When I hookup I ensure that the guy is neither experimenting nor super discreet nor married. These guys tend to be super tight about gay sex. They somehow carry a sense of guilt or shame or fear. Come on guys when you sign up for a gay hookup site you are looking for gay sex which is same sex. These guys really get me turned off and I have had a couple guys who indeed got hard in my mouth but then just left feeling ashamed of getting hard in a guy's mouth. Other type of individuals who call themselves straight tops and they belong to a very specific ethnic group (I dont want to name the group) but they think guy's ass is a hole to be treated like a woman's vagina and they look out for guys in lieu of a woman. Both these categories are really boring. I stick to younger gay daddies upto around 50yrs of age.