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Things have been really slow here at the bathhouses and all of the other cruising venues I frequent since summer. Usually, at least for the bathhouses things pick up once fall arrives and is as good as it gets locally from December through February, but unfortunately this year we might as well still be in the middle of the normal summer sexual doldrums. Guys are at the baths and cruising, but just like is normal in the summer they mostly don't hookup, or when they do they don't fuck. In years past when I was traveling all the time for work I have completely given up on looking for sex locally, while I am traveling some again, I need to be able to find casual hookups more than 1 week a month. Last night was completely ridiculous. I arrived 2 hours before "blackout" night started, I had trouble finding a parking space, so I knew there was going to be a large crowd, but it went down hill from there. The 1st guy I see in the locker room, is 1 of the underwear models changing his underwear/jockstrap before making his next circuit through the club, and before I finished undressing a 2nd underwear model came in to change. The 1st guy I see after leaving the locker room is a young guy who always wears his towel on his head while dancing completely naked through the hallways, but never does anything else. I check the group play spaces, both of them were completely deserted. I walked through the room area, tons of guys circling, but only a couple of doors open with guys just standing in their rooms not signalling anything. Even though hot tub was busy I decided to have a soak since nothing else is going on, anyway. After that I did meet up with a couple of regulars but neither one wanted go further than sucking last night. After about an hour of blue balling I lost my ability to get hard, at least until I see some inspiration. Blackout is about to start, so I get in line to get my position coded glow stick wristband, while I'm in line lots of the posers including towel on head boy and both underwear models checkout, so I think maybe things are looking up. I soon discover more than half the guys have opted for the purple, I don't have a sexual position wristband (maybe they ran out of orange for oral only, since I only see a handful of those, and that is normally what half the guys choose). I finally see 2 guys that I've fucked with before at one of the slings (both wearing green wristbands for verse) trying to fuck but the guy trying to top can't get hard enough and the guy in the sling is completely soft. After a couple more circuits I decide to give the sling a try, the guy I had seen trying to fuck before tries to fuck me, but still can't get hard, leaves to walk around and then comes back to try again but still no luck. Sadly from here, things only got worse. I went up to the porn viewing room and find a couple eating each other's asses, a 3rd soon joins them eating ass, one of the original guys leaves and the other 2 continue for another15-20 minutes until the other half of the original ass eating couple leaves too. The next thing that happens is I get cruised by one of the guys circling the hallways, who gets me to go back to his room with him, only to find out his idea of sex is limited to sucking each other's tits. I run into another older latin guy who sometimes fucks me, and asks me back to his room, he can't get hard either, but wants us to suck on each other's tits, WTF. At this point the crowd is almost gone, I find the guy who tried to fuck me but couldn't get hard trying to get fucked in the sling by a guy with the ultra rare blue for top wristband, but he can't get hard either. At this point it is only midnight, but the club is almost empty and it is fairly obvious that the vide has killed everyone's hard on, so I went home even more frustrated than when I arrived. The posers and the functionally lesbian guys clearly won the night, killing everyone else's sex drive.

Being at one extreme, I'm always surprised by how much sex most humans need to stay happy.

I can't say that I've really ever felt bad after sex. I know it is somewhat unusual, but one of my favorite things in the world is to breed a guy and then flip over and have him, or someone else for that matter, start fucking me. I find that is the easiest way to speed up my refractory period, even in my 50s I'm hard and ready to fuck again after getting fucked for 10 minutes, multiple times. In July I think I came 4 times on 3 consecutive nights in those situations.

The best blackout parties that I can remember attending were in the basement at Midtowne Spa in Denver. My 1st visit to Midtowne was a blackout/ Mardi Gras (only the lowere level was blacked out), and my 1st foray into the packed orgy space I had at least 4 guys impale themselves on my then 30 year old rock hard cock, before I could get back out of it. At the time it initially scared me, it probably took me 10 or 15 minutes to regain my composure and courage to go back in, that was one of the events that wore down my opposition to barebacking as a top. Hawk's had a slightly dark night, every Wed. night, but I haven't seen anything about it at the new location nor do they have a darkroom at this point. Steam still holds theirs twice a month on Sat. nights, but pretty much defeat the purpose by handing out glow bracelets that indicted your sexual position. Orange for oral only by far the most popular at around 50%, purple for I won't admit a position/don't have sex at 25%, red for bottoms at 20%, green for versatile at about 4%, and finally blue for top at 1%. I have problems as the colors fade after several hours with recognizing red versus orange, or purple versus blue, and some of them get offended if you try to offer them anal sex in any position.

I'll admit that I'm generally looking for the opposite of what the OP is looking for. While a little connection is nice, I'd far rather hookup with someone who is nothing more than a pump and dump (either top or bottom) than someone who wants to spend significant amount of time on getting to know each other and on foreplay. I've "hooked up" with far to many guys and invested the time only to find out they don't fuck in a casual hookup situation, and then think they have a claim on you.

I'm with you, that's why I prefer group situations over one on one.

I have run into a few lthat have a sadistic streak, and won't fuck a guy unless they think they are hurting them. Personally I don't want to hurt anyone as a top or take a fuck that hurts from a top. In my mind gay sex is an act of mutual pleasuring of equals.

I'm not quite 8", somewhat thicker than average, and try to be gentle the 1st time and I have been told I was too big more than a few times, even by guys in bathhouses alledgedly wanting all takers. On the other hand as a bottom I've never met a dick I couldn't take, some of them hurt until I got used to them, and I have taken some massive dicks. The biggest overall was probably around 9" and beer can thick, and the longest was around 11" but only average thickness (sadly he greatly preferred bottoming so he only fucked maybe 1 out of 3 times we hooked up).

I've never lived or visited anywhere else that was like cities in the PNW and on up the coast into Canada. I wasn't going to the baths yet when I lived in Dallas, but I had no problem finding casual fucks. I moved from there to Denver, which is where I started going to the baths and had a phenomenal amount of casual sex in the 9 years I lived there. I moved from Denver to Portland, and found myself spending what felt like all of my free time looking for sex but getting very little (like twice as much time as Denver but if I was lucky only getting a quarter of the hookups), so it was quite a shock to me when I moved here. Prior to 2020 I usually traveled for work during the week, so I was able to satisfy my needs that way (unless I got stuck working on projects in OR, WA, AK or BC), but being stuck here for months on end has proven to be quite a challenge. I have frequently found myself frustrated and running out the time limits on my stays since the 1st bath reopened in 2021.

That is definitely true here, once the blue ballers reach a critical mass of 25-30% of the people there it gets difficult to start anything and impossible to keep the ball rolling if you do find someone to fuck with. I know this isn't as true in cities that have active casual sex scenes, like Dallas (at least it did back in the 90's when I lived there).

2 hours is probably a good rule of thumb, the problem is I'm always horny and live in a place where good night and crowd are few and far between. If I'm going to be traveling somewhere that I know I can easily get laid in the next few days I will leave after 2 hours of frustration, however if I've been stuck here for weeks on end and have no immediate plans for travel, I'm usually so desperate that I stay and get even more frustrated for at least another 4 hours. What is possibly the most frustrating is that a large crowd seems to make everyone here even less inclined to fuck than a smaller crowd.

That sometimes works. It seems like more often than not, I find someone who is thrilled to chat, but has no interest in actually having sex. Which guarantees they will seek you out like at chat seeking missle everytime they see you. I'm usually horny enough to take the shot.

I asked about whether I needed to wait on the COVID booster, and was told I didn't have to. I wound up getting the 1st MPOX vax 3 weeks before my COVID booster and my 2nd MPOX vax 6 days later. I had a lot of difficulty getting the 2nd MPOX shot, but the clinic that was giving them was offering MPOX and COVID vaxes at the same time. I know I didn't have any side effects.

I really enjoyed gloryholes when I 1st started having gay sex, and made excellent use of them on campus, parks, stores, malls, and ABS. During the AIDS crisis I only experienced having a guy try to back their ass onto my raw dick a handful of times, however I did get guys rolling a condom onto me, or passing the condom through the gloryhole so that I knew they wanted fucked, and even did it myself more than a few times and then impaled myself on the dick. Once I started going to sex clubs/bathhouses I mostly quit using gloryholes other than for quick blowjobs at lunchtime in some cities. I've also found that their are cities where gloryholes are used primarily by guys who just want to cruise each other without ever sucking, fucking or in many cases even touching ach others hard dicks, which has pretty much turned me off them completely.

I wish you were closer. There is nothing better than flip fucking with another a big dicked verse guy with just spit for lube.

A little spit to get started, most bottoms get naturally wet and slippery once they open up, much more so if they don't use any artificial lube.

Given the potential population of gay and bi men, by the time you remove the total and mostly bottoms (I have met and fucked several that legitimately had more than 9 inches), the ones that are already doing gay porn professionally (probably at least 5% of gay porn actors legitimately meets this standard), men that are impotent, and the previously mentioned group of professionals that aren't particularly interested in becoming known as a big dicked porn performer (regardless of whether it would negatively impact their careers), it is probably realistically less than 0.05% of the population. While I'm not in the truly monster dicked category, at around 8 inches, fairly thick and versatile, I'm am still in high demand as a big dicked top, even out of shape and over 50 years old.

I'm not even sure you have been dumped since this is a casual relationship and his statement was he wanted "to slow things down". I don't think you should have lied to him under any circumstances. Sometimes that means you don't get to fuck, but it is what it is. You said that he is married, so it is possible that his partner is the impetus for his change of mind. He also could have many other kinds of scares that could be causing him to alter his behavior, which may or may not be permanent. I would wait a while before completely giving up on him.

Keep trying, and go when you travel to other cities since some are definitely better than others. I'm sorry your 1st experience lacked intensity, but at least you had sex.

I had a fuckbuddy in grad school who would regularly push his ball in my ass with his cock once I was open, and have to say I enjoyed it a lot. I've tried doing it as a top, but find it painful, I've even tried doing it to wide open fisting bottoms but even their loose holes put painful pressure on my balls.

I would! I have actually tried (videos of guys who can fascinate me) but couldn't do it (my dick is either too soft to penetrate or too hard to bend that way). I did after all learn a lot about blow jobs (both giving and receiving) by sucking my own cock in my teens and twenties. Like sucking my own cock fucking my own ass would be fun, but would be a poor replacement for fucking or getting fucked by another guy. On the other hand I do love having fucking with versatile guys who share my sexual attitude and appetite.

At 53 and being a major slut for almost 40 years, I have a lot to choose from, so it is hard to say what the raunchiest thing I've ever done was. From your examples, in a church (with a girl), in a store (several times), on an open street (several times, I have at least 1 story about it posted in the " Your Last Load" forum), yes. Train and foyer, no. By far the most disgusting thing I've ever done was breed a guy, then took a shit in his mouth and then let him wash it down with my piss straight from the tap, the last time I did it to him was in a bathhouse with other guys watching. It wasn't really my thing, but he talked me into it and I tried it a few times just to be sure, I definitely never kissed him. A regular thing that I do that is fairly raunchy in sex clubs, is to loudly offer to lube bottoms up with the cum leaking from my hole before I fuck them.

I've always enjoyed being watched, as long as it is an appreciative audience.

Hope you recover soon.

I have never seen the point in responding to contacts from those types of profiles. I guess some people consider it rude, or as missed opportunities. I also have no problem blocking local profiles if I sense something is off.