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It's a surprisingly common fetish, actually (at least from what I've found). If you're upfront about it, generally you find the guy is either into it or curious about trying it. As far as taste goes, it's kinda like guy's cum; some taste great, others not so much. If it's too strong, I do spit it out. But anyone I do piss play with regularly knows what to drink to make it taste good for me.

Once in uni, I had a guy pick me up at the supermarket. We passed each other in one of the aisles while shopping; he was a sexy muscle daddy and I was about 22 and very twinky. Crossed paths a bit while in the store, and I timed it to where we were checking out at the same time. Ended up exchanging numbers in the parking lot and he had me over about 30 min later. Totally unexpected and one of the hottest experiences I've had!

@ErosWired nails it perfectly (as usual 🙂) I'm similar in that the yes/no dichotomy is separated into two things: the superficial stuff, (age [legal], race, body type, cock size, etc.), and the real thing. I don't deny anyone based on the superficial aspects; I've had lots of fun with guys of all types, so that's never an issue for me. Where I draw the line is guys who aren't that interested in taking care of their own selves or have a blatant disregard for others. Untreated STI's or HIV is a big no-no. As it was stated, it's not only me protecting myself, but also protecting the others who come into sexual contact with me - none of whom asked for that sort of thing. Sure, STI's are part of the bareback lifestyle and can't be totally avoided; if, however, a guy has visible signs of syphillis - I don't owe him anything other than immediately ushering him out the door or blocking him altogether. I've run into instances on BBRT where I've been messaged by guys who use the options under status as "Other" or "Poz + Other". Whilst I do appreciate those guys for being honest, they should fully expect me to ask for details on what that "other" is. It's not about me discriminating against anyone; it's about me making informed consent. I once had a guy who had "other" as his status there and responded with "It means undetectable" when I asked for details...undetectable is one of the options, why isn't he using that? It was a huge red flag for me, and I politely declined further interaction with him.

I was started on Atripla too when my VL dropped below 500. Worked very quickly and I was UD in under 6 months after starting off with a VL of 14000 at diagnosis. I know others who were started on Atripla but asked to be taken off cause of the "trip" factor. I was warned by my doctor about this being a side effect; it did give me strange dreams, but nothing I can't handle. Still on it and still UD nearly 10 years later.

I'm similar to the OP here in that I can't stay hard if overlubed. I tend to put some on my cock when getting ready to fuck, but then always wipe off some excess. That's what I use on my bottom's hole. Might have to try some of the others suggested above (coconut oil and other stuff).

I'm definitely raising my hand and stating "guilty as charged" here. But as mentioned by some others, their techniques aren't always the best. I'm a bit spoiled in that my twink days were filled with sex with older men (including older bottoms). They were willing to guide me and let me know what they liked and what they wanted in a constructive way. And the older tops were the absolute best! I picked up my technique very early on and older men are to thank for that. Now that I'm the older guy, I'd like to find younger guys that I can sexually mentor. Giving back to the community, if you will.

This part right here is why I nearly exclusively got fucked at cruise clubs and saunas (which I thankfully had access to). If I'm going to go through the charade of preparing myself to bottom, I want to get FUCKED. Doing this in preparation for a guy that doesn't show is more than frustrating. When a guy flakes on me after I've prepared, I'm usually too fobbed off to find other options, including going to the cruise bar.

This is a good summary. I've done groups as both a top and bottom (sometimes both in the same night) and all of this rings true. As for the partying bit, this has become more of an issue for me the last few years. In a previous city of residence, there was a guy who hosted a monthly party; these were incredibly fund and most of us were regulars or semi-regulars. We all got to know each other and occasionally met up 1-on-1 outside of the orgies. We would get the oddball here and there, but the host did an amazing job at trying to keep this in check. Nowadays, I've been messged too many times by guys saying "XX guys looking for more", which I immediately take as a bunch of guys on drugs who can't get it up to play. No thanks... As for the selfish bottoms, my friend that hosted the regular parties would tell the bottoms to put on a blindfold and hop in the slings (he had two). The point was that you weren't supposed to care who was fucking you. Would the other guys do side play while waiting? Of course, but the bottoms were the main events and the loads were always saved for them. I've only encountered the selfish ones mentioned by @chipygmalion80 at bathhouses and sex clubs...the ones that want you all to yourself, but don't have the actual sexual skills to keep me from wanting to run away at the first opportunity. Over time, I've lost interest in orgies and groups. I don't get the connection that I get in 1-on-1 scenarios, and it's desensitised me. Not saying I'm looking for the love of my life, but some level of connection is required for me to be even remotly interested in going all the way to completion. One of my biggest pet peeves in cruising for cock online are the "tops" that insist that I have loads in me already, and any number I tell them is never enough. Any guy that asks me about how many loads I have gets no further responses from me.

Oh, he saw them. This was BBRT and the replies clearly quoted the message stating where I was and when I'd be there.

As a community, we really need to unhook these two things from one another. I don't drink or do drugs anymore, but I fuck and get fucked bareback only. Not all barebackers do drugs, and not all drug users do bareback. I freely block anyone on an app that asks me to partake in drug use (clearly stated in my profile text, so anyone that asks has obviously not read this).

I know the OP's original question is quite old by now, but to add my two pence: There are ALWAYS more barebackers out there than what the apps/websites imply. More times than I have appendages to count on did I have a guy come over who stated "condom" or "safe" on their profile, but right after fingering and eating my hole attempted to enter me raw and with spit as lube. I took it, of course, but I kept thinking why this guy didn't just discuss this with me ahead of time. This was pre-Prep, and barebacking was much more risky in those days. I suspect the reason is that putting "bareback" on one's profile back then was more about how some others would judge you ("raw shaming"). At that time in uni, I was living in a very conservative area in the US where many people in the local area knew of everyone else and would openly mock one for things stated on an online profile. I suspect even now there's the question of "what if someone that knows me sees this?" and suddenly someone you don't know sexually now gets to see all your sexual fantasies and practices.

I've been flaked on recently as well. I've thought I've gotten better at sensing this, but things fall through the cracks. My situation: Guy in his mid-20s approaches me on BBRT. We exchange a small number of messages and he asks if I can come to his..gives me his postcode. At this point in the evening, though, public transport would have shut by the time I got to him, so there was no real way of getting back home. I ask for a rain check that evening and he agrees. We make plans for the following evening. I rarely do that last part, as future meets never pan out that well. But right on schedule, he messages me to set up that evening. There was even potential for some rougher play (me to him) and he asks me for a safe word. I get a good feeling about this, as I generally don't get asked that by a guy who flakes. I make my way to the station, near certain that I'm in for a hot time; tell him I'm on my way and if he can confirm his actual address so I can pick the right house... ...then crickets. Twenty minutes later (and two stops from my destination) I get "did you leave yet?" I couldn't believe it. The flakiness around "have you left yours yet", "what time will you get here", "did I scare you off", and that whole thing, when I've clearly messaged my arrival time and asked for confirmation of address. I was livid. I haven't bothered for a meet-up since then. It's just not worth it right now.

If you're bottoming, don't expect to be loaded right away - and don't expect every top that fucks you to unload in you. Many tops are only good for one good load before they're spent, so they save it for most of the night. Be patient and stick around as long as you can stand it; hopefully at least 75% of the way through. At some stage, the tops are going to want to cum, and you don't want to be that guy that peaced out after 2 hours dry and disappointed. Also, if you're bottoming, do wear a jockstrap. It's a tell-tale sign that you're there to get fucked. Similar to comments above, based on my personal experience: - Personally, I prep for almost an entire day leading up to an event. No, that doesn't mean I constantly douche myself from morning to night. What that does mean is that I take it easy on the food intake that day of (i.e. no fast food or anything like that), stick to drinking water for quenching thirst, and I prob have a late breakfast and nothing after that except maybe a piece of fruit. Means there's less to douche out later in the evening (which you should still do of course), and little risk of things materialising midway through the evening. - Many places (in London anyway) require the wearing of shoes in the venue. Even for parties where this isn't the case, I'd still wear some anyway. Trainers work best for me, as the socks are where I store other things I need: poppers, lube. - Have your own poppers and lube, and something you can carry them in - i.e. high-top socks. The lubes provided at these venues (if at all) is going to be the generic water based stuff that dries out too easily. Also, be mindful of poppers in a dark venue...I've lost many a cap in the dark that I've struggled to find afterwards. Also, I've got an armband that has a zip in the bask where I can carry some small amount of cash (if there's a cash bar there). - Don't limit yourself to ideal "types". You'll find there's something for everyone, and also that you'll end up playing with (and having the best time with) a guy you would have ordinarily passed over on an app or website. - If you see two guys hand-in-hand (especially in gear), they may be a Dom/sub couple as mentioned by @ErosWired. You will need to approach (or be approached by) this situation differently. If a guy is clearly the sub, err against doing anything to him unless and until given permission. - Also, don't interject yourself into a scene in progress if you haven't been invited to do so. It's one thing for tops to be in a circle taking turns on a bottom (which is fine), but if you can see two guys eye-to-eye, locked in a passionate gaze with one another - DO NOT get between them by touching either one of them in any way. They are having a very intense moment, and you don't want to be the one breaking their rhythm. - And if you are in the sling waiting, and nothing is happening, and a couple guys walks over and asks if they can use it - get out of their way and let them. You can always come back afterwards, and would help if you walked around and tried to find a partner that way.

I'm down for that. Just let me know as it gets closer and I can arrange my schedule to suit!

That could work, though I need to plan in advance. Most weekdays I work until 6 or 6:30, but can find a reason to fuck off early with some warning.

This is a good idea. How easy depends on what type of night we go Naked night (preferable, but hard to wear something that will stand out) Clothed night (we can prob come up with some sort of "outfit"

I'd be up for this if we get a good mix of tops, vers, and bottoms. Wouldn't be much fun if all the bottoms said yes, now would it? 😄

I've thought about this before, and the answer is yes. Not because of any conceit or anything, but I've often wondered what my tops or bottoms feel and see when they are with me, all those points of feedback I've received over the years. Also, no one knows what you like better than yourself, so I think I might learn a thing or two.

Great to see the other side of this: - tops who are concerned with "how many loads do you have" and always seems to want me to get more before committing to meeting. These guys aren't serious and are just looking for fap bait. - "it takes me a long time to cum": i.e. they're a boring fuck - "sometimes I have trouble cumming": i.e. they are on some prescription medication that makes them horny, but not so much that they are actually interested in fucking. - "have porn playing in the background": I'm not able to get hard naturally. - "any cock pics": I'm actually looking to bottom, but will decide based on what you're packing. Also, similar things to the top thread - no pics, blank profiles.

My top side doesn't come out often, but when it does: Completely agree on the unfilled profiles. I'm not expecting one's life story, but at least make an effort in describing what you're after. Telling me you have X number of horny guys over and that you're "looking for more". If you have that many there and aren't doing anything; I have to wonder what you are really up to (which I know is likely drugs). Also, I don't like guys who don't show a genuine interest in me - i.e. treating and speaking to me as if I'm just any random cock and load that you are looking to add to your collection.

I've just turned 42; age is nothing but a number, as I feel I've grown more sexually as I've gotten older. As to the original poster, you're one hot sexy fucker. 🙂 Although your profile states NYC, I wonder if you ever make it over to London?

I'd say yes to this as far as cruising being more a thing here. But based on that photo, I wouldn't mind getting in on the action 😄

Revisiting one of my older posts. Thanks for the votes and comments, guys! Even those of you who put "no"...it's not for everyone, so no need to apologise for disliking it. I think the stats on this are going to be skewed for a few reasons. The main one being that the guys who will read this post are already in the cocksucking discussion area, so this is probably going to mean more yes'es than the true population. I find it's the type of thing that needs to be discussed beforehand. Some tops just don't want to have anything to do with your cock at all (which is fine); if a top sucks me during foreplay, I might casually ask then - we'll go for it if we agree that it's okay. I'll admit, this has been quite rare, but the times where this happened are amongst the most memorable sexual experiences that I've ever had. For me, cum swallowing actually isn't about the taste at all - though I've the Samantha from Sex and the City "funky spunk" guys in the past. Swallowing, or sharing, cum is more about the intimacy of it all.

Yeah, I've had this with a heavy shooter who didn't warn me he was about to cum. I knew he was close, but didn't realise how intensely he was going to cum, as it was my first time sucking him.

Among other reasons I love this: I just think it's being respectful of the top to let him exit on his terms and not mine. I know that's very subby of me, but a top guy appreciates this more - and keeps them coming back. For me, the absence of sex over the last year or so has made me re-evaluate just what I actually enjoy about sex with another man. I've gone off the whole cumdump thing altogether; either me being one, or being in a situation with one. I also find that a top guy has a much easier time with me when he doesn't feel pressured to cum inside me quickly; instead, I prefer he takes his time (as long as he makes it feel good). This is why I also don't really get turned on by most bareback bottoms nowdays. They don't build that desire in me that makes me want to really fuck them; it's all about wanting my load and nothing else. I want them to show a genuine interest in "me", not just being some nameless, faceless squirting dildo.