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I did consider this argument as I wrote my post, but came to the conclusion that the two issues (race and gender) are indeed different, and stand by that assertion. I think we may just have to respectfully disagree with one another on this. Perhaps we can make a date to check back in 150 years from now to see if either of us is right. The different reproductive roles of each gender are substantial, and have had (and I think always will have) a huge influence on how each gender relates to the other. This appears to be universal across all societies and cultures, both historical and current. Of course, nothing in nature is clear cut, and gender is no exception. Trans and intersex people provide evidence of that. But their existence doesn’t mean that gender isn’t a real thing. It just means that as a society we have tried to create clear cut distinctions in an area where we shouldn’t. Some other societies do take a less binary approach, but all recognize gender on some level or another.
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It disappoints me to see that of all the posts in this thread, this is the one that receives a downvote. What great crime have I committed except express an opinion that racial injustice should not be brought into a discussion on trans rights? Has political debate reached such a level of toxicity that even a suggestion of this sort needs to be punished in this way? @BootmanLAand I are fighting the same war for a better, more harmonious world. Sometimes I might disagree with his methods and his tactics, and from time to time I would like to be able to point this out, without incurring such hostility. It is not as if I posted something along the lines of “Trans men should fuck off and get their own camp”. That might have deserved a downvote. A reasoned call for cautious and thoughtful debate does not. If the intention was to hurt, you have succeeded @Tavros : well done! Has it contributed anything meaningful to the debate? No, it has not. I am fairly thick-skinned, and won’t let your action put me off my fight for societal change through reasoned, civilized debate. But I wonder how many other good people out there are put off from making valuable contributions to this discussion and others, because they fear being burned in this way. Your actions alienate potential allies in the struggle for a better world, and you do a disservice to all those who need our support.
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@blackrobe, this is the point I was trying to make in my earlier post, but perhaps @BlackDude has put it more clearly. Even though discrimination of all kinds manifest itself in similar patterns of behaviour, the core issues at stake are different. This is not a ‘divide and conquer’ strategy, but a genuine attempt to shift the focus onto the real reasons behind this particular form of discrimination (transphobia), rather than wrapping it up in some kind of larger political movement.
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You cannot substitute race and gender (whether cis or trans) in this way: they are not equivalent. Apart from a few minor physiological differences such as skin colour, racial differences are almost entirely in the mind, phantom perceptions that are the result of ignorance and cultural bias. The entire fight for racial equality is about shining a light on this and showing racial difference to be the myth that it is. Gender difference is very real, at least to the vast majority of humans in every culture that has ever existed. The fact that we have (and largely accept) separate toilet facilities for men and women is proof of this, while separate toilet facilities for different races have been consigned to history, thank God. Gender is far more complex than race, and how we as humans respond to gender is similarly complex. There is no equivalent of ‘trans’ in race. Conflating race and gender as you have done in the above post is wrong, and appears to be motivated by a desire to make @myDNA4ulook like some kind of bigot. Please don’t reduce this topic to mere identity politics, when an issue as complex as this deserves to be treated with care and thoughtfulness.
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Read This! Significant Change In Rules Effective 3/1
Spunkinmyarse replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
I think you’re absolutely right- I too was wondering about that. I think the focus of the group has shifted in recent times, and some kind of correction is timely. -
Read This! Significant Change In Rules Effective 3/1
Spunkinmyarse replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
@rawTOP, you’re getting a lot of shit for this. Much more than I thought you would. For reasons I haven’t the time or inclination to go into right now (I might at a later date), I want you to know that I for one broadly support your move, and I’m sure many other ‘silent’ users of this site do too. At great personal cost to yourself in terms of both time and effort, you have created a wonderful free space that has been enjoyed by many, many people over the last decade, and you have EVERY right to nudge it in whatever direction you please. I hope you will not be discouraged in your vision by some of the comments you have received in this thread: keep up the good work!- 80 replies
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It’s a difficult issue on many levels. Excluding gay trans men entirely does seem unfair, but at the same time I think that all groups, including cis gender gay men, have a right to carve out and police their own spaces as they see fit. Would it be possible to compromise and offer trans-friendly weeks at various points throughout the season at campgrounds such as these? That’s the route that some UK saunas seem to be taking, and although it won’t satisfy the most extreme “SJW’s” (new term for me: thanks @MuscledHorse!), it seems like a sensible workaround.
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Haha- wise move, mate! You’ll be torn to pieces and maybe even ‘cancelled’ if you deviate one iota from the accepted political line on this 🤣
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Before Prep became available for free on the NHS, I used to purchase it directly from an online pharmacy called unitedpharmacies-uk.md. I think they’re based in Hong Kong, but the Prep itself is manufactured in India. They were reliable and not too expensive (about $40-50 for 30 tablets), and the product they sent was not only tested and deemed ‘kosher’ by the sexual health centre I use here in London, but actually recommended by them at a time when Prep was not universally available here. A prescription was not required. I don’t know if US regulations prevent the importation of such medication for personal use, or if they make a prescription mandatory. But the same online pharmacy does have a presence in the US, just a slightly different web address: unitedpharmacies.md The product isn’t described as ‘Prep’: you have to search for ‘Tenvir-EM’ There are many other similar online pharmacies. Ideally, though, if you’re planning to take Prep on a long-term basis, you should have a kidney function test beforehand to make sure your body can cope with it, and then further tests at regular intervals to monitor any changes.
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Awww- @AirmaxUK, I was only kidding about being jealous and finding it unfair- I’m happy to wait my turn at the bottom of Cohort 9!
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No vaccine is ever going to be perfect, but we should be careful not to let the perfect be the enemy of the good. In my country hundreds of people are dying of COVID every day: it is not a theoretical or potential harm, it is very much a live one, that is causing massive damage to society in many different ways every single day. How much more damage would be done if we waited another 10 or even 5 years for the perfect vaccine? Anything that can ameliorate the situation NOW is a good thing.
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STI screening & Contact Tracing
Spunkinmyarse replied to CumGuzzlr's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
I think the contact tracing aspect of STI screening is the hardest part- for the most part, the infections themselves are fairly easy to deal with. That’s why in normal times I prefer to limit my sexual activities to other ‘players’, guys like me who use cruising grounds and sex clubs. At least these guys (should) know the score, and look after their own sexual health. I always feel bad if I unconsciously infect a guy off Grindr who maybe only plays occasionally. I’d rather avoid the situation by avoiding guys like that entirely. -
Yeah, but it makes the rest of us who are still waiting feel like real second-class citizens 😩 So jealous of you guys- it’s not fair!
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Yes, it is! He’s my all time favourite top: superbly built, good-looking and hung, he fucks rough and hard, but is somehow tender and attentive towards his bottoms at the same time... I love the way he sometimes nibbles their ears or kisses them on the neck, and he always tells them when he’s about to cum... he’s the perfect alpha male, and all tops should watch and learn!
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Hampstead Heath: a summer to remember?
Spunkinmyarse replied to Spunkinmyarse's topic in London Metro Area
Yes, I can vouch for that too. I reckon there were a number of nights this last summer when there were easily 300-400 guys there. I haven’t been recently, and am quite surprised to hear how many guys are still heading there in the depths of winter- makes me think this coming summer is going to be another one to remember, given it looks unlikely that the sex clubs will be allowed to open any time soon. I’d definitely like to meet up with @Rawnegholeand @RawPlugthere when the weather warms up a bit- I just hope there’s enough spunk left to go round! -
Central Station in Kings Cross needs our help...
Spunkinmyarse replied to AirmaxUK's topic in London Metro Area
I’m afraid we might have to fight hard post-COVID for sex-on-premises venues. If the powers that be try to shut us down completely by refusing to issue licences for such premises, we may have to start taking direct action. I suggest that at the next Pride March (whenever that’s “allowed”), we start having sex openly on the street to make the point that there’s nowhere else for us to do it. -
Share your Twitter to connect with London Barebackers
Spunkinmyarse replied to BBareguy84's topic in London Metro Area
@Essexcumdump1 -
Yes, I remember applying for a mortgage in the 90’s, and although I can’t remember exactly how it was worded, there was a question on the application form that basically asked if you were gay. I didn’t want to lie, and asked my (very sympathetic) mortgage advisor what I should do. She said that if I answered truthfully, it would be rejected, and my credit rating would bomb, but that if I decided to withdraw the application at that point, my credit rating would also bomb: Catch 22. The only options left were to lie, or just ‘fail to complete’ the application... I chose the latter- a typically British solution, taking maximum advantage of a ‘grey area’. The things we put up with back then... hard to believe now in 2021! Mind you, it was only a couple of decades before that when you couldn’t apply for a mortgage at all if you were a woman! When people moan about the state of the world today, it’s things like that that remind me that we have made progress, and that for millions of people, things are better now than they have ever been.
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Anyone have a Private Gloryhole in UK?
Spunkinmyarse replied to DarkroomTaker's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
Funnily enough, I’m just in the process of setting one up myself... -
Ha- I wouldn’t say that things are going ‘well’ in the UK (in fact we’ve just recorded our highest daily death toll since the pandemic started)... but the vaccine programme is well underway, and that is cause for some optimism.
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Yes, it is hard. During the summer, I did take advantage of the ‘lull’ and started hooking up with guys again. I had some memorable times at Hampstead Heath, which almost made up for the fact that most sex clubs and venues remained closed. But when cases started rising again with the new variant, I decided to close up shop again. All I can say is that the vaccine programme seems to be going quite well, so far at least- and if things remain on track, we should be over the worst by the spring. Even if it takes a while longer for venues to open up again, I expect I shall feel comfortable enough to start meeting guys once I’ve had the vaccine, or even sooner if infection rates drop back down to the levels they were last summer, and the health service is no longer struggling to cope. That’s assuming we don’t get any more nasty mutations, of course...
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Disease and illness are part of the human condition. That’s one lesson this pandemic has taught us only too well. You can wrap yourself in cotton wool and try to protect yourself from all harm, but is that really living? Engaging in winter sports involves a high risk of serious injury, but millions choose to do it anyway. Contact sports such as boxing, football or rugby involve additional risks such as head injury and brain damage, but millions choose to pursue such activities regardless. Having lots of unprotected sex increases your risk of contracting STD’s, but millions balance that risk against the pleasure and fulfillment they receive from it, and choose the lifestyle of a cumdump. Life and living involve risk: finding a level of risk you are comfortable with is something each individual has to grapple with as they proceed through life.
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Even this topic has been discussed before 🤣
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I would agree with @ballerva. Bring your own bulb douche, at least- they’re small, light and easy to pack, so why wouldn’t you? That said, I found the bars and clubs in GC surprisingly well equipped with douching facilities, surprising because I come from the UK where such facilities are virtually non-existent. I’m used to carrying my bulb douche with me when I go to sex clubs in the UK, but in GC this is unnecessary. Reds and Zoo both had an excellent set-up, Bunker less so. As for the hotels, I only stayed in one, so it’s hard to say...
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@Dexus, I know that nothing I say will convince you that turning 40 is no big deal- but is really isn’t! However, like all of us, you will only understand that with hindsight- such is life! Didn’t you feel the same about turning 30? And how do you feel about that now? I think many of us feel a sense of resentment towards the pandemic, that it is robbing us of opportunities to fuck at a key time in our lives- we’ve already lost a year, and may well lose the best part of another. But the truth is, there is no ideal time to lose those years: it’s just as frustrating for the eighteen year old who is losing his teenage years as it is for us older cumdumps, who have a nagging sense that time is running out... But I guess that, on an individual level, if we get through this and all we’ve lost is some great opportunities to fuck, then we should count ourselves lucky.
