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LMAO... have often thought of doing this too. i've frequently mentioned on here how sometimes an ad will dom me into buying a toy. i figure that's what it is, because using a toy on myself is just disappointing to me, i need the interaction with a Top or Dom guy to make it 'work,' otherwise, it's like using a broken toy for me. Still, i have a drawer full of toys that rarely, if ever, get used. i ofter wonder if i suddenly died and someone came over to empty my house and open my toy drawer. Eek lol. i have dildos, plugs, vacuum pumps, electro, a fuck machine, several cages, sounds, really big plugs for stretching, enemas, catheters. These are all things i wish another guy would buy because He wants to use them on me.

As one who subscribes to the sexual spectrum theory, it's impossible for me to give a black or white answer to this.... however, with that qualification lol i was married to a woman for most of my life. my wife tried to give me anal penetration a couple of times, but never with a dildo or strap on. Her obvious reluctance with just a finger made it so i didn't want her to even attempt to penetrate me. After divorcing, i thought i might be Bi since i had been able to have sex with her, successfully, and even part of me enjoyed it. i did/do love her. i tried dating a few bi women after divorce, they wanted sex, i did not. my former wife is the only woman i've ever had sex with. Turns out, i'm pretty damned gay. i'm also bottom with a decided sub streak. Honestly, i think the fact that both my former wife and i were both sub in nature was the biggest impediment between us, which for me, brings us to the topic at hand. Penetration, to me, is a Dom act. There are certainly Dom women who cage and penetrate their men, and i believe there are lots of straight guys who are wired that way. Women and Men are different in ways i have found hard to put my finger on or describe. i dated a FtM trans person for awhile, really liked this person a lot. i believed and cognitively accepted when he said he identified as male (he had not physically transitioned). But there was something emotional, something i just couldn't identify that said "WOMAN" to me that i just couldn't escape. He liked to top, using his hand, but i never had sex with him because emotionally, to me, there was something decidedly 'woman' about him. It wasn't a physical thing, it was emotional. For me, getting fucked is in big part mental and emotional. i have been penetrated and fucked by guys who used a dildo or their fingers and felt every bit as fucked and penetrated as if they had used their cock. They were so connected to the dildo or whatever they used that they penetrated me with their self. And for me, that is the most important, vital part of being with a Man, Him getting inside of me and leaving a part of Himself in me, not just the physical part (which for me is connected to the emotional/.mental part of Him). For me, even if by some form of surgical magic a woman managed to get a functional, semen shooting penis, if those emotional aspects i cannot name, but identify as 'woman" are still there... i will not feel the same. i will not get what i need or want as i would from a Man who is maybe using a strap on or dildo, but is still fucking me and penetrating me with His Self.

i think there is a vast, untapped mind fuck potential that few ever wander in to, and this is a part of that. Personally, i don't just any of the kinks frequently discussed on BZ independently. i relate to them as powerful D/s (for lack of a different frame of reference) places where we can connect. To me, "collaring" is about finding a deep and complimentary need whose opposite attracts and presents and opportunity for bonding between us (bondage?). E.g. a 'dom' has the need to control, the 'sub' the need to be controlled. Continence represents an area we are conditioned to control from an early age. There are books and studies devoted to "potty training." Giving up that control is giving up something deeply conditioned. For me, having someone (a "Dom") who affectionately "collars" that in me and attaches a leash to it (so to speak) that He controls, it a a way of bonding with each other in a profoundly deep way. i don't pretend to understand it thoroughly, just around the edges... it's mysterious, but profound. For me, doing this to myself is sort of like masturbation, which i find a substitute for what i really want/need.

Just tasted my own urine. Was sort of spontaneous, i didn't have to go much, so i just cupped my hand and squirted a little into the palm of my hand and slurped it from there. Warm and a little salty with some other flavor i can't identify. Honestly, i guess a part of me wants to be a little prepared for when a Top pisses while i am sucking Him. The flavor isn't really something that matters to me, i just don't want to be repelled by the flavor when it happens and have a negative response. i'm also a little concerned about quantity, i.e., if a Top has a huge amount that comes out and sort of overwhelms? i wanna do it right and well when a Top gives me HIs piss, so that's where my mind and emotions go when i consider it. Honestly, tasting my own urine feels a little bit like cheating to me, which i know is silly, but it's because, for me, it's the idea and intent behind taking a Tops piss that gets into my head. When i think of WS with another guy, i have urine to be discarded, He has valuable piss to mark, inseminate and impregnate with. It's a part of Him the He can use to effect and possess a bottom.

lol, obviously there is a god and He's into all this stuff. i am truly happy to read of your positive experience though. So much hype out there, it's really great to read about something that made life better for you. Yay you!!

Being fucked by a pierced cock is sooooo hot on different levels. I love the way it feels and I love the idea of it, it feels incredibly Dom to me, looks so hot, feels amazing and makes me feel so sub. I fucking love it and the men attached to them.

I see a difference between “femmes” and female ( i.e. MTF). I’m bottom and gay and love a guy who’s Top, I don’t care if He’s femme, that can even be a mind fuck turn on for me, but I’m gay, I am not bi or straight, I’m not attracted to a female, and not attracted sexually to other bottoms.

"Top" contacted me on A4A saying he is on the DL and not too experienced. He told me he only uses a condom, and when i told him i don't use condoms he said he also likes a "good bj." Yep, i do that, as long as it's skin on skin. i arranged for him to come over to my house and walk in my open door. He hesitated and wanted to knock, so i told him i'd but a sign that says "cock sucker" on the front door, so he'd know he has the right place. He walked in, got naked and sat on my sofa, legs spread, and i came in from my kitchen, nelt between his legs and began to suck. He had a nice 6.5 with bigger than average balls that promised a good load. i love it when a Top makes sounds and gives feed back, and he let me know how much he was liking it. He held my head in both hands and at one point wrapped his thighs around my face. That made it a little harder to get my breath, but he obviously liked it and asked if it was okay, and i mumbled "yes" with my mouth full. Once he had my face between His thighs, He got very turned on. He was trying to make me work for it, and said so, but it didn't take him too long before He announced He was coming and began to thrust into my mouth. When i felt his cock do the telltale enlargement before coming, i took his cock into the back of my throat in time to feel Him shoot a nice, long full load into my throat. i always keep a guys cock in my mouth after, do a sort of cool down where i just hold it in my mouth with occasional sucking while it goes soft. i hold it in my mouth soft for awhile just in case He needs to piss. He didn't. but it was of course awesome. To me, it always is. awesome receiving a Mans orgasm into me. sigh.

i've been searching my memory, but i honestly cannot remember. i can remember the first guy i sucked, his name and every last detail. Same with the first guy who bred me, but i cannot remember my first anonymous load, and there's prolly been a few thousand? It was likely in a restroom under a stall wall, i took countless loads that way, especially early on. i was DL and that was the only way i knew how to get bred.

i've always wondered how guys are measuring? Starting from the anterior or posterior side (which switches when erect)? If you start from the anterior, it will be shorter than if you start from the posterior (from the taint). in that context, i' 7 to 7.5 and tend towards girthy. And i swear, the less i have used it as bottom, it seems to be shrinking.

This is a hot vid on several levels for me https://xhamster.com/videos/drink-it-boy-3743226# The boy in this vid comes across to me as wanting to please... the look in his eyes? idk, he totally reminds me of a dog ("pup?") who wants to please. i can see a lot of guys this will appeal to. For me, i respond better to seduction than force. If someone forces me, i have to fight myself to submit, seduction awakens in me extra effort to please. i've never drunk piss. i have two fears, choking on the stream or flow and reacting with wanting to spit it out because of taste. Those are mental barriers for me, not objections. i love and appreciate FelchingPisser's input and advice, it's very practical for getting accustomed to drinking piss. Psychologically, though, i associate piss with the pisser, and something in me doesn't want to disassociate the two. Drinking my own piss would feel like being my own top. When i contemplate it as a way to laarn, it feels like trying to fuck and inseminate myself. i know, weird, i have the same sort of issue trying to use a dildo on myself. i think it's because, for me, it's not about the piss, but about the Man the piss is coming from. When i fantasize or imagine drinking a Mans piss, it's always from His cock. Drinking piss from a glass loses something vital for me. Here's how i imagine being trained/seduced into drinking piss: i am sucking a Tops cock and He 'accidentally' lets some of His piss flow, just enough to test me and my response. i imagine myself being startled, but also swallowing it if it's just a little out of the desire to please. If i were to then see a smile of recognition in my Tops eyes, i'd also be tremendously turned on by that. It would be like He found the way to flip the switch in me where i deeply love to please Him. i imagine Him doing this progressively, letting a little of His piss go at a time until i am more used to it, but more importantly, thoroughly turned on by His pleasure and success at turning me, seducing me and sort of addicting me, not to piss, but to receiving piss from His cock. i don't know what it is about piss that makes me want it directly from the Tops cock? i've taken more than a few used condoms and put the cum in my ass, never having seen the Top. Piss for me seems different. I've taken piss up the ass several times and love to hold and absorb it, and maybe that's why i have a different response to it? When i take it up the ass and absorb it, i can smell my Tops piss when i end up urinating, kind of proof of impregnation to me where i can only imagine the effects of absorbing His cum.

eh, that's actually a good point. i'm surprised at the number of guys on their phones when i go to a bath house. Still, i do like and miss the cruising that happened prior to online and apps. Even in restrooms between stalls, that energy one feels is really hot without the delay... both are obviously there for sex NOW, you avoid a lot of stuff, like flaking. i used to even have regular FB's at certain places, was pretty awesome.

^^This^^ On the one hand, we identify things we don't like about women ("fag hags"), but on the other, women are traditionally the ones to talk about feelings. Why is that? my culture taught me that 'real' men don't talk about how they feel. We even have honorable cliche' like: "the strong silent type" that sends the message that real men don't discuss their feelings. i've even seen it espoused in some circles that women are naturally more feeling and men more intellectual. i don't think that is accurate, at least, not to the degree that we have made it a sort of rule. i don't think men lack feelings, i think we have been culturally conditioned to hide/bury those feelings as 'un-manly.' Fuck that. If it is untrue, why buy into it? i see the gay community often emulating stereotypes of 'manliness' (out of fear?) instead of actually being who they are (i.e., men). i think it has gotten to the place where, from lack of practice, men are out of touch with their feelings and often lack the skill set to articulate their feelings. That makes relationship shallow, if not impossible.

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Trying to step back and look at this clinically, i have wondered why so many women are manipulative? One reason i can see is most women have developed in a male dominated culture and there are consequences on both sides. i know this is an over simplification of something complex, but i think in some ways women have developed manipulation as a survival mechanism. I.e., in a direct confrontation, they historically lose in a traditionally male dominated society. Instead of giving up, they have developed different ways to play the 'game.' Again, i think it's complicated, but i'm not convinced that looking at the surface of how men or women act gives us the reasons why. Personally, i despise manipulation and subterfuge, i don't want to copy something i don't like about being a women. To me, those methods impede the very thing that makes life rich: connecting with other guys. When i say "connecting," i don't mean only the physical, but on emotional and intellectual levels as well, which seems to be what you are wanting? i'm not a proponent of "fighting fire with fire," but rather, fight fire with water. i like being a man and being with men, so why adopt or copy methods women often use that will make us like women? One of the things i like about being a man is being a risk taker. It takes courage to be vulnerable and direct about your feelings, but i think it is also one of the things that is hot about being a man. i'm not suggesting you wear your heart on your sleeve, but i'd argue for telling him how you feel and what you want without embellishment. i think it's a mistake for you to assume "...a ''formal'' date as that seems to make many guys go into meltdown." Bluntly put, isn't that stereotypically how a woman would approach this? We've all heard the jokes about how a man pursues a woman until she catches him. Again, manipulation and subterfuge. Do we really want a guy we'd have to trick into a deeper relationship?

i Love how you analyzed this for yourself. Funny (and fun) the differences between all of us. Re your last paragraph, i am exactly opposite. i'll present to any guy who has the need, desire or inclination to breed me, but i am most attracted to smooth, slender, unassuming, guy-next-door types. Subtle vs overt. For me, personality is the bigger attraction, but visually, the packaging i'm attracted too reflects that in the aforementioned attributes.

It depends. if i am horny and just looking for cock and cum, it's doesn't matter. If i am looking for potentially deeper connection (which seems to often be the case), i've learned that age alone is not a factor. i've had some incredbly sensitive, intuitive and intelligent FBs who were in their 20's and have known older guys who didn't improve with age. Stuff like intelectual and emotional maturity are not necessarily associated with age, which is counter intuitive. One wants to think that maturity comes with age, but it doesn't. Maturity comes from experience and how we process/respond to that experience. There are plenty of older guys who have not learned from experience and are clueless. Conversely, there are younger guys who started even younger, paid attention and learned and apply what they know when with others. The guy i want a relationship with, who, for me, makes for the best sex as well; is the guy who is self aware, aware of others, and articulate.

i think you worded this very well. It's a tricky and complex subject. Coming from a religious background (which i am no longer a part of), i find it ironic that the church folk that push this sort of stuff are largely hypocritical. They push abstinence, which results in them pushing marriages that often happen before people are ready to make that kind of commitment because it's the only way they can get sex. Another funny factoid is back at the time Jesus was purportedly born it was common for women to be "betrothed" at age 14 or so. Mary was likely that age when "God" impregnated her, which by US law (heavily influenced by religion), would make "God" a sexual predator and pedophile. Religion aside, i still think this is a complex subject. i think if everyone had a "do no harm" outlook, age would not be the deciding factor, but competence, which is a whole lot more individual. Some guys are more mentally and emotionally competent at 15 than other guys are at 45. One would hope that the experience that comes with age would equip one, but experience is not the only factor of maturity. Generally speaking, i think society has to set an age of consent because people are not individually, universally, responsible. i.e., there are adults who would prey on younger kids and there are laws in place to try and protect those kids. It doesn't fit all people, but what is the alternative?

my read is hypnosis can be a paradoxical experience. On the one hand, i read ErosWIred's account of being mentally "raped," the experience not being "hot, fun or sexy." On the other hand, he also notes that we can only be persuaded to do something that we want on some level. For me, this raises a question of fantasy vs reality and how we often discover (or suspect) that what we want won't equal reality? Many of us here push the edge and look to make our fantasies real. What seems to happen in hypnosis is, once a person is truly under the control of a "tist", the ability to change ones mind if the experience is not what they imagined, can be compromised? It gets down to a question of love and the ethics that accompanies love. A loving person has ethics and does not violate another persons volition. But we tread an edge in D/s relationship. With conscious interaction, we invent things like "safe words" to employ when one perceives they are going beyond their edge. It seems hypnosis has the ability to remove that safety, putting full(er?) control (after a fashion?) into the hands of the Dom/hypnotist? i can see where this could have appeal on both sides of the relationship with some guys in a D/s relationship. i recognize lots of parts in myself that love being controlled, manipulated, molded, groomed. But, i always imagine the wielder of power "loving" me, thus i feel safe to be used in those ways. Many of us, myself included, even perceive forms of 'humiliation' as "loving." i think the bottom line is, experiences like this cannot be generic or "hook up" in nature, but need to be a part of a committed relationship where a deep trust bond has been established. i know i already have that safe guard in place, i'm not an automatic or easy sub. A Dom has to find the keys and places to use them in order to lock, control or bind me. my experience has been, that process is what both the Dom and sub find rewarding in a D/s relationship, though i know not all who identify as D/s see it that way.

Thank you for your sweet and generous comments. From where i sit, you a thoughtful and insightful person and i'm both excited and grateful for your participation on this site. i love this community for similar reasons that you note. To me, both self awareness and the ability to articulate what we see, are largely acquired skills, i believe the more we exercise them, the better they get. This site provides an arena for us to exercise both in a relatively safe environment. i am truly happy you are here and participating, you enrich this community.

This isn't a black and white question for me. For me, it is about the breed, a Top leaving a part of Himself inside of me, inseminating me, hopefully impregnating me with Himself... 'breeding.' That doesn't always men a load. Sometimes it means altering my hole, Him making it His. Or sometimes He's a big mind fucker and He loads my mind and feelings with His seed, even a dildo or hand can 'load' me depending on the Top.

lol, good point, we eat additives and preservatives in our 'food' from an early age. What we eat is the primary cause of disease in the west today. You could always go the opposite direction and start eating a whole food plant based diet without added salt, oil or sugar. i'd love to hear your experience after you have used them, please let us know what you think?

^^This^^ (simply put). i too want to be aware and "participating." The appeal to me of stuff like hypnotism is the desire of the Top/Dom to control me. It's the power exchange, not the taking of power that captivates me. It's the, almost magical, ability that some have to get me to relinquish myself to them. There is a gray area for me, where i become aware after the fact that a Top or Dom has gotten me to do something or done something with me like stealth pissing my ass, and i am still bonded by Him. That still involves my participation, if not my outright permission at the time. That's a sort of risky act on the part of the Top/Dom, when they do it in hopes of finding a place in me to collar vs just doing it because they don't care about me. That is the biggest stumbling block that some in the D/s community seem to trip over with my type of sub nature, that submission is not carte blanche but rather an achievement, a demonstration of the Top/Dom's prowess.

my sense of you over time is that you are a real and honest person. i trust you and what you write, so this piques my interest. i've never been hypnotized, so far as i know. i had a FB who used what i retrospectively considered "hypnotic techniques" (massage to relax, blindfold to sensory deprive), but i think mostly He understood how to find my vulnerable places and capture them. my interest in hypnosis, and D/s in general, is the dynamic of molding and grooming. i have no desire to be used unscrupulously, i look for compatibility and relationship, the attraction and bonding of opposites at the deepest levels of who we are.

This is really hot to me, but in a more subtle way? I.e., having a Top who nonchalantly puts a diaper on me with no mention of "adult baby," but with the intent of molding me. i'm not into role play at all, i love real. But molding and grooming can be enormously Hot, especially when done in a subtle way.