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Appreciate your compliment 🙂 Further to your point here, though, this is where we bottoms have to be extra careful. Unethical as it may be, trying to withdraw consent in the heat of the moment is very risky. There's always that possibility of a top not honouring this, and that's unfortunate. This is one main reason that I try and vet out any potential tops first (i.e. not just telling them my address after two messages); if something sets of my internal alarm bells, I back out and move on. Your consent only needs to be violated once before it sticks with you for the rest of your life.

I just prefer to do this at home before I head out. My thought is that no one wants to see or hear this being done at the venue of choice. I don't think most places have spaces for it anyway, though.

I've often wondered about this, but I would prefer to have one in addition to everything else. I top about 1/4 of the time lately, and I do enjoy it when I do...would hate to lose that ability; however, I would love to have the experience of having an actual vagina to see how it might be different to taking cock the way I usually do.

Hopefully not creating a false equivalence here (so apologies in advance), but it's a consent thing. Anyone (top, bottom, vers) can withdraw their consent at any time if they feel uncomfortable in the moment. That has to be respected. While I may be disappointed/annoyed that this consent was withdrawn right before loading the guy up, I honour that decision regardless. It's similar to when I do any fetish play and someone says the safe word during play - in the moment, something can feel a bit "too much". I'm not going to violate a guy's consent, just as I would expect that some guy won't violate mine.

Perfectly fair question, so no need to apologise for asking it. It's something I've shifted on over the years...usually didn't mind when I was younger. For me, I like the idea of building a connection...I do like seeing a nice cock/ass/body, but if you can stimulate my mind a bit first, then I have more of a desire later on.

Good topic. I find that many aspects around the notion of having sex come into play here. Certainly this whole idea of "gender roles" may come into play where a guy might (erroneously) think that because he's "masculine" then he has to be the one on top. I've encountered quite a few guys over the years who simply state "I don't bottom". It's one thing if that's just your preference - such as tried it and hated it, or even some past trauma (abuse/rape). It's another thing entirely to write it off just becuase taking dick is seen to be too femine. Also, being "slutty" is viewed as going against these heteronomative ideas, although straight people can be just as slutty (if not more) than some of us. Where I grew up in the rural south of the US, I would have some guys ask me "how many guys have you been with". It's not like I keep a counter by my bed. Also, what difference does it make? Back to the original post, I don't like unsolicited nudes...it's a different story if we've gotten to the point in a conversation where sex is on the table, at which point it becomes relevant. I also feel that it's perfectly acceptable to fuck on the first date. Sex may not be everything, but I definitely want to experience a physical connection with someone. I'm not all about this "wait until X number of dates" or anything like that.

Overheating during cuddling is an actual thing. It happens to all of us. Some guys tend to give off more body heat than others; I personally give off a lot, so it's been fairly commonplace for my guy to separate from me after a little while to cool off. I don't take any offence or read anything else into it.

I personally don't care what the "community" thinks, but I also think the community is a bit disingenuous about cumdumps - and even barebackers in general. In uni, I lost count of the guys at the gay bars who would give me the evil eye because I was unashamed of my sluttiness. These same guys would find me on the gay chat rooms afterwards and message me for a fuck, and ask to fuck me raw as well. It's not about what the community thinks; it's never about what the community thinks. It's more about "what would my friends think", so they find avenues where their friends aren't looking.

I'd just caveat it with this: speak to your bottom about it first. This technique does take some practice, whereby you have to know how gentle to start. Also, you need to know your bottom's limits well enough to know just how slowly to ramp up the intensity. An added benefit to the top is that because you're holding position for a bit (whether "just the tip" or balls deep) it helps you edge your load a bit. It's hard to resist the urge to blast off and go over the edge, but try and wait until you revert back to a thrusting pace.

Maybe just personal speculation here, but I wonder if drug usage plays a part in this. I used to get so turned on by TIM vids back in the day when they first started to really challenge the mainstream studios in popularity (think early '00s timeframe). I've looked back on some of these, though, and don't really get what got me so hot and bothered about these. I can see obvious tweaked out bottoms going through the motions, and even the tops can have this glossy-eyed look on their face during the scene. Personally, back when I was using (about 10 years ago), when I was high off my tits, I couldn't even get hard...let alone try and get myself anywhere near the point of cumming. Maybe it's a similar thing?

I'd say that if the original question is referring to someone in particular, there's an obvious place to start: just...ask him. That's not to say he might give you an honset answer, but the whole thing can be also be down to mismatched expectations. You may like him, but have the both of you made a commitment to one another? This really isn't the kind of thing one should just assume. I actually don't expect any of my potential partners to be monogamous with me prior to actually discussing this. And even then, I'd say that I've become less inclined toward monogamy altogether.

I like tops that can vary the pace at which they fuck me. What you've suggested @hntnhole about the initial slow "get to know you" strokes is amazing; I feel much more comfrotable with a guy if he seems more interested in testing my proverbial waters befroe getting to the hot and heavy stuff. One of my favourite things that a top can do, though? Once I get really comfortable with a guy, I like him to get a little rougher, but the hottest thing that can be done to me is this: ...the slow withdraw out to where only the cockhead is still in. Then holding that position for a little bit to build my anticipation and then WHAM...a big push back in. On the first one, not too hard, but getting more intense with each one. For me, it's that sensation of "loving pain" where I'm looking deep into my tops eyes as he is now balls-deep and letting me once again relax around his cock. My general rule when I top is to borrow the techniques I've experience with the awesome tops who have fucked me over the years. If a bottom isn't being too demanding and lets me take the lead, then I never get any complaints by doing this.

This is a great question! I've actually had this conversation with an ex-partner before when he asked me what I loved about it so much (he wasn't into having cum in his mouth). I said that for me, the taste isn't phenominal...in fact, the taste alone is generally "okay" (with some exceptions...I've had guys who had the sweetest, most delicious cum before). The act of doing it, and the mental stimiulation of knowing that I took my guy over the edge makes it all worthwhile for me and easily beats any taste that may arise from it. That being said, as much as I love the act...I will spit out rancid tasting jizz in a heartbeat. We all have our limits.

I've had this happen too. When I would go to the cruise spots/sauna/sex clubs, I would always wear a pair of ass-less underwear. Fits tighter than a jockstrap, so it makes it more difficult for those wanting to reach in and try and pull my cock out. There'd be enough fiddling around on their part that my arm would go straight for their hand and pull it away. I'm not even massively hung, (instead, I'm pretty average size), and when in bottom-mode I'm rarely even hard at all - just don't see what would be calling out to someone saying "I should pull his cock out".

I've come full circle on this, certainly on bottom and also on the few (but increasing) instances where I top. When I was younger, I loved the connection...cumdump sex never appealed to me then. By my late 20's, though, as I started exclusively barebacking, I got into that scene...especially after I started regularly attending group parties and the like. It was fun for a bit, but after a couple years I came to the realisation that something was missing. I wasn't really enjoying it any longer, and noticed how I would gravitate to one guy at the group and just focus my efforts there. So, now I am back to wanting connection. If I'm at a cruise club, I find a guy that I click with, and we find our corner and just go at it. I'd rather spend the whole evening with one guy having amazing sex then have a parade of half-assed attempts where I may or may not get filled. I'm more discerning on the apps, too. I don't post for multiple loads, or look for multiple guys. I actively seek sessions with top guys who like that I will appreciate them and not just their DNA. On the increasing chances that I may be on top, I immediately disengage with a guy who tells me about how many loads he already has in him, or that he is clearly looking for just a pump-and-dump and nothing else. I also disengage when my potential bottom starts to ask if I know of any other tops that I can get to use him with me (no...if I had other top mates, I'd ask them to fuck ME not YOU).

10 out of 10 for me from the UK

This site is amazing for pozzing porn. I haven't been on it in some time, though; think they pulled an xtube some months back and a whole litany of my favourites were deleted. So, I honestly haven't been back to see what remains.

Agreed on the stats of the poll in a couple ways. Yes, the number who voted "yes" to this is shocking and concerning. But this isn't representative of the whole population. This is just those of us who saw the post and poll and voted; there's lots of guys out there that aren't on BZ, even if they are exclusive barebackers - and if we put this type of query out to them, the "no" option would (I hope!) quickly run away toward a supermajority. That being said, I'm in no way condoning or defending any person who voted yes, or put in a comment supporting this practice. If you're going to stand on that street-corner soapbox @ErosWired, I hope you've saved room for me, cause I'll stand right there next to you. If these last two years have taught us anything, it's that you don't really know how one individual person would react, both physically and mentally, to being infected with some pathogen. Our bodies react in different ways to things. Admittedly, STI symptoms are much more well known (i.e. there are clear clinical symptoms of gonnorhea, for example)...but if you've KNOWINGLY infected someone with this, and they were not aware that you had it - you bear a level of responsibility for the consequences of that action.

I've had the idea of starting a small role play "family" similar to this, but never put much actual effort into making it happen. There are a number of reasons why that's the case, in addition to what Bootman has listed above. Bottom line, this gets overly complicated in a hurry and can easily go off the rails and lead to animosity if not handled properly. - Not going to rehash Bootman's comments, but yeah. The bigger your family gets, the sheer number of dynamics becomes unsustainable. At a certain number, (I'd say anything past 5), you should expect a larger family to split into smaller ones as we all want our share of consistent action. This could also lead to hurt feelings between the original family before the breakaway, thinking that they are somehow not "good enough", "hot enough", etc. You can't be expected to leave feelings totally out of it, even in a purely sexual context. - Honestly, it's hard to set up a group of 3 guys or more already, even if it's just a plain vanilla threesome. Add in a specific fetish role play such as this one on top of that, and this becomes next to impossible unless you know exactly where to look for other guys into this sort of thing. - Also, you'd need to be careful in adding new members to your family. It's like inducting someone into a club...you want to be reasonably sure their intent is genuine. Specifically, you don't want to just add one person to a family of three, when that newbie is really just after one other member - (see first point about hurt feelings). - If you were fortunate enough to find others interested in doing this, the most important factor in getting this going is having a core solid group. Some level of attraction has to exist between the members; ideally each family member would actively want to play with each other member one-on-one or together. And you have to negotiate some ground rules as well. These rules can include what actions are/aren't allowed outside of the family, such as the ability to play outside of the unit (think "open relationship" but on a bigger scale). And also has to set out if there is the potential for adding new family members later on, and what criteria and process you'd follow before accepting someone new.

It's the kind of thing where: "if you see me out in public, people can't think we know each other" Applies to many types of guys, actually: "str8" guys who fuck men, guys in non-open relationships, or other guy men who fear being judged by their "friends" for their sexual proclivities.

A little bit of a relevant question: How did this topic even come up with this guy? Did he just put it out there, or had you both been talking about fetishes and the like? Admittedly, this one is for my own curiosity. My thoughts and advice echo the other posters here. My concerns here: - Doesn't sound like you brought this topic up in the first place. It was possibly put forth for you, and you just kept discussing it. If this would be your first experience with literally any of these acts, I'd apologise to the guy and back out. This is not the time, this is not the partner. - You need to have an "out". Something like a safe word or some other way of stopping the scene if you feel uncomforable. Your partner needs to know this word, know why you are assigning a word, and know that your stating this word stops all action immediately. Anyone you've not actually met before might not honour this, and you shouldn't be taking this chance. - Even if the guy is genuinely into any BDSM stuff, this is too intense a scenario for a first meet. If a Dom wants to get you to this point, there has to be a roadmap to get there. Start out with some spanking first...if you don't get into that, then how do you expect to enjoy getting beat up? That's one example, but it applies to the other things listed. - You have to look out for your own safety here. All of this points can lead to disastrous outcomes if not careful, and I don't think you're into those consequences. If you want to be introduced to these kinks, I'm sure you could find dominants who are much more willing to guide you into these the right way over many MANY sessions.

I usually don't, but that's because I forget about it when I'm on my own. My preferred method of tasting my own is to have it fed back to me via a cum kiss with my partner.

On a lighter note, wanted to get a sense out there from my fellow sluts. What are some of the more interesting words you've ever had a guy use during sex to refer to his cum? We all know the usual suspects....cum, jizz, sperm, load, and spunk. Ever have a guy say one that has caught you so off guard that you've actually laughed? I remember years ago there was a proposed book out there that listed all of the different synonyms (semem-yms) for this, and there were quite a few interesting ones in there. Don't think it ever got published though.

I get them regularly as well. Similar situtation as above...my sexual health doctor did a whole thing my first visit about sexual preferences and what-not. I was a bit embarrassed talking about this (it was a lady doctor, and I'm not exactly accustomed to going into this type of stuff with women, being a gay man and all). But after that, this has become a regular occurrence for me as well. Haven't had anything found so far, but it's important to keep tabs on it - especially as I get older. By all means, if you're offered a pap smear...do it. Better to know and have something done about it, then find out about it much later when it's a more serious issue.

I get what the original poster is saying, though. I've had both "known" and "surprise" breedings before as well, and admittedly when I was new to barebacking, I felt quite differently about this. To be fair, not every guy does the porn-style thing and announces he's about to cum. Many of us do, but it's not really our natural instinct to do so; there are other cues. That being said, I also get that if you didn't discuss this being okay in advance, I understand this cna be upsetting. I guess it really depends on your scenario, though. I've been at this so long that I pretty much expect that any man that fucks me will breed me. No discussion is really needed. Back in the early 00's, though, prior to Prep...I prob would have taken issue with it if it were a new guy and we hadn't talked about it in advance. I'm a big believer in consent, and doing something that wasn't discussed is a violation of that - regardless of how it makes you feel afterwards. When it would happen that I'd get bred without prior discussion, I had a few days of feeling scared. I wasn't exactly "chasing"; I knew it was a risk; but it still felt like a dick move by my top (no pun intended). Nowadays, I'd say that if you're negative and want to get fucked bareback...PrEP is the way to go (if it's available to you). Won't prevent STI's outside of HIV, but at least you are taking a little more control over your own sexual safety.