tallslenderguy

I hooked with a guy from CL last night and met him at an ABS, he wanted to breed me through a glory hole. hot. When i got there there was already a guy in the booth next to mine. He put his uncut cock through and as i sucked it, it quickly swelled to and enormously fat size. I offered my ass, and he wanted it, but he had a difficult time keeping it up so he could slide in. He was huge, but I was pretty wet and open, ready for fucking... the issue was he couldn't get hard enough to fuck. He came over into my booth, and still couldn't do it. He apologized and left. The guy who I'd arranged to hook with, same thing happened, he couldn't get it up, or keep it there. I had a similar thing happen about a week ago. Guy responded to a late night (well 1 am really) ad for kink. He wanted to breed me and then piss in me. It was a hot scenario, I was on my deck in my back yard naked and ass up on a lawn chair... he came in my gate and found me and went for it... but same thing, he just couldn't get it up and kept trying to fuck with a flaccid cock. I'm wondering about this, are there really that many guys with e.d.? My thinking is it's more performance anxiety, that some guys psych themselves out? I am pretty cool about it, I feel badly for them, so my attitude is "no problem, it happens," sometimes it can help relax the guys anxiety enough if I suck him (I'm not really into oral, but I give a slow purposeful blow job, so a lot of guys end up wanting me to do that instead of fuck lol... self defeating). Bottoms, do you find many guys who have an issue getting it up, or keeping it up? How do you respond. Tops, do you sometimes find yourself not being able to get hard or stay hard? How do you do and how do you feel when it happens? Can a bottom do something to help?

thanks tallbtm. I wore it for most of the day yesterday, pretty interesting experience because i couldn't edge the way I usually do when in heat. I can see how a dom could use it for control. I was also a little afraid I might get aroused while wearing it and it might hurt, but it seems to restrict getting hard. I have a dom guy who has been romancing me who wants to put me in chastity when I'm "out," He wants me to wake up and find myself locked in. He really pushes my buttons because he has fantasies of using me when asleep or making me a little drunk to make me more controllable. One of his fantasies is for me to fall asleep with his cock in me after him breeding me and then when Im asleep, he fills me with piss.

once i got a little less aroused, i got a smaller cage on

finally got one on

It's a stereotype of course... but having said that, I have had some really great sex with black guys. Ive been with black guys who were really artful in their approach to fucking, like it's a dance and they're the leading partner, but the bottom is still the other half of the dance. I've been with white guys who were also artful, it just has seemed more common with black guys.

My switch is cumming myself. My most intense heat comes from edging. The longer I edge, the more in heat I get. I'm like a bitch in heat that has to get bred when I edge. I can pretty much measure how long I've been in heat by the amount of cum I shoot and the distance it goes when I do decide to cum. Once I cum, it lowers the heat. I wouldn't say I've had enough cum at that point, but it puts the drive for cum on pause and allows me to go to work or shop for groceries.

for me, i have to push down on my cock to open up to be able to piss, but i can do it when hard, just have to re angle my cock to open up the urethra. Im pretty much a bottom cunt, not very oral either. I had a guy who wanted to drink my piss once and I was to excited, even though I had drunk copious amounts of water in preparation lol. Witnessed a similar experience of performance anxiety last night. I wanted piss in my pussy, so put a CL ad up. A guy contacted me and I was waiting ass up on my deck in my back yard at about 1 in the morning. His deal was he couldn't get hard, which makes it pretty impossible to give a piss enema. He wanted it so bad, I could feel his frustration (mine too lol). he had to piss bad when he came over, so that may have affected his ability to get hard. he kept rubbing his cock on my hole, trying to get his soft cock in my hole and managed to get the tip barely in. He relaxed a little, and started to piss...mostly ended up on my ass and balls, some rolled up my back and into my hair... not what we were going for, but pretty hot all the same.

Thanks tjud1. The best tops for me are the ones who thoroughly own and enjoy who they are. For me being a bottom means being a receptacle for a tops pleasure, literally. The magic for me is not that the top is just getting pleasure using me, but that the top is actually putting his pleasure in me. His pleasure may be cum or piss or a toy, the desire to gape and sculpt my hole, like some form of art. But what ever form it takes, there is a transfer from him to me. He possesses me while he is giving it, and I possess a part of him when he is done. To me it's a mutual exchange. For me when a top expresses or releases his pleasure in my hole, it is being transferred from him and into me. I love that exchange.

Ditto on the asking. If the conversation is about breeding, it's not hard to introduce piss into the talk. I'm not into drinking piss at all, but love it deep in cunt...but then, I'm not very oral for anything because my cunt is so hungry when I'm in heat. I have found very few guys who are outright turned off by the idea of pissing in my ass. Desire doesn't always translate into performance though. Not every guy can piss on demand or while they are aroused, no matter how much they may want to. Once the topic is broached and I know the top likes the idea I will often ask if they have ever pissed in a guys ass before and find that most have not, so it may be new to them and they may not know if they can do it or not. I've also had some success on CL posting an ad for WS... kind of the direct approach, but it saves time. Once you've met a few guys into it, they can become FB's. I had one guy who was really good at it and always pissed more than a liter in me, was fucking hot.

lol... slowly raises his hand. I'm pretty much totally anal as a bottom. I do suck and rim and am told I'm good at it, but it is not my preference at all, I want everything in my ass. For me, sucking or rimming while getting fucked kind of dilutes the focus of getting fucked. And I am way disappointed if a top cums anywhere but deep in my cunt. Ultimately, my lust is pretty much all about getting bred (i.e., getting a guys cum deep in my ass and gut).

The majority of guys I hook up with and who fuck me BB have the "safer sex only" designation marked in their profile. I don't think most guys want "safer sex." p.s. "five years"... i want that load, it's gonna be big

I've been thinking about getting a cock cage or some type of cock chastity device to wear when I cruise, I think the idea is hot, but also makes it clear I'm a bottom. I don't know what kind to get though, kind of clueless. Questions to tops: Would it be hot to you to fuck a bottom in a chastity device of some sort? If so, what kind of device would be a turn on for you to see on a bottom?

my best tag experiences have happened in ABS theaters. i get into the dark, kind of tentative environment. What usually happens is one guy will decide to to top me, not shy at all, he goes for it. The guy starting things is usually an exhibitionist, so he gets into performing and I get into being his prop. Not always, but often others in the theater will gather around and often will end up adding their load after the first guy is done. I leave my ass up in the air after the first guy is done so it's a clear invitation to gang breed my hole.

i have a shower shot too. I can't imagine using a regular douche or enema, not nearly thorough enough. ditto on the high fiber diet.

yeah, i get this. i just moved into a house i bought that is perfectly situated for a GH. i have a very small bathroom that has a door to the outside off a deck in my back yard. would be easy for a guy to come in and have a GH on the interior door. i love getting fucked through a GH.

My hole isn't naturally puffy, but can be made that way. Have a fb who is way into making it puff, as well as gape and rosebud. He totally gets off on the process and the result, and I get off on the fact that he gets off on it.

Any one else tried one of these? What do you think? I bought one about a year ago and have used it a few times. I used it with a top fb who doesn't do raw, butt he did with this. I'm kind of mixed on my opinion. It feels good in as a bottom, but i wanna cut the end off so i can get the cum. I'm not a top, but tried jacking with it and didn't think it felt anywhere near as good as a ass cunt. The idea seems better than the actual thing.

From a physiology perspective... "puffy" is an inflammatory response the body has to trauma. The cells in an area that is senses injury sets up a defense system agains invaders (like bacteria) and a sort of clean up crew to remove damaged cells. If I had to put a clinical guess on it, I'd say that puffy has more to do with approach than individual biology. For instance, if time is taken to open up, there's likely to be less or no perceived trauma by the body, and no inflammatory response and vice versa. If you get your asshole punched, it will likely swell like any other part of your body would ;-).

I get turned on by a guy who likes to make a hole sloppy and open. I had an anonymous walk in who said he wanted to rim and fuck me. As usual I was lying naked and ass up, door open and hole available for him to use. Later I realized he had a method and a goal, which was really a turn on for me, I love a top with a purpose. He started by "rimming" me (but right from the start he was really sucking on my hole, but he was kinda subtle about it, like he didn't want me to figure out what he was doing). He alternated between his mouth, tongue and fingers till he got me wet, then slid his cock in. He used his cock to gape though, he kept pulling out all the way and alternating between cock and hand, fitting more fingers, and then back to sucking on my hole. He worked it for some time and then when it was opened, he bred it. I heard a "click" before he left and when he got home he sent me a pic and told me he worked and sucked my hole into a rosebud before breeding it. Said he loved sliding into and seeding a rosebud cunt. the whole idea of him doing that was really hot to me.

Thank you guys for your considered and open responses. NLbear, I know I am romantic, but not sure that's enough to sustain a relationship for me. Like yourself, I'm pretty used to being alone now and not sure I want to pay the price trying to fit another persons ways into my life (and vice versa). I have come to believe that friendship is highly under rated, I think friends can provide a lot of the emotional stuff that a lover can, though that seems to leave out the romance part. I was married to a woman for 31 years and probably still would be if she could accept my being gay. It's weird, but I still love my former wife, but she was the only woman Ive ever been with and I don't see myself with another woman. There was a lot of pain in our relationship caused by both of us, I sure don't want that again. I know several people in mixed orientation marriages that are open. My former wife was not open to the idea, so we parted company 7 years ago and I've gotten very used to being on my own. I like not having the concern of hurting someone hanging over my head just because of who I am. I look younger than I am and work at keeping slender, so I often attract younger guys. One of my concerns is what you talk about in wanting to be independent. I really appreciate that. I was in a very traditional religious marriage and ended up feeling very used. I worked my ass off to build a very decent estate (property worth 3/4 of a million) and my former wife ended up with all of it when we divorced. She had physical issues and I'd always taken care of her financially, so the courts reasoned I should take care of her the rest of her life, so she opted for the estate vs. lifetime alimony. I don't want to be in a relationship where someone wants me to support them financially, not because I mind giving but because it hurts me to be used in that way. Kind of interesting because I am pretty sub sexually, but as some of us discussed on another thread, my sub side isn't about being a slave (though I know that appeals to some guys), but more about the dom controlling things sexually. cam1972, I understand the empty feeling of a hook up, but confess. Where I experience that is with, sort of ironically, regular fuck buddies. My hook ups are pretty damned refined and I wonder if that refining hasn't developed as a way of coping with being alone for me? I almost always do anonymous walk in fuck and go sex (i.e., Im the bottom waiting naked and face down to fuck), so I never even see the guys Im with. Inevitably though, regular FB's happen and a sort of bond starts to develop. I have one FB now who has been a regular for about 7 months. His way is really almost affectionate and lately I've had to bite my tongue from saying "I love you" lol. He sometimes kisses my neck and damn if I don't want flip over and connect with his lips. Sigh, lol. Thing is he is about half my age and I have a hard time imagining a relationship between us for a whole list of reasons, several of them borne out of insecurity. I usually have a hard time imagining being able to give up the quantity that single sex can afford, but I can almost imagine a guy like this being enough for me sexually. That may be mostly imagination though, not sure how reality would play out. bbzh, When I think about it, sometimes an open relationship makes a lot of sense to me. One of the things I like about being gay is we don't have to follow tradition, were able to question the status quo. Which is not to say I think reinventing the wheel is necessarily a good idea. I see benefits to an open relationship as well as monogamy. There's down sides to both as well. I know I can compromise, damn, I was married to a woman for most of my life as a gay guy lol. I think you and your friend are spot on about the need for "mutual trust, respect and love." Everyone wants those things, but finding it mutually can be a challenge. I think that's part of maturity, but I find a lot of people are afraid to give for fear of being taken advantage of, so they hold back and end up getting a similar response... ends up being kind of self perpetuating it seems.

Maybe i need to better qualify that I know that hook up sites are not a good place to find romance or relationship lol. I was never looking for romance on a hook up site, but I did try dating sites for that purpose as well as connecting in the non virtual world. I'm not looking for dating advice but was wondering about others experiences and curious about how many others find themselves just going for sex vs relationship or relationship with romance, and how others feel and think about that.

It's hard (probably impossible) to get an accurate read on your (or anyones) relationship without actually being there. That being said, a comment that you made here sent up a red flag for me: "maybe it's my fault for showing him that I care a lot about him." It is never correct to blame your self for another persons behavior, that's a classic issue in abusive relationships. I.e., the abuser does something bad and then blames the partner for "making" him have that response. It can be a tricky thing, because there is such a thing as a passive aggression. Some people are artists at being mean passively. If you want to try and preserve this relationship, I'd recommend couples counseling with a licensed professional. A could professional counselor is trained to identify issues in both parties and help you either fix stuff or part company if you reach an impasse. Good luck, relationship is a lot of work.

I'm a little surprised at myself for writing this, but was inspired by another post on relationship and the responses it got, so here goes. I was married at an early age and stayed married for 31 years, even though I'm gay... grew up in a very religious culture. When I finally processed through that, divorced and came out, I tried dating and finding a relationship. My experiences were almost comical. I often was the one making the effort, sometimes driving a few hundred miles to meet someone. More than half the time the guys had mis-represented themselves, usually by lying about their age or their looks. After getting burned so many times I didn't really give up, but I did stop putting much effort into finding a romantic relationship. Sex is pretty easy to get... and I wonder if that isn't part of the challenge in the gay community? And I have less shot at finding romance on a hook up site, so I find myself just hooking up vs having a relationship. I'm not saying that's bad, I know from experience that relationship is hard work, there's trade off. I have a pretty happy sex life, but no romance and I do miss that sometimes. From what I have read here, sex is easier because most of us will pretty much take any cock that has a load in it, but that all changes when it comes to romance. I like to kiss, but can count on one hand the number of times I have kissed a guy (i can't begin to count the number of cocks I've had lol). So looks matter when it comes to romance. Add to that personality and intellect and it all becomes much more of a challenge, so I end up just having sex. I still have romantic dreams though (literally), and realize that it's something I want even though I don't hold out much hope for it because there is so much more involved that has to match up for romance to happen. So what about you guys? Do you just look for sex or do you look for relationship? And maybe even the ultimate relationship with romance?

Some great responses on this, probably not adding anything new here. I have a relatively hairy ass, so I alternate between hairy and shaved. I like the way it looks shaved, but like others, find the whole process to be a bit of a pain in the ass ;-). I agree that using a trimmer first to shorten the hairs works best before using a razor. I agree with atlfukbud that a dry razor works well (once the hair has been trimmed down). I find a good quality sharp razor works really well dry, that's the only way I do my chest. I find I get less razor burn that way too. I've tried Nair, but it doesn't seem to work very well in my opinion... I wish it did, but seems to leave a lot. As for the stubble that happens over the next several days? The more I read about guys who like hairy ass, the more I am encouraged to stay hairy and avoid this part of the shaving process. The only part of me that doesn't seem to be negatively affected by the stubble is my balls and shaft. I've tried shaving all my pubic hair and the ingrown hairs and stubble a few days after look awful, so I shave my balls and shaft and just trim the rest short... and sometimes shave my ass.

I'll sometimes play along with guys who are into humiliating, but the truth is I'm not ashamed or humiliated by being a bottom. I guess I have gotten enough life experience to really know I'm not inferior. Also have a lifetime of experience in teaching, healthcare, so I have a pretty good grasp that often the person who as a need to humiliate does so because of feelings of inferiority, so it's pretty hard to really feel humiliated by such a person. My sub side is more about giving over control than it is about humiliation, and i don't find it humiliating to give over control. My most exciting sex is with really intelligent and/or thoughtful, creative dominants who create ways to get their own desires fulfilled by turning the bottom into a conquest. For me, the dom who figures out ways to get me to trust and submit to him is much more of a turn on than generic attempts at humiliation.