes back to "technique" for me. Using the 'second hole' as an example, a Top who opens and grinds in my second hole turns it into a hyper erogenous zone, the one who punches it does not. "Erogenous" is both physical and psychological for me.

FB just left. He want's to fuck a lot more lately, it's a great arrangement, almost routine. i say "almost" because i've never had a routine fuck, it's always awesome. What's great about a FB arrangement is not having to go through all the preliminary stuff. He needs to fuck, i need to get fucked, He wants to fuck me, i want Him to fuck me. He texted me with only a little time before work, so i did a quick prep and was ready and lying ass up on my bed. Last couple of times He's gotten into some spanking, which is pretty hot, the surprise of it makes me clench His cock, which may be why He does it? Feels so good to have Him (His seed) in me so often, been several times this week, just makes the whole day better, i feel so warm and happy in my gut, no other feeling like it, lasts for quite awhile.

For me, the length of the fuck depends on more than one thing. It's not just physical for me. If a Guy is mostly disconnected and just looking to relieve Himself, of course i want Him and will receive Him, but if i feel like He is having a hard time cumming, i start to feel His angst too and want it to end. As long as i sense His lust and need, i want Him in me fucking. How long is dependent on that energy of His need/desire, because that is the primary connection for me. i've had Tops who fucked me for a few hours (rare) but were obviously into it the whole time. One Man stands out, He came three times and was pissing in me in between. One of the best breedings i have ever had, both physically and psychologically. But i've also had fucks where the Man barely gets in and is already shooting His load. It's different, but still very fulfilling for me to connect with Him, have His need, lust, orgasm and seed transferred from Him into me.

Fuck, i got pregnant just reading this. For me, one of the really awesome things about a Top breeding me beyond that bend is He deposits His cum deep in a place where i seem to absorb it. i got bred yesterday by a FB i love, i held His seed for about 14 hours, but when it doesn't go beyond that bend, it eventually comes back out... which is sad to me, i never want to lose a drop of what comes out of a Mans cock and goes into me. For me, that's an advantage of piss, the quantity and consistency ensures it flows beyond the bend and deep into my gut where i absorb Him and i can always smell the difference in my pee after because His piss has impregnated me. Also, not all anatomy is the exact same measurements, some guys bend is closer than others. Here's a pic of what we are talking about:

About 20 minutes ago, my FB. He came in my unlocked back door as usual, sees me lying naked and face down, as usual, sighs and says: "I won't lie, I'm probably gonna nut really fast." i told Him any way He fucks is awesome, that i love having His cock and seed in me anytime, anyway. About 10 minutes later, He was dressing and leaving, my ass creamed and both of us happy. He asked if i'm going to be around tomorrow.... yep.

lol. There's been a few threads on BZ about the 'second ring,' i've even posted anatomical pictures so guys can see the sigmoid curve that is interpreted as a "second hole." i'm a total bottom, but obviously this is a thing for Tops, and something enough Tops feel to want get there and 'open' it. It's totally real, just different from what ones cock might perceive. It's not a second hole but a bend in the hole a Top is fucking. A bottoms fuck hole is a malleable, flexible tube made of flesh, muscle, nerve endings, etc. When a cock hits that bend, since it is flexible, the Top is using His cock to straighten the bottoms fuck "tube" to accommodate His cock. Which, to my way of thinking is every bit as hot as opening a second hole. A hard cock is basically bending the bottoms hole to gain deeper access for breeding, and i imagine when His cock hits that bend it adds a feeling of more squeeze and friction to the tip of HIs cock. It's fucking hot and real, just not a second hole technically, but a bend in the bottoms cock home hallway 😉

Yeah, poppers are a vasodilator, they used to be used for heart pain prior to nitro glycerin. Both can cause a head ache in some people, it's one of the side effects i see frequently in my patients i give nitro to. Poppers are fun though, nitro? meh. i've never been stoned or drunk. i've been around it my whole life, just never partaken. i do get a rush from poppers though, especially when a Top puts them under my nose and wants me to sniff them. i get very turned on when a Top shows a desire to affect me sexually, seduce, open... subtle approach gets me very open. But then a Top who kisses my neck or ears has a similar effect. When a Top is behind me and kisses my neck, shoulders, my ass raised up to meet Him, it's like a button that also opens me. Physical opening can be very connected to psychological opening for me.

lol, nah, to me, holes are for Tops to penetrate and "eat out."

To me, a bare cock through a GH is fair game. my experience has been they will let you know what they want by their response. i have often just backed onto a bare cock presented through a GH and that usually ends up with a load in my ass. If they don't want ass, they will pull back, in which case, i offer my mouth and end up sucking them off.

Your use of the word "automat" got my attention. i often compare app hook up sex to "fast food sex" lol, so Your use of the descriptor automat struck me. i'm grateful for Your perspective. i'm one of those guys who "writes endless messages" in an attempt to get to know more about the person because i love connecting with an individual vs a generic commodity. Cheers

Interesting feedback BareLover666. As i read it, YourNoLiimitsBottom is not talking about "ask[ing] what [you] EXACTLY want" but stating what gets his attention (and why) when a person voluntarily states in a profile who they are and what they are looking for. i see a difference.

Not sure you'll be able to definitively nail this one down (so to speak). First off, as an aside: as a bottom i measure a Mans cock by more than physical size. For instance, my penis measure ~7" and is fairly girthy, but i perceive it as smaller than Top who has a 'large' drive to penetrate and breed. 😉 One possible explanation for Your morning wood variance could come down to circulation. Our endothelial function is effected by what we eat. A meal high in salt can severely restrict endothelial function in the first hour after eating. A high fat meal can do the same for about six hours, the effects peak at about 4.5 hours after. The endothelium lines our vasculature and is responsible, among other things, for secreting vasodilators that help regulate blood pressure and circulation. ED is a circulation issue. So, one could propose that since You are not eating things that may effect Your circulation because You are asleep, Your circulation improves while You sleep and the positive effects are in evidence in the morning. There are all sorts of other factors, just playing with fun physiological facts here. For instance, another factor could be decreased circulatory demand while You sleep. I.e., You're not moving around and placing more demand from other body parts. Apparently, a cock never sleeps.

i hadn't thought of that angle... even friends of Dorothy would suffer.

Just left. my sweet FB, taking me trough covid and now monkey pox, really grated for the connection we have. It's easy and casual, but always deeply satisfying. When He needs, my need it turned up (always seems to be present), and within usually about 15 minutes He is here. i'm always naked and face down, door open. i prep ahead, leave lube on a towel next to me, and another towel by the shower. He likes to shower after. He pumped me full, i can never tell how many times He comes and only really know for sure when He is done and pulls out, though He always leaves a lot of evidence, always a cream pie. i think we both like the convenience of our connection. Last time, after, i asked if He wanted to piss and i followed Him and drank from His semi flaccid cock. His piss was strong, but i still swallowed while He was pissing. He offered on His own today: "I've gotta piss if you want." i wasn't sure whether He wanted or not, i hate to miss an opportunity to receive a Tops desire/need. i wasn't sure if He wanted or was doing it just for me, so i didn't follow Him into the shower. i hope i didn't miss Him. It's important to me to have mutual desire, not just Him doing cause He thinks i like it. A big part of my desire/need is to meet a Top at His desire/need. Time will tell. i have told Him to feel free to piss inside of me, He hasn't... yet? I'd love it, either way, as long as i can see lust in Him for it that merges with my own. Meanwhile, it was an awesome fuck as always. i'm creamy and gaping. All's well with the world.

Right? Our society has both subtle, and not so subtle, stigma against sex... especially gay sex. Half the population of this country voted for a guy who thinks God's gonna judge us all for having gay sex. Yet there are so many things that are obviously bad for us, like eating pizza or buying stuffin a ginormous plastic containers that turn into micro pebbles and permeate the fish we eat, or visiting a friend or family member in the hospital, ad infinitum. i have a sweet friend who texts me whenever he flies on an airplane saying if anything should happen, he loves me. It's too sweet for me to point out that he has more chance dying in a car crash on the way to the airport than dying on a plane, but he doesn't text me every time he gets into a car. Reality is, life is full of risks, whether we are conscious of them or not, we take many risks on a daily basis. i think an argument probably could be made that repressing ones sex drive could have deleterious health effects. 😉

I'd say "safer" vs "safe." Connecting with FB's vs hooking with anonymous strangers is prolly the only form of 'safer sex' i'll practice. Even that was rare, and nothing for the first 8 months of Covid. Now i'm back to one FB because of MP. Didn't qualify for the vaccine recently. Could of lied, but will get it when it comes more available.

To me this is a great example of the connection between who and how we are psychologically and our sexual physiology. As i see it, You were fucking this guy before Your physical cock entered his hole. To me the Guy who understands that our brains/imagination/emotions, etc., are also our sex organ, can develop a whole range of 'foreplay.' i don't take it so much as a compliment, well maybe a little, as i get excited by His excitement. my bottom wiring is such that i am very responsive to my Tops energy. If He is excited, primal, ready to bust, all of that is contagious to me. i pick up His rhythm and when He cums, i am ready to receive it. For me, it's not only His cum i am needing/wnating/receiving, it's His need/want to breed, to have an orgasm inside of me. The fuck builds anticipation, the orgasm is the "climax." How quickly or slowly His orgasm occurs, His orgasm still leaves His body and enters mine.

The title is tongue in cheek. i'm big on profiles. i'm often guilty of writing books when writing a profile, especially on sites that are more dating focused than hook up... though i have often wondered if gay guys only date in movies? Thought it might be fun, or maybe cathartic, to have a thread where we can post some of our 'favorite' profiles. Who knows, this could be educational too. i just read one today on a gay site that is relationship oriented: "Looking to meet a man with similar interests." That was it. No attempt to mention what those interests might be, he didn't even have a profile pic. Another favorite, and common among scammers: "Looking for LTR" or similarly: "looking for the love of my life." But again, nothing else. Okay, maybe they check some of the boxes indicating they are "top" "bottom," or "versatile," but nothing to idicate who they are or who/what they are looking for or distinguish them from bots or scammers. Another: "i never know what to write, if you have questions, feel free to ask, i'm an open book." lol, more like a blank book. If there isn't anything to indicate what the 'book' is about, how's a person to know if they want to read it? THen there's: "i like to watch movies, eat out and walk on the beach." That one is really distinctive. What are some of the profiles that just make you shake your head in wonderment?

i think the anonymity of online makes it easier for guys to be inconsiderate, bringing out their inner three year old. my guess is anyone who does that would to be a less than stellar fuck anyway, obviously self absorbed. It is enormously frustrating though. i think online hook up culture has mutated too. i used to have a fair amount of success with CL, running an ad where i'd be waiting naked and ass up. But it's never been perfect or 100% Nothing has ever beat cruising spots for me. "On my way" is never an issue at a cruising location because the real, serious Guys who want to fuck are already there. If i'm seriously in need of cock, i don't even attempt apps, i just go to the local ABS... covid put a damper on that for awhile, thank goodness for FB's.

To me, a "hard fuck" doesn't hurt... at all. The energy of a hard, pounding fuck is awesome, sort of animalistic? idk, but i LOVE it, not pain at all. i love a deep grinding fuck too though, different kind of energy and just as awesome. i've gotten to a place in life where i notice the energy a Man gives off. The FB i described above with the huge girth had that pounding kind of approach and energy, but i felt no intent from Him to cause pain, which is probably why i wanted Him again and again ad infinitum. His energy opened me psychologically and i figured out how to accommodate Him physically. i loved and wanted His particular kind of pleasure and orgasm... in me. It was a part of Him that He put inside of me, and i am grateful. To me that is so different from guys who want to hurt someone. i don't get that, to me, that is the opposite of connecting. A hard fuck, even what some term "rough" fuck, doesn't come across to me that way if the Man is just hugely needing to breed/seed me. That is so different than someone trying to hurt me. And honestly, there is a sort of psychological masochism that is a part of me, but that's another topic.

Not painful for me. i'm not a (physical) masochist, not into pain. i've prolly had a few thousand cocks, but and count on one hand the number of times i ever felt pain, and that was just initially when a Man had a huge cock and just shoved in. my hole has be conditioned and developed to be a receptive organ, and for a few years now, it's been a lot better at being receptive than retentive. No incontinence, but i do have to clench like i am milking a cock to keep stuff where it belongs. i had one Man who wanted to be a FB. He was not long, but His cock is probably still the biggest i diameter i have ever taken? The first time He fucked me, i got used to it, but took some time and was not really painful, but distracting till i opened enough for Him. The second time He contacted me, i demurred, but regretted doing so, i need/want a Man too much to turn Him down when He wants me. The next time He contacted me, i opened a bit with a plug before He got there, i learned how to open just enough to make it easier for Him to get in and give Him the freedom to just push in. This guy was seriously big, He'd pretty much fuck the cum out of me every time... wasn't an orgasm, probably all from the prostate, but copious amounts to where it looked like i had cum. i loved Him, He had wonderful energy. He really needed to fuck, and the more He bred me, the more i needed Him to fuck me. Sorry, big tangent lol. Good memory. i'd guess most total bottoms with some miles on them stopped feeling pain at some point? idk, i had been putting things in my hole since 7, so by the time i took my first cock, i was ready. my hole had already been molded to receive. i would guess that's pretty normal among total bottoms? Pain has never really been part of regular breeding for me.

When i was younger, i saw everything with an eye towards putting it in my ass. As i got older, i was more interested in Men putting things in my ass. i connect what penetrates me to the penetrator now, and i'm not a penetrator... But a couple of things that went in when i was a teen, my bicycle pump... and then, of course, i had to pump it. in my 20's i worked as a "maintenance superintendent" for a high school. I had a lot of tool sin my office, below is a pic of one of them. The newer ones are not as good. The one i had was heavy, solid metal, 30" long, about 1.5 inch diameter and it had a ball at the end instead of being tapered. i saw it and like Pavlovs dog, went into heat and started salivating. i Put it in a vice and backed my hole onto it, it was a pretty intense fuck for an object.

i was too. i found His old email from MIT and sent Him a note out of the blue. He responded!!! We wrote back a forth a half dozen times, but He was engaged and personable, to a complete stranger.

Oh wow, You were a Man of substance, even as a teen! This reminds me of a similar push back i've been privy to. i had the privilege of having a few email exchanges with Noam Chomsky a few years ago. He's an amazing, kind and caring Man. We were sharing some personal stuff and He told me that when He was younger, He decided He was going to be more religious than His father. Noam is Jewish, and this occurred when He was only 13 at the time of Bar Mitzvah. Both of Noam's parents taught at Yeshiva, essentially Jewish religious university. He told me that about a week into the process, He decided religion was not for Him. i am in awe that a 13 year old had the substance and presence of mind to make such a decision, which He has maintained His entire life. Interesting to me that Jewish culture has maintained the centuries old tradition that adulthood happens at 13 (puberty?).