tallslenderguy

Any one else tried one of these? What do you think? I bought one about a year ago and have used it a few times. I used it with a top fb who doesn't do raw, butt he did with this. I'm kind of mixed on my opinion. It feels good in as a bottom, but i wanna cut the end off so i can get the cum. I'm not a top, but tried jacking with it and didn't think it felt anywhere near as good as a ass cunt. The idea seems better than the actual thing.

From a physiology perspective... "puffy" is an inflammatory response the body has to trauma. The cells in an area that is senses injury sets up a defense system agains invaders (like bacteria) and a sort of clean up crew to remove damaged cells. If I had to put a clinical guess on it, I'd say that puffy has more to do with approach than individual biology. For instance, if time is taken to open up, there's likely to be less or no perceived trauma by the body, and no inflammatory response and vice versa. If you get your asshole punched, it will likely swell like any other part of your body would ;-).

I get turned on by a guy who likes to make a hole sloppy and open. I had an anonymous walk in who said he wanted to rim and fuck me. As usual I was lying naked and ass up, door open and hole available for him to use. Later I realized he had a method and a goal, which was really a turn on for me, I love a top with a purpose. He started by "rimming" me (but right from the start he was really sucking on my hole, but he was kinda subtle about it, like he didn't want me to figure out what he was doing). He alternated between his mouth, tongue and fingers till he got me wet, then slid his cock in. He used his cock to gape though, he kept pulling out all the way and alternating between cock and hand, fitting more fingers, and then back to sucking on my hole. He worked it for some time and then when it was opened, he bred it. I heard a "click" before he left and when he got home he sent me a pic and told me he worked and sucked my hole into a rosebud before breeding it. Said he loved sliding into and seeding a rosebud cunt. the whole idea of him doing that was really hot to me.

Thank you guys for your considered and open responses. NLbear, I know I am romantic, but not sure that's enough to sustain a relationship for me. Like yourself, I'm pretty used to being alone now and not sure I want to pay the price trying to fit another persons ways into my life (and vice versa). I have come to believe that friendship is highly under rated, I think friends can provide a lot of the emotional stuff that a lover can, though that seems to leave out the romance part. I was married to a woman for 31 years and probably still would be if she could accept my being gay. It's weird, but I still love my former wife, but she was the only woman Ive ever been with and I don't see myself with another woman. There was a lot of pain in our relationship caused by both of us, I sure don't want that again. I know several people in mixed orientation marriages that are open. My former wife was not open to the idea, so we parted company 7 years ago and I've gotten very used to being on my own. I like not having the concern of hurting someone hanging over my head just because of who I am. I look younger than I am and work at keeping slender, so I often attract younger guys. One of my concerns is what you talk about in wanting to be independent. I really appreciate that. I was in a very traditional religious marriage and ended up feeling very used. I worked my ass off to build a very decent estate (property worth 3/4 of a million) and my former wife ended up with all of it when we divorced. She had physical issues and I'd always taken care of her financially, so the courts reasoned I should take care of her the rest of her life, so she opted for the estate vs. lifetime alimony. I don't want to be in a relationship where someone wants me to support them financially, not because I mind giving but because it hurts me to be used in that way. Kind of interesting because I am pretty sub sexually, but as some of us discussed on another thread, my sub side isn't about being a slave (though I know that appeals to some guys), but more about the dom controlling things sexually. cam1972, I understand the empty feeling of a hook up, but confess. Where I experience that is with, sort of ironically, regular fuck buddies. My hook ups are pretty damned refined and I wonder if that refining hasn't developed as a way of coping with being alone for me? I almost always do anonymous walk in fuck and go sex (i.e., Im the bottom waiting naked and face down to fuck), so I never even see the guys Im with. Inevitably though, regular FB's happen and a sort of bond starts to develop. I have one FB now who has been a regular for about 7 months. His way is really almost affectionate and lately I've had to bite my tongue from saying "I love you" lol. He sometimes kisses my neck and damn if I don't want flip over and connect with his lips. Sigh, lol. Thing is he is about half my age and I have a hard time imagining a relationship between us for a whole list of reasons, several of them borne out of insecurity. I usually have a hard time imagining being able to give up the quantity that single sex can afford, but I can almost imagine a guy like this being enough for me sexually. That may be mostly imagination though, not sure how reality would play out. bbzh, When I think about it, sometimes an open relationship makes a lot of sense to me. One of the things I like about being gay is we don't have to follow tradition, were able to question the status quo. Which is not to say I think reinventing the wheel is necessarily a good idea. I see benefits to an open relationship as well as monogamy. There's down sides to both as well. I know I can compromise, damn, I was married to a woman for most of my life as a gay guy lol. I think you and your friend are spot on about the need for "mutual trust, respect and love." Everyone wants those things, but finding it mutually can be a challenge. I think that's part of maturity, but I find a lot of people are afraid to give for fear of being taken advantage of, so they hold back and end up getting a similar response... ends up being kind of self perpetuating it seems.

Maybe i need to better qualify that I know that hook up sites are not a good place to find romance or relationship lol. I was never looking for romance on a hook up site, but I did try dating sites for that purpose as well as connecting in the non virtual world. I'm not looking for dating advice but was wondering about others experiences and curious about how many others find themselves just going for sex vs relationship or relationship with romance, and how others feel and think about that.

It's hard (probably impossible) to get an accurate read on your (or anyones) relationship without actually being there. That being said, a comment that you made here sent up a red flag for me: "maybe it's my fault for showing him that I care a lot about him." It is never correct to blame your self for another persons behavior, that's a classic issue in abusive relationships. I.e., the abuser does something bad and then blames the partner for "making" him have that response. It can be a tricky thing, because there is such a thing as a passive aggression. Some people are artists at being mean passively. If you want to try and preserve this relationship, I'd recommend couples counseling with a licensed professional. A could professional counselor is trained to identify issues in both parties and help you either fix stuff or part company if you reach an impasse. Good luck, relationship is a lot of work.

I'm a little surprised at myself for writing this, but was inspired by another post on relationship and the responses it got, so here goes. I was married at an early age and stayed married for 31 years, even though I'm gay... grew up in a very religious culture. When I finally processed through that, divorced and came out, I tried dating and finding a relationship. My experiences were almost comical. I often was the one making the effort, sometimes driving a few hundred miles to meet someone. More than half the time the guys had mis-represented themselves, usually by lying about their age or their looks. After getting burned so many times I didn't really give up, but I did stop putting much effort into finding a romantic relationship. Sex is pretty easy to get... and I wonder if that isn't part of the challenge in the gay community? And I have less shot at finding romance on a hook up site, so I find myself just hooking up vs having a relationship. I'm not saying that's bad, I know from experience that relationship is hard work, there's trade off. I have a pretty happy sex life, but no romance and I do miss that sometimes. From what I have read here, sex is easier because most of us will pretty much take any cock that has a load in it, but that all changes when it comes to romance. I like to kiss, but can count on one hand the number of times I have kissed a guy (i can't begin to count the number of cocks I've had lol). So looks matter when it comes to romance. Add to that personality and intellect and it all becomes much more of a challenge, so I end up just having sex. I still have romantic dreams though (literally), and realize that it's something I want even though I don't hold out much hope for it because there is so much more involved that has to match up for romance to happen. So what about you guys? Do you just look for sex or do you look for relationship? And maybe even the ultimate relationship with romance?

Some great responses on this, probably not adding anything new here. I have a relatively hairy ass, so I alternate between hairy and shaved. I like the way it looks shaved, but like others, find the whole process to be a bit of a pain in the ass ;-). I agree that using a trimmer first to shorten the hairs works best before using a razor. I agree with atlfukbud that a dry razor works well (once the hair has been trimmed down). I find a good quality sharp razor works really well dry, that's the only way I do my chest. I find I get less razor burn that way too. I've tried Nair, but it doesn't seem to work very well in my opinion... I wish it did, but seems to leave a lot. As for the stubble that happens over the next several days? The more I read about guys who like hairy ass, the more I am encouraged to stay hairy and avoid this part of the shaving process. The only part of me that doesn't seem to be negatively affected by the stubble is my balls and shaft. I've tried shaving all my pubic hair and the ingrown hairs and stubble a few days after look awful, so I shave my balls and shaft and just trim the rest short... and sometimes shave my ass.

I'll sometimes play along with guys who are into humiliating, but the truth is I'm not ashamed or humiliated by being a bottom. I guess I have gotten enough life experience to really know I'm not inferior. Also have a lifetime of experience in teaching, healthcare, so I have a pretty good grasp that often the person who as a need to humiliate does so because of feelings of inferiority, so it's pretty hard to really feel humiliated by such a person. My sub side is more about giving over control than it is about humiliation, and i don't find it humiliating to give over control. My most exciting sex is with really intelligent and/or thoughtful, creative dominants who create ways to get their own desires fulfilled by turning the bottom into a conquest. For me, the dom who figures out ways to get me to trust and submit to him is much more of a turn on than generic attempts at humiliation.

ditto to most of these posts, but probably the top compliment for me (like many others) is when the guy becomes a regular FB and keeps cuming back for more.

for me it depends on the guy. my best experiences getting fucked all involve tops who know what they're doing, whether with their mouth/tongue, fingers/hand or cock. i can sense when a top is ignorant of the effect he is having. the biggest turn on for me as a bottom is a top who knows how to read me or just simply knows by experience how to do any of those things. attitude is such a big part of sex and i can tell when a top has an attitude of wanting to push my buttons in a way that makes me crave him more. I was married most of my life, so have tons of experience as a top with the opposite gender. My turn on as a top came from making the bottom so hot and bothered they were practically shoving me in them... but I still had control and didn't allow even that sometimes. As a total bottom with guys i run the same way as I treated my wife, i.e., i like to have my desire ramped up and controlled and how a tops attitude is when he does it is just as important, if not more so, than what he uses to do that.

i never do, I'm totally focused on my cunt and getting bred. i edge when no one is around because it gets me further into heat and makes my hole hungrier, but i usually only like to cum after I've been loaded a lot... i feel unfulfilled if i come without a lot of cum in my pussy.

Depends on how virgin your virgin ass is? I didn't have my first cock until i was 27, but i'd put all sorts of things in my ass since I was a kid, so I wasn't new to having something up my ass. Frequency is also a factor, if you do engage in anal play butt it's been a long while, everything starts to tighten up. Like MackyJay noted:" best bet is to go slow and easy and use a lot of lube," that'll help you open up.

I've had 10+ on several occasions. How it feels depends on the guy connected to it. Some guys are into making a bottom feel good and some are not. The guys who have a big cock and want to make a bottom feel good and are practiced at it are an amazing fuck... not unusual for me to have an orgasm from those guys (which means it felt pretty incredible) :-)

Seems pretty clear to me this guy wants it raw but he's conflicted about it (e.g., he didn't stop you the first time). It's a tricky question because I think most of us are more inclined to do things when horny that we might not do when not ramped up. He may be into being seduced. I'd say the bottom line is respect whatever his answer is at the time you're fucking vs before or after discussion.

just got loaded by my favorite fb... guy makes me crazy and i have to bite my tongue to keep from saying "i love you" lol... he also worked my hole with his hand... was fucking hot

for me anal (and most of cock stimulation) is more foreplay than a means to an end I bring about. cock and anal play are a part of intensifying me being heat for being bred, butt Im not interested in cuming from self anal masturbation... unless i am totally desperate. for me it is so much about being bred that i'd rather forego cuming until I've been bred enough.

fuck yeah, one of my favorite fantasies is a top trying to breed me while i sleep. I'm not into pain though (well, spanking really intrigues me). for me a big part of the turn on is a top wanting to slide into my hole while I'm asleep... id want to pretend to sleep through the whole thing to maintain the fantasy for both of us that he was breeding me while i slept

i may not qualify for this one as i am pretty much total cunt. i don't really like to suck cock for extended periods of time. though i know how to be good at sucking, i think it's a waste of cock to put it anywhere but in my pussy.

Happened to me from a hook up from CL with a married guy. I was bb but didn't put it in the ad because to me it can be fun if it seems a little taboo to the top. This guy responded and told me he was married and needed to be safe and discrete and asked me if I was safe and that he always used condoms. I was horny and he was the first fuck of the day, so I told him what he wanted to hear and to use a condom. My ad's are always for anonymous walk in with my door open and me laying face down, ass ready in a darkened room. The ad attracts a lot of married guys on the dL. When he got to my house i could hear him as he undressed while stroking my inner thighs and ass with his hand. He spread my ass and tongued it for awhile, then I could hear as he removed a rubber and put it on. I could hear the sound of that little pocket on the condom as he slid in and started to fuck. He liked to pull out and gape, so I am guessing he pulled the condom off during one of the times he pulled out. I know he came at least 2 times because i could feel the twitch of his cock and the change in breathing when he did. after he was done, he made some sounds with the rubber, like he was removing it and then he left it on my ass, dressed and left. after he left, i checked the rubber and it had a little precum in it, maybe enough fluid to pass as a small load, but not much. but I was pretty sure he loaded me, so i used my fingers and then a dildo to release it from the second ring area, and found a huge load in me. was so fucking hot.

as long as i can, which is usually about 12 hours. I've had a couple of guys who loaded me and followed it with a piss chaser, longest I've held a guys piss was 8 hours, love it when a guy breeds me then pisses, especially without telling me he's going to do it. our bodies absorb most of the fluid from what we eat in the colon, so when a guy pisses in me and I hold it, my piss takes on his scent because I absorb it. really hot

LMAO

i bought some chia seeds at Trader Joe's about a month ago because I'm kinda a health nut, but hadn't started using them until yesterday after I read these posts. I ate about 6 heaping teaspoons full (2 each time, spaced out over the day). I just put them in the teaspoon and in my mouth and swallowed them with about 8oz of water. I practice Bikram yoga (aka "hot yoga") so always carry a liter and a half bottle of water around and drink about 2 of those a day to stay hydrated. After only one day I am already impressed by the results. Definitely a cleaner hole. I'm a critical care nurse and love that my tribe here is talking about and doing this. My life is about helping people get health and the happiness that flows from that, so this is awesome to me. :-)

Neither? I like creative fucking. I turn into a kinky slut when I'm in heat. I like a top who is good at reading me and fucks accordingly. I've been talking to a dom top online for a few weeks, we're learning each others kinks, and we both have each other really turned on. He says things like wanting to be lying behind me and pulling my hair so he can shove his tongue down my throat as he probes my hole with his cock to penetrate it. He wants to get me "a little drunk so he can control" me. He wants me to fall asleep with his cock in me and then piss in me while I'm asleep. He's told me not to cut my hair because he likes to get it matted with his cum. All of those things may qualify as "rough", but I associate rough with pain, and these things are all pleasurable to me... which he knows and he gets off on giving that kind of getting and giving that kind of pleasure.

Ive not been fucked by a top wearing a PA (yet), but am really turned on by the idea.