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The terms are frequently used interchangeably but there is a subtle difference in degrees of attraction between the two: A fetish is something non-sexual that a person finds sexually arousing and needs it to get off. A fetish will arouse you regardless of whether you are in a sexual situation. A kink is something outside the mainstream that enhances sexual enjoyment but is not essential to the act, and may not turn you on if you are not having sex. It gets confusing because the same object can be either a kink or a fetish depending on the person's needs or attractions. Here are a couple examples of the difference: Underwear. If you get turned on going to a store and touching the undies display, then its a fetish. If you like checking out the bulges of guys wearing underwear, then it's a kink. Leather. Lets say you see a hot guy wearing leather that turns you on. Now imagine he take off his leather. If you lose interest in the guy and want to fuck the leather, then you've got a fetish. If you're still interested in the guy, then it's a kink. Piss. If you like piss play with sex, it's a kink. If you hang out in restrooms because the sound of guys pissing turns you on, then it's a fetish. So a kink is something that enhances sexual enjoyment while a fetish is an arousal and need for the thing itself. And just for the record, writing replies on obscure sex topics is definitely not my fetish. The fact I'm naked and hard is completely coincidental....

Wuf! *sniffs butt* *wags*

In my opinion, an aggressive bottom takes control to fuck himself on the top's cock. He does all the work to make the top orgasm and milks as much cum out as he can. I usually hear that described as being a "power bottom". A submissive bottom follows the top's direction and allows himself to be used in any way the top desires (within the limits you define). I think most bottoms who are in tune with the top end up doing a mix of both to some extent. What you describe is being sort of passive-aggressive to be a bare only bottom. So I'd say you are a bare only submissive.

Some of this has been touched on already, but I think there are four main reasons that bottoms take and send dick pics. Not everyone is a good photographer and it is easier to take a decent selfie from the front than from behind. Just think about how many pics you've seen that are blurred, badly lit, off center or taken in a mirror streaked with splattered toothpaste. Cameras are everywhere but few know how to use them. Pics from multiple angles provide a better representation of the person than pics of only one body part. They say the camera doesn't lie, however there are ways to manipulate the pose to accent what you are aiming at. There's nothing wrong with getting a pic of the front -- you might flip him over and fuck him that way sometime. Pics are seen as porn and not necessarily a "job application". Most guys -- including straight guys -- look at dicks in porn. While you may be only looking for an ass to fuck, others may find it erotic to see all sides. (This also leads into the fourth possibility) Fakes phishing for return pics or other useful info. This is usually obvious when it's someone outside the area, but still a possibility for someone local as well. I used to have a picture of a chicken standing on a donkey that I'd send to fakes who wanted pics of my cock and ass.

Unfortunately, that's not likely to happen. HIV is a global problem. There are fewer people on meds or on PREP than not. For the virus to die out in the way you asked, it would require everyone on the planet who has sex or shares needles to practice some sort of protection and work toward not spreading the disease. Even if that were possible, a kid born with HIV today could live 100 years so the possibility of reviving the virus would continue for at least that long. Plus there would still be a chance that the virus could make the jump to humans like it did the first time. The two things that could potentially make a dent in the spread are a vaccine that prevents acquiring the virus, and a cure that removes the virus from someone who is infected.

Some of those things I don't think are an issue. A farmer's tan shows that you are at least somewhat active. I'd rather see that than pasty paleness like you haven't been outside in 10 years. If you don't like the farmer's tan, then take off your clothes and go for the swimsiut or full nudist tan. The dark ring around the anus is another thing I don't see as a problem. If I am that close to you to where I can see it, I'm more interested in getting my tongue in the center than critiquing your "bullseye". Butt hair and pubes, I prefer to keep trimmed short. I think it shows off what you have to offer better. I haven't tried any hair removal products so those opinions will have to come from someone else. Also on the topic of hair, I can't stand seeing nose hair, ear hair, or big bushy eye brows, so while you are trimming, take a look at that. Creams to keep the skin supple and smooth are like doing a full body lube. I like lube. 😁 I've thought about taking a collagen supplement. I'd be interested in hearing if it helps. An area that a lot of guys could use some help is weight control and posture. I was fucked recently by a guy who was grossly overweight. He had to keep moving his belly out of the way to stay in me. If he had been 50 pounds lighter I think it would have been more enjoyable for both of us. You don't have to workout to where you become a musclebound bodybuilder, but if you look down and you can't see your penis, no one else can see it either. Regardless of whether you decide to make any changes to your body, probably the most important "improvement" someone can make is to be relaxed and comfortable with who they are.

I'd have mixed feelings about that. While I love dirty darkrooms and the idea of getting whored out and fucked repeatedly has it's appeal, I'm already poz so that aspect wouldn't excite me that much. Plus, I wasn't a big fan of the '80's when I lived through them the first time. So I guess it would depend on a few other factors like whether it's a one-way trip, and whether I keep my current body or revert to my over-sexed 1980's twinky self. All in all, I think there are other experiences I'd rather have and other times I'd rather visit. I wouldn't mind an orgy in ancient Greece, or getting whipped naked in a medieval pillory. Hanging out with Oscar Wilde would be ... wild. Watching Andy Warhol develop (pun intended), and being a model for Maplethorpe would all be on my list as well.

That's true. Adding fiber and eating more fruits and veggies is long term advice -- it's advice on how to keep your colon healthy, bowel movements more consistent, and, has the added benefit of making douching easier. Making a small change to your diet probably won't make a difference today, but could make a difference in cleaning out tomorrow. And these changes don't have to be expensive or time consuming. Pick up a box of high fiber cereal or a fiber supplement and try it for a month to see how it effects you. If you see a positive change in that time, you know to continue, and maybe look at additional changes. If you don't like it, drop it and try something else. As for a quick and easy solution for an immediate clean out -- it's probably not going to happen. If you keep producing sludge and it takes hours to douche, then you might as well just plan on doing a full enema since you're not getting it out with a small douche. But if you are willing to look at what changes to diet can do, some things to try are: Fiber. Can be in the form of a high fiber cereal, added fruit or veggies, or a supplement Cut back on coffee and cigarettes if you use them -- they both can have the effect of turning your shit to sludge that continually oozed through the intestines. Probiotic supplement. Acidophilus is the good bacterial that helps digestion.

Ha! Yeah, it seems the only ads I ever see from Vers guys are when they are looking to bottom. But I can understand saying you're Vers when you like to switch and do both. What I cannot understand is when a guy says he's a top but wants me to fuck him. So he's a complete top except when he's fucked by bottoms? IT always reminds me of the Monty Python skit of the guy who pokes his head out from under a Scotsman's kilt. He says: "It's OK, I'm a doctor. Well actually I'm a gynecologist, but I'm on my lunch hour..."

If you have a gathering of tops you'd have a massive amount of hormones and hard-ons, so maybe call it a "rage" of tops. If you have a group of insatiably hungry butt-boys, I think that might be a "greed" of bottoms. A group of guys into oral would definitely be a "swallow". Now I'm trying to come up with names for a group of drag queens, ABDL diaper boys, and a few other fetishes.

I was at a theater last night because it was Thanksgiving and I needed my turkey stuffed .... So, it gave me some time to think about the things I'm thankful for. I'm thankful for the porn that taught me about sex. I'm thankful for internet sites like this one that provide a forum to discuss sex. I'm thankful for adult bookstores, gloryholes, theaters, and bathhouses. I'm thankful for cocks and the cum and piss that flow from them. I'm thankful for the dildos and lube I use to open and grease my hole. Those are just a few of the things that bring joy and keep me motivated throughout the year.

Competitive Bottoming sounds like a worthy addition to the Olympics. A field of bottoms is released into a dark maze. They must find the tops and spend a certain amount of time on each cock. No points awarded for repeats. The bottom who successfully couples with the most tops within the allotted time wins the round.

I'm sure I must have been hypnotized at an early age. It's the only explanation for the raunchy things I've done -- I certainly wouldn't do them of my own free will ... would I? 😉

My first thought on seeing the title was : "What's wrong with the British Broadcasting Corporation?" Yeah, I can be clueless on some things, but one thing I know, after looking at DrrAld's pic is, I'd eat that ass.

You said "everyone was kissing and cuddling but no fucking going on" so it's not like everyone else was getting it on and you were being left out. Also, if you've got other bottoms coming around to chat, it probably means they weren't getting much either. Overall, it sounds like it was just an off night.

Over the years, I've played as a top and a bottom, both clean and dirty. All can be fun, and as with everything else, there are advantages and disadvantages to each choice. The disadvantages of not cleaning out are that it can get messy, so you need to be prepared for the possibility of a “cleanup on aisle 2”. Also, shit can be gritty like sand paper and/or slightly acidic; both of which can be irritating to the skin if you fuck for a long time. The advantages of not cleaning out are a greater level of spontaneity, raw sexuality, and feelings of acceptance of who you are. It's really nice to do it first thing in the morning after a long night of sex. I know you know that lazy morning feeling where you're relaxed and maybe still half asleep. You reach beside you and feel a stiff morning wood, and all you want to do is take it inside you and satisfy both of your needs one more time. The last thing you want is to have to check your hole for butt boogers. You're both washable, the sheets are washable, but you still need either a level of trust that the top won't freak out if it gets messy, or an “I don't give a fuck” attitude. Preferably both. It's also fun outdoors or someplace you can fuck like animals and not worry about any clean up. As I said, it's spontaneous raw sex. On the other side is the clean out. The disadvantages are that it takes time. Sometimes it takes more time to clean out than it takes to fuck. It can disrupt digestion if you also skip meals or do anti-diarrhea meds to try to slow movement through the intestines. Douching rinses away the natural mucous coating on the inside of the rectum. This makes you more susceptible to abrasion so extra lube may be necessary. And even if you clean out, you may still worry about whether you are really clean – especially if you are bottoming over several hours for multiple tops and taking multiple loads. Worrying about whether you're clean (enough) can make you skip potential fucks or keep you from fully relaxing to enjoy the ones you do. By cleaning out, the advantage is that you avoid (most of) the mess and can usually stay active longer with less soreness and fewer concerns of what others might think of your sloppy hole. I think most people prefer to at least start out clean, but the longer you fuck, the more likely you are to end up getting dirty. Most tops understand that it's a possibility and the ones who don't, probably should stick to fucking a fleshlite instead of an anus.

At some point in time, (almost) everyone lies on their profiles to get sex. Some don't update age, or pictures. Some guys over inflate the size of their penis. Some lie about sexual orientation, relationships, or HIV status. Basically they say whatever they think you might want to hear to be able to fuck you. And if you're only looking for a fuck, what's in a profile doesn't really matter that much.

The best way to make him comfortable with you in bed is to relax and enjoy the fuck however it happens. If he opts for a condom, you can always take the used one and squeeze it into your ass. Tell him something like "now I'm ready for your next load."

Jerking to porn does have some advantages (it's safe sex, lasts as long as you want, it's there when you want it and it can be repeated as often as you want, etc) but it lacks social interaction and the tactile stimulation that another person can provide. I don't think you have to give up porn, just modify the way you use it. Try watching it before you go out to stimulate and increase your level of horniness. Edge to it but don't cum. If you go out and don't find what you're looking for, you know the porn will be there to get you off when you get home, but it won't have prevented you from going out in the first place.

My personal opinion is that, if you haven't done it already, it is a good idea to get vaccinated against whatever illnesses you can. It true there's no vaccine for syphilis and gonorrhea, but you can get vaccines against HPV, hepatitis, and pneumonia. Even getting a flu shot is a good idea because, even though it's not considered an STD, it's still hard to be a cum dump when you're in bed with the flu. So, stay on prep and eliminate as many other risks as you can. From there it's up to you to decide what other risks you are willing to take.

I've heard guys say they would love to be the "fluffer" who gets guys hard before a porn shoot. Personally, I'd rather be the clean up crew and lick the cum off of whatever it lands on.

BtmByTheBay has really good advise. Just to throw in my two cents (which in today's economy is worth about half a penny,) this is sort of my writing process. When I write a story, I'll ask myself two questions. As I develop an outline for the story, I ask myself that annoying question that every 2 year old continually asks about everything: "Why?" I ask myself why are they there, why are they doing that, and why did that happen? That's my way of fleshing out details and developing a back story for the events I'm writing about. Once the story is written, I edit by asking myself the second question: "Is this necessary to the telling of the story." If it's not necessary, or impedes the flow of the story, I take it out. This takes out the fat and helps prevent it from being too long and wordy. Sometimes those stray bits I've removed can be worked into another story so I don't worry about the effort of writing them going to waste. Finally, I read it again to search for typos, missing words or sentence fragments. (This third step is important because as you write, there is a tendency to anticipate what you intend to write, which makes it easy to skip over errors without seeing them.) Once I'm happy with the story, all that's left to do is upload it and go out and get fucked to celebrate.

If I saw myself in a club, I'd probably pass -- I'm too old for myself now. But if I could get fucked by the younger version of myself when I loved to top, I'd definitely go for that.

I'm surprised there haven't been more responses to the thread. The smell of urine is very erotic. It heightens my awareness and desire for piss. If I smell it, I want to taste it and feel it flowing over me.

My personal opinion is that the only person that needs to know about my sexuality is the guy I'm sitting on. And by the time his cock fills my hole, it's pretty obvious I'm a bottom.