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So do I. He's older, very close to retirement, and Dr. Methuselah is about to be retired from association with me sooner than he thinks. I'm not one to worship at the High Holy Doctor's Shrine. I ask questions and expect answers. I mean, 'supported by research' answers, not 'well, I've been doing this for many years, and I think X instead of Y'. My kid sister is coming for a visit next month, and that's great. As soon as that's over though*, I'll be turning my attention to finding another internist. I couldn't agree more, that the level of care has suffered in favor of the level of Corporate Grasping. I'm not sure how to counter that widening gap, other than to go talk to them, get a feel for who they really 'service' and make my best guess. I am healthy, thanks. I can't even remember when I last had so much as a cold, never came down with covid (knocking), have taken all the precautions, and proceeding with caution. Of course, I've picked up breeding-bugs regularly, but they get treated quickly and that's just the price of doing business. As to all the bug chasing commentary on here, I can't help but wonder how many actually have that kind of devotion to their Lusts, or the courage to actually live The Life. Popularity on a website is one thing; living one's best life is another. I hope you're healthy too, and thanks for the well wishes. *she and I have always been close, she's always been completely supportive, but I don't think she knows quite how gay I actually am. I've been hammering at getting the slingroom taken down, put away, getting other things ready, blah blah blah.

I waited to read some of the responses before doing so too. As to the pain, yes, it does hurt for a little while, but not that badly. The biggest chore is q-tipping while it heals. I had 5 done, and the airports were always fun. Some years later I had to have a surgery, they all had to come out, and by the time I was outta there everything had started to grow shut again. So, while I enjoyed the steel very much, and the reactions they engendered, I just put piercings in the "been there done that" drawer. But, there are a couple of magnificent scars - one that only truly talented tongues can discern !!!

Mine wanted me to come quarterly, but I told him it would be monthly for testing. The way I see it, the quicker some bug can be detected and treated, the better. When I explained my thought process, he objected, I insisted, and that was that.

I may be wrong, but I think that we earn more responses if we reply to other posts more, or create our own. From a business perspective, that would encourage users to actually use the site - participate - not merely agree/disagree/etc (and, of course, click on some of the advertiser's ads). Clicks-through do count towards keeping the site healthy (and free to users).

Better than poppers, by far !!!!

Listen to ellentonboy, all you other guys. He knows whereof he types ......

No, of course not. The whole point is that the loads came from anonymous Cocks, indicating that the bottom is a cumdump, which also indicates that he loves raw Cock up his gut, which is my kind of bottom !!!

There are a thousand wonderful things about Chicago. The cultural life is world-class: CSO, dance, theatre (Chgo has better theatre troupes out in the neighborhoods than Ft. L. ever dreamed of), Art Institute, on and on and on. Yes, it's flat. In winter, the freezing cold wind starts in Canada, and winds up blowing right up your ass. And we do get Nor'east'r's off the lake. Politically, it's a safe haven for Progressives. I happen to be on the slim side, and while FL gets these hurricanes once in a while*, Old Man Winter arrives in Chicago every year, and lasts for 4 months - every single year. Since you're in the NW, maybe that's ok with you. For me, the long, cold, dark days always got to be a bit much, and I was planning to move South for years before it happened (enabled by a number of other issues being resolved). There's every reason to try Chicago for a year or two, and then decide. It's about a 1200 mile drive, easily done in two days to get to Ft.L.. Lots of guys do it in one, when there are multiple drivers. Or, an easy flight, and the Ft. L. airport is just south of downtown, not way out west like O'Hare. Maybe rent a place up in the 49th or 48th Ward for a couple of years; quiet neighborhoods, close to the gay nightlife, but not right in the middle of it. Or, the 44th if you like being right in the middle. *The last one to impact Ft. L. was Irma in 2017, with a glancing blow to Ft.L. as it moved up the peninsula. (I know what this must read like - so - no, I'm not being paid to push Chicago - I just loved living there). btw - lots of people think the wind off the lake is why Chgo is called the Windy City: False !!! In the early days of the city, it was a "wild-west" boomtown kind of place, and so many entrepreneurs were bragging up the opportunities in Chicago, all the bragging was considered "being windy". And thus, it's the braggadocio of earlier generations, not Lake Michigan, that gave Chicago it's nickname.

I would observe that no one, single guy can pretend to speak for everyone else. There are guys that like every characteristic listed above, and guys that like only certain ones. Same applies to disliking them. No one single guy speaks for the entire Community. Every guy can only speak for himself: whether that's enlightened, inclusive or dark and self-centered, it is only one voice amongst the spectacular, widely-varying, and complex points of view. So by all means, continue to "bother". There are plenty of guys out there prowling for you, and guys just like you.

I'm not unfamiliar with this kind of situation. The "vibe" isn't right - no guys are making pigs of themselves. If you can identify another pig that's wondering when the fun will start too, maybe approach him and say something like "wanna help me get this mess sorted out? Let's stir this pot and get things cranked up" Sometimes, it takes a couple of guys to turn the key and presto - the engine roars to life. Or, just announce something like "who's here to fuck/get fucked?" Sometimes it's surprising how little it can take to give that last liiiiittle tiiiiiiny push to get everyone over the edge. It happened more in Chicago than Ft. L., as I recall. If nothing works, I just ditch and try another joint. Sometimes, we can make things happen, sometimes we can't.

As long as it's understood that this is not a heavily "choreographed" event, with scheduled events, etc. It's mostly a week of orgies at different fuckjoints, hotels, guest houses, etc. Always a good chance to Breed in a lot of Fresh Hole from gawd-alone-knows-where. My first thought when I read your post was GC as well; lots of His Majesties stalwart, dedicated and horny subjects !!!

Good Lord ..... I didn't realize all the issues and problems and on and on regarding our "back door". Maybe I'll just get the whole asshole removed - lock, stock and barrel - and be done with it !!! One of those doctors can figure out how to install some phoney doo-dad so I can still - well - nevermind .......

Thanks for the comment. At least I know it's not just me being critical !!!

No need to feel horrified; accidents can happen. Your gut just fooled you the first time, and it happens sometimes. The point is though, you did your job, offered your Hole to a Cock, and subsequently realized your Hole had a little surprise waiting. Every Top has had that happen, and it's no problem at all. It just happens sometimes. So we fix the problem, and go back to sharing a hottttt fuck !!!

Sure I have. And, just got a reminder in the mail from the insurance co. It's been a number of years since the last one, so - it's 'grin-and-bear-it' time again. What I don't get though, is this little dancing asshole box on tv, with the voice-over giving all the disclaimers. It is clearly said that "false positives and negatives have occurred". So why the fuck bother with it in the first place? If it's unreliable, and the dancing box says it is, w.t.f. ??? I'll just go to the internist and get it done.

Once again I mirror your position: 1. I've been in darkrooms that have been cleared out in moments because one guy was too selfish, uncaring, too lazy to prep his shitty Hole. Some fuckjoints even have the proper gear to accomplish the task. 2. Unless there's some particular fetish involved, no guy thinks the stink of shit is "hot" - particularly in public backrooms/fuckjoints. If that peculiar fetish is in play, then the participants should have at it - not in some public place - but in the privacy of some guy's home. 3. If anyone - on BZ or any place else on earth - owns a fetish of this kind, great. Do it where it won't offend the rest of the crowd. And have the decency to keep it away from other guys that do not share that particular fetish. Pardon the usage, but please: 'give a shit' about every other guy who paid his money to get in the fuckjoint too, and not just yourself.

Sorry to know this, sthrnguy. Hopefully some other arrangement can find it's way to the decision-maker(s).

That could be a function of inner-city gentrification, too. What used to be somewhat run-down neighborhoods - perfect locations for haunts we rawguys like to prowl in, suddenly become far more valuable when gentrified. It's happening here in Ft. L, for sure. But, if the Fed misses the mark in staving off recession, the real estate values will start falling in an eyeblink. Around here, anyway, people have been paying huge amounts for poorly-maintained properties in compromised neighborhoods. That bubble is beginning to collapse, because the buyers (often younger folks who haven't experienced a substantial economic downturn) and are in hock up to their eyeballs, assuming that they knew everything there was to know. Hopefully that will take care of the march towards gentrification for at least a few years.

ditto ... thanks, barebackbro ...

That may be, or - it may be that guys that have taken every precaution available against serious disease, and don't mind picking up the occasional bug in favor of living the sexual life they want and need. They're more willing to take that relatively small, non-life-threatening risk. That assumes, of course, they take advantage of all the testing, taking the meds as proscribed, etc, etc. To some, it's worth it, but, every guy has to weigh the issue, all it's ramifications for himself, and then decide what he's going to do.

Agreed. And most of those are pretty enough to melt one's eyeballs .... just sayin ....

I remember that. I agree - those two were beautiful boys.

Actually, I haven't seen a condom on a guy in ages - which is why I go to fuckjoints where I never see them anyway. No controversy, no questions about condoms, it's just a non-subject.

There is a school of thought that implies that once we get to the point we're really good at something - oh - say sucking Cocks, we tend to feel we need to widen our talents. And we figure out that fucking asses is pretty hot too. And so is group-sex. As the years roll by, we manage to gather more and more talents, abilities, and enjoy sharing them in other settings than one-on-one in a bedroom, and where do we wind up? In the backrooms, fuckjoints, sharing our skills, what we've learned, with a lot of guys, and in the same place at the same time. It's nothing less than joyful abandon with our special brothers. If that's true, what appears to be slutty, wanton behavior is actually the process of maturing into men who love all kinds of sex with other men. It's a natural thing to find our interests widen as we become more experienced.

Allow me to add my condolences as well. I consider it a "gift" when we find someone to love, and who loves us in return. I'm happy for you that you got to experience it; some never do. That doesn't make it any easier though. You've suffered a loss; give yourself time to heal, and keep your heart open to new possibilities in the future. Best wishes ....