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Yup. And to not there is a big difference between being turned on by people different than you, and fetishsizing it. For example some anthropologists have theorized that if it was not for social constructs humans in general would much more likely to try to procreate with other humans that are somewhat different than themselves. On the fetishing end of things some of my pics that I use for apps it has me and fuck buddies, some of whom are black. When some other guys see them they comment with "oh I see you like big black dick" To which my standard response is always, "I just like good dick regardless of color" I do find many black men attractive, but that doesn't mean they are automatically just a huge dick to me, and some people need to get over that idea. But that's exactly my point, The dick or ass feels the same regardless of skin color. Its the mental image one is giving to them self that is different.
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Yeah I'm just about over and done with this forum. Yeah its nice to openly discuss sexual stuff, but the stuff that matters hardly gets discussed. The rest of it is (likely) internet fantasy from people that IMO probably only do 1/10th of what they say the do. That's one of the reasons I don't discuss my personal sex life on here, I don't need to, I just do it. It gets really old, especially when replies end up being shit like "YEAH MAN JUST GET POZZED, THE BUG IS GREAT"
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Jacking off and doing are two very different things. In real life the poz fetish stuff on here is WAYYYY over exaggerated. The guys that glorify being poz are just living in a fantasy world. There are no upsides to being poz now that PrEP is out. You can do the same things they do and stay NEG. If you want to take loads, then go on PrEP if you are in the US. HIV is forever, if you are scared now, you wont feel any better if you contract it.
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I said something similar to this before in another forum, but... I'm a white guy there is a lil bit of latent racism in this forum about black men, as well as a lot of "mandingo" fetishization going on in here. I've been with guys from all walks of life, including many black men, and I've had two ex's that are black, and I can assure you that many of the stereotypes are false or greatly exaggerated. Black dicks, just like men of all races come in all different sizes, and they are not all "hung fuck gods" I cant even count how many times I've surprised a black guy I'm hooking up with, simply by wanting to top him, instead of "taking his black dick" Additionally very few black men are attracted to the kind of fetishization talk that many talk about in here. (its a huge turn off). This is one of the many reasons so many black men only date and fuck within their race. So quick tip, if you want to attract black men, just treat them like any other guy, and leave words like "BBC" etc out of the convo. As for is it taboo? No unless you are racist or stuck in a old mentality about race relations. This goes for both sides.
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Yeah I have a friend who became infected in Aug or Sept of 2012. PrEP became available in July of 2012. If there would have been advertising he most likely would have been on it, but because there was so little publicity he just didn't know about it. He's still a huge advocate for it now.
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Maybe its a generational thing, since you are older, and saw so many guys die that you feel that way. Most poz guys I know welcome PrEP because it takes way so much of the fear of rejection, and stigma. Not to sound callous, but if you didn't infect them, there is no reason for you to feel bad.
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Negotiating Casual Sex When In A Relationship
wood replied to AussieBBoy's topic in General Discussion
Its one of those things that is highly dependent on the attitude of the two people involved. Ive been with guys that would never consider an open relationship, and others that wouldn't have anything but an open relationship. You both just need to talk it out and see what you want, and how you will go about it. If the relationship is strong IMO, sex outside of it shouldn't matter in most circumstances. -
The only issue I see with this is that just like we have seen HIV+ guys lying about being neg, There have also been guys who lie about being undetectable. Is it common? Id say no, but it does happen, and I've encountered it myself. I have a FB who went off meds for two months due to issue with depression, and there's a great chance he wasn't undetectable after that. Another guy I met online said he was undetectable but didn't know what meds he was "on" or when his last labs were.
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I stand corrected, but I would still be VERY wary about doing such a thing. People often dont know or plan when they have sex, so even the idea of planning out 24 hours in advance is tough.
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Really Pretty bad idea. Nothing like this has been studied because the chance of developing viral resistance is quit great if you do become infected. Additionally For PrEP to be effective the medication has to reach certain concentrations in certain tissues, a few pills before and after are unlikely to do that. Sorry man I wish I had another answer for you but I dont. You best bet otherwise to start PrEP using the generic equivalent (Tenvir-EM) It can be found online for about $100/month. If you do choose this route however ou still need to get initial tests from your doctor, considering what the NHS does, I would just be forward with them about what you are doing and request the tests necessary, but dont tell them where you are getting the medication.
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How often do you disclose HIV status in sexual activity.
wood replied to wood's topic in General Discussion
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As much as some of the chasers and guys who glorify HIV on here would like to think so I really doubt anyone would chose to stay poz. As long as the cure was relatively easy. IE something like a course of medication, not something like invasive surgery, I really doubt anyone would stay poz. Additionally I bet at that point governments would step in to offer the cure at little to no charge. It costs a lot to treat HIV, and while a cure wouldn't be cheap either, it would almost surely be cheaper than lifetime treatment. Look at the current drug solvaldi for Hep C. Yeah its expensive, but people are coming around to it even with its expense because its cures the condition, and is MUCH MUCH cheaper than things like liver transplants.
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1) take it whenever you feel like it, but you want to try to take it at roughly the same time each day. Don't freak out if you happen to take it 8 hours later one day, but its just a general rule of thumb. 2) Truvada does't require food, if you get an upset stomach taking medication you may want to try it with food. 3) 7 days provide sufficient time for the medication to get to the areas of your body where you may become infected (rectal tissue, etc) 4) http://www.drugs.com/drug-interactions/emtricitabine-tenofovir,truvada.html
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Ahh interesting info, I didnt know they had that kind of data now. On the second part, it constantly amazes me how little people talk about status. Not that asking is always going to give you a correct answer, but it does start a dialogue. On that note I flipped with a 19 year old a week ago, we both came inside each other, and kept in contact a bit since then. It was only today that he asked me, "oh btw you are neg right?" I reassured him, but also told him he should consider PrEP. Hoping and luck are terrible ways to prevent HIV.
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I'm a white guy and even i can tell there is a lil bit of latent racism in a lot of this posts, as well as s very defined "mandingo" fetishization going on in here. I've been with guys from all walks of life, including many black men, and I can assure you that many of the stereotypes are false or greatly exaggerated. Additionally very few black men are attracted to this kind of talk, (its a huge turn off). This is one of the reasons so many black men only date within their race. So quick tip, if you want to attract black men, just treat them like any other guy, and leave words like "BBC" etc out of the convo.
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Ignore it, he always posts exactly the same things, making it sound like getting HIV is like winning a new car. Being honest it sounds like you are going to do it no matter what, so you might as well protect your self. Go on PrEP and have the fun without the worry of HIV. There is a PrEP forum on here for more info.
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Good link. I kinda feel like anyone who barebacks consistently, especially as a bottom will have an abnormal pap at some point, its just so common. I guess it just a matter of when it happens, and how fast it goes away. Its kind of does serve as a reminder that yes, PrEP is amazing at preventing HIV, but it only does that.
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Do You Wish You Had Started Barebacking Sooner?
wood replied to rawTOP's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
Nope, I'm glad I did things the way I did. I'm 30 now, and if I had started any earlier I probably would have become poz, and I don't want that. When PrEP came out it changed everything for me. The worry wasn't an issue anymore, and I could have the fun without the intense worry. PrEP also came out at a time when I was young enough to really enjoy it, but not so young that I made tons of stupid decisions. So yeah I wouldn't change anything. -
Heads Up For Folks Getting Prep From Kaiser California. Price Increase.
wood replied to rawfuckr's topic in PrEP Discussion
Yup. I like *some* of what the ACA did, and its a good start, but it still doesn't address many of the root issues why costs are spiraling out of control. Drug costs are one thing, as are basic care items. Someone is still paying huge costs for somewhat basic care and meds, and that's why insurance rates will still rise. -
Well sure two is not a good sample size, but undetectable guys are much lower risk that untested "neg" guys. http://www.hivplusmag.com/sex-dating/2014/09/15/undetectable-new-safe-sex That being said, If you are a bottom and want to stay neg, PrEP is still your best option, Mainly because there will always be a "neg" guy who insists he is clean, wants to fuck, and you let him.
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good! have fun! most people dont have side effects but if you do they almost always subside.
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Risk, is a scale of 1-5, based on what sexual activity occurred, if they or I were/are on PrEP, their HIV status, drug or alcohol usage, and even how rough the sex was. I should put it into a formula to make it more accurate, but as of right now, I assign a value based on those parameters. Repeats is simply if we have sex more than once, In my table there is not more than one entry per person, but their entry can be edited, to include other activities. So for example, If I bottom the first time, but top after, I would probably change the entry to vers. Or; If someones HIV status changed, and I had sex with them when they were likely infected, the risk category would go up substantially. This also reminds me however that the spreadsheet needs updated, lol
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So I got my results back, and this is pretty much exactly what happened with mine. Everything was low grade, and all they just suggested getting another pap in 6 months as a follow up. Keep on top of your health guys.
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Do Your Ads/profiles On Non-Bb Sites Scream Bareback?
wood replied to makingwords's topic in General Discussion
ding ding. It really depends on the app. I still say they less that is said in an app the better. people dont read it anyway and go off pics. With that said certain apps, (scruff, recon) are more "okay" with profiles emphasizing condomless sex. Other ones (grindr, a4a, MH, jackd) you will get more hits without being blatant about your preferences. -
So for the guys that don't know their status, what is your reasoning behind not getting tested. Not a judgement, just curious.