tallslenderguy

This is a curious topic for me. I've recently been courted by several different doms (4). There's so many things about a slave relationship that are appealing to me as a sub, but other things not (i don't really wanna wash dishes or lick the bottoms of boots lol). The more I talk to guys about this (both dom and sub), the more I believe this kind of relationship is better for both sides if it is customized vs generic. Out of the 4 doms courting me, 2 are turning into incredible fits on both sides, the other 2 not. One thing I'm finding is 'customization' requires a lot of communication, especially initially, to determine fit.

Ditto Tiger. I rarely find a versatile who isn't a bottom, so I don't even approach a person who says they are. I get it I guess. I top maybe once a year, but always label myself "total" or "strict bottom" and amazed at the guys who still want me to top or be versatile, I've even gotten to the place in ads of saying I only get fucked, not into oral, etc. I'm nice about it, I respect everyone has their taste, I'm just trying to save us all time and find the tops who only want to breed ass. When I describe myself as a bottom cunt cum slut, I generally get the kinda guy I'm looking for, no confusion. :-)

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Used to be a Vice President/Regional Director of a company for 21 years. 6 years ago I decided to go back to school and do something totally different, got a BSN and spend my days keeping people alive as a critical care nurse.

"Anyone got an Ugly Fuck Bud?" I don't know, most of what I get is anonymous. I am face down on my bed, naked and ready to fuck... I never look up unless the top flips me, and then I often close my eyes or am blindfolded. Even with regular FB's. I've mentioned on other threads that I had one regular FB before I moved who'd breed me a couple of times as week (I miss him). I could tell his body was really big (I don't find "big" visually appealing), he'd have to sit up and straddle my legs to fuck. He also had a really stubby cock (like 2-3 inches, but big enough around to feel). He had enormous, low hanging balls that were full of cum and he would leave me REALLY CREAMY. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be visually attracted to the larger percentage of the guys who breed me, but really like them all, especially the regular FB's. For me their beauty is in their seed that they leave in me. I really end up feeling that way. I don't want to see most of the guys who fuck me, it detracts from it for me, and I like that most of them don't care about my face, they care about my ass.

HI nelliess, yeah, it makes since to me to distinguish between sub and slave (yet another distinction). I find I will end up sometimes wanting to do things a dom wants that I didn't want to do before, not because he forced me or I felt obligated because I assumed the label "sub," but because he elicited something in me that made me want to, which I think is really hot that he has that kind of control and a lot more complex than just telling someone what to do. To me it doesn't sound contradictory for a person to push your limits while respecting them, it sounds like balance that requires intelligence and attention. An artist can bend a hard piece of wood into an art object by applying measured heat and pressure, the inexperienced or non artist just ends up with a broken piece of wood.

This is a vast topic, and I'd enjoy hearing other peoples thoughts, feelings and experiences. As for my own? "Sub" is a label I have only recently identified with. It's not that I think I am newly sub, just that I have more recently begun to explore and think about it (this brought on by having a few dom guys court me more recently, bringing out stuff to a conscious level). Part of me has always shunned the idea of being sub. I think that's because I had not, until recently, really defined what dom/sub means to me. I know it can means something different or the same, depending on who you are talking to. I understand if I don't define it for myself I'll be leaving the definition up to someone else (which I know some will say is "a sub thing to do" lol). To me being sub isn't about being a nonentity. Something that really helps me clarify who I am is breaking definitions down further. To me it seems that Dom/sub often gets treated like S/m. I know there can be overlap, but to me they're different. I identify as sub, but I don't identify as a masochist. I see a lot of subs who are also masochistic. Conversely, to me Dom and Sadist are two different things. Even though they often overlap, or even go hand in hand, they don't have to. Or, when they do, they can do so at varying levels depending on the individual. I have met many guys who identify as "Dom" and insist that being sub means doing whatever they say or want. For instance, over the last couple of days Ive been bred 3 times by a young guy (21) from grinder. Yesterday, just before I went in to his place (anonymous fuck from behind), he texted me and asked if I like to eat ass. I responded that I'm really a bottom cunt slut and not very oral. He texted back "well I want you to eat my asshole clean. Got it!" I literally lol'd and texted back "nope, ttyl." He texted back "fine then, we won't do that, just get here I want to nut inside u." Some would call him Dom and say I wasn't sub. But to me, he was just being a bully. I hate bullies. I was bullied a lot as a kid. As an adult, I got a second degree black belt and pity the mugger who ever approaches me (he'd have all my childhood rage unleashed on him lol). Until recently I saw a lot of guys who identify as Dom, who to me, are just bullies. This kind of person brings out the opposite of sub in me. To me, this person comes across as really insecure and is looking for security through control and is a total turn off. I've had to restrain myself from back kicking him into the next room a few times before when a top got what I perceived as abusive while fucking me. But over the last year I have met several different guys identifying as Dom who are very different from what I've described, yet are similar amongst themselves. This is already getting long, but briefly, the effect this type of Dom has on me kind of amazes me... it's like I just want to lie down and spread my legs and give them full access to my soul. Which is a really different feeling for me that ventures into relationship vs hook up sex. In short, it's that they know which buttons to push in me that make me want to submit... which is totally different from just telling me what to do. This, to me, is a really intelligent and well thought out form of sex/relationship and the idea of it has me really interested.

Have any of you tried hypnosis? I've played around on http://www.warpmymind.com and listened to some of their free stuff. I'm pretty skeptical about it, but am turned on by the idea. I have to laugh at some of the titles there, trances turn a person into a cock slut (already there lol). But the excitement to me goes along the lines of someone using it on me to make me into something they find more fuckable. What do you guys think? anyone used hypnosis? What are your thoughts and feelings about it?

Getting fucked while asleep or passed out has been a huge fantasy of mine for years, but like many others have mentioned, for me it's self defeating because I want to be conscious to experience it. Really my fantasy, and the big turn on, is that whoever is using me thinks that I'm asleep or passed out. It's the whole idea of experiencing what that person would do thinking the guy they're using isn't gonna know or be able to do anything about it. But my desire doesn't go towards rough or sadistic stuff. When it comes to this desire, my absolute favorite version is a 'creeper' fantasy. The big turn on for me is experiencing a guys conflict. The idea that he would be very careful and tentative (because he is afraid of me waking up, and he also feels a little guilty), yet still driven by his lust to breed my hole and mark me, is incredibly hot. So I see the whole process as him being very delicate, carefully removing my underwear, moving my body to gain access, then prepping my hole for penetration and breeding, then slowly sliding in and him exploding because of all the tense desire and anticipation. I guess I'm kind of rare, I have never been drunk or stoned... Ive never even had a beer (most I've ever had is wine with a meal). I have a dom who has been courting me who has expressed wanting to get me "a little drunk to make me a little less under control." That idea is a real turn on... but again, it's the desire of the top to have more control and me less that is the turn on, not being unconscious to the point of not being there to experience it.

I'm a dark room slut and I've never been in one. I can't count the number of cocks I've had (several thousands I guess), but 95% of them have been anonymous. For me, anonymous involves not seeing the top. Typically I am lying on my bed naked, face down, often blindfolded, ready to fuck. I have found that this kind of sex is a way to overcome one obstacle in order to feed another greater want/need? The "obstacle" is the intrinsic rule of attraction. We all seem to have our 'rule' when it comes to what we think looks good and what we don't think looks good, i.e., types we like and types we don't. When it comes to romance, I can really like a guys looks and then he talks and ruins it...maybe something he says, or the sound of his voice. Or kissing? I don't want to kiss a guy who doesn't look attractive to me, and what constitutes "attractive" is a very narrow ranger for me when it comes to kissing. But when it comes to getting fucked? I don't care how a guy looks, how much he weighs, how old, or even how big his cock is (as long as he can get it in and it's loaded). And even with that last part, sometimes a guy can't get it in, but he still spends his lust on me and I can be partly filled. Some guys can fill part of me using their hand or a toy... depends on how they do it, but if I am getting their lust to leave their mark, their pleasure on me, I'm pretty damned happy as a bottom. What I am getting when I get fucked is cock, cum and a piece of the tops lust left in me. A part of them that 'marks' my body saying they were there and got a desire fulfilled using me. All three are important to me, and none of them has to be conveyed visually. As a matter of fact, visual concerns can start to detract from these three things. I.e., if I'm concerned about how he looks I may miss out on getting his load or lust. Taking away the visual enhances the senses of touch and sound, making them more intense. It also broadens the playing field... everyone can get laid in the dark.

i talked to a guy on asspig once who had me both scared and totally turned on (I've never had a fist, but a few have worked that direction). He told me he want to slowly open my hole and get me relaxed and loving it, then destroy my asshole... he wanted my hole opened and prolapsed and he told me he wanted to "wreck" it. but i don't think he was looking to do permanent damage. his idea of wrecking my hole was making it sloppy and prolapsed.

oh yeah, that lol. it's always a thrill to feel and discern a guys balls while he is fucking me, particularly love the feel of them dragging between my inner thighs when he is sliding in. oh fuck yeah

H Hey sharp, how often do you cum? Takes a little while for the testes to refill, and if you cum often that may be why you cum in small amounts... just a thought ;-)

I'm not much for clubbing, maybe should try it more. When it comes to finding the "perfect fuck online"... for me when I'm in heat that means he has a cock that can be inserted and contains a load

I don't know if I have an ultimate... but one of my favorite fantasies is being bred while the top/s think I'm asleep or passed out. Like in some creeper porn I have seen where the tops are being tentative and delicate, but really want to breed, so they're careful about positioning and getting in, but can't resist the urge to load that sleeping hole and leave their mark on it.

I sometimes wonder that I'm not really into sucking. I am so into getting fucked, sucking almost feels like a waste. I'm apparently ok at it, and it really bums me out if a guy cums in my mouth instead of my ass...so for me a bj should last long enough to get a top hard and wet, and hungrier to fuck... It's foreplay.

I think sometimes we convince ourselves of stuff that may not necessarily be true. Enter urban legend lol. Honestly when I read some of the stories about a bottom on T, they're pretty hot to me. I.e., a top uses T to turn a bottom into an insatiable cum dump. But to me what's really hot about those stories is the top wanting to make the bottom into an insatiable cum dump. The reality seems really different than the stories. I confess to having no experience, I've never been stoned, or even drunk, in my entire life. I have a dom FB who wants to "get me a little drunk because it will make me a little drunk," but again it's the idea of him wanting to control me that's such a turn on. The truth is that a top who understands how to play a bottom is really effective... i have top fb's in my life who can get me so horned up I can hardly stand it wanting them. But they do that from pushing buttons that are already there.

Great topic atlfukbud! For me the mental part of fucking is half the excitement... and maybe even more than half depending on how mentally into it the top is. As a bottom, what really gets me hot and in heat for a top is the attitude and desire the top has to 'leave his mark' on me, so to speak. It may be cum or piss or he may be into shaping my hole, gaping it. Maybe leaving my ass a little red from spanking and stroking it. But half the hotness for me is those are all expressions/marks of who he is that he leaves with/on me when he is done. For example, some tops love to reshape my hole. Some tops will ask if I have toys they can use, but the ones who turn me into a total slut are the ones who bring their own toys. For me, that is just more expression of their dominance and control. The toys are expressions of their tastes and desires, not mine. Another example for me is a top who knows how to articulate what he wants (even if its to just say he wants to fuck me). For me it's like foreplay when a top contacts me and goes into great detail about what he wants to do to/with me. The times I have cum from getting fucked usually have started with mind fuck.

for me it depends on how the top is using my hole as to how it responds, some guys make it gape, other guys make it swell. I kinda like the cunt look on me. this is a pic after a fb worked me for a few hours alternating between fucking, fingering and sucking on my hole.

im a total bottom... but i still love a guys ass. for me a hot ass is every bit as much of a turn on as his cock is. especially love to see a guys as while he's breeding

definitely when a guy cums in me. especially guys who let you know in some way that they are breeding you. some guys are almost stoic about cuming and you don't know they've cum till they leave and it's dripping out of your hole. i love the mind part of a guy who wants you to know he has just loaded you with his seed.

Interesting topic... for me edging and getting loaded with cum is the only drug I can imagine needing, turns me into a complete cum slut. What gets me wild is a tops desire to load me. I've had a few tops who liked to popper me, and that felt pretty hot, but really it was the attitude of the top wanting to control me using poppers that made me more hot than the actual popper. I think imagination and creativity are far stronger aphrodisiacs than taking a substance.

this is one of my biggest turn ons. I have a dom who has been talking to me and he wants me to be asleep or kind of drunk when he breeds me and wants me to fall asleep with his cock in me. he wants to piss in me while i sleep, so fucking hot.

i'd much rather have a big load than a big cock. Really. Before i moved i had a regular FB who liked to breed me about 2x a week. At first he was really shy... he weighed a lot and had a pretty small cock (though it was pretty big around, just really short). Honestly, I didn't know how he managed to get it in, but he always did and he shot enormous loads. One of the advantages of being an anonymous bottom cum slut is I don't care how the guy looks (i never see him, I'm face down in sub position) and I don't really care how big his cock is, I care what cums out of it (cum or piss... love both). The only time I'm ever frustrated or disappointed is if a guy doesn't cum or leave something of himself inside me.

made another discovery. am wearing the cage today while i do some work on my house. it drew the attention of a neighbor because when i walk the lock makes a clicking sound as it bumps up and down against the cock cage, peoples eyes seem to naturally go to looking at my crotch lol