LetsPOZBreed
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BBRT undetectable top.... and now sick like the flu
LetsPOZBreed replied to a topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
Your symptoms, while common for seroconverting, are also symptoms of other things. You really won't know for sure until you take a proper HIV test. I'll echo @PissPigBrooklyn's comment above. Whatever the outcome, you have a community of us who are willing to help out in any way we can. Even if it's just a quick message to let you vent off. -
I don't mind tops getting around - there are plenty of bottoms to try out. The frustrating thing is getting them to load me, rather than any of the others.
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Can I borrow this line in my real life? This is fucking funny and describes it to a T.
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Agreed with @Close2MyBro. I was offered a pneumonia vax through my HIV doc not long after I started seeing her. Honsetly, if you are Poz, I'd take any vaccine they offer - you never know just how any of these nasties will affect your body once you're immunocompromised. That's why early stage of the pandemic, I was effectively a shut in for the most part. Obviously bacterial infections (syphyllis, gon, clap) don't have vaccines, but just know that it's part of the territory. The best thing you can do is to get tested regularly, and try and avoid situations that are a bit too sketchy - I had worse episodes of catching things during my drug-use period, so I've steered well clear of the "party scene" since. Haven't really had any STI issues since then, even after gang bangs and saunas.
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How important is cumming when you have sex?
LetsPOZBreed replied to montyd's topic in General Discussion
If I'm on top, then absolutely. If I'm on bottom, I'm not fussed about it. The important thing on either side is that I don't rush towards it. I find my tops (at least my good ones) like it when I just let them do their thing and not start begging for their cum in the first minute; I'm happy to let them properly get close before I start that. It's actually quite rare to cum when I bottom. Tops that just want to pump-and-dump me will just get dressed once they've unloaded - and I'm perfectly fine with that. But I don't argue with a top that wants to finish me off after he's done. One of my favourite things to do is for a top to let me cum in his mouth for him to kiss it back to me - ensures neither of our loads are wasted, and it's INCREDIBLY intimate. -
Not sure, but you're certainly not alone in that. Occasionally I'll see a guy out and about that I know would really fuck me up physically, but yet I feel oddly arounsed. One time on the tube, this guy stepped on at a station...what we in the UK would call a very "chavvy" kind of guy...grey sweatpants, scraggly, etc. Except he was wearing either no underwear, or boxers, cause you could see more than just a bulge; it was the full outline of his cock, and it was BIG and THICK. I couldn't look away, but knew that if this guy clocked me checking it out that he'd get off at my stop with me and likely pound me into the pavement.
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Rough Sex - Dry, Spit or Lube, which do you prefer?
LetsPOZBreed replied to a topic in General Discussion
I've been fucked with multiple methods. As with most things with me, the answer is "it depends". If I know a guy well enough, I have no problem with him going in dry...especially if we're doing more "forceful" play (if you catch my drift). Spit is good as well, as it's all natural. I always have lube available - whichever position I play. If it's a new guy for me (whether top or bottom), I'll use the lube until I get to know his technique a bit more. One thing I can't stand, though, (especially when I top): OVER-lubing. I masterbate dry (no lube or spit), so if my dick gets too slick, it loses all sensation. Same thing goes when I try to fuck; too much lube on my dick and I'm not anywhere near as hard. -
Dirty talk is one of those tenuous fetishes (if you can even consider it a "fetish"). Sure there are those things we all like to hear, but if either partner says one wrong thing, it can completely kill the mood. I like it, but usually with a guy I've played with before; this way, we know what each other likes to hopefully avoid any unfortunate situation.
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Rule of thumb when I top is that I thrust all the way in and then start shooting in that spot. Makes my bottom feel it throbbing insdie him that way. It's a preference that my tops do the same thing, but some just keep thrusting as they empty out, so the load gets distributed a bit more.
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My verbiage aside, i'm not bothered by you or your posts. I'm genuinely concerned for your health and safety. The recurring theme from your posts that I've read is that you are reaching out for our advice and help (which we're happy to give). The real issue is that you keep coming back to your not being allowed to go on Prep, or you're not allowed to express your desires to your Dom - yet your Dom seems to have his own free will do do as he pleases, even if that puts you at increased risk. Part of me wonders if you're questioning his behaviour as well, and I suspect you are. It's totally okay for you to question this; what we are trying to say is that your current relationship set-up is categorically unhealthy (both mentally and physically) and you need to find a way to change it or get out. I do apologise if I'm coming across as blunt, but sometimes the best advice doesn't come wrapped in a nice pretty package.
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My esteemed BZ bretheren. I want to pose a scenario to you all that I've always struggled with, but really want to gather some advice on. I've been poz for nearly a decade now (UD for all except the first three months of it). Medically, we're fortunate to be living with it in 2021 than we would be if it were 1981. I tested poz at a time when I needed to really turn my life around, and my journey has made me grow up a bit and really look at how I approach things. Overall, I've done that, but there's one area that I have trouble with...dating. Mind you, if we were on the apps or websites, I'm very upfront and honest about my status. It's there in plain English within all of my profiles. That's not the issue. The issue is when I meet a guy IRL outside of technology. He'll be an attractive guy, very engaging, and the connection is clearly there...but I hold back. It's that fear that we've all had at some point in our lives about how a guy's demenour may change once I tell him (which I will; I'm not into proper stealthing or other forms of dishonesty). My question to you all is: How have you dealt with this in your lives? When do you typically disclose, or when do you find is the best time to do so?
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anon hookups: do you worry about getting filmed?
LetsPOZBreed replied to BadInBrooklyn's topic in General Discussion
Been a while since I've been fucked anon, but I worry about this more nowadays than before. The advent of smartphones with video cameras, as well as amateur websites where the average joe can post his own homemade porn, has turned some into aspiring porn stars. I don't mind getting filmed if I've discussed it with my top beforehand; but if he's doing the filming, then I insist on meeting at his place. It's more for my own personal safety outside of the sexual aspect - I don't want the potential of some unscrupulous hook-up posting a video that gives away my own personal address (or directions thereto) to anyone I've not willfully given that information to. -
It's a time-old issue. The apps and websites only put it front-and-centre. It's not like we walk around our respective cities with our position preferences plastered on our bodies (well, not all of us, anyway....). If we were purely dependent on finding mates in public, then we'd resort to just asking - only to find the statistics about the same as our online experiences. Interestingly, if you do a search by position on the apps or websites, you'll find that there are more guys who list themselves as "versatile" than any other position...but then when you try and chat them up, all they want to talk about is getting fucked. As to WHY this may be the case? That's a loaded question (no puns intended). There's countless older threads that address this topic.
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Does wanting to BB mean you have to take loads?
LetsPOZBreed replied to ScaredAndShy's topic in General Discussion
If you're truly not interested in the load, the best chance you have is to explicitly state that. I'm a huge believer in consent, even in rougher (and even still darker) role-play scenarios. In role-playing, though, I will have already discussed boundaries with my partner, though. What you can never control, as has been stated time and again on this thread, is what your top might do in the heat of the moment. Your top may have agreed with your stipulation before meeting and starting, but there's countless stories of a top trying to "convince" you mid-fuck to change your mind (worst time to change your agreement, as you're in the rush of the moment). There's also guys who might just cum in you anyway; it's the type of act that once it's done, it can't be un-done. Both scenarios are a violation of your consent, but that type of stuff unfortunately happens. -
That's one, but there's a second one as well (I forget the name, but posted around the same time)
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I just KNEW this thread sounded vaguely familiar. @hotguy02 we've heard this before...from you, specifically. Always this concern about not being allowed to go on PrEP and so forth. I'm going to borrow a line from the incomperable Whoopi Goldberg... Molly, you in danger, gurl! To answer your specific question at the beginning...swallowing cum is a very low-risk activity to begin with. Exceptions would be if you have open mouth sores or are prone to bleeding from your gums. This risk is present broadly speaking, but much more so with detectable guys. Undetectable is practically a non-existent risk. To go off on a tangent (because I feel the need to state it again, in no uncertain terms).... I don't know you; I doubt we'll ever meet in person. But the number of posts of yours that I've read about your "allegedly" undetectable daddy are making me doubt the veractiy of his claim. And I don't really have a dog in that fight between the two of you. I suspect with the occasional leading post of yours that you have these small doubts in the back of your mind. This is unhealthy (mentally). I implore you to do something about this before it becomes unhealthy physically...if it hasn't gotten there already.
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Ok, that compounds the issue. You're not just trusting your partner, but you're trusting your partner's partners. You can even extrapolate that further into partner's partners' partners... That's not just multiplying your risk, that's exponential (sorry for the math lesson here). I would assume (actually I would strongly HOPE) that you're getting tested regularly to be somewhat sure of your own current status?
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Especially for anon play, I'd prefer not to. I like to hold on to the picture I paint in my head. I once had a semi-regular bud in a previous home city that I would meet up with once in a while. I'd come over to his, go up the stairs to the "TV room" of sorts and watch a little porn to get me in the mood - bottle of fresh poppers would always be there right beside the blindfold. I never saw my fuckbuddy - he'd be in a nearby room just waiting for me to put the blindfold on. My putting the blindfold on would be his signal to come to me. One time, after I moved away, I was back on a visit and he hit me up. This time, though, he asked if we could switch things up for him to be blindfolded instead of me - I'll be perfectly honest, I lost interest. It took away this mystery that I had built up previously, and I just figured that going through it would sully my memories of the past. Was a bit of a shame, really...
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Speaking for myself, I've had more intense orgasms as I've gotten older. As @BootmanLA says, that gooey white stuff we all love so much is semen, not sperm. I've been with many guys...all ages, races, sizes, shapes, and colours. There's no hard-and-fast rule here. I've had 20 year olds barely spray anything at all; I've also been with guys 50+ that not only shoot big loads, but are able to give me more than one in a session. There's too many factors at play. Each guy is different, and some of us (including me) can build up what we shoot by simply holding back for a bit. If I cum just to cum, it's not a huge amount. If I'm inside a hole, it's more intense. If I edge to porn for long enough, I can build it up to the point where one or more shots hit my face.
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Isn't Dallas down to just one bathhouse now? I used to semi-frequent Midtowne when I lived there, but I understand that one closed some time ago. Sleazy motel is good, but I would suggest finding a buddy/wingman to help you out initially. Being blindfolded, you leave yourself exposed (figuratively and literally) to some bad possibilities. I recall the ones up I-35E from Love Field upwards were all relatively cheap and have outside access to the rooms, but it's not the best neighbourhood in spots.
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They're absolutely real. I've been fucked before and had them. Any top who has the skills to give me one has an open invitation to fuck me whenever, wherever, and however he wants. To @ErosWired's point, though, it can be weaponised to wher it's no longer enjoyable. I've been fortunate to not let it get that far. Last time I got one, when my top pulled out, I just remember being there - flat on my back with legs still up in the air, and quivering with that all over sensation. It didn't stop for a while. I was there on a bench at a cruise club, with open and raised legs just shaking and moaning for no apparent reason (if you just walked upon me without seeing what I'd just been through, you'd have sworn I was possessed!) Once I was finally able to stand, I still had this constant feeling of release for some time afterwards. It's too bad the cruise bars in London were shut for so long; now that they're reopening, I'm hoping I can find him and get lucky again (I recall every detail about this guy).
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Douching On The Go
LetsPOZBreed replied to Pozbtm4breeding's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
No need to apologise for this; we've all had our incidents in the past. It really just comes with the territory that this is a possibility, even for those of us who are averse to any "mess". You're lucky in that you have an on-demand top, but I do understand the issue it presents. I would say that you're overall diet is probably the biggest thing you can do; as stated previously, high-fiber and/or high-protien (and I do mean proper protein, not processed stuff) are tried-and-true methods. I only go as far as a proper fasting if I'm having a blow-out night or weekend at a sauna or big group party. -
What is the best about bareback bottoming
LetsPOZBreed replied to Bottom Jim's topic in General Discussion
I think it's just a deeper connection when it's raw. Knowing there's nothing between you and your partner from the get-go bonds you in some way. Yes it feels better, but it's both physical and mental. Pysically the skin on a guy's cock will expand and contract with his arousal level. It also feels a bit "sticky" when lubed and sliding in and out. Mentally, it's just that natural feeling of no barriers. And let's not get started on that feeling of being loaded - how the consistency of the thrusting changes when it's just lube vs when it's fresh cum! -
I've not only seen bottoms like this, but have been one and even fucked a few. Couple of things if you're looking to amp it up at a public gathering, though: - Be mindful that since the advent of Prep, bareback bottoming at sex clubs and venues has become uber-competitive. Post-COVID, this is bound to be magnified by the fact that many of us haven't been fucked in a while and are eager to start back. - Do something that sets you apart from the plethora of fauna that may be about. A jockstrap helps, but a really sexy one would be better. Make sure it fits you nice and snugly, and that it grips your ass well enough to give it that nice rounded share (Since you're young, I'm assuming it's quite firm already). - Once you have a date in mind, prepare in advance. If you have any regular playmates, try and arrange a fuck per day leading up to the event. This should get you accustomed to regular fucking. - Try not to pick a weekend evening, if at all possible (there's numerous other threads about this on the site). The best nights for bathouses and saunas are not actually Fridays or Saturdays, but are instead during the week. This night might vary based on your location, though, so I'd defer to anyone you know if your local area. - Don't expect every guy that fucks you to load you. Especially on busy nights, many tops will try and hold their loads until they're ready to leave - at that stage it's only the lucky bottom at that point who will get it; make sure you're a good fuck, and they may come find you to reward you. - And despite what you may hear from others: avoid any hard drugs at all costs. Nothing turns off a top more than noticing a boy is tweaked of his tits. Sure, it may make you feel insatiable in the moment, but the come down is rough.
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This puzzles me. Cumdump is one of those unambiguous words. One doesn't need to be inside a hole to dump in a condom, so the only true meaning is to dump inside a hole raw.
